FabSwingers.com forum: Pubic hair

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meeting somebody genuine and nice but got loads of pubic hair It's a bit of a turn off for me...! But what do you do if you meet up with them & not knowing they have long pubic hair..

It's not like you can tell them to go get a shave is it,

I would like to know what to do if I did get in that situation

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Many people stipulate on their profile that they only meet people who are shaved or waxed, you could do the same (if you haven't already). Or you could ask in your first messages.

If you meet someone and don't want to have sex with them for any reason its ok to politely tell them you've changed your mind.

I have to say it would be far more discreet to tell the person you're meeting privately that you find pubic hair a turn off.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Personally, I'd tell them in the nicest way possible that it's a real turn off for me.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I always ask them in messages, best being upfront about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could just ask and say "by the way are you shaving for our meet? I'd love that" ??

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Surely that's a topic you discuss before meeting, I certainly have!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mrs hates pubes,she always mentions it when messaging,"we are trimmed/shaven and expect the same in return" we have never had ayone get arsey over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just want to know why we have public hair on our private parts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're there for when someone runs out of dental floss.

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By *Q_GentMan
over a year ago

Manchester, City Centre

Just make sure you slip the fact that you find it a massive turn off into a message before you meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pubic hair does have a purpose, providing a cushion against friction that can cause skin abrasion and injury, protection from bacteria and other unwanted pathogens, and is the visible result of long-awaited adolescent hormones, certainly nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about

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By *norksterMan
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

You can see from my pics where I am, but I had the chance of a meet a while ago and after some messages she said I have to shave the lot off before she would go anywhere near me, she hadn't even looked at my pics so it was a bit of a kick in the nuts the way she put it. I would say best thing is have 'trimmed' somewhere in your preferences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pubic hair does have a purpose, providing a cushion against friction that can cause skin abrasion and injury, protection from bacteria and other unwanted pathogens, and is the visible result of long-awaited adolescent hormones, certainly nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about "

Im not ashamed or embarrassed about it but i far prefer it to be shaved off or at least very trimmed. Having a pubic hair in my mouth or stuck between my teeth is awful and a massive turn off. We like shaved or trimmed guys to play with

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

"I am trimmed/smooth and like the same down below" is really clear

Then it's their choice innit?!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"You can see from my pics where I am, but I had the chance of a meet a while ago and after some messages she said I have to shave the lot off before she would go anywhere near me, she hadn't even looked at my pics so it was a bit of a kick in the nuts the way she put it. I would say best thing is have 'trimmed' somewhere in your preferences x

Her loss

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Sorry rudely interrupting to say "yum"

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

" Meeting somebody genuine and nice but got loads of pubic hair It's a bit of a turn off for me...! But what do you do if you meet up with them & not knowing they have long pubic hair..

It's not like you can tell them to go get a shave is it,

I would like to know what to do if I did get in that situation "

First thing to do is mention it on your rpofile, even though many will not read ir.

Second if it is such a big issue for you mention it when you message when arranging to meet.

Third and possibly the most improtant understand that pubic hair has an important role to play in protecting your body.

That does not mean by removing it you will catch something or by leaving it you will not catch something, but simply it is one of nature's defences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I am not a fan of cock pics generally I would expect to see one before I met someone and if they had lots of pubes it would be a no go.

If It turned out they had a full bush going on down there when we actually met I would decline to give them oral, and be honest about the reason.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I have it in my profile but if you don't want to do that the suggestions above for wording a message before the meet are good.

I've turned up to a meet where the guy had a big bush and I stopped the meet and left. He suggested i could help him shave it, I think not! Unless I'm let loose epilating then you sort your own bits out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find stubble way worse than trimmed pubes .... its like licking sand paper which is why i cant understand why people shave there ( not to mention the irritation i would get aferward)

The last lady i played with looked completely bare visually but was still rough to touch with my tongue

Much prefer trimmed short , waxed or hair removal cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just tell them tbh. Don't need to be nasty about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you really get on and the only issue is a bush, perhaps start the foreplay with a waxing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't expect or even want someone to shave or wax just to get to meet me and I wouldn't shave just to get to meet someone. Nobody ever asks people to grow hair before they'll meet.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Just tell them straight it's not for you then it's up to them what they do.

