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Women, how would you most like a couple to approach you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're keen to make a female swinging friend but are unsure of how best to go about it. Would you prefer us to bump into you at a club? Or do you want us to be really vanilla first and meet you for a coffee to put you at ease about us and our relationship? Or would you prefer something more enticing and sexy like a flirty date out with us or maybe even just with Mr? Or do you want us to be more bold and invite you around tonight for some play? Feel free to pm us if you'd rather not share your views in public. We're really just trying to gauge what women want/expect/hope from us couples in the way of the most enticing approach

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

A coffee date first please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the answer is probably that everyone has different preferences!

Ruby

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"We're keen to make a female swinging friend but are unsure of how best to go about it. Would you prefer us to bump into you at a club? Or do you want us to be really vanilla first and meet you for a coffee to put you at ease about us and our relationship? Or would you prefer something more enticing and sexy like a flirty date out with us or maybe even just with Mr? Or do you want us to be more bold and invite you around tonight for some play? Feel free to pm us if you'd rather not share your views in public. We're really just trying to gauge what women want/expect/hope from us couples in the way of the most enticing approach "

When I did meet couples, I met them for a coffee; sometimes even twice. I wanted to gauge that they were both interested and this wasn't just his fantasy which she was being dragged into

The topics of conversation started with everything but sex and swingers clubs. Anything from the tube strike to the rubbish coffee we were having

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social first. So many couples have issues between them, i.e. One only swinging to please the other, jealousy issues, lots of rules such as no kissing, no penetrative, so it's best to sort this out before fun begins x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Couples can be complicated. We prefer meeting just guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be complicated. We prefer meeting just guys.

"

That's so true ! But lately I been so fortunate to meet really nice people!

I meet them in the club but we building up friendship also! Dinner,coffee and shopping! I am glad I didn't give up x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I always have a social first with couples - the form that takes I'm flexible with, it depends on the couple and availability and other such factors.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks so much for the feedback so far We're both equally keen to find a female swinging friend. Mrs would like a friend to go clubbing with and be all sexy and girly together with. Mr is... well he's just a Mr For both of us it would be a friendship more than just a threesome

It sounds like we're best off being super vanilla. Maybe even with Mrs taking the lead and chatting and meeting first. We're just wondering how to make this more appealing and enticing as it sounds a bit dull and matter of fact. With couples, for example, we like to have fun and get all flirty. Similarly, when women meet single guys they can also be fun and flirty. It just sounds a bit formal and unseductive... like shooting ourselves in the foot a bit

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Whoever I meet it would always begin with a coffee or something somewhere public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

with caution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a social first. So many couples have issues between them, i.e. One only swinging to please the other, jealousy issues, lots of rules such as no kissing, no penetrative, so it's best to sort this out before fun begins x"

That's one think we've always said to newbie couples that you should both be in swinging because you want to be not doing to please the other. We've seen a few fallouts in clubs over the years when one person from a couple has got jealous. As a couple we both love it we both like playing a both really enjoy seeing the other play and never understand why people don't kiss it's the thing that gets the play going but there happily do oral. Also if one of us isn't happy or comfortable we would take one for the team so to speak. To use it's all about everyone who is involved being comfortable and having fun wether it's with a single or a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks so much for the feedback so far We're both equally keen to find a female swinging friend. Mrs would like a friend to go clubbing with and be all sexy and girly together with. Mr is... well he's just a Mr For both of us it would be a friendship more than just a threesome

It sounds like we're best off being super vanilla. Maybe even with Mrs taking the lead and chatting and meeting first. We're just wondering how to make this more appealing and enticing as it sounds a bit dull and matter of fact. With couples, for example, we like to have fun and get all flirty. Similarly, when women meet single guys they can also be fun and flirty. It just sounds a bit formal and unseductive... like shooting ourselves in the foot a bit "

It sounds like you're not looking to play as a three from this post, so I would suggest that you get singles profiles and meet people that way.

I would not accept an approach from a couple if only the woman was interested - I would ask them to message me from their singles profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee meet with both. Vanilla chat to see how the dynamics are between us all.

