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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

Did they not send you stuff too?

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

I would say go the police as it's a criminal offence but certainly don't be pushed into doing something you don't want to. Especially as the blackmail rarely ends when they get what they want. Remember though you have fine nothing wrong and stay strong!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's different for a lad that could be anyone's body if that makes sense .. I'm covered in tattoos and if it went on facebook everyone would know it was me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

I would say go the police as it's a criminal offence but certainly don't be pushed into doing something you don't want to. Especially as the blackmail rarely ends when they get what they want. Remember though you have fine nothing wrong and stay strong! "

Thank you , I was going to say I will go straight to police for the attack and blackmail then block him but scared that encourages him to do it! But can't try keeping him sweet forever! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

Go to the police. Ask for a private meeting, not at the desk.

Tell them everything, be open and honest.

You've done nothing wrong.

Good luck.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

Politely Tell this person if they go through with any of there threats you are going to the police as it's a criminal offence that can carry prison time then block them on any sites they have contact with you on.

I doubt they would carry on after that.

There is nothing more you can really do at this point but if this person see's they are getting to you they will get worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

Go to the police. Ask for a private meeting, not at the desk.

Tell them everything, be open and honest.

You've done nothing wrong.

Good luck.

M"

Thank you , would the police be able to do anything ? I don't know his full name or address or anything about him ! X

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By *Ollyinone.Man
over a year ago

Warks.

Posting intimate photographs of somebody else without thier consent is now illegal. I think you should remind this vile person of this. If convicted, They could then be put on the sex offenders register. Ask him how he would explain that to his family, friends and workplace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

I would say go the police as it's a criminal offence but certainly don't be pushed into doing something you don't want to. Especially as the blackmail rarely ends when they get what they want. Remember though you have fine nothing wrong and stay strong!

Thank you , I was going to say I will go straight to police for the attack and blackmail then block him but scared that encourages him to do it! But can't try keeping him sweet forever! X"

Oh for blackmail then yes, best do what another poster posted, have a private meeting with the police and let them handle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would the police be able to do anything ? I don't know his full name or address or anything about him ! X"

Yes, they can but might ask for a bit of proof from you.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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go the police, def don;t cam else he will have videos to threaten you with also.

they can trace his IP hopefully. VPN won't hide it from the police.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

It might also be an idea to advise the site you are going to the police, I think they can log the culprits computer details.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much everyone lots of useful support here !! Thanks to you all .. ah the situations girls get into !! Lesson learnt !! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been through similar I told them I'd go to the police numerous times but it didnt stop them. Then I started screenshotting revenge porn laws and they backed off a bit but didn't fully stop until a friend of mine that works for the local council got in touch with them. She's more clued up on law than I am he deleted all photos he had and left me alone.

Its so hard because it starts with one photo, they say they'll post it if you don't send more. Than it moves on to videos and its just a huge viscious circle. Sending you all the love and hugs in the world. If threats of going to the police arent enough then you have to go to them before it happens xxx

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

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"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

Go to the police. Ask for a private meeting, not at the desk.

Tell them everything, be open and honest.

You've done nothing wrong.

Good luck.

M"

Totally agree.. there are new laws out now to stop this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

If you have messages from them stating this go to the police straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

this site is getting really f*cked up!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

You say you have been in touch via Facebook, so the Police will be able to trace him easily enough, its definitely worth getting them involved.

One mistake lots of people make is using pics that are easily recognisable as them, if you have tats, disguise them on pics you post on here.

Its worth having different pics done that don't appear anywhere else, this with faces and tats blanked means you have deniability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a police job. Google 'revenge porn carlisle' for an article about a successful prosecution in your town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this just scares me! Is it worth the risk?!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

First of all .... report to admin .... tell them you are involving the police. .... then go to the police .... save all messages if you can .... if necessary .... delete your Facebook account for a while .... then create a new one later .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call 101 and explain it, ask for an officer to come to you and then you can sit down with them and show them the messages you have received, fab will co-operate with the police should he post anything as will facebook to trace him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just what other people have said, report it to the police. They should be able to sort things out from there. Hopefully letting them know the authorities are involved will make them back off.

