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By *ackdodds OP   Man
over a year ago

durham

Ive been On and off fab for some time now, 3/4 years and without doubt, I've had some very hot, memorable times on here.

However, the past 6 months or so, I've just hit the biggest brick wall. I've changed nothing about myself or how I treat people, I read all profiles, in my humble opinion I'm not a bad looking fella, in fairly well condition. Yet I cannot seem to receive any crumb of a response from any woman or couple, hardly a "no thanks".

The purpose of this post is something I'm not really sure on, perhaps just an open invite for discussion on the matter, is this not a young man's game? Is it simply a case of too many men to women? One thing I have noticed in recent times is that there is an increasing influx of unbelievably ripped and good looking fellas popping up on the scene, that and men with... well... humongous cocks to be frank, no small guy myself, but some guys I've noticed recently are literally ridiculous! Something that appears to be gettint a lot of attention Perhaps it's that...

Is there room for a lad like me? Or has my race been run on this site.

P.S this is not me merely complaining that I can't meet and it's "somebodies fault" this is simply my recent experience.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Have you changed your profile at all in the last 6 months?

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By *ackdodds OP   Man
over a year ago

durham


"Have you changed your profile at all in the last 6 months?"

Can't say I have! Is that a recommendation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been On and off fab for some time now, 3/4 years and without doubt, I've had some very hot, memorable times on here.

However, the past 6 months or so, I've just hit the biggest brick wall. I've changed nothing about myself or how I treat people, I read all profiles, in my humble opinion I'm not a bad looking fella, in fairly well condition. Yet I cannot seem to receive any crumb of a response from any woman or couple, hardly a "no thanks".

The purpose of this post is something I'm not really sure on, perhaps just an open invite for discussion on the matter, is this not a young man's game? Is it simply a case of too many men to women? One thing I have noticed in recent times is that there is an increasing influx of unbelievably ripped and good looking fellas popping up on the scene, that and men with... well... humongous cocks to be frank, no small guy myself, but some guys I've noticed recently are literally ridiculous! Something that appears to be gettint a lot of attention Perhaps it's that...

Is there room for a lad like me? Or has my race been run on this site.

P.S this is not me merely complaining that I can't meet and it's "somebodies fault" this is simply my recent experience."

I think that everything starts with the profile, and however many messages you send out, if the profile is crap then there will never be a reply....

that's just a general term as you haven't specifically asked for profile advice ......but I think you should

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By *ackdodds OP   Man
over a year ago

durham

Very tastefully put! then I will do that, I thought keeping it short and simple may of been a virtue! Thanks x

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing

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By *ackdodds OP   Man
over a year ago

durham


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing "

I agree with most of what you say, I've got to admit, when you see a profile you really like, write out something genuine and I dare say even witty. All for it to be deleted without acknowledgment can be disheartening, I hear you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing "

you obviously haven't read the FAQ's..

especially the one where it states if you don't get a reply to your message, then take it that the recipient isn't interested...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing

"
Where is your sympathy woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing

Where is your sympathy woman? "

Please, won't somebody think of the 600?!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Have you changed your profile at all in the last 6 months?

Can't say I have! Is that a recommendation? "

No, I can't recommend that unless you ask for profile advice

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By *lwaysdiscreetMan
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

So what about the people who say you need to send a picture with your message or no reply.

And guess what you send and they still dont reply.

Sorry thats rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been On and off fab for some time now, 3/4 years and without doubt, I've had some very hot, memorable times on here.

However, the past 6 months or so, I've just hit the biggest brick wall. I've changed nothing about myself or how I treat people, I read all profiles, in my humble opinion I'm not a bad looking fella, in fairly well condition. Yet I cannot seem to receive any crumb of a response from any woman or couple, hardly a "no thanks".

The purpose of this post is something I'm not really sure on, perhaps just an open invite for discussion on the matter, is this not a young man's game? Is it simply a case of too many men to women? One thing I have noticed in recent times is that there is an increasing influx of unbelievably ripped and good looking fellas popping up on the scene, that and men with... well... humongous cocks to be frank, no small guy myself, but some guys I've noticed recently are literally ridiculous! Something that appears to be gettint a lot of attention Perhaps it's that...

Is there room for a lad like me? Or has my race been run on this site.

P.S this is not me merely complaining that I can't meet and it's "somebodies fault" this is simply my recent experience."
If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen as they say. Clubs are better I've fucked women in clubs who I have messaged on here an had no response. You can't blame them with so much choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing

Where is your sympathy woman?

Please, won't somebody think of the 600?! "
probably just cock pics and one liners anyway

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"So what about the people who say you need to send a picture with your message or no reply.

And guess what you send and they still dont reply.

Sorry thats rude "

I won't send a pic back if I get a message, check the profile and realise the guys is married

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By *ackdodds OP   Man
over a year ago

durham


"Ive been On and off fab for some time now, 3/4 years and without doubt, I've had some very hot, memorable times on here.

