FabSwingers.com forum: Is this site right for me?

By *rwhowhatwherewhy OP Man
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Right folks, I have a little problem. Me and my girlfriend have been open for nearly 5 years now and what a surprise. The reason for entering an open relationship was due to her not wanting sex much or at all and she felt that this was unfair on me, so we are open so that I can get I can get the satisfaction that she is unable to provide me. The trouble is I am really quite shy and find it difficult to the women that I like, hence why I've resorted to internet services to help me find somebody. Now my girlfriend expects me to be able to go out and find somebody like she can and generally disapproves of internet services, but I'm at a loss as to what else I can do. Although swinging is something I'd like to try, I'm really not sure if I'd be socially suited to it. Any thoughts or advice on the matter would be greatly appreciated

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right folks, I have a little problem. Me and my girlfriend have been open for nearly 5 years now and what a surprise. The reason for entering an open relationship was due to her not wanting sex much or at all and she felt that this was unfair on me, so we are open so that I can get I can get the satisfaction that she is unable to provide me. The trouble is I am really quite shy and find it difficult to the women that I like, hence why I've resorted to internet services to help me find somebody. Now my girlfriend expects me to be able to go out and find somebody like she can and generally disapproves of internet services, but I'm at a loss as to what else I can do. Although swinging is something I'd like to try, I'm really not sure if I'd be socially suited to it. Any thoughts or advice on the matter would be greatly appreciated"

Firstly, you need to understand the parameters of expectation with your gf. If she doesn't want you to use Fab or the net in general then you need to let her know what it is you would feel more comfortable with. If pulling in a pub isn't your thing then it's going to cause an issue.

Once that's out the way, single guys who tend to be most in demand are self assured, relaxed and easy going with decent wit. If that's not you then you may have to wait for your niche personality to spark with someone. This is a lifestyle site not somewhere (like some think) has free hookers. Just because someone likes multiple partners it's because they've made a choice to.

Finally, if you need something physical with someone and your girlfriend is being pretty prescriptive about how you do that, are you really sure she's happy with you doing it? And also, is she right for you?

Obviously your situation is more complex than anyone can understand so don't take any advice as gospel and I wish you all the best.