They trip themselves up.. then it ends...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a social first. So many couples have issues between them, i.e. One only swinging to please the other, jealousy issues, lots of rules such as no kissing, no penetrative, so it's best to sort this out before fun begins x

That's one think we've always said to newbie couples that you should both be in swinging because you want to be not doing to please the other. We've seen a few fallouts in clubs over the years when one person from a couple has got jealous. As a couple we both love it we both like playing a both really enjoy seeing the other play and never understand why people don't kiss it's the thing that gets the play going but there happily do oral. Also if one of us isn't happy or comfortable we would take one for the team so to speak. To use it's all about everyone who is involved being comfortable and having fun wether it's with a single or a couple. "

Shame more couples didn't have your attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would not accept an approach from a couple if only the woman was interested - I would ask them to message me from their singles profile."

Great. That's clarified that. I had wondered if Mrs leading would simply be the most disarming approach. No other reason. The overwhelming response is simply to be straightforward, friendly, vanilla, and equally interested... we can definitely do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks so much for the feedback so far We're both equally keen to find a female swinging friend. Mrs would like a friend to go clubbing with and be all sexy and girly together with. Mr is... well he's just a Mr For both of us it would be a friendship more than just a threesome

It sounds like we're best off being super vanilla. Maybe even with Mrs taking the lead and chatting and meeting first. We're just wondering how to make this more appealing and enticing as it sounds a bit dull and matter of fact. With couples, for example, we like to have fun and get all flirty. Similarly, when women meet single guys they can also be fun and flirty. It just sounds a bit formal and unseductive... like shooting ourselves in the foot a bit "

Couples can be a bloody mind-field. Alot have issues and bringing someone else into the mix often causes conflict, especially as the friendships develops. Then the single finds they are piggy in the middle, being used as a counsellor for a failing relationship. It's a horrible, fucked up position to be in so my advice to any singles going down the couple route would be don't! If you do, proceed with caution as usually the single is blamed for any issues that were there long before you arrived.

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By *appy Girl99Woman
over a year ago

Victorville

When I meet up with couples we do coffee first to see eachother in person find out a few things about eachother its easier that way so if u take it to the next level its not so awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have played as a single lady with couples. I like it if both of them chat to me, stroke my arm, tease and flirt. I have had some sexy threesomes m x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Couples can be a bloody mind-field. Alot have issues and bringing someone else into the mix often causes conflict, especially as the friendships develops. Then the single finds they are piggy in the middle, being used as a counsellor for a failing relationship. It's a horrible, fucked up position to be in so my advice to any singles going down the couple route would be don't! If you do, proceed with caution as usually the single is blamed for any issues that were there long before you arrived."

Whilst we totally respect you've had a bad experience, warning others to avoid couples like the plague seems a little unfair. There are some, like us, who genuinely aren't messed up and are seeking female friends for all the right reasons.

The trouble is that women who have a bad experience with a couple are unlikely to ever try it again. As such, they may never figure out whether they were just unlucky or if most couples are a nightmare. Rather than warn others from ever trying it we'd suggest they just be a little bit more cautious and savvy about picking up the signs that a couple aren't really in the right place to play with. Thanks for your input though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading the posts has been good and an eye opener for both sides. We agree that some of the posts are a bit angst couples and makes it hard for genuine couples minus issues to get on and find single women. We ourselves are looking to find female friends for friendship and fun.

Thanks for the advise given on here we will take everything on board and tread carefully with single ladies. X

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Couples can be a bloody mind-field. Alot have issues and bringing someone else into the mix often causes conflict, especially as the friendships develops. Then the single finds they are piggy in the middle, being used as a counsellor for a failing relationship. It's a horrible, fucked up position to be in so my advice to any singles going down the couple route would be don't! If you do, proceed with caution as usually the single is blamed for any issues that were there long before you arrived.

Whilst we totally respect you've had a bad experience, warning others to avoid couples like the plague seems a little unfair. There are some, like us, who genuinely aren't messed up and are seeking female friends for all the right reasons.

