FabSwingers.com forum: Posing as Bi

By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

We're always put out by dudes who list as straight but admit they can be bi if there is a female there.

It feels kind of offensive to us; being an openly bi couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of guys pose as bi to get guys too

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Best one I heard to counter that OP is to tell him that only the male half of the couple will be playing, with the lady just enjoying watching - usually has the pretenders running for the hills apparently

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Loads of guys pose as bi to get guys too "

If they are after guys I don't think they are just posing as Bi lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best one I heard to counter that OP is to tell him that only the male half of the couple will be playing, with the lady just enjoying watching - usually has the pretenders running for the hills apparently

This is class

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By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

We've put curious as we've had limited same sex experience but getting replies like, "I only receive oral"

Or "will suck a dick to get to play with Mrs"

Oh, will you now?!?

Hmmmmm what have other couples done in the past?

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By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

Thank you!! Will be using this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loads of guys pose as bi to get guys too

If they are after guys I don't think they are just posing as Bi lads

What I mean is gay guys say they are bi not gay to widen their appeal to other men - just the same as 'straight' guys will to get a meet with the lady of a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could backfire tho if the (genuinely?) bi guy then suspects you are just a single guy pretending to be a couple?

It's no prob for me...I state straight, I am straight....simple!

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By *ynxMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I would say ask them if they are top bottom or vers if they know what that means then they are probably bi, genuine bi guys wouldn't mind getting things started with the male then female joins in.

See for me there is a fine line I've had it before was suppose to meet a couple only guy was there, second time meeting them same thing it just kinda got tiring.

For me I would say a social first before meet if they aren't willing to show up for a social then no play you will also see who's actually bi by looking at their veris. For me if someone has straight on their profile but say they are bi that puts me off also

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By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

Thanks Tynx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've done this...or I will send them upstairs to start without me then join them after play has started.

I know that a lot of guys are situationally bi or bi playful in a situation where a woman is directly involved and that is absolutely fine, but we really look for experienced versatile guys and it tends to filter them out...

I do find that the opposite is also true...I'm currently amused on another site watching 2 straight women "flirt" with each other in order to get male attention. So it works both ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've done this...or I will send them upstairs to start without me then join them after play has started.

I do find that the opposite is also true...I'm currently amused on another site watching 2 straight women "flirt" with each other in order to get male attention. So it works both ways..."

See there's just no real definitive answer cos this would rule me out and I am pretty happy to cover the whole spectrum of sexuality

1. If I was meeting a couple I would want them both to be there at all stages of the meet

2. I wouldn't engage in anal in a threesome scenario with either of the other parties

Even with our own meets, whilst I am a top I wouldn't shag another guy, but would be happy for the OH to be shagged by another guy

It is really just about finding what works for you and finding people who are flexible enough in their approach to adapt to your dynamic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a pragmatic thing for men and a fashionable thing for women.

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

Tell them the meeting starts with both guys sucking each other

Or ask for verifications of meets with another bi guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only looking for bi guys at the moment. The number of straight men who message me (without reading my profile) and then change sexuality when I point out bi only is truely laughable. Ironically I never hear from them again when I say bring a male bi friend and I will watch you fuck before deciding on whether to play.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M"

Simple; tell him that he will have to bend over for the male half before getting to play with the female half

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I think it's a pragmatic thing for men and a fashionable thing for women. "

This wholeheartedly. It irks me that bisexuality has recently become trendy for women and men use it to get their dick wet.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

That would work. I suppose this is always where can help verifications help (or at least ones where men have shown their approval). Or at least a good chat in person two. Usually if you talk to someone in detail about stuff you can tell by their content, body language and facial expressions if they are truly passionate about something or not. How many men who have no intrest in sex with other men can convincing talk with passion and experiance of sex with other men?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I think it's a pragmatic thing for men and a fashionable thing for women. "

I said this before, that some women put bi because putting "Straight, just want cock" doesn't sit right with their swinging sensibilities.

For us the proof of the pudding is in the eating, no play veri, no bi..and its amazing how many bi ladies only have veris from men, not even couples..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posted yesterday re couple looking for bi guy to have fun with the guy,they posted twice checked their veris following day and they met guy with st8 profile!

on another site guy invited me round to his checked his profile as i always do (Odd i know) st8 so declined and asked him if he was bi why not say so his answer he was meeting 2 females from the site and didn't want to put them off.

