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By *UNTER110 OP   Man
over a year ago

grimsby

I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most will look at your profile, before opening your message and decided to answer or not, but your age and a smoker will work against you.

You profile says not a lot about you.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha "

Why did your friend suggest this site to you?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Profile tells us nothing. I dont need to know your mate told you to join. Read the dozens of profile advice threads. Look at other guys profiles and see what you are up against.

Put more effort into it. Good luck.

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Guess your mate lied to you. Did he say all you have to do is "message and ask to fuck" by any chance? Did he say he was dripping in quim every night?

On this site, effort in=results out. Profile says nothing about you. No one gives a shit about seeing your dick unless it's asked for.

There are plenty of threads asking the same thing you have, the answers are all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You profile only tells what Youre looking for not what you can offer. Girls generally don't like dick pics so one is enough. Whiney statuses are also turn off.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Blimey, what are all those women thinking, I mean, a whole three lines on your profile, and only 3 out of 4 pics are of your cock... are they mad not contacting you?

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By *UNTER110 OP   Man
over a year ago

grimsby

What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town "

Keep it as it is then.

Good luck.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town "

Ok, just leave it as it is, I mean, fuck it, what do I know, only been swinging for 9 years, pay no mind to our veries, we obviously have no idea about what swinging is all about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha "

My advice is this...

Get yourself into town and clubbing etc. There should be plenty of fillies to get stuck into there.

That what I was doing at your age.

Swinging my dick around like a boy possessed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha "
your not the only one having that trouble

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town "

You've asked for advice but don't want to act on it... Your luck is therefore unlikely to change.

Nita

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town "

Try paying attention to the profiles with lots of verifications...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to the wise ones ( as in the fabbers who are more experienced than you, the ones who have been on here a while). Also try spelling out words. This isn't secondary school. Good luck.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Learning some manners could be a start ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learning some manners could be a start .. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learning some manners could be a start .. "

And by not feeling entitled to a play meet just because he's joined....

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Your profile is perfect. People want to meet the real you.

If you just copy someone else's ideas then they will be looking to meet them, not you.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

There's some good advice in those answers. If you put up a post like that, step back and reflect on what people like Bunnyhop are saying.

There's loads of photos you can take which aren't of your cock. Get thinking, get creative.

To be honest, I can barely understand your last post - it's a difficult read. If your messages are similar, they're going to get binned. Writing/ spelling etc isn't everyone's strong suit and there can be good reasons why. Maybe get that mate to read them over, take more time, avoid text spellings or get your computer to speak them out though.

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By *ackdaniels2016Man
over a year ago

Yarm

My best advice would be to listen to the more experienced people on this forum !! If you think you can just send a few messages and get a quick fuck this isn't the place !! try and offer something different but be yourself at all times !! Think about how many messages couples and single ladies get on here so be sure to read profiles before messaging !

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness


"There's some good advice in those answers. If you put up a post like that, step back and reflect on what people like Bunnyhop are saying.

There's loads of photos you can take which aren't of your cock. Get thinking, get creative.

To be honest, I can barely understand your last post - it's a difficult read. If your messages are similar, they're going to get binned. Writing/ spelling etc isn't everyone's strong suit and there can be good reasons why. Maybe get that mate to read them over, take more time, avoid text spellings or get your computer to speak them out though.

"

But let's say he duplicates your profile words for word. The ladies will be expecting to meet you rather than him . Better that he reflects himself than someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town "

You have asked for advice but seem unwilling to change. If your profile reflects you then keep it and your approach the way it is. That way you will get the results you deserve.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness


"What am ment to take a pic off my toes or sumit haha ive looked at other profiles and that's akk I saw so thought that was it am new to the while scene tbh ive stated more that I can offer Than what am wanting ive changed it so many times ice tried approaching many different ways and even had no dick pics on sgie at all but am not really going to put a pic of my face on a public sex group when am from a small town

You have asked for advice but seem unwilling to change. If your profile reflects you then keep it and your approach the way it is. That way you will get the results you deserve."

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"There's some good advice in those answers. If you put up a post like that, step back and reflect on what people like Bunnyhop are saying.

There's loads of photos you can take which aren't of your cock. Get thinking, get creative.

To be honest, I can barely understand your last post - it's a difficult read. If your messages are similar, they're going to get binned. Writing/ spelling etc isn't everyone's strong suit and there can be good reasons why. Maybe get that mate to read them over, take more time, avoid text spellings or get your computer to speak them out though.

