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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know your wife better than anyone else on here (unless she's on here too)

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

You don't 'persuade her', you have a conversation about this aspect and if she is up for it in her own mind then good luck..

and if not then show her the respect she deserves as your partner..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How's your communication? Can you talk to her openly about your hopes, dreams and fantasies and can she talk to you about hers? If so you will already know how she feels about swinging.

If not thats where you start. Not with persuasion but with open communication.

It won't guarantee that she will join you here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice welcome "

Show her my profile

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

"Persuade "?

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By *s HartWoman
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Use your words.

You can't persuade her.

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

Role play, she may be more comfortable about how you would react to seeing her play, that may boost her confidence that is not going to spoil things between you.

But you also risk her being offended and upset about you enjoying her being with someone else unless you have talked about it even as fantasy play.

As those above has said....Communication.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Show her your profile

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Lol.

Fatal opening gambit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does your wife even know you are on here?

if not I'm guessing you will have a lot of explaining to do before you even get that far

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It won't take much, she was loving it at the gang bang last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice welcome "

Don't.

She either wants to or she doesn't.

You shouldn't try to persuade her to do anything she's not eager to do of her own accord.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

You don't persuade anyone.

Have you broached this subject before together ?

Is she even aware you have a profile on here ?

None of us here know your wife as well as you do. So all I have to say is good luck. And phrase it better than your opening post xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't.

Neither do you outright ask her, plead with her, beg her, bribe her, pressure her or anything else that isn't 2 way communication.

You get together, you lay out your fantasies, ideas, thoughts and you listen to her response.

You will find out in about 30 seconds all you need to know if you should pursue the conversation further.

You just might be surprised at her reaction if your openly honest with her.

Good luck. x

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By *rsbrooksandjohnCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

You should never try to persuade someone to play

Either she wants too or she doezn t

But her decision should be respected and final even if its not the answer you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very large bottle of vodka should do the trick! Failing that listen to what everyone said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give her a copy of the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan. Can get it on Amazon. An interesting fairly amusing take on human sexuality. Then ask her opinions on what he has to say.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Give her a copy of the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan. Can get it on Amazon. An interesting fairly amusing take on human sexuality. Then ask her opinions on what he has to say."

Or Tristan Taormino has plenty of books as well as a great podcast. Another fantastic podcast is Life on the Swing Set, I would highly recommend that.

Alternatively just pretend your car has broken down just outside a swingers club, and your mobile is dead so the two or you will have to go inside to ask if you can use their phone

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"Give her a copy of the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan. Can get it on Amazon. An interesting fairly amusing take on human sexuality. Then ask her opinions on what he has to say.

Or Tristan Taormino has plenty of books as well as a great podcast. Another fantastic podcast is Life on the Swing Set, I would highly recommend that.

Alternatively just pretend your car has broken down just outside a swingers club, and your mobile is dead so the two or you will have to go inside to ask if you can use their phone "

Failing these. Rohypnhol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give her a copy of the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan. Can get it on Amazon. An interesting fairly amusing take on human sexuality. Then ask her opinions on what he has to say.

Or Tristan Taormino has plenty of books as well as a great podcast. Another fantastic podcast is Life on the Swing Set, I would highly recommend that.

Alternatively just pretend your car has broken down just outside a swingers club, and your mobile is dead so the two or you will have to go inside to ask if you can use their phone

Failing these. Rohypnhol.

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Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want the sure fire way to end your marriage get her involved in something she has no knowledge, experience or control over.

If you want to test her interest tell her during sex how much you want to see her enjoy herself with another person. If she calls you a filthy animal and you spend the rest of the week in the doghouse it's better than the rest of your life as a singleton.

If she enjoys the though, have an open and honest discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It won't take much, she was loving it at the gang bang last night "

Was she the one taking it from everyone really hard ? We spoke to her after, she said I'm only doing this because my arse of a husband is on a sex hook up site asking how to get me into it so I thought I'd try it for myself and let him know ?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You don't 'persuade her', you have a conversation about this aspect and if she is up for it in her own mind then good luck..

and if not then show her the respect she deserves as your partner.."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Any advice welcome

Show her my profile "

Lovely new pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You talk about the fact of maybe swinging....she may be upset or may surprise you and say yes but if no is her answer you must respect that if you love her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple this one.

You dont!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As to be something you both want to do and enjoy otherwise forget it and find something you do both enjoy instead

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"Any advice welcome "

You don't, it's her own choice. Deal with it!

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

You dont. She either wants to or she doesnt. Theres no persuading involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with a little persuasion in the right direction. Explain that she is the most important person in your life but you feel you need to spice up your sex live together. If she thinks anything about you she will at least listen to you and your wants and needs.

If she is dead against it, then there's some decisions you'll need to make as to where you go from here, be it with her or without her. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's nothing wrong with a little persuasion in the right direction. Explain that she is the most important person in your life but you feel you need to spice up your sex live together. If she thinks anything about you she will at least listen to you and your wants and needs.