The trouble is that women who have a bad experience with a couple are unlikely to ever try it again. As such, they may never figure out whether they were just unlucky or if most couples are a nightmare. Rather than warn others from ever trying it we'd suggest they just be a little bit more cautious and savvy about picking up the signs that a couple aren't really in the right place to play with. Thanks for your input though "

I was thinking the same, if the norm of humanity was for singles to play with couples you'd probably shrugg it off & try again as no doubt you would do after an iffy single guy meet.

All I see from "Tried it once or twice, nightmare" is bad choices of who, not a bad choice of idea & this applies whether meeting males, females, TV/TS/CD or couples.

Not having a go, but it does seem to be the couples version of the single guys "Why can't I get a meet?"

;-)

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples off here anymore simply because of the amount of problems I have had meeting in the past, I like to get to know a couple as a friend first, couples I play with tend to be couples in have bumped into at club's or/and parties/socials over a period of time and have only known them from a social side for a period of time, when I feel comfortable with them and feel there will be no issues if we play I will approach them from a sexual point of view, this way just works better for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a bloody mind-field. Alot have issues and bringing someone else into the mix often causes conflict, especially as the friendships develops. Then the single finds they are piggy in the middle, being used as a counsellor for a failing relationship. It's a horrible, fucked up position to be in so my advice to any singles going down the couple route would be don't! If you do, proceed with caution as usually the single is blamed for any issues that were there long before you arrived.

Whilst we totally respect you've had a bad experience, warning others to avoid couples like the plague seems a little unfair. There are some, like us, who genuinely aren't messed up and are seeking female friends for all the right reasons.

The trouble is that women who have a bad experience with a couple are unlikely to ever try it again. As such, they may never figure out whether they were just unlucky or if most couples are a nightmare. Rather than warn others from ever trying it we'd suggest they just be a little bit more cautious and savvy about picking up the signs that a couple aren't really in the right place to play with. Thanks for your input though "

Yes my advice is based on experience, however I have alot of experience with couples over a long period of time, yes look out for the warning signs, however alot of couples are hell bend on displaying all the right signs to get that elusive female. My advice still stands for single fems to not get involved with the relationship side. Yes there maybe genuine couples out there but I would still advice caution as they will have their own agenda at heart and not the single fems interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, after making contact on here from either me or them first and exchanging messages etc I wud prefer a social then if all is well make a 'playdate' for another time.

In a club I prefer to make the first move. Even if its just a quick hi/hello. In a hot tub is even better! Dreamcatcher Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a bloody mind-field. Alot have issues and bringing someone else into the mix often causes conflict, especially as the friendships develops. Then the single finds they are piggy in the middle, being used as a counsellor for a failing relationship. It's a horrible, fucked up position to be in so my advice to any singles going down the couple route would be don't! If you do, proceed with caution as usually the single is blamed for any issues that were there long before you arrived.

Whilst we totally respect you've had a bad experience, warning others to avoid couples like the plague seems a little unfair. There are some, like us, who genuinely aren't messed up and are seeking female friends for all the right reasons.

The trouble is that women who have a bad experience with a couple are unlikely to ever try it again. As such, they may never figure out whether they were just unlucky or if most couples are a nightmare. Rather than warn others from ever trying it we'd suggest they just be a little bit more cautious and savvy about picking up the signs that a couple aren't really in the right place to play with. Thanks for your input though

Yes my advice is based on experience, however I have alot of experience with couples over a long period of time, yes look out for the warning signs, however alot of couples are hell bend on displaying all the right signs to get that elusive female. My advice still stands for single fems to not get involved with the relationship side. Yes there maybe genuine couples out there but I would still advice caution as they will have their own agenda at heart and not the single fems interests. "

I have had the same experiences as you, another one I found was a the amount of guys in couples who try to get you to meet them alone behind their wife's back, it's put me in many a difficult situation when the wife's asked if I want to meet again then asked why and have they done something wrong when I say no, I mean what do you so "I don't what to meet you again because your husband's a cheating twat and I want no part in it" who's she going to be live me or him?

