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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am not sure why but lately I have had no luck in finding anyone to meet with.

Just wondering why this could be?

I have had some classic excuses;

'sorry I dont think you are genuine'

'thanks for your message but your too good looking, hope you find what your looking for'

'I would love to watch you fuck my wife after we get back from holiday' (then they disappear from the site)

I would love to know what people think...mainly from single fems and MF couples because thats who I am looking to meet with.

I know that not being verified genuine doesnt help but I am unable to meet that criteria unless I actually find someone who wants to meet!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Are they not people's reasons for not meeting with you rather than excuses though?

There is a big difference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth

You're lucky mate, that you only get 'You're too good looking'..

I have to put up with 'Your penis looks far too big' and 'You're obviously far too good at doing sex things for us'..

Then I usually wake up.. seriously bud, don't whinge about how hard you find it - it's meant to be fun! If you're not enjoying it, go do something else

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By *lderguy4funMan
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

dippty i can make it if i was closer LOL i a very single male and i can play anytime xxx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the problem with playing the blame game is that in effect you are blaming every else but yourself.. and using that as an excuse...

completely blameless...oh woe is me!!!

but look at it like this.... it does take two...

so if you are the one doing the choosing and something is going wrong... then part of that blame IS on you.. after all, you are part of the common demoninator....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh bhoy

just had to yawn there

with a big Y

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great advice...just how big is your penis?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault! "

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think I just worked out why no-one wants to meet the OP.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!"

There's your answer!!! No favours and definately the wrong site for you!!!

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"Ok....I'm going out to meet tonight.....why not come and join me? Bet you can't make it!"

Dipperqt, I was going to make it tonight, but something's come up. You know how it is? How about tomorrow? msn? Cam?

Call me, my number is ......

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple
over a year ago

Douglas


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!"

You may wish to change your age criteria then as Dipperqt's profile falls within the ages that you're looking for.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!

You may wish to change your age criteria then as Dipperqt's profile falls within the ages that you're looking for. "

sssssh.. don't tell him that... I had a corker coming where I was going to ask him whether his foot had been introduced to his mouth....

although i may use this thread the next time someone of the young persuasion asked why they can't get a meet......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hehehehe......how did I KNOW what he was like. The thing is, how would a kid of that age manage to handle either myself , or most of the other (quite experienced) women on here.

Notice I was old enough (at 42!!!!) to be his "Mum" (not the grown up word : mother) meaning his mother was 19 when she had him????

We get enough kids on dogging sites, now we get them on here also! Oh well!

For the record, had he shown up, I would have fucked him......just to keep my word.

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"For the record, had he shown up, I would have fucked him......just to keep my word."

Blimey! working on a thread to get the same offer.....

....sounds like a plan to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never say I will, then don't.....not my style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well more pics would help and good to here your safe sex person but at aged 23 saying u r regular at GUM clinics to me makes me think u take loads of risks ?? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont be nasty to dipper gt its not about ae its about sexiness so being nasty saying she is as old as your mum is a bit sad really not very unique but alias that could be his age bless himxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now....it would be wrong of me to point out that at a GUM clinic, nurses handle the male patients quite a lot!!!!!!!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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For the record, had he shown up, I would have fucked him......just to keep my word."

this reminds me of the end of bullseye when the contestant loses... they bring out what they would have won (the speedboat)and then wheels it back in...

jim bowen is in my head saying now "look what you could have won!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that is nasty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at least you get to the messages

most folks just look at my pics and that's enough

and am sure i'm not on my own in that

that's the beauty of sites like this - there are people you fancy and people you don't - simple as !

you can tell in a few messages if a conversation is gonna go somewhere or not - if it isn't, it's better being realistic and backing off rather than tryinf to flog a dead horse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah the GUM thing is a bit weird. Why would you need to put that?

And if you come across as desperate as you sound here, then to be quite frank, I'm not surprised you are not getting any meets!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Bugger i would have met him,but he is another of the anti dungeons and dragons brigade...and i just got new dice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well more pics would help and good to here your safe sex person but at aged 23 saying u r regular at GUM clinics to me makes me think u take loads of risks ?? x"

You can get infections just from oral.. who has a blow job or who gives a girl a good time without protection such as dental dams and condoms? It's not just penetrative sex..

The fact the thread starter said they get checked regularly actually says they care about their health.. i bet many dont even get checked up! let alone know what a GUM clinic is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah the GUM thing is a bit weird. Why would you need to put that?

