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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "
A lot just aren't as keen after they have played. I have had it where I have played with some people but wouldn't bother again. You are the couple though so you should message him if you want to see him again. Awkward after meeting couples to try set up a meet again different dynamic to a single lady. It is best let couples ask you I have found.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Once they've had what they want, they move on. To be honest its not even a single male thing. This is a site where a lot of members are looking for one offs, me included, and have no intention of doing repeat meets.

Keep an eye out for people who want something regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe i should put on id like a regular meet. Always found the sex to be better after a few times as trust/confidence grows.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "
id say its normal..I dont engage in pre meet chit chat if I can help it... I hate it when they message loads after asking when next. .. as not really into repeat meets x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

There's no way I'd give you the cold shoulder x

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is."

How can it be his loss when he is the one who has decided not to meet again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

How can it be his loss when he is the one who has decided not to meet again?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe hes just busy with other stuff ?? not all spend all there time on here

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Maybe i should put on id like a regular meet.

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Unlikely to make a difference as they can say they want regular and still disappear.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

its normal. This is no strings attached sex unless you agree otherwise beforehand.

If you want something more than no strings you need to establish that before you meet. It really is up to you to ensure that the people you meet understand what your requirements are as this isn't dating.

I don't mean that harshly but you need to be a bit tough and not expect the normal rules to apply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this. Mainly because i never know whether the bloke enjoyed himself and just wants to wander off intonthe sunset without me clinging ro his ankles, or whether he thinks inwas the shittest shag this side of the Bridge and he was just being polite when he said "speak soon".

I prefer to play it cool and lay low for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once they've had what they want, they move on. To be honest its not even a single male thing. This is a site where a lot of members are looking for one offs, me included, and have no intention of doing repeat meets.

Keep an eye out for people who want something regular."

BTW your profile txt is perfect ...

I actully enjoyed reading...

Strict, straight and sweet x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Maybe i should put on id like a regular meet.

Unlikely to make a difference as they can say they want regular and still disappear."

I agree. Its very easy to make yourself vulnerable on here, much better to realise early on that people often only want one off meets and be prepared for it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Once they've had what they want, they move on. To be honest its not even a single male thing. This is a site where a lot of members are looking for one offs, me included, and have no intention of doing repeat meets.

Keep an eye out for people who want something regular.

BTW your profile txt is perfect ...

I actully enjoyed reading...

Strict, straight and sweet x "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just want a one off, some people want regulars, we like both. We would never worry if after one meet people didn't want to meet again, just move on, enjoy swinging, you have no need for attachment as you are a couple.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

It seems standard

It's always the ones you don't want to stay in contact with, that get in touch. Depends what sort of meets you have though.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

Not just males

I'm guilty of doing the cold shoulder treatment after a meet

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

Tbh Hun I'm afraid it goes with the territory!

For many people on here the excitement is in the chase, the build-up etc. It doesn't matter how amazing the meet itself is, for many people the build-up is the most exciting part - and the next meet is always potentially even better than the last - no matter how good that was!

I call them 'shiny new fuck' chasers - and there are a LOT of them!

Even specifying that you're only looking for regular meets doesn't them out - they'll (understandably) say pretty much anything to get in your knickers!

If it's any help, you get used to it after a while!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add another thing to the mix - sometimes meets can feel exhilarating while you're at them and something that does your head in the next day or week. If the person you met was young and/or inexperienced, I bet you they have thoughts/feelings/reactions they didn't anticipate and can't and/or won't process, let alone communicate them to you. I've had people get in contact again six months later explaining "what happened", and it was usually some silly awkwardness or paranoid thought! The luxury of NSA is that you should never have to troubleshoot, you can just move on to the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you contacted him and asked for a 2nd meet?

Some men don't like to appear pushy and like to be invited

Especially when it's a couple (respecting boundaries etc)

If you have then as previously advised reword your profile to be clear what your looking for and put it down to experience at least it was a good meet

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By *uckmefackwardsMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I met a cuck couple at a club about 4 years back and she seemed very impressed with my cockmanship etc and husby was happy.