Hope things work out alright.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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they might not be able to get the VPN i've been informed, but i'd still report it. hopefully he hasn't covered tracks well but he probably has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats the guys name on here.. out him and get the community to sort it out. Politely of course.. if enough of us get together to help I'm sure he will soon realise its a stupid decision.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Whats the guys name on here.. out him and get the community to sort it out. Politely of course.. if enough of us get together to help I'm sure he will soon realise its a stupid decision."

Not a good idea.

It's against site rules.

It could backfire horribly.

We only have one side of the story.

What's to stop me from outing you for the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The police can do something about it however if they will is another matter

The problem with 'revenge porn' is once it's out there on the internet for everybody to see it'll NEVER be removed.. people take screen shots etc and just re post it on different sites that's the problem with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whats the guys name on here.. out him and get the community to sort it out. Politely of course.. if enough of us get together to help I'm sure he will soon realise its a stupid decision.

Not a good idea.

It's against site rules.

It could backfire horribly.

We only have one side of the story.

What's to stop me from outing you for the same thing?"

Yeah true..sorry I have not read the rules fully! Seems so dark and wrong whats happening though feels like we should help. But you are right

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Whats the guys name on here.. out him and get the community to sort it out. Politely of course.. if enough of us get together to help I'm sure he will soon realise its a stupid decision.

Not a good idea.

It's against site rules.

It could backfire horribly.

We only have one side of the story.

What's to stop me from outing you for the same thing?

Yeah true..sorry I have not read the rules fully! Seems so dark and wrong whats happening though feels like we should help. But you are right"

People have helped by suggesting that the OP goes to the police.

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

Had a friend go through this a few years ago. When it wasn't a criminal offence. Guards took it very seriously even then. So report immediately.

Just a small bit of advice. Shut down your Facebook. Make a new account and never link your fan to Facebook

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Had a friend go through this a few years ago. When it wasn't a criminal offence. Guards took it very seriously even then. So report immediately.

Just a small bit of advice. Shut down your Facebook. Make a new account and never link your fan to Facebook"

Good advice. Also never use the same phone number for facebook and fab. Never send identifiable photos to anyone. Never use the same face picture on here and on facebook.

A bit late for you op, I hope it comes to nothing.

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By *ingdong73Man
over a year ago

kent

shut your remaining fb account down ..block him...and start a new profile and have a different name he can't trace .should help...just tell your friend your site playing up etc ...change your phone number etc ..and if need report it to police if need too that much .x thats all I can suggest .plus don't let him think your worried people like that feed from it ..bully's end of .x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??"

This is exactly why I do not understand why people do Cams/skype/kik. Pictures do not disappear these days.

It's not the first time I've heard of this either

Go to the police!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

this site is getting really f*cked up!"

Yeppp! and it will continue because people do not have to pay. You get better behaviour on paid sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

this site is getting really f*cked up!

Yeppp! and it will continue because people do not have to pay. You get better behaviour on paid sites."

and I'm surprised Admin hasn't stepped in from reading this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go straight to administrator ascwe all have to submit a face pic for them to create a profile ... They maybe obliged to help if you take to the police?!

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ive got an ongoing incident right now involving revenge porn.

I can tell you now the police do take this very very seriously, and the consequences for the individual convicted can be extremely damaging including as already mentioned being placed upon the sex offenders register. Im currently still debating my options on weather to proceed with the action or to let sleeping dogs lie, however do not be afraid to speak to the police I found them to be very helpful, respectful and non judgemental about the whole issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just this site, my former FWB posted a picture of me tied naked to his bed on an online sex advertising site and invited man or women or couples to fuck me and do whatever they wanted to me. I did not give permission for it. It had my face in it too, it was a local site.