I put on my profile that I have a bush that's not going anywhere so then it's up to them.

I'd put it on your profile it may help but as we know many don't bother to read them but some of the good ones do.

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

"I find stubble way worse than trimmed pubes .... its like licking sand paper which is why i cant understand why people shave there ( not to mention the irritation i would get aferward)

The last lady i played with looked completely bare visually but was still rough to touch with my tongue

Much prefer trimmed short , waxed or hair removal cream

I was introduced to epilating by a lovely lady and have never looked back. No irritation around my bikini line. I hasten to add that I've not been brave enough to use it near my delicate parts though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We state on our profile that we much prefer freshly shaved, or very well trimmed. We also tend to check understanding of this when we're at the messaging stage. Hope we don't come across as too demanding on this point, but it's because it's also a huge turn off for both of us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We state on our profile that we much prefer freshly shaved, or very well trimmed. We also tend to check understanding of this when we're at the messaging stage. Hope we don't come across as too demanding on this point, but it's because it's also a huge turn off for both of us."

Its not too demanding to make sure that something you find distasteful isn't going to happen.

I (f) have pubic hair most of the time and would much rather know in advance that we aren't compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather you said something before we met if it's a deal breaker for you.

I wouldn't shave for someone on Fabs, and I don't appreciate having my time wasted if not shaving is a hard limit for someone.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I just want to know why we have public hair on our private parts?"

To inconvenience us in life??? The same as legs, face, underarms??

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"I would just tell them tbh. Don't need to be nasty about it"

always so much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be to late to say no thanks once you have got to the stay of seeing that they have to much pubic hair?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I think it's ok to ask if the social goes well and you are likely going to arrange meeting again.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"It must be to late to say no thanks once you have got to the stay of seeing that they have to much pubic hair?"

Never too late to say NO

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Use your social skills, perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's ok to ask if the social goes well and you are likely going to arrange meeting again."

I would prefer someone told me WAY before the social if it's a dealbreaker for them. It's a waste of my time if they have limits such as that and they don't express them up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go to a meet with scissors. Lol

Just something to cover before the meet; in your profile or in the messaging. At worst, over a drink at the meet, so that might just leave it as a social.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it's ok to ask if the social goes well and you are likely going to arrange meeting again.

I would prefer someone told me WAY before the social if it's a dealbreaker for them. It's a waste of my time if they have limits such as that and they don't express them up front."

I've found that lots of people think shaved is the default method of grooming and fondly imagine that I do too.

Lots of people contact us saying they're shaved or smooth in the important places, not realising that whats important to them might not be to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offer to shave or trim it for him before play. Had it done years ago . Just say you have always wanted to do it.

X might work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female or male better shaved smooth always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Female or male better shaved smooth always "

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

" Meeting somebody genuine and nice but got loads of pubic hair It's a bit of a turn off for me...! But what do you do if you meet up with them & not knowing they have long pubic hair..

It's not like you can tell them to go get a shave is it,

I would like to know what to do if I did get in that situation "

Oh god I fee for you ! It's my pet hate do always try to have that convo before meeting as I would literally gag ... on men the longest I would accept is VERY closely trimmed ... ladies have to be shaved I don't even like a landing strip (what's that about??)

Try dropping it into convo before a meet x

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I'd never knowingly meet someone if their pubes where not at the very least trimmed. I don't want a mouth of pubes and I don't like the springy feel of them when your fucking really deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Meeting somebody genuine and nice but got loads of pubic hair It's a bit of a turn off for me...! But what do you do if you meet up with them & not knowing they have long pubic hair..

It's not like you can tell them to go get a shave is it,

I would like to know what to do if I did get in that situation

Try dropping it into convo before a meet x"

Shaved seems stranger than a landing strip to me.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

" Meeting somebody genuine and nice but got loads of pubic hair It's a bit of a turn off for me...! But what do you do if you meet up with them & not knowing they have long pubic hair..

It's not like you can tell them to go get a shave is it,

I would like to know what to do if I did get in that situation

Try dropping it into convo before a meet x

Shaved seems stranger than a landing strip to me."

How boring would we be if we all liked the same ... personal choice makes it interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you had mentioned it on you're profile then they might trim up a bit for you

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