FabSwingers.com forum: Club Nerves??

By *andP123 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Hey guys we have recently been attending a club, we've been about three times now, we really love it but we've not actually played, we both really want to play but feel a bit nervous about it, have any of you guys had this before? And do you know any tips to over come it? Thanks

J&P xx

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

From what we understand this is quite common.

Don't worry about it. Just try to be more social and wait for it to happen.

Maybe try having sex together in the same room as another couple and see if that leads to anything.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same for us but we haven't got to the club part yet

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Same for us but we haven't got to the club part yet

Pick a club and go with the intention of just sussing it out and see what happens.

That's what we did... And we played with another couple the very first time

. (Most don't apparently)

Nita

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By *andP123 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

The club we go to is great, it's more a case of us getting over that first initial moment of sex in front of other people, we fantasize about it but when it actually comes to it the the nerves Kick in

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"The club we go to is great, it's more a case of us getting over that first initial moment of sex in front of other people, we fantasize about it but when it actually comes to it the the nerves Kick in "

Ah, I see...

Sorry, I'm afraid I can't help you there.

We discovered we enjoy sex with, and in front of, others rather quickly.

Nita

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By *andP123 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Well I guess it's just a case of taking the plunge and going for it, a couple of glasses of wine before hand should help

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We were very much the same

we sometimes fool around in front of people, sometimes go to rooms on our own and sometimes with others. We found it hard to be clear if people were interested (not very good at reading people), so we got in touch with people who we knew went to clubs (veri's) and met them at clubs - somehow this made it so much easier to play, as we knew the other people were at least interested!

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By *andP123 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

That actually sounds like a really good idea, hopefully we will meet lots of like minded couples on here and get to know them before meeting at the club, should help break the ice a bit X

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"That actually sounds like a really good idea, hopefully we will meet lots of like minded couples on here and get to know them before meeting at the club, should help break the ice a bit X "

...it worked very well for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try finding a couple that goto the club on here! Chat to them arrange to meet, I'm sure plenty of people will be fine fucking in the same from as newbies to help them get over there nerves!

We just went into a couples only room and started playing!

If they have a hottub that's a great place to get over been naked in front of people

You both look great btw x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple that occasionally helps out behind the bar at a club, your nerves are not unusual. In fact, it is the norm. Most couples, and singletons for that matter, struggle getting over that first barrier.

As others have suggested, chatting with another couple first and arranging to meet at the club is a great idea.

Another idea is to chat to the staff. They will know most of the faces in the club and may be able to suggest another couple who can 'hold you hand' through your first club encounter.

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By *andP123 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Thanks for all your help guys, we very much appreciate it, we are just going to take it slow and let it happen when it happens xx

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

You sound just like us!

We went to clubs a few times before we played openly. Being naked or dressed down does help a lot as clothing can make taking the step to having sex more awkward.

We'd spent the evening naked in a big hot tub with a couple we'd chatted with for a while. Towards the end of the night we all took a wander around the club to see what was going on. Nothing much was, so we took the plunge and asked if they fancied sharing a private room.

We only played with our partners but were right next to the couple on the same bed. It remains one of the horniest experiences we've had so far!

If you don't have a friendly couple to go with then try and hang out in the public play rooms whilst others are playing. When it feels right, grab some bed space in the corner or somewhere that you don't feel center of attention and just try some foreplay together whilst looking around. Then go from there if and when it feels right. Don't ever feel pressured or that you should be doing more. This is your adventure so just take it at your own pace

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

As a single guy my advice would be maybe go in to a room with each other get used to doing that at a club. If you have got talking to a couple maybe ask would they like to join you in a room even if it is to play with own partners

Then take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys we have recently been attending a club, we've been about three times now, we really love it but we've not actually played, we both really want to play but feel a bit nervous about it, have any of you guys had this before? And do you know any tips to over come it? Thanks

J&P xx "

We were just the same luckily enough a couple in the jacuzzi at chams turned around and asked if we wanted to play, we're still a bit nervous but we just ask if they want to play or find a room. So don't worry just start chatting and say this is your first time but would they like to play. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were quite nervous too first time we went to a club we didn't really play at all second time we met a great couple and found that we were comfortable with them but they knew it was our first time so they understood and it went amazingly well never looked back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same for us but we haven't got to the club part yet

It's perfectly normal to be nervous of going to clubs but just take things slowly and enjoy the social side, never expect to play just because you're at a club and you will soon find that once you're comfortable, play will become a lot easier to find.

Being in Essex you have one really friendly clubs on your doorstep being Mingles in Colchester.

It's a quite small and very unpressured club with no wet areas. it's like a posh intimate night club and I would say it's probably perfect for that first time club experience. The owners are lovely and very welcoming to newbies on the scene.

You could try bigger clubs such as Eureka or abfabs but these might be a bit too daunting for a nervous first time couple.

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By *ipsxxCouple
over a year ago

Your not the only people that are nervous when going to a club everyone is in the same boat for the same thing fun it's more of a buzz now.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Come to the vanilla alternative festival of fun with us. We promise you will have cured that problem by the end of the weekend

lol

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By *andP123 OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Thanks for all the help, hopefully we bump into some of you guys on our adventures X

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By *ackdaniels2016Man
over a year ago

Yarm

Well it's not just couples that get nervous I've not even been to a club yet and have only had one social with a couple but the male was to pushy so we didn't take it any further !

For me it is something I know I will do at some point but I'm hoping I'll be able to attend with a couple I've meet previously and have built up trust.

For now chatting/meeting a couple is my aim !

Have you guys thought about maybe attending with somebody you already trust and play with them at the club ? Could be a good way to ease yourself into playing at one ?

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

I suspect your best bet would be to sit and chat to a few people in the lounge area.

If you let people know you are newbies they are most often really friendly & understanding.

Find a couple your age / preference, explain the situation & ask if you can watch...and see where it leads...

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