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By *orksCouple25 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We can predict at a meeting that a man isn't going to be able to get a hard on once he starts on a second beer. What this suggests is he is very nervous (a common thing with most of us) but he thinks alcohol will help and it doesn't.

Mike doesn't mind too much as he gets all the pussy to himself . Another thing these drinkers have in common is they never want to meet again after they have not risen to the occasion as they fear the same thing will happen (performance anxiety)

Conclusion - stick to soft drinks guys !

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

To be fair we had a few drinks ourselves the other week. Not a lot, but mixed with so we didn't get d*unk. It helps relax us a little, no issues here, but it's not a bad way to it out.

Admittedly, we saw some people taking 5 minutes because they had clearly had too much. Not an attractive sight in a setting where consent is key.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink before a meet. Only tea coffee or water.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I never drink before a one-to-one meet. I have a swig of vodka before entering a club due to mild anxiety. Never beer as it can be tasted when kissing.

I think I had a 500ml bottle of cider one time I spent a whole day at Kestrels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never drink alchol before or during a meet. Even if im nervous i stick to tea/coffee/soft drinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never drink alchol before or during a meet. Even if im nervous i stick to tea/coffee/soft drinks."

Alcohol *

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

But there is something to be said for getting shitfaced with a regular meet and having d*unken monkey sex

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I have had several social meets from Fab with potential playmates in my local pub....where we both drink tea

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

Mr has never had any election problems from drink

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

Erection even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, fascinating, but have done both.. find a little G&T helps to relax all parties... However, if the other party aren't having a tipple, then I won't either...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erection even "

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a glass of wine on a social meet in a pub but not when meeting to play.

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By *nthonysssCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Mr has never had any election problems from drink "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not getting in to the rights and wrongs of mixing drinking and swinging but the suggestion all men fail to get an erecting if they have more than 1 pint is laughable

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By *addy Bears KittenCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Some of the best sex ever has been after sinking half a bottle of rum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some just love to tell others how to live

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Much as I like a drink I never have and never will take even a sip of alcohol when swinging. A. I like to be at my peak performance B. I don't suffer swinging nerves, quite the opposite and C. Being totally sober you pick up nuances of what is turning your play mate on much better.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't drink on a meet

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Part of the reason for staying sober is to ensure I can read the situation well. Though I am enough of a gentleman to know not to play if Inak d*unk...except after a night out with partners I know well.

One good glug of vodka before entering a club to calm my anxiety and tea or water thereafter.

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By *irty-milfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

We posted on a similar thread a while back saying that often my wife had a little drink before a meet.

We got immediately trolled by a heap of morons saying that if she had to get shitfaced before a meet then I was likely bullying her into the situation!!

Unbelievable. Needing to get shitfaced is crazy but there is a long distance between that and a short drink to help nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We posted on a similar thread a while back saying that often my wife had a little drink before a meet.

We got immediately trolled by a heap of morons saying that if she had to get shitfaced before a meet then I was likely bullying her into the situation!!

Unbelievable. Needing to get shitfaced is crazy but there is a long distance between that and a short drink to help nerves."

Exactly this! Sometimes a few drinks is good to calm nerves and it gets you talking to people.

There's a line between tipsy/slightly d*unk and being completely off your face

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

Lol all these people saying I don't drink so I stay at peak performance is laughable.

I guess someone was right when they said people just like to tell others what to do.

Basically if you don't drink at meets because you struggle to get an erection etc then fine. But for the rest of us drinking or not drinking makes no difference to getting an erection.

Most males can easily get an erection when sober or d*unk, it doesn't make any difference.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"

Most males can easily get an erection when sober or d*unk, it doesn't make any difference."

I never get droop but tend not to cum after one too many. Many a party I've been to the fellas lose performance as the night wears on. Also many couples and ladies I've met don't like the guy to be d*unk. But each to their own I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never d*unk before or do I drink whilst on a meet mainly because I drive.

I did once have a meeting and they absolutely stank of alcohol....very off putting.

Safe to say I made my excuses.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

My rule of thumb, is don't play, or play with, someone too d*unk to drive.

It's great to have a glass of wine whilst being social, but more than that is dangerous.