If she is dead against it, then there's some decisions you'll need to make as to where you go from here, be it with her or without her. Good luck."

Maybe he could look for sex behind his partners back with a woman who gets a kick out of shagging cheating attached men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New pair of football boots.

Sorry OP had to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you've activly been trying to cheat on her for months.

That'll probbaly get her sleeping with other men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her about fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband got me into this and this is how. He talked through his fantasies and asked if I'd like to play a part in them. I wasn't sure but wanted to try. Baby steps first so i went out wearing see through clothing, then barefoot, then we had sex in front of people, then we let them touch me while having sex, then i tried having Sex with another man with my husband there, then dogging, then swingers club and now I have 7 man gangbangs and love it. Off to club again this weekend for double figures hopefully. You must gently let her find her way into this with you at her pace. Patience is key, you cannot just expect her to say, 'yes come on, let 5 guys at me'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's nothing wrong with a little persuasion in the right direction. Explain that she is the most important person in your life but you feel you need to spice up your sex live together. If she thinks anything about you she will at least listen to you and your wants and needs.

If she is dead against it, then there's some decisions you'll need to make as to where you go from here, be it with her or without her. Good luck.

Maybe he could look for sex behind his partners back with a woman who gets a kick out of shagging cheating attached men? "

That's definitely one option, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any advice welcome "

You can't and is not the best thing to do. Openly ask her what she thinks about swinging but if she's not keen then trying to persuade her could end badly. We've been on the scene for 10 years and have seen couples split up and falling out because one of them is only there because it's what the other wants. As a couple you've both got to be in it 100%. Also once you've brought it up she might start to wonder why you asked so you may need to be very careful about carrying on swinging yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's more important OP: your marriage or trying to fuck randoms? Only you know the answer and will pay for the consequences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

You don't

You invite her to make her own mind up and respect decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't

You invite her to make her own mind up and respect decision "

Some people may need gentle persuasion. I do in life with certain aspects. Gentle persuasion is totally different to pushing someone into something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's more important OP: your marriage or trying to fuck randoms? Only you know the answer and will pay for the consequences. "

His marriage is important, that's why he is asking for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's more important OP: your marriage or trying to fuck randoms? Only you know the answer and will pay for the consequences.

His marriage is important, that's why he is asking for advice."

Persuading your wife to do something she may not want to is not putting your marriage first. So he needs to listen to her. If she says no will he still be here looking for fucks, like he has for the last 3 months? I think if he had been successful in those first 3 months then this post would be v different. The number of men who come on as singles, then realise they would do better 'with the wife' is laughable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's more important OP: your marriage or trying to fuck randoms? Only you know the answer and will pay for the consequences.

His marriage is important, that's why he is asking for advice.

Persuading your wife to do something she may not want to is not putting your marriage first. So he needs to listen to her. If she says no will he still be here looking for fucks, like he has for the last 3 months? I think if he had been successful in those first 3 months then this post would be v different. The number of men who come on as singles, then realise they would do better 'with the wife' is laughable!"

My husband persuades me to do things at times, and afterwards I'm so grateful he did. Does that mean he hasn't put out marriage first?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

..some fellas never learn .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It won't take much, she was loving it at the gang bang last night "

Ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's more important OP: your marriage or trying to fuck randoms? Only you know the answer and will pay for the consequences.

His marriage is important, that's why he is asking for advice.

Persuading your wife to do something she may not want to is not putting your marriage first. So he needs to listen to her. If she says no will he still be here looking for fucks, like he has for the last 3 months? I think if he had been successful in those first 3 months then this post would be v different. The number of men who come on as singles, then realise they would do better 'with the wife' is laughable!

My husband persuades me to do things at times, and afterwards I'm so grateful he did. Does that mean he hasn't put out marriage first?"

Depends if he was doing it for his own selfish reasons or not. Surely you are not that naive after all your time on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's more important OP: your marriage or trying to fuck randoms? Only you know the answer and will pay for the consequences.

His marriage is important, that's why he is asking for advice.

Persuading your wife to do something she may not want to is not putting your marriage first. So he needs to listen to her. If she says no will he still be here looking for fucks, like he has for the last 3 months? I think if he had been successful in those first 3 months then this post would be v different. The number of men who come on as singles, then realise they would do better 'with the wife' is laughable!

My husband persuades me to do things at times, and afterwards I'm so grateful he did. Does that mean he hasn't put out marriage first?

Depends if he was doing it for his own selfish reasons or not. Surely you are not that naive after all your time on here."

I'm just throwing another point of view in the mix that persuasion can be a good thing

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By *weetChariotMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


""Persuade "? "

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"You don't 'persuade her', you have a conversation about this aspect and if she is up for it in her own mind then good luck..

and if not then show her the respect she deserves as your partner.."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pair of Christian Labutons could do the trick if she doesn't want em I'll take em! Size 6 please

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