FabSwingers.com forum: Dealing with annoying messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys

Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.

We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol

Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us

I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol

But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?

Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. "

I have got one thankyou xx

However I found the fun side to the annoying messages people are always ranting about on here the same as I do with cold callers

I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. "

Set filters, delete messages and move on. Maybe find yourself a hobby or something better to do than feed the few trolls that message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get annoying messages, because I put filters up and choose for myself who to message. You should try it, it's much better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We try to give everyone a chance as for us we have realised that sometimes some of the most amazing meets can come from the most unlikely places xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Set filters, delete messages and move on. Maybe find yourself a hobby or something better to do than feed the few trolls that message!

That would have been a better way of putting it xx

Trolling the Trolls

To be honest it was just a bit of fun xx

To see if anyone else had fun ways of turning something that fustates people into something that can become a laugh x

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

For the most part I delete and block but if I'm feeling naughty

I will take the piss and send sarcastic messages back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For the most part I delete and block but if I'm feeling naughty

I will take the piss and send sarcastic messages back

Phewwe thought I might be on my own for a moment there lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get shitty messages all the time. They never read the profile, really annoying. Then if I politely decline I get abuse . Block an delete all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here since last April, on and off, and have found that a polite message of no thanks and then blocking works.

No drama. No fuss. I find taking the piss a bit mean spirited, and there really isn't need for that with filters etc.

Most men are just thankful to get a response at all i've found.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have a little play with messages too. Its fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a little play with messages too. Its fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys

Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.

We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol

Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us

I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol

But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?

Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx

aren't you then wasting your own time?

I don't understand why you would spend time entering into dialogue with people you're clearly not interested in? if you've got the time to do it then crack on, I suppose...I'd rather interact with people we want to meet and then meet them...while we're out swinging, you'll be behind your keyboard baiting idiots...

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I've been on here since last April, on and off, and have found that a polite message of no thanks and then blocking works.

No drama. No fuss. I find taking the piss a bit mean spirited, and there really isn't need for that with filters etc.

Most men are just thankful to get a response at all i've found."

Yes, it is a bit mean spirited, totally agree.

But what's mean spirited to some will be fun for others, and so it goes.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse.

I have got one thankyou xx

However I found the fun side to the annoying messages people are always ranting about on here the same as I do with cold callers

I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx

Lashing out in return...classy.

You asked for opinions, and specifically said "don't condemn us too harshly", so you were clearly expecting opinions that weren't aligned with yours.

"It's a bit immature" doesn't seem that controversial a view to hold, personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse.

I have got one thankyou xx

However I found the fun side to the annoying messages people are always ranting about on here the same as I do with cold callers

I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx

Lashing out in return...classy.

You asked for opinions, and specifically said "don't condemn us too harshly", so you were clearly expecting opinions that weren't aligned with yours.

"It's a bit immature" doesn't seem that controversial a view to hold, personally. "

If it had been put in such a manner as you have put it I would not have gotten so defensive however " grow up and get a life " is a little rude x

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Other people's definitions of "not too harsh" may differ to yours, we discover.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Other people's definitions of "not too harsh" may differ to yours, we discover.

Lol

That I agree on x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Bear in mind that you run the risk of getting an admin warning or message ban if your 'fun' messages upset someone. This is why I report abuse without response then delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bear in mind that you run the risk of getting an admin warning or message ban if your 'fun' messages upset someone. This is why I report abuse without response then delete."

Oh I didn't know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys

Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.

We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol

Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us

I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol

But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?

Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx

At the beginning I was always nice and answering all the mails. I am still nice but I also use the block button. Someone who can't accept no keeps mailing is just not on. Sorry not interested Thanks is enough me thinks. I have gotten rejected and I accepted and moved on. Be a grown up. Not a teenager.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"If you are deliberately sending stupid replies to people, you should grow up and get a life. You are just as bad as the people originally sending the messages, if not worse. "

I have better things to do with my spare time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have the time and am in the mood, I enjoy giving a lecture on manners/feminism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can tell from the profile & opening line whether it's a message worth reading or one for the delete button.

Don't waste your time or theirs by messing about, it's not worth the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get annoying messages, because I put filters up and choose for myself who to message. You should try it, it's much better. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys

Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.

We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol

Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us

I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol

But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?

Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx

I normally just give banter back. It wastes my time I know. I never throw insults it's not worth it, but if they're winding me up, it goes right back. If I think they deserve it.

Sometimes i ignore it and delete, it all depends on my moods. I have many shades of moods.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

An annoying message is best dealt with by ignoring and blocking the sender.

An abusive message is best dealt with by reporting to admin who can issue a warning to hopefully prevent others receiving similar from that person.

Personally I consider goading someone to get a response to be bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I find both Fab and its forums to be one big bad mean spirited play ground full of bullies and cliques. Not how you would have expected a sex site to be. But there you go.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Bear in mind that you run the risk of getting an admin warning or message ban if your 'fun' messages upset someone. This is why I report abuse without response then delete.

Oh I didn't know that

As long as you are not abusive you can more or less say what you like in mails.

In answer to your OP...it depends on my mood, sometimes I "play" a little ( not in a sexual way ) and play them at their own game. Mind you, one time I did that we ended up having a good laugh and we met the men three weeks later

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I usually ignore and block. If it's nasty and abusive I report.

Occasionally I have responded with a carefully worded sarcastic message in return. In these cases I don't block. It would be a cowardly thing to reply then run. Sometimes I get an apology and people genuinely had not realised how their message sounded.

If I get crap back, they had their chance and it's time to block.

Besides as you can tell, I like waffling

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

Hi, Some interesting replies on this thread if we receive a message we reply, can't remember receiving any abusive messages in all the years we have been on fab.

Most messages we receive are copy and paste from single men and a reply would we think brighten their day.

As to blocking people our list is empty as there's no point, a new profile can soon get around any block.

Best to use the filter tools if you feel bullied or just report any abusive messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete all my messages un read unless it's from a friend but then again I ain't meeting atm so no point in replying. Xxx

How's KB BTW?

xxx

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Delete block and move on , problum solved,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes say 'is my profile really that difficult to read' or 'maybe an idea to read a profile before messaging. Save your time being wasted.Have a nice day' then it goes quiet. No abuse. Lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they catch me on a "no chocolate day" I'll often respond with something just as ridiculous as the message they sent me in the first place. Abusive mail just gets reported and blocked however, life is too short for that sh1t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx

So throwing insults back is acceptable is it?

Wow, what maturity

To be fair, OP, the response to your initial post was perfectly acceptable, and I completely agree.

You are asking how others deal with annoying messages and go on to indicate that, if anything, you are adding to the problem.

In response to your final question, no, I don't believe there are any site rules against this, however, perhaps there should be, but I would suggest, given how snappy you were to a perfectly valid response to your initial post, that you may be straying into the boundaries of what is and what isn't acceptable in a message and run the risk of being reported by others if they feel you are being abusive or are breaching any other rules.

The best way to deal with such messages is to delete, block and move on.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I don't insult just point a few things out to married guys and, it usually is as they go on and on trying to get me to meet. I do the same to men pretending they are bi in the hope of getting to me.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I don't aprtiate the insult so please don't tell me to grow up ! There is no need for that as this was a conversation and obviously you have shown your mental age xxx

So throwing insults back is acceptable is it?

Wow, what maturity

To be fair, OP, the response to your initial post was perfectly acceptable, and I completely agree.

You are asking how others deal with annoying messages and go on to indicate that, if anything, you are adding to the problem.

So being told to grow up and get a life is a perfectly natural response to a question? I think it is rude and obviously they did too

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We usually delete ,sometimes Jack will write back with some advice lol ,they are blocked early on though.

Miss

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Hi guys

Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.

We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol

Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us

I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol

But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?

Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx

I do that sometimes to humour myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete, block. Move on.

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

Agree with the op, sometimes they are just asking to have the piss taken

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hi guys

Just curious to how you deal with annoying messageing , time wasters, people who don't get the hint, people who can't even take a moment to read you're profile properly ect.

We used to block, but now we just message back and keep making the messages weirder and weirder lol

Untill we annoy them so much they quite messaging us

I know this isn't nice but it's fun lol

But also wanted to ask if there are any site rules against this ?

Please don't condem us to harshly xxxx

So you are time wasters then

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It depends on my mood, delete and block is the default action but sometimes the message demands something bizarre in reply

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

"It depends on my mood, delete and block is the default action but sometimes the message demands something bizarre in reply

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yes definitely agree

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