People get more emotional and can loose control, especially if one is doing to please their partner, or the man fails to perform.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a meet where the guy turned up with a bottle of red wine...at 9am

I said I hope its a present and he said it was...but he confessed afterwards he had brought it for a bit of dutch courage (which he certainly didn't need tbf)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I guess someone was right when they said people just like to tell others what to do."

Im not telling anyone what to do. Im simply saying what I do. I dont drink at a play meet but if others want to thats their choice

I dont like to play with people who are d*unk though or even slightly tipsy as its a massive turn off for me.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

apparently in the sperm donation by ni world. it's kind of frowned upon if meeting someone who has alcohol, because it

A) diminishes quality of sperm, egg.

B) ruins sexial performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"apparently in the sperm donation by ni world. it's kind of frowned upon if meeting someone who has alcohol, because it

A) diminishes quality of sperm, egg.

B) ruins sexial performance.

"

aye, brewers droop is a killer

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

I'm sure plenty of you simply judge other people if they even have one glass of wine etc.

No-one here said 'I like to get d*unk on meets' some simply said a glass or 2of beer/wine is what they like.

I fear a lot of people here are projecting their lack of performance issues on others.

We are all different, and some of us are fine after one or 2 glasses of booze, doesn't mean we are getting d*unk? Or have to get d*unk to play.

Also a lot of people that don't drink anything are often people who can't handle their drink, it's that simple.

But yet portray it as a higher moral code or something? Haha

Laughable.

Get good with drinking and stop pretending like you are a moral scholar. Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've often shared a bottle of wine or a few beers with people we've met. There's a world of difference between that and being so d*unk you can't consent or perform.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"We've often shared a bottle of wine or a few beers with people we've met. There's a world of difference between that and being so d*unk you can't consent or perform."

At last, someone who says it like it is!

All these Hitler's on the thread saying if you drink at a meet . . you are basically scum?!?

Lol

Sooooooo judgey

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We've often shared a bottle of wine or a few beers with people we've met. There's a world of difference between that and being so d*unk you can't consent or perform.

At last, someone who says it like it is!

All these Hitler's on the thread saying if you drink at a meet . . you are basically scum?!?

Lol

Sooooooo judgey "

To be fair calling people Hitler is hardly non-judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont call others for drinking. Its up to them lol.

I drink at home and sometimes when out for a meal. Even if i have had a drink i dont have performance problems nor does hubby. Each to their own

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"

At last, someone who says it like it is!

All these Hitler's on the thread saying if you drink at a meet . . you are basically scum?!?

Lol"

I've read the whole thread and can't see anywhere where anybody has suggested anybody else is scum. In fact it seems a very sensible thread with people either enjoying a glass or two or abstaining and their reasoning ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about drugs before a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

At last, someone who says it like it is!

All these Hitler's on the thread saying if you drink at a meet . . you are basically scum?!?

Lol

I've read the whole thread and can't see anywhere where anybody has suggested anybody else is scum. In fact it seems a very sensible thread with people either enjoying a glass or two or abstaining and their reasoning ????"

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"What about drugs before a meet?"

Wait for the tirade of judging and looking down on you!

Here it comes! There's a virtue signaller just waiting to comment. . Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about drugs before a meet?

Wait for the tirade of judging and looking down on you!

Here it comes! There's a virtue signaller just waiting to comment. . Lol"

I can't take it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem getting hard after drinking? Don't understand it?

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"apparently in the sperm donation by ni world. it's kind of frowned upon if meeting someone who has alcohol, because it

A) diminishes quality of sperm, egg.

B) ruins sexial performance.

aye, brewers droop is a killer"

haha I know, immagine all the one night stands babies that were preventing because alcohol was involved. joking of course.

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Matlock

This is good to read. I (f) ised to drink a lot to relax and stopped dtinking 2 years ago and not been able to mert anyone. Thought i needed a drink but now i dont think do. Time to start enjoying meets again i think. X

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Matlock


"This is good to read. I (f) ised to drink a lot to relax and stopped dtinking 2 years ago and not been able to mert anyone. Thought i needed a drink but now i dont think do. Time to start enjoying meets again i think. X"

Im so sorry for the spelling mistakes in this. Im not really sure what happened.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"What about drugs before a meet?

