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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left"

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely? "

all difference should be respected.. not sure if the above answer does that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely?

all difference should be respected.. not sure if the above answer does that.

"

I agree, that,s a bit of a put down and is unfair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely?

all difference should be respected.. not sure if the above answer does that.

I agree, that,s a bit of a put down and is unfair."

It's goddamn amazing how you two pick an entire world _iew out of six words.

I understand dom/sub relationships, having had one before, but there's a gulf between role-playing and 24 hr psychological subbing (can't know the OPs entire lifestyle, but a niche of BDSM people do this), because I've seen it can stop being a role and become the real thing which is horribly lonely for the poor subbie.

You can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely?

all difference should be respected.. not sure if the above answer does that.

I agree, that,s a bit of a put down and is unfair.

It's goddamn amazing how you two pick an entire world _iew out of six words.

I understand dom/sub relationships, having had one before, but there's a gulf between role-playing and 24 hr psychological subbing (can't know the OPs entire lifestyle, but a niche of BDSM people do this), because I've seen it can stop being a role and become the real thing which is horribly lonely for the poor subbie.

You can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break."

i dont get your reply!!

they were commenting on whther you knew anything about BDSM etc, they were commenting on your use of the term poor doggy (or so i believe )

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break."

I would hazzard a guess that this would all be discussed when they "confirm" things with people they intend to meet!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely?

all difference should be respected.. not sure if the above answer does that.

I agree, that,s a bit of a put down and is unfair.

It's goddamn amazing how you two pick an entire world _iew out of six words.

I understand dom/sub relationships, having had one before, but there's a gulf between role-playing and 24 hr psychological subbing (can't know the OPs entire lifestyle, but a niche of BDSM people do this), because I've seen it can stop being a role and become the real thing which is horribly lonely for the poor subbie.

You can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break."

Reread.. NOT SURE if the above does that.

I also took the time to write to you and said 'no offence, you may get a reaction to a comment like that..'

Happy posting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*cough*

If someone understands enough about bdsm, then they should know the basic difference between an owned sub / slave and an unowned one!! Also the basics of subs v slaves!!

Just my pennies worth.

The dog reference was out of line!

They have every right to ask for what they want. If you dont understand that or respect that, say nothing....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Have to admit it is a scene I don't know anything about..

good luck OP, hope you get someone to help you out.

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Having seen quite a bit of this world the sub trusts her master 100% and only becomes the collared all obeying sub when she is happy in that trust. The master will know her limitations inside out (if she has any) and will watch and keep her safe at all times. Good luck op and hope you both fullfill your fantasies

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left"

Mmmm, as her Master don't you think you should be doing this.BDSM involves deep levels of trust and knowledge.To push your sub into those areas that she might have previously refused to go is something only you can do.i could never imagine Sir asking for,or needing suggestions!

You know your sub best...as Sir once said he owns my mind.No one else can replace the intimate knowledge you should have if you have collared her.

That said the barn idea is quite common,and v hot,the difficulty is as always not scaring the nillas.i hope a kinky farmer gets in touch...pass on his details lol

As for the doggie comment,

i am used to ppl who don't know me assuming because i am sub i am a doormat,the day Sir collars me will be the third proudest of my life(sorry Sir,giving birth tops it,it hurt more )i am no ones dog...but i can bite.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"

You can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break."

Safe words dont stop that,the difference,informed consent and trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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you can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break."

Okay... did you really expect not to get jumped on.... I rarely get a bit annoyed at comments as normally put it down to ignorance... but you state understanding.. so fail to see why you would not expect your comment to be taken so badly..

And those of us that choose to trust our masters so completely that we give up our safewords do so because of the complete bond and trust... for me a safeword is only used during sex with others... and we do not partake in bdsm with others... I do not need one with my master.

I do also agree that there is much room for abuse to be hidden within bdsm but a slave chooses to give her control to another... And its something a lot won't understand.

To the op... good luck.. and I'm sure you will have your slave's safety and well being at the top of your list.

Katie. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do not beleive that submission is the same as subbing,

as the character of a bottom or sub in bdsm is what drives the relationship, to be used and owned by a master who is only looking ideas for use in agreemnet from a dom/top, does not mean that the agreement and character of the bottom is lost or there would not be a relationship to sustain or to be lost.

as for ideas guys, try for urban as you were thinking but i would do rope shabari,be pegged to the ground , wrists and elbows,from the shoulders outwards and straight, with ankles and knees spread in a swastika formation, and a prevously arranged rope tied in to a chasity position and a hitachi/rabbit/condomed stick inserted , and gag her with pictures taken ,

then to top that do trash dumping and humilation on her, while still in that postion, and make her walk it home.

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By *hil McAvityMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Personally find some of the videos on kink dot com interesting to gain ideas

Public is fun but can get you arrested personally private slow control best. enjoy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it strange asking for ideas. You have to find what works for you. As a Domme it took time to find what works for me: I doubt even if I'd asked, if anyone would have come up with what floats my boat!