We became friends on here left each other great Veri's and indeed became friends on here. But all my attempts to even communicate since just get ignored and/or deleted !

Strange !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck, eat, sleep, forget, repeat ...

xx

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By *ingdong73Man
over a year ago

kent

Sorry to hear that ..sadly its a big part of the site

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

I like repeat meets. The sex gets better, there is no awkwardness. You know they will turn up, you can make a real friend.

You get to explore more too.

Win win as far I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

Hun, I've had this constantly on here. Would love to have two or three peeps semi-regular, but they're just full of shit some people. They claim they want this beforehand, but alas no.

One guy post-shag kept messaging for a repeat, but he was never free when I was and I ended up just deleting his number, as it was a fruitless waste of my energy trying to set something up. Like the other lady says, once some people have what they want they move on. They always come back at some point I've realised though, so be ready with a 'FUCK OFF'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sort of people are losers!Some just fuck and go! But worse are those that you think was a great meet,drive you home and then stop the communication!

I don't give a thought because is their loss!Sorry about that!Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman

Hun, I've had this constantly on here. Would love to have two or three peeps semi-regular, but they're just full of shit some people. They claim they want this beforehand, but alas no.

One guy post-shag kept messaging for a repeat, but he was never free when I was and I ended up just deleting his number, as it was a fruitless waste of my energy trying to set something up. Like the other lady says, once some people have what they want they move on. They always come back at some point I've realised though, so be ready with a 'FUCK OFF'! "

Mrs Robinson, I cant message you as im out of age range, but if u need a lift from/to the airport sometime pls feel free to message me xx

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Yes it is pretty normal.

He has emptied his balls and moved onto the next fresh new thing, it is the thrill of the chase and once you are caught they need something else to chase.

Not all are like this of course, but many are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't hate the player hate the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman

Hun, I've had this constantly on here. Would love to have two or three peeps semi-regular, but they're just full of shit some people. They claim they want this beforehand, but alas no.

One guy post-shag kept messaging for a repeat, but he was never free when I was and I ended up just deleting his number, as it was a fruitless waste of my energy trying to set something up. Like the other lady says, once some people have what they want they move on. They always come back at some point I've realised though, so be ready with a 'FUCK OFF'! "

Wow, intense!

For all those who claim guys will pretend they want repeat meets just to get in there - have you ever considered that they may have intended to have repeats, but it wasn't as they expected or what they were looking for? Anyone can change their minds at any point along the meets, there are no binding contracts.

As for your second paragraph, presumably just like him you were never free when he was, so what gives?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

Have you contacted him? If you did was you ignored?

Reason I ask is (this guy may do the same) after ameet you somtimes don't know what the couple want. I personally wait for the couple to contact me again. I don't want to come across as pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman

Hun, I've had this constantly on here. Would love to have two or three peeps semi-regular, but they're just full of shit some people. They claim they want this beforehand, but alas no.

One guy post-shag kept messaging for a repeat, but he was never free when I was and I ended up just deleting his number, as it was a fruitless waste of my energy trying to set something up. Like the other lady says, once some people have what they want they move on. They always come back at some point I've realised though, so be ready with a 'FUCK OFF'!

Wow, intense!

For all those who claim guys will pretend they want repeat meets just to get in there - have you ever considered that they may have intended to have repeats, but it wasn't as they expected or what they were looking for? Anyone can change their minds at any point along the meets, there are no binding contracts.

As for your second paragraph, presumably just like him you were never free when he was, so what gives?"

I would say 'dramatic' rather than 'intense' but the subsequent messages post-meet (which he/they don't need to send in my opinion) suggests the meets had been fantastic and more than what they were looking for. I get people can change their minds at any point. Obviously. I don't get why people go to the lengths they do after a meet - wish I could show you the messages - only for it to never happen again. I actually have come to suspect secret girlfriends/wives to be honest but hey, this is the crazy world of Fab.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i think that single males may not want to appear to be to pushy, we as a couple would message and ask if they were interested in arrangeing another meet but wouldn't take it personally if the offer was refused.

k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

How can it be his loss when he is the one who has decided not to meet again?

