FabSwingers.com forum: Novice Submissive

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Various friends on fab have commented on my submissive nature and after much thought I need to explore further my submissive side with the help of an experienced mistress or master.

Can anyone help or offer me some much needed advice.

Please feel free to pm if needed.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

You may be submissive and want a Master or a Dom but don't be bullied into anything you don't like or enjoy.

Read up on it and I don't mean Fifty shades. The sub holds the power as they control when play stops.

Don't rush into it and discuss what you are looking for. Some guys think it's all about humiliation, control and pain. It should be about finding out what works best for you then pushing the boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You may be submissive and want a Master or a Dom but don't be bullied into anything you don't like or enjoy.

Read up on it and I don't mean Fifty shades. The sub holds the power as they control when play stops.

Thanks hun

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

You may know what you want from them but what can you offer in return?

Healthy BDSM is mutually rewarding so take stock of needs and abilities on both sides, never do what doesn't feel right for you, you should never have to "prove" yourself.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If some freak comes at you with a collar, proclaiming how they are an umber Dom with lots of collared slaves - run!

Goto a felt night or social munch, meet people, get advice and find out if said Dom is respected or has a rep.

Don't be fooled into it all by a new slave new collar every week Dom.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Suggest you talk to other subs, explore with them your wants, there is a great forum for newbies on another site.

Then look at the next stage, find a mutual understanding through exploring the space with a top, they will need to understand to guide you.

Unless you are just for rough sex, then just set peramiters and go for it.

The first way creates a stunning dynamic, well in my world....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice so far on the forum and the pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Various friends on fab have commented on my submissive nature and after much thought I need to explore further my submissive side with the help of an experienced mistress or master.

Can anyone help or offer me some much needed advice.

Please feel free to pm if needed. "
go sit in the corner until we call you back.

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By *eviant and BemusedCouple
over a year ago

Burton

What about submission appeals? What do you think you might enjoy? Do you want a relationship or just sex? When you imagine yourself in a sub scenario, what's happening? Work out what you want before jumping in to a scene with any dominant. Do lots of reading and thinking so you know which direction you want to go in. A good dom wants you to have a good experience. Never be talked into a situation that doesn't feel right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Various friends on fab have commented on my submissive nature and after much thought I need to explore further my submissive side with the help of an experienced mistress or master.

Can anyone help or offer me some much needed advice.

Please feel free to pm if needed. "

Beware of guys who insist that they are 'experienced', however old they are. Too many guys mistake submission for the right to treat a female badly. Any guy who spouts any variation of the following is not a Dom but a Nob and to be avoided at all costs: "on your knees bitch and suck this"; "if you were a true sub, you would let me..."; "if you were a true sub you would do ...."; "I am your Master and you must obey me in all things"; "here is a collar for you to wear to prove you are mine" (within hours of meeting).Never trust a guy to tie you up until you really know him. Fab is not really the best place to find a Dom,most guys on here want sex and although sex can be a part of BDSM play, it is so much more than just sex. Go to Munches and meet other people who are truly into the life -style and who can guide you round the pitfalls. Make sure if you meet up with anyone you have met anywhere, that you have a good friend who has meet details and who will call for help if you disappear. Good luck.

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