That's why now I never seek out couple's if I get to know one well then maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples can be a bloody mind-field. Alot have issues and bringing someone else into the mix often causes conflict, especially as the friendships develops. Then the single finds they are piggy in the middle, being used as a counsellor for a failing relationship. It's a horrible, fucked up position to be in so my advice to any singles going down the couple route would be don't! If you do, proceed with caution as usually the single is blamed for any issues that were there long before you arrived.

Whilst we totally respect you've had a bad experience, warning others to avoid couples like the plague seems a little unfair. There are some, like us, who genuinely aren't messed up and are seeking female friends for all the right reasons.

The trouble is that women who have a bad experience with a couple are unlikely to ever try it again. As such, they may never figure out whether they were just unlucky or if most couples are a nightmare. Rather than warn others from ever trying it we'd suggest they just be a little bit more cautious and savvy about picking up the signs that a couple aren't really in the right place to play with. Thanks for your input though

Yes my advice is based on experience, however I have alot of experience with couples over a long period of time, yes look out for the warning signs, however alot of couples are hell bend on displaying all the right signs to get that elusive female. My advice still stands for single fems to not get involved with the relationship side. Yes there maybe genuine couples out there but I would still advice caution as they will have their own agenda at heart and not the single fems interests.

I have had the same experiences as you, another one I found was a the amount of guys in couples who try to get you to meet them alone behind their wife's back, it's put me in many a difficult situation when the wife's asked if I want to meet again then asked why and have they done something wrong when I say no, I mean what do you so "I don't what to meet you again because your husband's a cheating twat and I want no part in it" who's she going to be live me or him?

That's why now I never seek out couple's if I get to know one well then maybe "

Yes I've had that in the past as well, not restricted to just the males. Maybe good advice for couples to make sure their relationships are 150% strong and they are honest and open about what they are hoping to get out of the experience.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids


"I prefer a social first. So many couples have issues between them, i.e. One only swinging to please the other, jealousy issues, lots of rules such as no kissing, no penetrative, so it's best to sort this out before fun begins x

That's one think we've always said to newbie couples that you should both be in swinging because you want to be not doing to please the other. We've seen a few fallouts in clubs over the years when one person from a couple has got jealous. As a couple we both love it we both like playing a both really enjoy seeing the other play and never understand why people don't kiss it's the thing that gets the play going but there happily do oral. Also if one of us isn't happy or comfortable we would take one for the team so to speak. To use it's all about everyone who is involved being comfortable and having fun wether it's with a single or a couple. "

We are the same! We do this together and all parties have to be happy and we never take one for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"We're keen to make a female swinging friend but are unsure of how best to go about it. Would you prefer us to bump into you at a club? Or do you want us to be really vanilla first and meet you for a coffee to put you at ease about us and our relationship? Or would you prefer something more enticing and sexy like a flirty date out with us or maybe even just with Mr? Or do you want us to be more bold and invite you around tonight for some play? Feel free to pm us if you'd rather not share your views in public. We're really just trying to gauge what women want/expect/hope from us couples in the way of the most enticing approach "

I want a couple to approach me on their hands and knees

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"We're keen to make a female swinging friend but are unsure of how best to go about it. Would you prefer us to bump into you at a club? Or do you want us to be really vanilla first and meet you for a coffee to put you at ease about us and our relationship? Or would you prefer something more enticing and sexy like a flirty date out with us or maybe even just with Mr? Or do you want us to be more bold and invite you around tonight for some play? Feel free to pm us if you'd rather not share your views in public. We're really just trying to gauge what women want/expect/hope from us couples in the way of the most enticing approach

I want a couple to approach me on their hands and knees

"

You will probably get some on fab that would too, my money is on none of them being on this thread though

S

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Not at all

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Can the ladies that have the problems say with hand on heart that they were 100% attracted to both parties equally and that play was also split equally and that they didn't focus more on one partner more than the other?

Only asking as i'm finding it difficult to comprehend that two long termers on Fab can pick duffuns so easily that is all..

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can the ladies that have the problems say with hand on heart that they were 100% attracted to both parties equally and that play was also split equally and that they didn't focus more on one partner more than the other?

Only asking as i'm finding it difficult to comprehend that two long termers on Fab can pick duffuns so easily that is all..