And if you come across as desperate as you sound here, then to be quite frank, I'm not surprised you are not getting any meets!"

As above..

also in the USA many swingers request to see the clinic results before they swing.

At least they can show you actually care about your health that you get regular check ups.

I think stating you care and get checked is a good thing actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think any swinger with any sense would have a check up regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know if it's a regional thing, but down our way, the activly resist people calling into the GUM clinics just to get "checked". They really only want to know if you think you are actually infected. It doesn't work if you keep telling them you "think" you are, as then they insist on you attending sexual hygene and safety classes before they look at you!

NHS cutbacks and all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are also charity based clinics within some local hospitals / health centres so worth checking out if your local health trust is cutting back.

also a local trusts / charities do mobile screening anonymously which is another area worth checking out.

stay away from surgeries within your GP's practice though as i believe these then form parts of your medical notes which have been known to cause problems with contentious health insurance / life assurance claims

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know if it's a regional thing, but down our way, the activly resist people calling into the GUM clinics just to get "checked". They really only want to know if you think you are actually infected. It doesn't work if you keep telling them you "think" you are, as then they insist on you attending sexual hygene and safety classes before they look at you!

NHS cutbacks and all that!"

Oooh, it's not like that 'oooop North!' The clinic I use are quite happy for people to make an appointment for a 'peace of mind' check!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!"

That is one of the funnest exchanges I've seen on a forum thread.for ages!!! priceless

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!

There's your answer!!! No favours and definately the wrong site for you!!!"

Whats wrong with that? I would say to someone my kids age that I wouldn't meet them as they are young enough to be my kids.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"well more pics would help and good to here your safe sex person but at aged 23 saying u r regular at GUM clinics to me makes me think u take loads of risks ?? x

You can get infections just from oral.. who has a blow job or who gives a girl a good time without protection such as dental dams and condoms? It's not just penetrative sex..

The fact the thread starter said they get checked regularly actually says they care about their health.. i bet many dont even get checked up! let alone know what a GUM clinic is."

Thanks for your post, I was losing faith in adults reading this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure why but lately I have had no luck in finding anyone to meet with.

Just wondering why this could be?

I have had some classic excuses;

'sorry I dont think you are genuine'

'thanks for your message but your too good looking, hope you find what your looking for'

'I would love to watch you fuck my wife after we get back from holiday' (then they disappear from the site)

I would love to know what people think...mainly from single fems and MF couples because thats who I am looking to meet with.

I know that not being verified genuine doesnt help but I am unable to meet that criteria unless I actually find someone who wants to meet!"
dont worry mate we are a bi fem couple and we are finding it very,very hard to meet a nice couple or a bi girl on here been on and off for 18 months.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I am not sure why but lately I have had no luck in finding anyone to meet with.

Just wondering why this could be?

I have had some classic excuses;

'sorry I dont think you are genuine'

'thanks for your message but your too good looking, hope you find what your looking for'

'I would love to watch you fuck my wife after we get back from holiday' (then they disappear from the site)

I would love to know what people think...mainly from single fems and MF couples because thats who I am looking to meet with.

I know that not being verified genuine doesnt help but I am unable to meet that criteria unless I actually find someone who wants to meet!"

The comments you call "excuses " sound to me like they are "reasons"

Excuses are more like " the hamster fell out of it's wheel" and "the dog ate my condoms" type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

an he says he is not moaning o hum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awwwww.......OP logged back in but didn't take up my offer to meet....

Must be my fault!

Thanks but no thanks....your old enough to be my mum!!

There's your answer!!! No favours and definately the wrong site for you!!!

Whats wrong with that? I would say to someone my kids age that I wouldn't meet them as they are young enough to be my kids."

Nothing, if he didn't have an upper age limit of 50 but telling a 42 year old they're too old!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

But I think that the point has been missed........people were saying he was rude / insulting for saying it at all...not because of his age preferences.

( said without rollie eyes emoticon )

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By *eighleedsMan
over a year ago

leeds


"Bugger i would have met him,but he is another of the anti dungeons and dragons brigade...and i just got new dice ! "

Dice and Dungeons sounds like fun to me, the kind without dragons

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"well more pics would help and good to here your safe sex person but at aged 23 saying u r regular at GUM clinics to me makes me think u take loads of risks ?? x

You can get infections just from oral.. who has a blow job or who gives a girl a good time without protection such as dental dams and condoms? It's not just penetrative sex..

