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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are very sociable people usually but find ourselves avoiding making conversation with other couples when we in a club in case they ask us to go further and we don't feel the connection with them.

How do we deal with turning someone down without causing offence and remaining friendly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would guess to do same as you would on here?

just say sorry you're not for us ...

always best to be upfront then there is no room to manouvre

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The only way is to be honest without being rude (which you wouldn't be I'm sure).

Just smile and say "no thank you" if you say something like "not at the moment" you're leaving the door open for them to ask again at some point.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Indeed just politely say that they arnt your type. Just because we talk to people at a club, dosnt meen we expect to fuck them all, most of people on our friends list are people we met got on with but didn't play with.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We'll quite happily chat with couples that we don't necessarily want to play with in clubs. We do so on the basis that either side can turn the other down without having to justify the decision.

Just a friendly 'no thank you' is acceptable. If they get awkward about it just move away

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP. I talk to most people in clubs. It doesn't mean for one second I want to play with them. I also come across a few that won't speak to me. Maybe because they assume I want to play with them.

I don't know if there is an attraction without speaking to them first personally. If asked and I am not interested I just say no thank you. No one has taken offence.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"We'll quite happily chat with couples that we don't necessarily want to play with in clubs. We do so on the basis that either side can turn the other down without having to justify the decision.

Just a friendly 'no thank you' is acceptable. If they get awkward about it just move away "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone i guess we just need to get brave. Haha

It's just something we will have to get used to i guess

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It's the totally British thing to avoid potential awkwardness Pretty well everyone on Fab expects to get knocked back at some point so don't worry about putting people out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's the totally British thing to avoid potential awkwardness Pretty well everyone on Fab expects to get knocked back at some point so don't worry about putting people out "

Thanks...I know it's silly cos were quite happy to a that were not for everyone and would never presume we've pulled just cos were chatting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very sociable people usually but find ourselves avoiding making conversation with other couples when we in a club in case they ask us to go further and we don't feel the connection with them.

How do we deal with turning someone down without causing offence and remaining friendly?"

Just say your fine at the moment thankyou.

Anyone with half a brain will understand you're not interested in playing with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy, I wish there was a sign above my head, which says "I just want a decent conversation", so I could approach people sociably, without them assuming I'll try and get into their knickers.

You can see the "urgh, here we go again" on couples faces, before you even say hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very sociable people usually but find ourselves avoiding making conversation with other couples when we in a club in case they ask us to go further and we don't feel the connection with them.

How do we deal with turning someone down without causing offence and remaining friendly?"

It's easy, just politely decline. We always have hopefuls chatting to us on the chance that we will play, but a polite no thanks always works.

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