"

Totally agree....can't understand why people say this other than to try and get in their good books or pants....just forum bullsh*t rhetoric.

There may be many valid reasons like life, waiting for the other to contact ( mught be an unassuming guy), maybe he's busy with another for now, might even have lost his mojo etc etc

Op as said before I think the couple should make the first move but if ignored respect that and look for someone else who likes repeats.

I'm like yourself and many other who enjoy repeats...always better.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent


"Fuck, eat, sleep, forget, repeat ...

xx"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is."

No, it's not his loss!

People play differently. For example, prior to a meet I don't like too much contact, don't like it afterwards either. I would find constant texting inappropriate, doesn't mean those that like it are wrong and losers because they play differently to me.

Some people are not interested in repeat meets, or they simply don't want to meet certain people again, such is life!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman id say its normal..I dont engage in pre meet chit chat if I can help it... I hate it when they message loads after asking when next. .. as not really into repeat meets x "

Exactly!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

How can it be his loss when he is the one who has decided not to meet again?"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


" you have no need for attachment as you are a couple. "

My first thought!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman

Hun, I've had this constantly on here. Would love to have two or three peeps semi-regular, but they're just full of shit some people. They claim they want this beforehand, but alas no.

One guy post-shag kept messaging for a repeat, but he was never free when I was and I ended up just deleting his number, as it was a fruitless waste of my energy trying to set something up. Like the other lady says, once some people have what they want they move on. They always come back at some point I've realised though, so be ready with a 'FUCK OFF'!

Wow, intense!

For all those who claim guys will pretend they want repeat meets just to get in there - have you ever considered that they may have intended to have repeats, but it wasn't as they expected or what they were looking for? Anyone can change their minds at any point along the meets, there are no binding contracts.

As for your second paragraph, presumably just like him you were never free when he was, so what gives?"

Single men are not allowed to change their mind, have to be at couples beck and call and ready to drop everything for a shag didn't you know?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the single man concerned wants a single female for a regular sexual partner, and not one who is part of a couple. XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once they've had what they want, they move on. To be honest its not even a single male thing. This is a site where a lot of members are looking for one offs, me included, and have no intention of doing repeat meets.

Keep an eye out for people who want something regular.

BTW your profile txt is perfect ...

I actully enjoyed reading...

Strict, straight and sweet x "

But no photos of the man in this couple .. or is it just the female on offer so to spk .. your looking for single women but there's nothing to entice them with ..

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

good range of comment on this .fab is not a dating site as such.its a place where players come and go .[no longer on site ect]we have met the same players on here but not weekly .after a few months or so.if you want to see same people all the time .go to chams [or any club]on a sat night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your replies. A great range of responses. I shall contact him n if no reply i will move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we had a meet with a single guy. Beforehand lots of texts, kiks, phonecalls etc. I really like the texts, talk and build up before a meet, it adds to the excitement for me. We had a meet all was great, he messaged me after saying had a great time bla bla bla when can we do it again. But now he doesn't message, he doedn't phone. Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman

Hun, I've had this constantly on here. Would love to have two or three peeps semi-regular, but they're just full of shit some people. They claim they want this beforehand, but alas no.

One guy post-shag kept messaging for a repeat, but he was never free when I was and I ended up just deleting his number, as it was a fruitless waste of my energy trying to set something up. Like the other lady says, once some people have what they want they move on. They always come back at some point I've realised though, so be ready with a 'FUCK OFF'!

Wow, intense!

For all those who claim guys will pretend they want repeat meets just to get in there - have you ever considered that they may have intended to have repeats, but it wasn't as they expected or what they were looking for? Anyone can change their minds at any point along the meets, there are no binding contracts.

As for your second paragraph, presumably just like him you were never free when he was, so what gives?

