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Am I being too sensitive?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I met guy for a social over a coffee last week which seemed to go very well. Said he was interested in meeting up to play and so was I.

Agreed that we would hook up daytime one week day as per our,profile, He said that it would take him a little while to sort time off but would meet up when he could.

Not a problem with us, we just needed a day or two notice and we could arrange.

This morning he messages me to say he can meet today. Very short notice that I couldn't do, but I could do Friday or Monday I replied.

Hes reply was would play soon

Within the same hour he puts up a status message that seems to indicate he's going to meet someone and an hour ago he got another verification showing on his summary.

Ok, so I am not in a relationship with him, nor do I want one, but really feel like I have a slap in face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From our view he was free to day at last minute and messaged you ,but you were unavailable and found an alternative meet no more but just our opinion,would you of not done similar if you could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes you're being too sensitive. This is swinging, he couldn't meet you (yet gave you the opportunity) so he arranged to meet someone else. He owes you nothing in terms of exclusivity.

Even so we cant help how we feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get the issue. He wanted to meet today. He met today. I wouldn't expect someone I was chatting to to stay celibate until I could meet him.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i do the same thing. if i want sex i will have sex. there's some guys i'll ask first before looking and if they can't make it i put a status up.

he asked you firstly don't forget, i think it's unreasonable for you to think he should not have sex when he can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm

He offered to play, you couldn't meet so he found someone else to play with, can't see the problem, after all both of you have no emotional attachment, relationship or agreement and you shouldn't have, after all you are married.

Meet him when both of you're diares coincide, in the meantime go have some fun, just like he is doing, isn't that what swinging is about? Fun? X

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive. "

This. You could still meet him when your free this week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, serious question:

What were you expecting him to do after you said you couldn't meet at the time he was free?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

He's an inspiration for guys who can't get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I met guy for a social over a coffee last week which seemed to go very well. Said he was interested in meeting up to play and so was I.

Agreed that we would hook up daytime one week day as per our,profile, He said that it would take him a little while to sort time off but would meet up when he could.

Not a problem with us, we just needed a day or two notice and we could arrange.

This morning he messages me to say he can meet today. Very short notice that I couldn't do, but I could do Friday or Monday I replied.

Hes reply was would play soon

Within the same hour he puts up a status message that seems to indicate he's going to meet someone and an hour ago he got another verification showing on his summary.

Ok, so I am not in a relationship with him, nor do I want one, but really feel like I have a slap in face.

"

Will you play with him if he asks again ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Within the same hour he puts up a status message that seems to indicate he's going to meet someone and an hour ago he got another verification showing on his summary.

"

Are you implying that he flaunted his alternative arrangements for your "benefit"? He gave you first refusal as many have pointed out, perhaps you can concentrate on that.

I think most of us like to feel that we are "special" and it can be hard to accept that on some occasions we are actually interchangeable The more you compartmentalise the better you'll feel - what people do when they're not with you is not your business, has no impact and is no reflection on you. Take nothing personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hope he isn't a forum reader

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Yes you're being too sensitive. This is swinging, he couldn't meet you (yet gave you the opportunity) so he arranged to meet someone else. He owes you nothing in terms of exclusivity.

Even so we cant help how we feel."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you abstain from having sex with your partner until this guy is available to meet you?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

He had the courtesy to message and make sue you still couldn't meet as he knew you could only meet Mon and Fridays. He doesn't owe you anything but checked anyway. Is someone to abstain and stay exclusive to someone they are not in a relationship with in the hope you will follow through and meet with them? If it was the other way around, would you postpone any attempt to meet until he could? You're being too sensitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see there is any issue - welcome to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I met guy for a social over a coffee last week which seemed to go very well. Said he was interested in meeting up to play and so was I.

Agreed that we would hook up daytime one week day as per our,profile, He said that it would take him a little while to sort time off but would meet up when he could.

Not a problem with us, we just needed a day or two notice and we could arrange.

This morning he messages me to say he can meet today. Very short notice that I couldn't do, but I could do Friday or Monday I replied.

Hes reply was would play soon

Within the same hour he puts up a status message that seems to indicate he's going to meet someone and an hour ago he got another verification showing on his summary.

Ok, so I am not in a relationship with him, nor do I want one, but really feel like I have a slap in face.

"
why...he asked if you were free...you said no...

End of

Has he to wait about for when you are ?

He saw an opertunity to play and took it

Good on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see a problem. You should feel good that he gave you first refusal, that means he does want to play as he as not made excuses not to play. You turned him down because you was not free to meet, and in turn he found someone who could meet. Hope he doesn't read the forum as he may decide not to meet with you. Hope you can manage to arrange play time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He asked you first .men tend to do this on fab .move onto the next availability. It's not nice if you liked him .But move on meet someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He asked u first.. you said no.

He met someone else.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive.

"

Agreed, tbh if he asked you first take it as a compliment x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive.

Agreed, tbh if he asked you first take it as a compliment x"

. We can't be too sensitive if we're going to be on this site I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive.

Agreed, tbh if he asked you first take it as a compliment x

. We can't be too sensitive if we're going to be on this site I'm afraid."

To be honest there is no guarantee he asked the OP fist

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"So you couldn't meet him today and he found someone that could?

Yes you're being sensitive.

Agreed, tbh if he asked you first take it as a compliment x

. We can't be too sensitive if we're going to be on this site I'm afraid.

To be honest there is no guarantee he asked the OP fist "

Oh come on play nice

She was definitely asked first....

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