But let's say he duplicates your profile words for word. The ladies will be expecting to meet you rather than him . Better that he reflects himself than someone else. "

Oh no, I wouldn't do that. I just wondered if he was writing things quickly - we often do it these days, especially with texts, emails etc.

I just meant to take more time, check it over etc. Nothing to the extent that it's not essentially his.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I just wonder if helping some it dilutes the pool for those who want to meet great single men.

And lowers the odds for those good single men.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Oh and look a couple of men in this thread with good photos and not one cock or face pic in them.

I feel a told you so coming on

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"I just wonder if helping some it dilutes the pool for those who want to meet great single men.

And lowers the odds for those good single men."

Yeah, I can see that. Think it's nice to try and help a bit sometimes. I don't if the person comes across too badly though.

The one thing I would say is - I've noticed quite a few guys who started off in the "wrong way", but then got how the site worked and became really valued members of it.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Take a look at other similar threads on this subject.

You are up against dozens, if not, 100's of other guys, all wanting the same thing.

You have to SELL YOURSELF, make your profile stand out but at the moment, it doesn't work.

Suggestions, some of them excellent, have been put forward, but still you question the advice of those who are far more wise to how things work on here.

Keep on listening to your mate, and you'll get nowhere! Start listening to others. Start reading other lines in the Forums.

Put in the effort, you get the rewards.

But at present, any negativity in your profile will put people off.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha "

Your profiles still pretty crap tbh. You've clearly made no effort or don't want to. Either way it's an instant turn off if you can't be bothered to write more than a few sentences. Not giving more advice had you had loads in your last forum post.

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By *ackdaniels2016Man
over a year ago

Yarm

I definitely struggled when I first joined !!

My biggest help was this place (the forums) loads of great advice and I've chatted to some great people !

But for me it's not all about just fucking !!

Genuinely take the advice given and have a good think about what you want to gain from being here !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is perfect. People want to meet the real you.

If you just copy someone else's ideas then they will be looking to meet them, not you."

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By *eordie JoJoTV/TS
over a year ago

Newcastle

It real does amaze me in what little effort some folk put into their profiles .... then search their heads at why no one is interested.

Your profile is the first thing a person sees therefore the more time and effort you put into into the more you will get out ...

"You reap what you sow" simple as like everything in life. Your a young lad ... have fun ... have some decent pics and have some decent craic ... but most important be honest ...

Take on board what folk are saying ...

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some good advice in those answers. If you put up a post like that, step back and reflect on what people like Bunnyhop are saying.

There's loads of photos you can take which aren't of your cock. Get thinking, get creative.

To be honest, I can barely understand your last post - it's a difficult read. If your messages are similar, they're going to get binned. Writing/ spelling etc isn't everyone's strong suit and there can be good reasons why. Maybe get that mate to read them over, take more time, avoid text spellings or get your computer to speak them out though."

Absolutely this ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing you can do is look at a few other profiles to see what a good one looks like. Lost Sock & JackDaniels2016 have both got great profiles & veri's suggest that's working well for them. I know I'd happily meet up with either of them based on their profile & photos

Figure out what a good profile looks like & make yours stand out. You've got a lot of competition.

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By *UNTER110 OP   Man
over a year ago

grimsby

I am going to take on board everything that's been said ,and thankyou for all good advice and the insults through pm, I have noticed I need to bot rush when typing as my spelling is terrible , its not the really the sex am after as you all know its easy enough going out and finding a one night stand ,just want to get to know like minded ppl ,I struggle on my profile as am not going to lie but I've had a very boring and dull sex life and have never really experienced anything new this is why am here .so am gunna just keep changing and taking advice untill ive got it right am clueless to this lol...thankyou all for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Listen to the wise ones ( as in the fabbers who are more experienced than you, the ones who have been on here a while). Also try spelling out words. This isn't secondary school. Good luck. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learning some manners could be a start .. "

Amen lol

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I am going to take on board everything that's been said ,and thankyou for all good advice and the insults through pm, I have noticed I need to bot rush when typing as my spelling is terrible , its not the really the sex am after as you all know its easy enough going out and finding a one night stand ,just want to get to know like minded ppl ,I struggle on my profile as am not going to lie but I've had a very boring and dull sex life and have never really experienced anything new this is why am here .so am gunna just keep changing and taking advice untill ive got it right am clueless to this lol...thankyou all for the advice "

You really do not want to highlight the fact you haven't had any meets. No one wants to meet someone no one else apparently wants to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some good advice in those answers. If you put up a post like that, step back and reflect on what people like Bunnyhop are saying.