I would say 'dramatic' rather than 'intense' but the subsequent messages post-meet (which he/they don't need to send in my opinion) suggests the meets had been fantastic and more than what they were looking for. I get people can change their minds at any point. Obviously. I don't get why people go to the lengths they do after a meet - wish I could show you the messages - only for it to never happen again. I actually have come to suspect secret girlfriends/wives to be honest but hey, this is the crazy world of Fab. "

Oooh! I get it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if you are a couple you have all the power? Don't waste your time with a guy (probably married) out for quick kicks.

There are thousands of guys out there who would love to treat you better than him (or who pretend to be a couple - trust me)

Let them know and they will come. Then you will be fighting them off?

N x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother if they message me again or not, I'll always be polite & send a day after thank you but I don't bother them after that. If they keep on messaging then great but if not, it's no big deal really

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Some good responses here, though some are edging toward being burned somehow. There's many guys that'd like repeat meets with women but they don't get them for of various reasons. Non of them are because she is hiding a husband or bf, it's just accepted that it's because she doesn't want a repeat meet.

Much as you may have had a great experience and would invite him back OP, you wouldn't want contact from someone that didn't make the effort. It goes both ways - rough with the smooth. So long as you enjoyed yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do say beforehand I'm looking for more than a one off, logistics / timings permitted.

The messaging drops off after meeting, whilst I don't chase I do drop the occasional message to keep in contact. When a new date is on the horizon the messaging ups again.

If they're anything like me I generally don't have the time to be messaging lots of different people all the time so I assume this is why it goes in peaks & troughs.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If I don't hear from a guy then I don't message him. I've found that if they want to see you again they will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rarely ask to meet anyone regular, let alone a couple.

If of course you got on well, I'd ask/be asked for another meet...but I have LOTS of people I'm still looking to meet with, ones that might be more than I can get from a couple?- things like going out,kissing,cuddling,spending all nite together etc etc.

Some couples have to remember singles can have complex fab lives too..as well as complex real non-fab lives.When it is based on NSA sex...I think people should keep it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might depend on the definition of regular. I also think it's important to understand the psychology of type of single man who chooses to be single. I find that after a meet, it's best not to contact the man - he's had his fun. Even leave it a few months. As long as the friendship remains drama free and they are available for play, they will usually be very pleased to be invited back at a later stage. To us 'regular' is every couple of months months with an occasional text to remind them we are there. Sometimes their circumstances change and there might be a gap of about 6 months. Or maybe we get busy, or we get distracted by another playmate. Availability and interest ebbs and flows.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might depend on the definition of regular. I also think it's important to understand the psychology of type of single man who chooses to be single. I find that after a meet, it's best not to contact the man - he's had his fun. Even leave it a few months. As long as the friendship remains drama free and they are available for play, they will usually be very pleased to be invited back at a later stage. To us 'regular' is every couple of months months with an occasional text to remind them we are there. Sometimes their circumstances change and there might be a gap of about 6 months. Or maybe we get busy, or we get distracted by another playmate. Availability and interest ebbs and flows.

Mrs"

exactly, my point was people then thinking it should be a regular thing, like every week...then become dependant on that for some reason.They might not even like the idea of seeing another verify pop on their new friends list.

The people I've met, we do normally have some banter going back n forth even after the initial meet..it isnt leading anywhere for a new meet asap...unless of course..we start talking about the next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might depend on the definition of regular. I also think it's important to understand the psychology of type of single man who chooses to be single. I find that after a meet, it's best not to contact the man - he's had his fun. Even leave it a few months. As long as the friendship remains drama free and they are available for play, they will usually be very pleased to be invited back at a later stage. To us 'regular' is every couple of months months with an occasional text to remind them we are there. Sometimes their circumstances change and there might be a gap of about 6 months. Or maybe we get busy, or we get distracted by another playmate. Availability and interest ebbs and flows.

Mrs

exactly, my point was people then thinking it should be a regular thing, like every week...then become dependant on that for some reason.They might not even like the idea of seeing another verify pop on their new friends list.

