FabSwingers.com forum: advice

By *aster77 OP Man
over a year ago

fife Dunfermline

Hey fab buddies,im wondering what im doing wrong,one minute im chatting away and then just like that im getting ignored its now putting me of,ive only had 1 meet and that was a disaster she was more nervouse than me and she had more meets under her belt,the question is what am i doing wrong,and should i just leave the site and just put it down to its just not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ask the lass to meet up again.

its all about Patience.

as said before in previous post.

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By *aster77 OP Man
over a year ago

fife Dunfermline

I dont think i could put myself in that situation again it was actually rather scarey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its not for you its not for you.

Maybe if you give the social scene a try. Normally nights out in the pub like any other nights out with friends.

As for being ignored, sometimes people just dont have time.

Right now I have 30+ messages sitting waiting to read. Some are from people I know, some not. But I would rather spend some time on the forums today, than answer message. So the messages will be ignored.

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By *aster77 OP Man
over a year ago

fife Dunfermline

Thats some good advice damsel,but can i ask if you had read a mail would you reply,and would you just delete a mail without reading it,thats what i mean by ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats some good advice damsel,but can i ask if you had read a mail would you reply,and would you just delete a mail without reading it,thats what i mean by ignored "

That depends.

Normally on what kind of mood im in/how much time I have.

Mails I delete without opening....1st where I can see the whole message, normally 'how are you' and that all, ignore and delete.

I always look at the profile before opening, if the profile is blank, ignore and delete.

If the profile is someone that I wouldnt meet, but the message is nice and there is a profile, reply with thanks but no thanks.

If the profile and the message appeal, reply and start conversation.

All the above is on a good day, when im in the mood.

Generally, for me, anyways, I find Mondays are crap message days. Normally not got any over the weekend so are trawling here looking for a quick shag. Generally on a Monday I ignore all messages, except from friends.

Same for any messages recieved after 12 on a Friday/Saturaday night, in from the pub, wanting a shag.

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By *aster77 OP Man
over a year ago

fife Dunfermline

Lol mondays are crap for me,and am never on after 12 any nite need my rest for work lok,im just not havin much luck,its mt enjoyable its more like work in fact i enjoy my work more lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Many people get nervous before meets...but to be so nervous during u don't want to meet her again?

Perhaps it was a bad meet ,perhaps swinging is not for you,but before you decide,try some socials...see if things work better that way.

i'd also suggest talking to the girl and seeing if anything you did made her nerves worse...its best to know for next time.

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