FabSwingers.com forum: the perfect intro message??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is it about a polite, correctly spelt nice introduction message with no obvious rude pics attached that simply dosent cut it on here??

Is there a formula ? Or a knack?

All suggestions gratefully received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't a perfect one mate, everyone is different and expects different things..read profiles.. Write to the person you think they are.. If they reply great.. If not.. Just move on.. No point over thinking it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep that all makes a lot of sense - its just when you think youve matched their wishes and you still get the same outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about a polite, correctly spelt nice introduction message with no obvious rude pics attached that simply dosent cut it on here??

Is there a formula ? Or a knack?

All suggestions gratefully received

Polite can Work wonders

Don't give up,

Maybe a Cheeky line of Banter ,

Compliments Open a conversation rather well.

It seems That either a long or short message can Fail

Read profile & Try to Engage in Symphony !

So to speak

Best of Luck

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Yep that all makes a lot of sense - its just when you think youve matched their wishes and you still get the same outcome"

loads of guys think they're perfect for me, and even if they initially seem like they are - within 3 messages of chatting to them i can tell they are not.

just coz you think you're what they want doesn't mean you are.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There can be any number of reasons a message doesn't get a response and it may not always be down to the content of that message.

Could be the recipient has looked at your profile and pics and decided you're not for them.

Could be they're currently already engaged in enough chats and meets with others that they don't have time to add another.

Could be as simple as it's raining outside and they're not in the mood.

You'll never known OP, so best thing to do, as others have said, is not overthink it and move on. Or if it keeps happening take a look at your profile/pics/approach/expectations and see if any of them need adjusting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really appreciate the feedback thanks all - seems perserverance and never assuming you fit the bill are key. Attaching pics to a first message though? Is a face pic really a good idea or is it presumptious??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No formula. What works for me is having a decent profile and me finding you attactive. Doesn't really matter about the message as long as it doesn't need deciphering and it isn't disrespectful.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hi, How are you doing, nice to see you at this club/social"

Because sitting behind computer screen sending random cut and paste messages rarely works....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Youre all right and i really appreciate your tips and help. Will keep going - i find its generally like buses ie you wait for ages and three responses come along at once.

Happy fabbing all

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Many women read a profile before a message, maybe your problem lies there and not in your message.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Really appreciate the feedback thanks all - seems perserverance and never assuming you fit the bill are key. Attaching pics to a first message though? Is a face pic really a good idea or is it presumptious??"

Not presumptious at all, in fact most people prefer a face pic with a first message - at least that way it allows a judgement about attraction to be made early on rather than down the line when it could be awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice messages usually get a nice reply - but - provided that they have an interesting Profile with photos to back it up.

If you send a photo with a message - then it could be a photo of anyone! I would only trust photos that are openly on a Profile that has been Verified by people who have actually met you...

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

I would guess that your lack of profile pictures is the biggest problem.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP many ladies will read your profile before they look at the message. If they see something that interests them they will read the message and possibly reply.

If i got a message from you i would most likely delete it without opening it. This is because you have no public pics and your profile text has nothing in it that piques my interest.

I know this may seem a little harsh but the fact of the matter is there are so many single men on here us ladies can be really choosy and just talk to the guys who have made an effort.

I would suggest you have a look at some of the many threads containing profile advice and see what you can do to improve your chances on here.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often read the profile before I even look at the message. I think people are better advised putting more time and effort into their photos and profile text than into their messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about a polite, correctly spelt nice introduction message with no obvious rude pics attached that simply dosent cut it on here??

Is there a formula ? Or a knack?

All suggestions gratefully received

Polite can Work wonders

Don't give up,

Maybe a Cheeky line of Banter ,

Compliments Open a conversation rather well.

It seems That either a long or short message can Fail

Read profile & Try to Engage in Symphony !

So to speak

Best of Luck "
It's a bitter sweet symphony that's li ife. My mate still thinks oasis sings that song

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about a polite, correctly spelt nice introduction message with no obvious rude pics attached that simply dosent cut it on here??

Is there a formula ? Or a knack?

All suggestions gratefully received

Well , it seems you need to say exactly the opposite of.what most dumbassed single blokes do. Also dont say You're

GENUINE

CLEAN

SMELL NICE

NOT PUSHY

WILL TURN UP

ARE A BULL/DOM

USE SAFE SEX

POLITE

HEAVY CUMMER

BAREBACK KING

The above keywords should be standard levels for this, and reallu should appky to going anywhere in life (eg work)

Youre welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most recipients will check out your profile before they even think about opening your message. If they don't like what they see, then there's really no need to read it and certainly no need to reply to it.

So you need to ask yourself if your profile is selling you well enough. If it is the bet it can be. If you have a good selection of pictures on view etc.

Most will ignore profiles without pictures - after all, you're interested in meeting others for sex - would YOU go into that without knowing what someone looks like?

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