The people I've met, we do normally have some banter going back n forth even after the initial meet..it isnt leading anywhere for a new meet asap...unless of course..we start talking about the next time."

However, men can be blamed in leading people on. I think men get caught in the excitement of the moment. We've had men request a regular arrangement when we didn't ask for it. Then upon convincing me it's a good idea, they discover they can't deliver. Or maybe the chase was more interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is."

Couldn't agree more, and yeah, it is his loss. I'm confident that you'll find a regular play mate.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

Couldn't agree more, and yeah, it is his loss. I'm confident that you'll find a regular play mate."

No it was NSA. So everyone got what they wanted that night. Trying to add strings later is a different relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it his first couple meet?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

Couldn't agree more, and yeah, it is his loss. I'm confident that you'll find a regular play mate."

Maybe you can explain this since you know that it was "his loss". He decides not to meet this couple again and not to reply to their messages. How can it be "his loss"?

I get stupid messages like that from dorks. They write to me with offers of a 'meet', I refuse, they tell me that it is "your loss". Am truly confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

Couldn't agree more, and yeah, it is his loss. I'm confident that you'll find a regular play mate."

No his not his loss as he chose to sever ties, he's simply moved on.

I notice a few are saying the reason it's his loss are based on your looks.

No disrespect to the OP, you could be the most stunning person in the world but if there's no chemistry or he doesn't want to repeat then it's a pointless observation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Was it his first couple meet? "

Yes it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its fab - some like the chase and the fuck and then move on

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"its fab - some like the chase and the fuck and then move on "

Equally, I'm sure they were excited too as nothing can beat that anticipation of an initial meet. It's just a disappointment when you don't hear back what you'd like to hear. Not all men hunt or chase. We don't know how long they chatted for or any real details... If it went well, it went well. They will no doubt have plenty more who will be wanting more than they want to offer.

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

Personaly i never contact a couple after a meet i always leave it up to them to contact me.This is only out of respect as can imagine theres nothing worse than a single guy keep contacting you when trying to get on with everyday life.Think if you want to see him again i would make the 1st contact he will then know you are intrested in another meet.I always tell couples after the 1st meet this and to contact me if they would like to meet again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was it his first couple meet?

Yes it was"

Teehee! I stand by what I wrote - first threesome, shock to the system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have seen your photos, so we know it's his loss. Just ignore him and find someone who knows what friendship is.

Couldn't agree more, and yeah, it is his loss. I'm confident that you'll find a regular play mate.

Maybe you can explain this since you know that it was "his loss". He decides not to meet this couple again and not to reply to their messages. How can it be "his loss"?

I get stupid messages like that from dorks. They write to me with offers of a 'meet', I refuse, they tell me that it is "your loss". Am truly confused"
oh come on you know that's what they all say when they get rejected I heard a good 1, you say to a woman 'Whatever I only wanted to fuck you not marry you'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe i should put on id like a regular meet. Always found the sex to be better after a few times as trust/confidence grows.

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We feel the same ! dont despair it's still early days yet ?

I'm sure it won't be the last time it could happen ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reread the OPs post. In all honesty I don't think you've got anything to worry about. He texted to say he'd had a good time expressed that he wants to do it again. Assume that to be the case. But leave him alone for now. He'll probably be very pleased to hear from you in a few months time. Yes, from my experience this is normal. There is an exciting lead up with text messages. Meet, have fun. Then you all go about your own lives until next time. Single guys don't as a norm want relationships with a couple/Hotwife on the same level that they would with a proper girlfriend. But if communication goes quiet it doesn't mean they don't like you. We've had a number of friendships with single men, one going on for 2 years. But long periods of time often go by with no communication. Then we meet again and have a great time. I find men are usually happy to go back for more fun, as long as they don't feel obligated or their freedoms are infringed upon. But as one of the other posters said, a single man will normally wait to be invited by couple.

Mrs

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london


"... Guess its gone a bit weird. Is this normal?? Wevare quite new to this.

Written from the woman "

The swinging scene per se is weird.

She says getting her cock out for the straight boys!

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