My experience on here,in clubs and dogging is couples that say Wont meet bi guys already have in 1 case Fem from couple whilst dogging suck and F a guy who hour before had been with a guy(a) with no condom.

Cant speak for them all but there are a lot of guys on here who will basically fck anything if its got a pulse,and tell you what you want to hear.

So in answer to your question Yes the M just in the way.

Avoidable difficult guess if you meet get him to suck the M before you do anything else that sort them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe suggest a meet with just the guys first as a way of ing out the pretenders. As a bi guy I'd have no problem with this as it shows you are genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is by no means a gender exclusive trait, I know a fair few ladies who claim some degree of bisexuality to get at the male half of a couple, because apparently the thousands of single men aren't sufficient. Odd behaviour, but usually pretty easy to spot and therefore side step.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Could backfire tho if the (genuinely?) bi guy then suspects you are just a single guy pretending to be a couple?

That is so true on here. Happened to me many times when trying to meet "a Bi MF couple" to play with. The couple profile is bogus.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Could backfire tho if the (genuinely?) bi guy then suspects you are just a single guy pretending to be a couple?

That is so true on here. Happened to me many times when trying to meet "a Bi MF couple" to play with. The couple profile is bogus. "

If you couple that suggestion with a social meet first though that solves that problem - if only the male half of the couple shows up you are pretty sure it's dodgy. These days can even be covered by a quick chat with both partners present in the chat rooms here.

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

"We're always put out by dudes who list as straight but admit they can be bi if there is a female there.

It feels kind of offensive to us; being an openly bi couple. "

we are the same. If someone has straight on their profile and then says that they are bi really, we aren't interested.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Fab Bi and Fab Straight or perhaps fab Gay whatever next.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

This. Say maybe the lady half will join in but only guarantee the male.

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

"I'm only looking for bi guys at the moment. The number of straight men who message me (without reading my profile) and then change sexuality when I point out bi only is truely laughable. Ironically I never hear from them again when I say bring a male bi friend and I will watch you fuck before deciding on whether to play."

Oooooh do me do me !

????

Sound like my cup of tea !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the definition issues around bi-curious.... you can say to a couple yeah I'm curious but not had that experience but what does that mean? I would see that as a "I'll try it but might not like it"... surely once you have had the experience of a sexual bi encounter you know if you like it or don't, and as such can't be that "curious" anymore?? Or am I missing something??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M"
I thought it was people posing as 'straight' is more frequent. I can't see the benefit for posing as bi at all.

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By *ex God and Sex KittenCouple
over a year ago

Planet kitten, North East usually but occasionally South as well

We always make sure we meet for a social first.

The guys pretending to be bi never show up so that solves that problem.

If your meet shows up, during a conversation to find out what things turn everyone on you can more or less work out if someone is lying about being bi or not.

The amount of straight guys that are bi but don't put it on their profile because,

1 they don't want their mates to find out,

2 don't want their work colleagues to find out,

3 don't want the gf/wife to find out

is amazing. If it says straight on their profile but they claim to be bi we send one reply pointing that out then delete anything else from that person.

That usually works for us.

SG & Sk xx

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By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

That is so true on here. Happened to me many times when trying to meet "a Bi MF couple" to play with. The couple profile is bogus. "

Yes, that can be an issue, although for the record, we ARE genuinely a proper couple that actually live together. Haha!

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By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

"We always make sure we meet for a social first.

The guys pretending to be bi never show up so that solves that problem.

If your meet shows up, during a conversation to find out what things turn everyone on you can more or less work out if someone is lying about being bi or not.

The amount of straight guys that are bi but don't put it on their profile because,

1 they don't want their mates to find out,

2 don't want their work colleagues to find out,

3 don't want the gf/wife to find out

is amazing. If it says straight on their profile but they claim to be bi we send one reply pointing that out then delete anything else from that person.

That usually works for us.

SG & Sk xx"

Absolutley.

We always ask to have a social before anything happens.