The fact the thread starter said they get checked regularly actually says they care about their health.. i bet many dont even get checked up! let alone know what a GUM clinic is."

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure why but lately I have had no luck in finding anyone to meet with.

Just wondering why this could be?

I have had some classic excuses;

'sorry I dont think you are genuine'

'thanks for your message but your too good looking, hope you find what your looking for'

'I would love to watch you fuck my wife after we get back from holiday' (then they disappear from the site)

I would love to know what people think...mainly from single fems and MF couples because thats who I am looking to meet with.

I know that not being verified genuine doesnt help but I am unable to meet that criteria unless I actually find someone who wants to meet!"

Maybe they are not excuses but genuine reasons that just seem like excuses to you?

I can only talk for myself but if I don't want to meet someone I mail them back saying that either not giving a reason or telling them why, but if I do give a reason its always a genuine one and not an excuse, mainly because I don't need to make a excuse not to meet someone a simple no is all that's needed you don't have to give a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

by a punch bag and hit it for a bit.

soon find the frustration goes.

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"You can get infections just from oral.. who has a blow job or who gives a girl a good time without protection such as dental dams and condoms? It's not just penetrative sex..

The fact the thread starter said they get checked regularly actually says they care about their health.. i bet many dont even get checked up! let alone know what a GUM clinic is."

I'm guessing it isn't the Dental Hygienist

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

the trouble is ...

if it doesn't itch, burn, look red or ooze ...... most guys will leave well enough alone

(Well enough... and then it drops off)

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By *oveshell74Man
over a year ago

ealing


"Now....it would be wrong of me to point out that at a GUM clinic, nurses handle the male patients quite a lot!!!!!!!!!"

Perhaps I should visit a gum clinic then. I might have more chance of meeting a nurse with a genuine desire to feel me up.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"I am not sure why but lately I have had no luck in finding anyone to meet with.

Just wondering why this could be?

I have had some classic excuses;

'sorry I dont think you are genuine'

'thanks for your message but your too good looking, hope you find what your looking for'

'I would love to watch you fuck my wife after we get back from holiday' (then they disappear from the site)

I would love to know what people think...mainly from single fems and MF couples because thats who I am looking to meet with.

I know that not being verified genuine doesnt help but I am unable to meet that criteria unless I actually find someone who wants to meet!"

It can be hard going for everyone on here.... you just have to enjoy your time on the site and anything else that comes of it is a bonus. People will just say anything they feel like as a reason for not meeting but the only important thing is that they dont want to meet. At least they have been polite and not said bugger off, youre too ugly so could be worse! lol Socials, clubs and parties might help to get you started. Good luck.

Mistress x

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By *oveshell74Man
over a year ago

ealing


"Bugger i would have met him,but he is another of the anti dungeons and dragons brigade...and i just got new dice ! "

I used to have a world of warcraft account a while ago (I now I'm not proud). Is that close enough? Can we have sex now please?

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

To this date we have not turned down anyone for being "too good looking"... yeah. Makes us think this is more of a wind-up than an actual complaint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to our gum, because it makes sense, If you tell them you are swinging and using condoms, they give you a bucket load of condomsmand dont batt an eyelid.

Thing is I have never been given a bit of paper saying I am clean. I know I am clean, I know I am careful, But never had a piece of paper to say so.

I was honest with them too, about everything, as I figured they needed to know...

I wouldn't advertise it on my profile though....

Also maybe if the OP suggested some things he likes to do, instead of just being open to anything??

Anything covers too much for me, animals, scat etc, are within anything, but certainly not for me hehe.

Off to update profile with things I wont do lol ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To this date we have not turned down anyone for being "too good looking"... yeah. Makes us think this is more of a wind-up than an actual complaint."

To be fair I've seen people post they've felt intimidated by certain profiles, women saying they've turned down men because of their "mummy tummy" etc, so I don't think it unreasonable that someone would tell the OP they thought they were too good looking to meet.

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By *carletRomanceCouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"To this date we have not turned down anyone for being "too good looking"... yeah. Makes us think this is more of a wind-up than an actual complaint.

To be fair I've seen people post they've felt intimidated by certain profiles, women saying they've turned down men because of their "mummy tummy" etc, so I don't think it unreasonable that someone would tell the OP they thought they were too good looking to meet."

You got a point there.

We do feel that there's a stong sense of egotism in a post like that though, which would put us off for sure.

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

lifes a bitch till you mature

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