However, the past 6 months or so, I've just hit the biggest brick wall. I've changed nothing about myself or how I treat people, I read all profiles, in my humble opinion I'm not a bad looking fella, in fairly well condition. Yet I cannot seem to receive any crumb of a response from any woman or couple, hardly a "no thanks".

The purpose of this post is something I'm not really sure on, perhaps just an open invite for discussion on the matter, is this not a young man's game? Is it simply a case of too many men to women? One thing I have noticed in recent times is that there is an increasing influx of unbelievably ripped and good looking fellas popping up on the scene, that and men with... well... humongous cocks to be frank, no small guy myself, but some guys I've noticed recently are literally ridiculous! Something that appears to be gettint a lot of attention Perhaps it's that...

Is there room for a lad like me? Or has my race been run on this site.

P.S this is not me merely complaining that I can't meet and it's "somebodies fault" this is simply my recent experience. If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen as they say. Clubs are better I've fucked women in clubs who I have messaged on here an had no response. You can't blame them with so much choice."

I guess you may be right! Although I think the heat in the kitchen analogy is the wrong one, it's bloody freezing in the kitchen, that's the point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been On and off fab for some time now, 3/4 years and without doubt, I've had some very hot, memorable times on here.

However, the past 6 months or so, I've just hit the biggest brick wall. I've changed nothing about myself or how I treat people, I read all profiles, in my humble opinion I'm not a bad looking fella, in fairly well condition. Yet I cannot seem to receive any crumb of a response from any woman or couple, hardly a "no thanks".

The purpose of this post is something I'm not really sure on, perhaps just an open invite for discussion on the matter, is this not a young man's game? Is it simply a case of too many men to women? One thing I have noticed in recent times is that there is an increasing influx of unbelievably ripped and good looking fellas popping up on the scene, that and men with... well... humongous cocks to be frank, no small guy myself, but some guys I've noticed recently are literally ridiculous! Something that appears to be gettint a lot of attention Perhaps it's that...

Is there room for a lad like me? Or has my race been run on this site.

P.S this is not me merely complaining that I can't meet and it's "somebodies fault" this is simply my recent experience. If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen as they say. Clubs are better I've fucked women in clubs who I have messaged on here an had no response. You can't blame them with so much choice.

I guess you may be right! Although I think the heat in the kitchen analogy is the wrong one, it's bloody freezing in the kitchen, that's the point!"
I'm making heat=stress in that 1 can fuck multiple women in clubs in 1 night as well

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I guess you may be right! Although I think the heat in the kitchen analogy is the wrong one, it's bloody freezing in the kitchen, that's the point!"

It's a saying

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By *ackdodds OP   Man
over a year ago

durham


"I guess you may be right! Although I think the heat in the kitchen analogy is the wrong one, it's bloody freezing in the kitchen, that's the point!

It's a saying "

Hehehehe I got 2 bites out of that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what about the people who say you need to send a picture with your message or no reply.

And guess what you send and they still dont reply.

Sorry thats rude "

Don't message them then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what about the people who say you need to send a picture with your message or no reply.

And guess what you send and they still dont reply.

Sorry thats rude "
fuckers know what you look like that's all

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"So what about the people who say you need to send a picture with your message or no reply.

And guess what you send and they still dont reply.

Sorry thats rude "

Why is that rude? Why would you feel better with a no thanks message? I would personally prefer no reply if someone wasn't interested

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Op I think people have hit it on the head. There are so many males on here and so much choice for women that where someone may find you attractive they might find many others who are also attractive or even more so

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Dude... I will reply in a minute and give you some advice, first I have got to reply to 500 messages from super hot honies that all want my six pack and massive dong !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs, cut out the middleman, pass GO and collect £200.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, 75% of your public pictures are of your cock. If you indeed do, as you claim to, read others profiles, you will have noted that the majority of those you may be interested in really don't want to see such pictures, a point that has also been raised in a number of forum threads in the past.

I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't have ANY cock pics, as there are some who DO want to see them, but it's all a matter of balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP we have been on the site for 5 years and get very little interest in our profile.

We have put meets up and had no response.

We live quite local to a club and find it so much easier meeting like minded and genuine people there x

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby


"Here here mate i have the same problem.

The more manners and polite you are to people the worse they treat you.

Bet if someone face to face ask them something they would reply with a answer.

But because your Internet to internet they think your not a person.

Manners cost nothing and if your on a site like this you know your going to get emails.

So be ready to reply.

One lady wrote on here i delete 600 messages.

Think of the guys who sat there and wrote all those messages.

All for nothing not a thing "

disagree totally with the statement that if you have manners people will treat you bad. That's not right at all. People are not like that. It's not manners that are a problem. It will be something else I assure you.

All i could think of with the women that got 600 messages was. It would take her a week to reply to all them!!!don't you feel for her?? And. Why the hell didn't she change her filters. Then she wouldn't have to deal with them.

Also to the op. I see myself some women like big cocks but that's a very small minority. I wouldn't let it worry you. Most ladies prefer average because big hurts

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