Wait for the tirade of judging and looking down on you!

Here it comes! There's a virtue signaller just waiting to comment. . Lol

I can't take it x"

No hate mail yet?

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By *woplusmoreMan
over a year ago

Bath

We have always had a drink at meets as have all the couples and single guys we have met. Never had to complain about anything or to be complained about come to that. Happy days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's wise not to drink alcohol and stay in control .maybe one drink but it's not safe ifs it a new meet and you don't know each other well .I never drink and take my car for social or play. Would put me off playing with someone if they were tipsy or d*unk .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is also the female who giggles flops to the floor and lays there like a rug after a few wines ..Its not exactly a turn on flopping around like a fish looking green and excusing themselves for the 3rd visit to the toilet .. comming back smelling of vomit either though i think a lot of guys are just too polite to comment .I bet you have all had them ..

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row


"We have always had a drink at meets as have all the couples and single guys we have met. Never had to complain about anything or to be complained about come to that. Happy days!"

Most adults like a drink or 2 at any social gathering, pretty standard.

It's probably just people with performance issues that have to stay away from drink, which is fine I guess.

I'd much rather meet with people that like to talk and have a little drink as well.

People that show up just for sex and are too worried about their performance are not needed really.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Never drink alcohol before meeting

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I choose not to play with people who have been drinking. On 2 occasions i met someone at a club who, although they didn't appear to be d*unk, had d*unk enough to impair their performance. The second time the guy even attempted to fist me without my consent and left me bleeding and sore.

I only play with those i have seen drinking soft drinks throughout the evening now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up drinking 3 1/2 years ago, improved my sex life no end. Strong erection every time, no need for blue pills, able to exercise more control over climaxing. Wouldn't change it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have always had a drink at meets as have all the couples and single guys we have met. Never had to complain about anything or to be complained about come to that. Happy days!

Most adults like a drink or 2 at any social gathering, pretty standard.

It's probably just people with performance issues that have to stay away from drink, which is fine I guess.

I'd much rather meet with people that like to talk and have a little drink as well.

People that show up just for sex and are too worried about their performance are not needed really.

"

Neither of us have performance issues caused by drink but we still prefer not to drink at play meets. In fact we havnt met anyone who had a drink at a play meet although we have had a beer or glass of wine at a social meet. We also do plenty of chatting and laughing with guys we meet and have a fun sociable time without drink. Everyone is different and thats good. Im not looking down on anyone who likes a drink although i would avoid d*unks. I dont see anyone being overly critical of people having a drink at meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that some of the worst offenders for getting bladdered and acting like a twat are actually women rather than men. One such occasion was in the early days of abfab when they had the giant bubble over the pool and some very d*unk lady fell back and ripped the cover with her heal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gin and lagers are fine, I can drink shitloads and be fine performance wise, even if I'm overly merry. Tequila or vodka, need to drink shitloads of water as well.

Gone are the days of using tennent super for rocket fuel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found that some of the worst offenders for getting bladdered and acting like a twat are actually women rather than men. One such occasion was in the early days of abfab when they had the giant bubble over the pool and some very d*unk lady fell back and ripped the cover with her heal. "

Women are awful d*unks haha, a d*unk lad can be reasoned with and calmed down, not so with a pissed woman. They get pissed a lot quicker because they have less of the alcohol-dehydrogenase enzyme. Some of my mates are bouncers, they hate dealing with the women lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,always drive incase any sexy ladies need a lift home lol so always stay sober

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is good to read. I (f) ised to drink a lot to relax and stopped dtinking 2 years ago and not been able to mert anyone. Thought i needed a drink but now i dont think do. Time to start enjoying meets again i think. X

Im so sorry for the spelling mistakes in this. Im not really sure what happened. "

Must have been the booze ...

xx

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"Gin and lagers are fine, I can drink shitloads and be fine performance wise, even if I'm overly merry. "

I take my hat off to you, you are a better man than me. There is me looking forward to a meet soberly, when drinking shitloads would make me a better performer. Even better I'll get more meets. Thanks for the heads up .....

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