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"C has now given herself 100% as a collared owned sub, we are now looking for ideas for her use

She will do anything she is told to do by her master N (only safe sex)

so we are looking for very kinky dirty ideas for her

please give us your ideas and lets have fun, with her as this is what she wants and will confirm it to prospective meets before we start

special looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left

Poor doggie

Won't she get lonely?

all difference should be respected.. not sure if the above answer does that.

I agree, that,s a bit of a put down and is unfair.

It's goddamn amazing how you two pick an entire world _iew out of six words.

I understand dom/sub relationships, having had one before, but there's a gulf between role-playing and 24 hr psychological subbing (can't know the OPs entire lifestyle, but a niche of BDSM people do this), because I've seen it can stop being a role and become the real thing which is horribly lonely for the poor subbie.

You can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break."

Did I miss the bit where you got elected as the only voice qualified to speak on BDSM issues?

The OP put a post up - it deserved a little bit of respect, not a put down and then your spin on what constitutes good or bad BDSM.

Incidentally, and I know this is controversial, what use is a safe word exactly?

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"

you can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break.

Okay... did you really expect not to get jumped on.... I rarely get a bit annoyed at comments as normally put it down to ignorance... but you state understanding.. so fail to see why you would not expect your comment to be taken so badly..

And those of us that choose to trust our masters so completely that we give up our safewords do so because of the complete bond and trust... for me a safeword is only used during sex with others... and we do not partake in bdsm with others... I do not need one with my master.

I do also agree that there is much room for abuse to be hidden within bdsm but a slave chooses to give her control to another... And its something a lot won't understand.

To the op... good luck.. and I'm sure you will have your slave's safety and well being at the top of your list.

Katie. X "

Damn - should have read the whole thread before diving in as Katie said it better and more clearly than me...

I may have to resign from the Grand Order of Naturally Assertive Doms for admitting a sub said something better than me of course...

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"

you can bang on about 'freedom' all you want, this isn't a subjective thing, this can be a real problem and I call you an inexperienced fool if you don't recognize it. Where, exactly, is the safe word, if you're locked into a car boot or tied up in a barn in the middle of nowhere? What safeguards or failsafes draw a line between BDSM and simple abuse, between submission and plain maltreatment?

To me, operating without safe words or a fail safe is like operating without a condom. In the real world, people get hurt and relationships break.

Okay... did you really expect not to get jumped on.... I rarely get a bit annoyed at comments as normally put it down to ignorance... but you state understanding.. so fail to see why you would not expect your comment to be taken so badly..

And those of us that choose to trust our masters so completely that we give up our safewords do so because of the complete bond and trust... for me a safeword is only used during sex with others... and we do not partake in bdsm with others... I do not need one with my master.

I do also agree that there is much room for abuse to be hidden within bdsm but a slave chooses to give her control to another... And its something a lot won't understand.

To the op... good luck.. and I'm sure you will have your slave's safety and well being at the top of your list.

Katie. X

Damn - should have read the whole thread before diving in as Katie said it better and more clearly than me...

I may have to resign from the Grand Order of Naturally Assertive Doms for admitting a sub said something better than me of course... "

But did you see the bit where i said i found the idea quite horny?

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By *andbloveitCouple
over a year ago

Wetherby

I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"I find it strange asking for ideas. You have to find what works for you. As a Domme it took time to find what works for me: I doubt even if I'd asked, if anyone would have come up with what floats my boat! "

My thoughts exactly.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum."

Yes and no.. you may get some sexual ideas that you wouldnt get on the bdsm forums.. and some find the bdsm forums a little intimadating.

Katie. x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum."

Why?

Cannot you be into BDSM and a swinger? and Since ppl discuss what to have for breakfast ,this is at least about sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" looking for BDSM , outdoor locations, warehouses and barns for tieing up and being left"

I am looking at being an RSPCA Officer in a whole new different light now !

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum."

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too "

i want the address of the barn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too

i want the address of the barn! "

Me too.. maybe they will do a bogof offer lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too

i want the address of the barn!

Me too.. maybe they will do a bogof offer lol "

Three naked subs tied together in an empty barn.Back to back,skin against skin.Trembling they hear a car engine,the door opens,and the men enter...

Yup we need the address!

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too

i want the address of the barn!

Me too.. maybe they will do a bogof offer lol

Three naked subs tied together in an empty barn.Back to back,skin against skin.Trembling they hear a car engine,the door opens,and the men enter...

Yup we need the address! "

It's that car engine fetish again isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too

i want the address of the barn!

Me too.. maybe they will do a bogof offer lol

Three naked subs tied together in an empty barn.Back to back,skin against skin.Trembling they hear a car engine,the door opens,and the men enter...

Yup we need the address!

It's that car engine fetish again isn't it?"

I'd like a nice car engine noise... v6, flat 4, v10 or something like that lol

Katie

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I would suggest this matter would be better discussed on a BDSM forum rather than a Swingers forum.

I am sure there are lots of people who are into BDSM who can give advice / hints on here too

i want the address of the barn!

Me too.. maybe they will do a bogof offer lol

Three naked subs tied together in an empty barn.Back to back,skin against skin.Trembling they hear a car engine,the door opens,and the men enter...

Yup we need the address!

It's that car engine fetish again isn't it?"

well as i have a Pavlovian response to one... although motorbikes work too!

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