S"

Well of course it's the woman's fault

It's been many many years since I met a couple to me single guys are just so much easier, I have never deliberately excluded anybody in any sexual situation but I suppose my idea of exclusions may be different to theirs or it could have just been they wasn't ready to invite a third party into their sex life, problem is the fantasy may have been good but sometimes the reality does not match up

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Informative thread and explain some of the rationale behind what we have encountered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours...."

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In meeting a couple for a first coffee would you expect this to be totally vanilla, especially as it's in a public place, or would you like it to be a little flirty? i.e if we like you should we, as we do with couples, make that clear very early on by being flirty and stuff or do you really need us to chill and be vanilla friends first?

As I hope it's becoming plain, the entire purpose of this thread is to try and understand and respect single women's needs and desires. If, in doing so, it helps other couples play better with single women then hopefully it'll be part of the solution rather than the problem

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Can the ladies that have the problems say with hand on heart that they were 100% attracted to both parties equally and that play was also split equally and that they didn't focus more on one partner more than the other?

Only asking as i'm finding it difficult to comprehend that two long termers on Fab can pick duffuns so easily that is all..

S

Well of course it's the woman's fault

It's been many many years since I met a couple to me single guys are just so much easier, I have never deliberately excluded anybody in any sexual situation but I suppose my idea of exclusions may be different to theirs or it could have just been they wasn't ready to invite a third party into their sex life, problem is the fantasy may have been good but sometimes the reality does not match up "

I wasn't saying that at all & you know it For us playing with a single is an equal exchange, they are not a Unicorn, we are not grateful & subservient, just three people that like the the idea of three way play, So if say for us someone says "Yes I'll play" & then concentrates on just H or me we are not going to be happy & would either end the meet or not arrange another. For others it may have differing effects.

Now do you think anyone would come on here and admit that they fancied one enough to "put up" with the other? And then the meet went a bit sour? Of course they wouldn't. So maybe we should as ever with Fab not take everything at face value & never lay the blame of a bad meet 100% at the other parties door. After all, we all make the choice on who we meet.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In meeting a couple for a first coffee would you expect this to be totally vanilla, especially as it's in a public place, or would you like it to be a little flirty? i.e if we like you should we, as we do with couples, make that clear very early on by being flirty and stuff or do you really need us to chill and be vanilla friends first?

As I hope it's becoming plain, the entire purpose of this thread is to try and understand and respect single women's needs and desires. If, in doing so, it helps other couples play better with single women then hopefully it'll be part of the solution rather than the problem "

Flirting is vanilla!

I don't know about others but IME if you can't establish mutual interest either by word or deed during a first social, it is highly unlikely there will be a follow-up play meet. That's the same for threesomes, foursomes, even for some one-on-ones. If nobody is proactive or focused on the sex, it won't happen. On one particular time a couple who had invited me out turned me down cos after two hours of drinking and talking about their sex life the woman felt like I was too much like a friend So yes I prefer couples that are ready to ravage me

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Flirting is fine, sex talk bores us though other than finding out what is a no no. You don't have to talk about sex to flirt.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

"

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In meeting a couple for a first coffee would you expect this to be totally vanilla, especially as it's in a public place, or would you like it to be a little flirty? i.e if we like you should we, as we do with couples, make that clear very early on by being flirty and stuff or do you really need us to chill and be vanilla friends first?

As I hope it's becoming plain, the entire purpose of this thread is to try and understand and respect single women's needs and desires. If, in doing so, it helps other couples play better with single women then hopefully it'll be part of the solution rather than the problem

Flirting is vanilla!

I don't know about others but IME if you can't establish mutual interest either by word or deed during a first social, it is highly unlikely there will be a follow-up play meet. That's the same for threesomes, foursomes, even for some one-on-ones. If nobody is proactive or focused on the sex, it won't happen. On one particular time a couple who had invited me out turned me down cos after two hours of drinking and talking about their sex life the woman felt like I was too much like a friend So yes I prefer couples that are ready to ravage me "

Phew what a relief It was all starting to sound a bit unsexy. Hopefully other women will concur with you as, if there's one thing we love... it's flirting

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense "

We don't meet often & those we do meet have contacted us in the first instance, hopefully based on our profile, so far, so good.