There's loads of photos you can take which aren't of your cock. Get thinking, get creative.

To be honest, I can barely understand your last post - it's a difficult read. If your messages are similar, they're going to get binned. Writing/ spelling etc isn't everyone's strong suit and there can be good reasons why. Maybe get that mate to read them over, take more time, avoid text spellings or get your computer to speak them out though.

Great advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My best advice would be to listen to the more experienced people on this forum !! If you think you can just send a few messages and get a quick fuck this isn't the place !! try and offer something different but be yourself at all times !! Think about how many messages couples and single ladies get on here so be sure to read profiles before messaging !"

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By *UNTER110 OP   Man
over a year ago

grimsby

Ive changed my profile bio again hope its better lol, I ain't a lier so I won't say I've met ppl when I haven't , and how am I rude I always use manors??? :/

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Op check your messages ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like so many on here, you have to ask yourself what your expectations are.

Read the dozens of similar postings to yours and then you'll realise that this might not be the place to be looking.

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

OP Are you a swinger or a single male looking for booty calls? As for photos you could have pics of your body without your cock on show. As a woman I get bored stiff with unappealing cock pics

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We just had a brief chat with the OP offering to meet him in London. Unfortunately he can't get there but was friendly and polite in his chat. He would seem worth a try for anyone local to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha

My advice is this...

Get yourself into town and clubbing etc. There should be plenty of fillies to get stuck into there.

That what I was doing at your age.

Swinging my dick around like a boy possessed "
and if all you want is a fuck go clubbing and use the old saying of ' go ugly early and avoid the 2am rush'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 months is not a long time to have been here, it takes time, manners and patience, there's someone out there for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have changed my profile pics mg bio tried different types of approaching new to all this and just like abit of advice young lad with very high sex drive haha

My advice is this...

Get yourself into town and clubbing etc. There should be plenty of fillies to get stuck into there.

That what I was doing at your age.

Swinging my dick around like a boy possessed and if all you want is a fuck go clubbing and use the old saying of ' go ugly early and avoid the 2am rush'. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a single guy in a very crowded market, if you don't stand out you will never get a meet. Swinging is not all about biggest cock, best body etc. Its also about being able to hold a decent conversation, not typing in lazy way. Its about being what others are looking for not just a quick fuck for yourself. Even couples can find it hard to start with but you have to show patience or like others have said just go to a club.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

First of all always know in your mind that you are in demand and you are the prize, you are what some hot girls and couples are looking for.

Remove everything on your profile that says you have not had any meets and how much you have tried, your fans don't need to know that as that will put them off. People only want people other people have been with.

You have to say what you have to offer so it doesn't look like you are thirsty and would accept anything.

Groom yourself and go to a club that offers what you like,be confident, work on your conversation skills, talk to hot girls and couples at the parties and make sure you keep telling the women they are beautiful, inshape and amazing, show the guys within the couples respect and make sure to tell them they have the most beautiful woman in the world, this conversation is what they really want much more than the play , they want to see if they still have it and nothing proves this better than when you tell them, they will want you instantly.

Thank the ladies after the meet and ensure the hot ones leave you a verification on fabs this will attract other very beautiful women and alas you have created a brand, changed the game, separated yourself from the crowd and become a valuable player on the board.

Remember at the parties, make sure you talk to very beautiful women or couples , ensure other women and couples see you doing this and even if they say no, act as if it doesn't matter, thank them and walk on to the next couple ,in your mind always know you are the prize , you are what they are looking for, that's how you separate yourself from the competition and keep people wanting you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take all the lovely peoples advice given to you here and enjoy it great profile better than mind because i not a good writer of profiles. Good luck I'm out of here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We just had a brief chat with the OP offering to meet him in London. Unfortunately he can't get there but was friendly and polite in his chat. He would seem worth a try for anyone local to him. "

aww

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By *UNTER110 OP   Man
over a year ago

grimsby

Thankyou all for all the positive and negative comments apreciate all advice given thankyou for taking out the time

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also there's a few factors to think about. The time of day you're messaging, are they online, when were they last online.

Read their profile for any certain words they want including into the title etc.

If you don't think about these factors your message is just going to get mixed up in the influx of messages every single female and couple receive every single day.

I do hope this helps.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a swingers club, meet real swingers.

Best advice i think.

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