I, (Mr M) have no problems with people finding out or knowing, because I'm perfectly comfortable with myself and happy with my sexuality. But I can totally understand why its a big issue for some closet guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is so true on here. Happened to me many times when trying to meet "a Bi MF couple" to play with. The couple profile is bogus.

Yes, that can be an issue, although for the record, we ARE genuinely a proper couple that actually live together. Haha! "

It's a problem on both sides.

After messaging for while I arranged a first social meet with a bi mf couple. I drove to them (about an hour) only for the guy to turn up saying his Mrs was ill - we had been messaging all day beforehand but it wasn't mentioned she was ill and wouldn't be there.

He suggested as I had driven so far we may as well go somewhere and play anyway - it was meant to be just a social with them both

The profile seemed genuine with both male and female pics, but after meeting him and looking at the profile again, I realised there were no pics of them both together.

I suggested that next time they could drive to me, but never heard back from "them" lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I love the definition issues around bi-curious.... you can say to a couple yeah I'm curious but not had that experience but what does that mean? I would see that as a "I'll try it but might not like it"... surely once you have had the experience of a sexual bi encounter you know if you like it or don't, and as such can't be that "curious" anymore?? Or am I missing something?? "

It's not that simple for many people. Bi spectrum: Some don't fancy the same gender (never seeing them as attractive) but can enjoy some limited types of sexual contact with them all the way through to those who'll date and enjoy sex with all genders.

As we all know, sometimes sex doesn't work with a specific partner - that's the same with curious people. They could assume they're not bi but may get to find out with more.

As a lot of (most?) people get strongly attracted to people they have sexual interest in, it seems unintelligible that others - if bi - don't have the same experience. But so many bi people say that they just don't, so we can assume that this is how it is.

So returning to curious - it's feasible that it could take many experiences to fathom themselves out, as it's not just a mirror to how they're attracted to the opposite gender.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

we are the same. If someone has straight on their profile and then says that they are bi really, we aren't interested."

I've had messages from a straight male profile, who told me that he was a bi TV, after I told him that I don't meet straight guys.

If they can't be honest on their profile, what else will they lie about.

Of course it's so they can meet those couples who won't meet bi guys.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I find it other way. most pose as straight to get men.....huh? odd.

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

We just say .. .. okay so your ready to bend and take nymphs strapon .. (large) .. as manic is fucking your throat ... . .. always seems to deter a follow up message .. lol ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well im bi and enjoy playing with males and femails equally happy to suck dick as i am to lick pussy and happy to be fucked by the man or the woman with a strap on so there you have it im bi proud and greedy lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M"

Tell them the first meet (or first few meets) will be just the female watching the 2 guys together. Stress the female will not be getting involved and not touching of her will be allowed. Then see if they still want to meet.

Also put in your profile if they don't have bi-sexual or at least bi-curious in their profile any messages from them will be deleted.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"We've put curious as we've had limited same sex experience but getting replies like, "I only receive oral"

Or "will suck a dick to get to play with Mrs"

Oh, will you now?!?

Hmmmmm what have other couples done in the past?"

I would just delete those messages and not reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had meets with couples where male is 100% straight,states on profile and in messages.....3 of them when we met were neither straight or shy ! Why hide it ?I believe most people are bi to some extent but men espeically cannot cope.

I am happy to meet either but prefer meets with couples or more where all are bi,nothing worse than "can I touch that one scenario",if everybody is on same plane its more chilled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bi guy with gf I keep getting asked to bring gf to meet but she not into it ut allows me to chat an meet

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

This. Say maybe the lady half will join in but only guarantee the male. "

It works we've done it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is basically how most of my conversations on here go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we met as a mf couple I always made the first move while she watched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not openly bi but have played with both sexes but if I meet a couple i always want to know what's expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just say .. .. okay so your ready to bend and take nymphs strapon .. (large) .. as manic is fucking your throat ... . .. always seems to deter a follow up message .. lol .. "

Sounds like a fun situation

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By *XMandMXx OP Couple
over a year ago

swindon

"When we met as a mf couple I always made the first move while she watched. "

Thanks guys for all the input. Input is good!

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M"

While my profile states that I'm 'Bi' I love pussy just as much, if not a little more than willy but while a 'Bi' preference can turn lots of people off but at the same time can turn lots of people on.