He got angry when I told him to take it down.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

OK, I had something similar happen to me before the new laws came in. I too am very heavily tattooed and easily recognisable. I took a brave move and called his bluff. I acted cool and said, go ahead then like I didn't care that he splattered my pics over facebook. I also changed my settings on facebook to disallow tags unless I approved them first. So if my pics were posted and my name was on them, they wouldn't actually be tagged to me. I also ramped up my security settings on Facebook. He didn't post them as for him, the fun was over. He had nothing to blackmail me with and he wasn't going to get what he wanted.

Now that these new laws are in place, what he is doing is totally illegal and if you have proof of his threats, he can be easily traced through his IP and charged. Depending on his previous convictions and level of threat, it holds a custodial sentence.

Someone on here was using pics of a friend to set up fake profiles and saying where she lived and on another site, what she did as a job...also saying vile things on the profiles. The police got involved and she was cautioned; this was before the new law. If she did this ever again, because she has been cautioned, y friend wouldn't blink at going back to the police and having her charged. This is a breach of privacy with massive repercussions and the perpetrators need to be dealt with harshly.

Good luck; I totally empathise with your situation, it is really horrible xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask, does this person know you personally, has he got your name, can he find you on FB, ramp up your security settings and tell him your prepared to go to the police and let them deal with it.

My teenage step son had a similar experience with some sort of social media site, was encouraged to send pictures of a sexual nature to a girl he'd been chatting to, she or I should say they, because when we did take it to the police after him paying and the demands kept coming, the police said its more common than you think, organised gangs apparently, he had to cancel his bank card and the police advised him to delete his FB account, he did for a month but he's back on FB now and all the more cautious I hope.

Good luck hope you manage to get it sorted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Politely Tell this person if they go through with any of there threats you are going to the police as it's a criminal offence that can carry prison time then block them on any sites they have contact with you on.

I doubt they would carry on after that.

There is nothing more you can really do at this point but if this person see's they are getting to you they will get worse."

This

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By *owieladMan
over a year ago

Headingly

Good advice mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for being so helpful ! Some really good help and advice here appreciate it so much and don't feel as scared now as know something will be done, thank you all !! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely go to the police. What he is doing if blackmail and deserves having the full weight of the law hit him. This kind of thing is now taken very seriously

Delete all your Internet presence first though

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Hope you get it sorted OP

I had an ex set up a profile on Fab with all my real details and phone number. Even where I lived. He also contacted my work pretending to be a woman telling them I was having affairs with married men (which I wasn't).

Work was good about it. They just blocked him so he couldn't contact them. Fab was really good. The account was down within an hour.

I did however have to change my phone, both mobile and landline and change my email address.

I couldn't actually ever prove it was him and didn't want to pursue it further as everything stopped once one of my brothers threatened him.

It does get better OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe the behaviour of some human beings!

Makes me sick

Best of luck op don't let the wankers grind you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bother with the police it is too expensive for them to investigate blackmail they are useless

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

it's illegal, go to the police simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The police will be able to trace there isp or MAC address (same thing) there a unique number to all hand sets (phones ipad, pda's) & PCs

People don't understand that they leave a electronic footprint everywhere they go online & it's traceable!

Start by blocking all new posts on Facebook from people not in your friends list contacting you!

Restrict from public to private & then they'll not be able to post anything on your page!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was under the impression that if you send or upload pictures to a person or site, you relinquish property over them. Be careful although he HAS committed a crime in blackmailing he would not probably be charged with anything in using the pictures in platforms who would take them. Facebook have decency standards but sites like tumblr do not and have ruined lives already. Good luck OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone is threatning me .. saying if I don't cam / meet they are going to post all my pictures I have sent publically! (On facebook etc)I have a lot of tattoos so I'm easily recognised and a job to protect is there anything I can do??

Go to the police. Ask for a private meeting, not at the desk.

Tell them everything, be open and honest.

You've done nothing wrong.

Good luck.

M"

This. I was blackmailed by an ex. In a d*unken moment of madness I texted her and asked to fuck her. Next day she blackmailed me for more money. I fessed up to the wife ( now an ex too ) and then went straight to the cops. They couldn't have handled it better. Went to her place of work, a bank, in uniform and " had a word".

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