As said not all couples have issues, but then neither do all singles, but quite a few of both do

S

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By *iSubSlutWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Coffee and flirting sounds good to me....

Get to know each other over a drink, relax, enjoy the company and the buzz...

Arrange another meet or stay just friends....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In meeting a couple for a first coffee would you expect this to be totally vanilla, especially as it's in a public place, or would you like it to be a little flirty? i.e if we like you should we, as we do with couples, make that clear very early on by being flirty and stuff or do you really need us to chill and be vanilla friends first?

As I hope it's becoming plain, the entire purpose of this thread is to try and understand and respect single women's needs and desires. If, in doing so, it helps other couples play better with single women then hopefully it'll be part of the solution rather than the problem "

I would definitely prefer a coffee meet with plenty of flirting from both the man and woman. I need to feel the right vibes are there from both people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense "

I disagree. Couples are troublesome and present a lot of issues, jealousy, insecurity, getting the balance right when playing, and the worst part as someone has already mentioned is when the man starts messaging me privately for me to meet him without his wife. There are a few couples on here who swear blind they have the perfect relationship, the best sex life, and they have 100% trust, but unfortunately unknowingly they are married to a cheater. But hey, ignorance is bliss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense

I disagree. Couples are troublesome and present a lot of issues, jealousy, insecurity, getting the balance right when playing, and the worst part as someone has already mentioned is when the man starts messaging me privately for me to meet him without his wife. There are a few couples on here who swear blind they have the perfect relationship, the best sex life, and they have 100% trust, but unfortunately unknowingly they are married to a cheater. But hey, ignorance is bliss."

Exactly our point a single lady tarring all couples with the same brush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense

I disagree. Couples are troublesome and present a lot of issues, jealousy, insecurity, getting the balance right when playing, and the worst part as someone has already mentioned is when the man starts messaging me privately for me to meet him without his wife. There are a few couples on here who swear blind they have the perfect relationship, the best sex life, and they have 100% trust, but unfortunately unknowingly they are married to a cheater. But hey, ignorance is bliss.

Exactly our point a single lady tarring all couples with the same brush "

Not all, some.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

For me I think spontaneity would be more likely to see me join a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense

I disagree. Couples are troublesome and present a lot of issues, jealousy, insecurity, getting the balance right when playing, and the worst part as someone has already mentioned is when the man starts messaging me privately for me to meet him without his wife. There are a few couples on here who swear blind they have the perfect relationship, the best sex life, and they have 100% trust, but unfortunately unknowingly they are married to a cheater. But hey, ignorance is bliss.

Exactly our point a single lady tarring all couples with the same brush

Not all, some."

You didn't say some and that's the point

If we said "single females are troublesome" because of the odd incident all the white knights would be up in arms, you do make a good point about guys in couples trying to meet on there own but we don't morally judge "single" females who are playing unbeknown by there husbands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting couples, I liked the profiles where they'd both be messaging me (were always clear who was messaging at the time) so I could get a feel of both of their personalities. Then yes, social meet first to chat, get a feel for chemistry from both, including vanilla everyday chat and some flirting/talking about experiences and desires etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense

I disagree. Couples are troublesome and present a lot of issues, jealousy, insecurity, getting the balance right when playing, and the worst part as someone has already mentioned is when the man starts messaging me privately for me to meet him without his wife. There are a few couples on here who swear blind they have the perfect relationship, the best sex life, and they have 100% trust, but unfortunately unknowingly they are married to a cheater. But hey, ignorance is bliss.

Exactly our point a single lady tarring all couples with the same brush

Not all, some.

You didn't say some and that's the point

If we said "single females are troublesome" because of the odd incident all the white knights would be up in arms, you do make a good point about guys in couples trying to meet on there own but we don't morally judge "single" females who are playing unbeknown by there husbands"

Sorry I should of said "some" in my original post, as I have met some great couples who don't have issues, so they do exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the couples I play with I met in clubs.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

If I was to play with a couple it would probably be in a club x

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I had a couple contact me recently .... just by messaging me ...