For example, I love tgirls, transvestite's and crossdressers but I'm not at all turned on by a man!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"For example, I love tgirls, transvestite's and crossdressers but I'm not at all turned on by a man!

I like men, but prefer women, t-girls or transvestites.

Cross dressers (hairy blokes who are wearing lingerie, because they enjoy the way it feels, not because they are trying to be feminine) turn me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *nEnglishmanAbroadMan
over a year ago

Hampstead

I can understand a lot of the frustration expressed on this thread. I've been led up the garden path by a lot of "couples" that turn out not to be, and I've had to overcome the wariness caused with bi couples by a lot of time wasting pretenders on here, who make life very difficult for the genuine guys out here.

Personally, I have no problem proving my credentials, as it were, by playing with the male half of the couple first - which is fun in itself, and even more entertaining if the female is watching, directing and enjoying the view!

I do however understand the comments about being "situationally bi". I think we are all on a spectrum from totally straight, curious, like it once we get into it, and totally bi. I put myself somewhere in the middle of that spectrum, or perhaps past half way to totally bi. However, I'm not that interested in one-on-one meets with another guy - it's the thrill of the threesome situation that does it for me, and I've only ever been romantically or facially attracted to women. I guess my main turn on is the extra dimension of playing with both cock and pussy together. I'm also not really into taking a cock or a strap-on (although it may be inexperience and I'm open to experimenting further). Kissing is another point - as with hetero encounters, it depends very much on the laws of attraction and chemistry with the specific people involved. So some of the tests suggested - "kiss my man" or "let him/me fuck/peg you" are not in my view a true and fair test of a bi guy's bona fides. Of course, if he looks totally freaked out at the sight, touch or taste of a cock, then you know you have probably got a cuckoo in the nest!

Anyway, that's my tuppence worth. Happy swinging all, whatever your persuasion!

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"We're always put out by dudes who list as straight but admit they can be bi if there is a female there.

It feels kind of offensive to us; being an openly bi couple. "

Some of us cant be that open....thats fact..

If u think they not bi...get them sucking hubbys cock first..lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We are a bi couple but we don't have the same taste in men, so any man meeting us would be meeting Mr, whilst I may well be there, it is unlikely I will join in at all. I don't play with other men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had bloke check me out 9n his profile says totally straight mmmm y check out a guy if ur straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a pragmatic thing for men and a fashionable thing for women.

I said this before, that some women put bi because putting "Straight, just want cock" doesn't sit right with their swinging sensibilities.

For us the proof of the pudding is in the eating, no play veri, no bi..and its amazing how many bi ladies only have veris from men, not even couples..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An awful lot of women fake it to make themselves more sexually appealing to men. You look at some bi women's verifications and they are all men.

Pathetic behaviour.

With me you get the real deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had bloke check me out 9n his profile says totally straight mmmm y check out a guy if ur straight "

Some men do look at other men simply to check out their competition, and I know for a fact some men look at others to get ideas for photos and profile text. It's not all about perving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M"

I haven't read the whole thread so apologies if I recover old ground.. I HATE this it makes it so hard for us genuine bi guys to meet fun bi couples.

I guess the only way is to ask for evidence of any bi exploits... let's be honest we all take photos x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M"

Maybe insist they play with the guy first, even in a solo meeting, that should them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or are there loads of people posing as bi just to get at the female in a couple?

Is this avoidable?

How have people managed this?

Please help

Mrs M

Maybe insist they play with the guy first, even in a solo meeting, that should them out. "

This is a good idea. I've never experienced this but I think it would work

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

near lincoln

We have never had a problem when meeting a bi guy. If they turn up for the meet the two guys will normally always start off playing with each other whilst I watch . Then I join in . X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have never had a problem when meeting a bi guy. If they turn up for the meet the two guys will normally always start off playing with each other whilst I watch . Then I join in . X "

Oh I can see why they would.. pair of hotties

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"We have never had a problem when meeting a bi guy. If they turn up for the meet the two guys will normally always start off playing with each other whilst I watch . Then I join in . X "

Woop woop. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe suggest a meet with just the guys first as a way of ing out the pretenders. As a bi guy I'd have no problem with this as it shows you are genuine."

I'de be more than happy to oblige if this was the situation

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