FabSwingers.com forum: inside a womans mind

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

please tell me what you want and dont want out of a first message

ive tried all different types and none of its natural.

i feel like im fishing without bait here

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It's not easy drafting that first message is it? I like a message where I can see that the person has read my profile and they go to the effort of making the message personal to me, which is what I would do if I messaged first. Keep it relevant to the person. Try and get a bit of your personality in there. I'm not saying write a novel, it doesn't have to be lengthy but make it stand out from others. Personally I don't appreciate rude, crude or pushy messages but everyone likes different things. The pics and the profile is all you have to go on when you contact someone and they are the first things people looking at you will see, so make it count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a sneaking suspicion women may not all want exactly the same.

However, on a less sarcastic note; cock shots and crude assumptions coupled with a consistent failure to read and take onboard profile content does seem to be almost universally unpopular.

Best of British OP, chin up and carry on fabbing. HHx

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

To be "inside a woman's mind" you would really have to know them well so you are not in that position. Therefore all you can do is message from your perspective and hopefully it will resonate with someone. Just be yourself and treat it like a conversation that you would have when meeting someone face to face for the first time. At least you have something to start with on here due to having profiles to read. Good luck.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"please tell me what you want and dont want out of a first message

ive tried all different types and none of its natural.

i feel like im fishing without bait here

fella what about what you want are you here to pander to the needs of others or find someone who wants the same as you think on that for a minute .

because you sound like a dog asking please master how must i wag my tail to be noticed.

my advice be yourself man up don't get your ideas of self worth mixed up or messed about by the lack of response to just a few words .

you sound desperate lacking in self belief with this post .

which if I'm honest fella are unattractive traits because by saying what you have you sound like a whip and i bit of a loser in my humble opinion .

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"please tell me what you want and dont want out of a first message

ive tried all different types and none of its natural.

i feel like im fishing without bait here

Clear face pic and a simple hi will do me

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"please tell me what you want and dont want out of a first message

ive tried all different types and none of its natural.

i feel like im fishing without bait here

Clear face pic and a simple hi will do me"

ok you first i prefer my women to be brave and put it on the line first xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"please tell me what you want and dont want out of a first message

ive tried all different types and none of its natural.

i feel like im fishing without bait here

x"
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It still doesn't guarantee you'll click. Ive found some lists do t match and it still works. What if I do t tick boxes 9 and 10. Your 8 is way off what I want to. But the rest is fine.

Get talking and then see what you both want if you get along. Personality is first and foremost i think.

It's just my opinion.

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By *az1Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi I would love to meet a couple or single lady for regular meets. I've been in this scene and the swinging lifestyle for a while now so am quite experienced and got plenty of ideas, some of which I've put on my profile if anyone would like to read x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1.Your profile needs a spell-check and re-wording.

2.We don't need you to feel sorry for us, and jealousy is very unattractive.

3. Your photos are of your physique.. Are you self-obsessed or is there more about your personality that you can show?

4.There is nothing positive that draws us in, no sign of humour,fun,mutual consideration etc etc.

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By *Q_GentMan
over a year ago

Manchester, City Centre

"Clear face pic and a simple hi will do me"

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

In FAQ there is a copy of the first message men should use for women.

All women like that message and it always works. Just use that.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Do women ever send out the 1st message or just sit back and wade through the thousand messages they get a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In FAQ there is a copy of the first message men should use for women.

All women like that message and it always works. Just use that."

One I can copy and Paste? Eff off. Seriously, a template? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just timing sometimes. The first messages I like less are those that are a blatant copy and paste. I like to think that my profile has been read.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I would like a message to me to be unique . Someone to make an effort and read my profile and compose a message appropriate to my profile .

If is polite I reply !

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