FabSwingers.com forum: Please Help

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only joined a week ago and finally verified today. I'm probably trying to run before I've even learned to walk. But I am absolutely clueless as to what I'm doing. I separated from my wife of 25 years about 4 years,and recently split from my girlfriend of 3 years. To say I'm pretty naïve is a bit of an understatement, I kid you not I've had to Google half of the words not people are into. I'm strictly a woman only guy, no males,TV's or TS's, sorry. I think I'd quite enjoy being invited to some of the parties (maybe). If i wanted to message a lady,what should I say,what are the No-No's. I'd be for ever grateful for any pointers from anyone. Never felt so silly.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Don't feel silly - we all start somewhere.

If you have been verified in a week then you have done better than most.

Just be you, be patient, be polite (but not obsequious), read the profile and join in. There are countless threads asking for advice so read through some of those too.

Good luck and welcome to Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the wonderful world of fab OP. Firstly, relax and enjoy. There are thousands of people on here from all walks of life so no need to feel silly.

For me/us, good manners, no text speak and a genuine interest in the person/people goes a long way. Read people's profiles and go from there. If they don't reply, don't be disheartened - women get lots of messages. Keep going and keep chatting in the forums.

Thought about trying any clubs? You can find club reviews on here. It's a good, no pressure way to socialise and meet people.

Good luck!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello, don't feel silly.

If you were married for 25 years and had another 3 year relationship you already know how to treat women I would guess. It's no different here, we're just normal people

Chat normally, don't be someone you aren't and you should be ok.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only joined a week ago and finally verified today. I'm probably trying to run before I've even learned to walk. But I am absolutely clueless as to what I'm doing. I separated from my wife of 25 years about 4 years,and recently split from my girlfriend of 3 years. To say I'm pretty naïve is a bit of an understatement, I kid you not I've had to Google half of the words not people are into. I'm strictly a woman only guy, no males,TV's or TS's, sorry. I think I'd quite enjoy being invited to some of the parties (maybe). If i wanted to message a lady,what should I say,what are the No-No's. I'd be for ever grateful for any pointers from anyone. Never felt so silly.

Be careful what parties you go to ..... as a complete newbie you may feel out if your depth .

Seems like you're looking for a girlfriend to be honest , so how will you feel if you get a meet , have sex , and the realise it was no strings ?

Be prepared to broaden your outlook , this scene can be cold and heartless at times .

Be sure this is what you are looking for .

Good luck

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not sure if this is the right site for you if you don't want to meet women with a lot of verifications. Remember this is a swinging site. Hope you find some fun.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OMG!! What an amazing set of people you, so much fantastic advice, I don't know what to say, apart from thank you so very much. Feel so much better after reading your replies x Paul

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In reply to glowswingers, I am definitely NOT looking for a girlfriend, its the first time I've been single since 1983,and baby, I want some fun and learn as much as is humanly possible,and you asked about how I'd feel about "no strings sex,bring it on, I can't wait to dive in (so to speak) xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In reply to glowswingers, I am definitely NOT looking for a girlfriend, its the first time I've been single since 1983,and baby, I want some fun and learn as much as is humanly possible,and you asked about how I'd feel about "no strings sex,bring it on, I can't wait to dive in (so to speak) xxxxxx

That's great , and we wish you every success in reaching your goals

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you use the reply+quote button when responding we can see who you're answering

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Don't feel silly - we all start somewhere.

If you have been verified in a week then you have done better than most.

Just be you, be patient, be polite (but not obsequious), read the profile and join in. There are countless threads asking for advice so read through some of those too.

Good luck and welcome to Fab.

Photo verified...

My advice would be to start in the chat rooms. It's a bit daunting at first - but persevere - it DOES get easier... Also, read and contribute to the forums - lots of interesting, thoughtful and trivial subjects

Contrary to what you might think - people on here are generally discerning people - they don't jump into bed with everyone.

If you have any clubs or social gatherings neat you - join in. It's a great way to meet people in a social surrounding. Remember - it's not jam today....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best advice I can give you is to relax. Don't be disheartened if you dont get replys to any messages you send as there are a million different reasons why you may not receive a reply and most of them will be nothing against you. Have fun in the forums too that way you will learn quicker and get to know some of us. Don't expect to get sex just look for making friends and hopefully the sex will follow. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you go to the UK and meets and parties section of the forum there are a few big socials coming up in the NW. These are none play socials where you ,well socialise. Great to get to know people and less daunting than full on parties. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Truly, I cannot believe how helpful you guys really are. Look very forward to meeting some of you lovely people in the very near future, and will now pay regular visits to the forum xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the esact same mate don't know how to go about this trying to get to know people on this and people thinking your a fake add could anyone help me out a bit fab virgin ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a well cute post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a well cute post

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thank you, I felt a little ridiculous writing it sweetheart, but not anymore I don't, thanks to the support I've had in the last few hours, just need to meet someone (oops,there I go being impatient again) but it always seems like Christmas Eve and never Christmas Day, lol..xx Paul

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By *TFSeventyMan
over a year ago

Weybridge

"This is a well cute post

thank you, I felt a little ridiculous writing it sweetheart, but not anymore I don't, thanks to the support I've had in the last few hours, just need to meet someone (oops,there I go being impatient again) but it always seems like Christmas Eve and never Christmas Day, lol..xx Paul"

Sometimes ChristmasEve is eve better than Christmas Day ??

Good luck in you new adventures mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a well cute post

I'm sure you'll find some fun and excitement on here

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