It made me a bit nervous .... like "rose and fred west "nervous...... ..... just being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a social first. So many couples have issues between them, i.e. One only swinging to please the other, jealousy issues, lots of rules such as no kissing, no penetrative, so it's best to sort this out before fun begins x"

I tend not to meet couples for this reason..that or I fancy one and not the other...wish I had more opportunity to meet couples where mutual boxes are all ticked

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"I prefer a social first. So many couples have issues between them, i.e. One only swinging to please the other, jealousy issues, lots of rules such as no kissing, no penetrative, so it's best to sort this out before fun begins x

That's one think we've always said to newbie couples that you should both be in swinging because you want to be not doing to please the other. We've seen a few fallouts in clubs over the years when one person from a couple has got jealous. As a couple we both love it we both like playing a both really enjoy seeing the other play and never understand why people don't kiss it's the thing that gets the play going but there happily do oral. Also if one of us isn't happy or comfortable we would take one for the team so to speak. To use it's all about everyone who is involved being comfortable and having fun wether it's with a single or a couple.

Shame more couples didn't have your attitude."

Agreed. We've met couples in the past where one is clearly being pushed into it. It spoils the experience for us.

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

weve been swinging for over 20 years we came to the swinging sceen after having had two girlfriends previously so it was always mostly about 3 somes for us weve been lucky to have met many single girls and have had 4 longterm relationships within that 20 years

weve always said that the hardest thing is to find couples where were equaly attracted and the same for them .Couples can also be a bit boring in that you can wind up just playing with one other person rather than the buzz that comes from being spoilt by two

the nicest comment we ever got was from the lady of another couple with a similar length of experience to us said that we were one of the few couples she had ever met who could successfully do threesomes long term

i think the main ingredient is a women who is trully bi and a guy who is happy to give her space to indulge and happy to watch or join in

we also never tried to own girls we were with if they took a fancy to play elsewhere even on a club night we had taken her too that was fine by us

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By *iscreet UnicornWoman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

I play alone with couples and will continue to do so.

Every relationship is different so i feel it would be daft to let one bad experience make me stop playing with couples ever again.

I have met both in and out of clubs and find the easier meets have been in a club.

For me i would like to be approached by either m/f in a flirty way and have a good chat with the female to ensure it is what she wants. Then talk through the boundaries. Sometimes i have played that first meet sometimes not.

I enjoy naughty flirty texts/messages in the build up to a meet too... keep me on my toes lol

Hope that helps?

Wifey xxx

Oh, one last thing. Please don't expect the female you want to bring into your bed to keep secrets from one of you- if i don't keep secrets from my own husband i will not be keeping secrets from yours either!!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Jesus, how many single ladies have commented on couples having issues on this thread? Don't tar us all with the same brush please! As far as we are concerned a three way FFM meet is 3 people meeting up to play on an equal footing, we don't put a single lady on a pedestal or conversely use them to fulfil a fantasy our ours....

Absolutely spot on , well said .

We have had more ffm meets than we care to remember , and every one has been equally as enjoyable for all three of us . But , and here's the thing , we don't actively seek this kind of meet any more than an Mmf , a group play or a tv . There's not a chance we will jump through hoops for the so called elusive holy grail !

I think that's the point, single ladies will invariably attract the "seeking female only" couples, with issues, as such we all get tainted. We don't actively seek single females more than any other type of meet and everyone we play with, single guys, single girls, couples and groups it's just fun with everyone on an equal footing, saying couples are trouble is nonsense

I disagree. Couples are troublesome and present a lot of issues, jealousy, insecurity, getting the balance right when playing, and the worst part as someone has already mentioned is when the man starts messaging me privately for me to meet him without his wife. There are a few couples on here who swear blind they have the perfect relationship, the best sex life, and they have 100% trust, but unfortunately unknowingly they are married to a cheater. But hey, ignorance is bliss."

Funnily enough we have met a lot of people through group socials & had a few play meets & more than once have been asked if we play alone. Both of us have been approached by singletons so it happens both ways

S

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