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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Popcorn

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Being impatient maybe? There are some on here wait months or even years for a meet. Contrary to popular belief it's not instashag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

posting threads about older women instead of doing a search and messaging them...maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have patience"

I'd wait a long time for someone like you

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

Give it chance! You're still a noob here!

Additionally, your profile says a lot but tells us very little. Single men are a dime a dozen on here, so you really need to sell yourself well. Your profile should answer some of these questions from a viewers point of view (and we expect others will have more advice along these lines):

What is there about him that makes him different?

Is there anything in his profile that tells us about his personality?

What is he looking for?

Can he string together a cogent sentence?

Can he spell?

What are his photos like? Are they interesting or different?

Are there any cock shots? (General consensus on this seems to be that there shouldn't be any!)

Also, what sorts of messages are you sending to people? You need to make it more than one line long, be polite, pay attention to a detail of the persons profile and mention that detail.

Anyone else want to chime in here? We've run out of things!

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"I'd wait a long time for someone like you "

What are you doing wrong? The above.

Our viewpoint is that kind of banter is ok when you know someone, but not appropriate to a random stranger when you've only been on the site for 5 minutes.

Be respectful.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have patience"

It's the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are yet to understand the purpose of this site. Treat it as somewhere to idle away an hour now and then by posting bullshit in the forums, or somewhere to look at boobs, and you won't be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being in Ipswich

Nice tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stop worrying and rushing-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only you was closer

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets."

Could it be the 70s Italian pornstar 'stach?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just read your profile and its a bit want you want - just a thought but maybe a little give not take is more appealing to the masses

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets."

Good profile text though, the OP should take a read of it

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets.

Good profile text though, the OP should take a read of it "

Thanks

You red it all in 2 minute

It took me about 4 months to rite my profile and im still treeking it at times

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

Literally the same as me. Mines due to time though

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets.

Good profile text though, the OP should take a read of it

Thanks

You red it all in 2 minute

It took me about 4 months to rite my profile and im still treeking it at times "

I'll also add i had a bit of help to.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets.

Good profile text though, the OP should take a read of it

Thanks

You red it all in 2 minute

It took me about 4 months to rite my profile and im still treeking it at times

I'll also add i had a bit of help to."

I speed read

Continually tweaking it is a good thing - we hate seeing people who say they're new to the scene but have been on here for over a year!

We had help with ours, thanks to the wonderful people on the forums

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

Unfortunately, you are one of many

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

Learn to use the forum's search feature.

Then find your just one of thousands who've found the same.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

What on earth were you expecting??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

Confusing it with sites like tinder probably? Readjust your expectations and you'll find it's a jolly enjoyable little site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to say something that might be a bit of a surprise. Some men will never get a meet on Fab. Why? Because the ratios of men to women make it mathematically impossible for women (even if they wanted a new meet every week, which most don't) to work their way every single man. Therefore some men will miss out simply because their are too many men to go round. I'm not saying you OP won't get a meet, although at the moment I suspect your age is against you.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took us a while to get a meet and our first one was at a club. We would definitely recommend trying to get to a club and meet people that way and when you're verified it may be a bit easier.

H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Patience is the key lol'

*quotes courtesy of dear Shag*

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I'm going to say something that might be a bit of a surprise. Some men will never get a meet on Fab. Why? Because the ratios of men to women make it mathematically impossible for women (even if they wanted a new meet every week, which most don't) to work their way every single man. Therefore some men will miss out simply because their are too many men to go round. I'm not saying you OP won't get a meet, although at the moment I suspect your age is against you.

Mrs"

That is a good point.

The other thing I would say OP is that like JFK said you need to 'Ask not what the women of fab can do for you, but what you can do for the women of fab.'

You have some good pics of a fit body, but sadly for you young men with great bodies are in abundance here, and guys with an attitude that this is Instashag and all the women here must be gagging for it can end up with nothing. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is all about what you want, as someone has said you need to sell yourself, tell people what you have to offer maybe show a bit of humour, get out and about get to clubs socials get yourself known, come on the forum and let your personality shine through (assuming you have one)

It's ok having a six pack and a big cock but there are 100's of people like that on here

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?

Ive been on hear for about 4 Months and I've had 0 meets.

Good profile text though, the OP should take a read of it

Thanks

You red it all in 2 minute

It took me about 4 months to rite my profile and im still treeking it at times "

I've been in here for over three years, and still give my profile a tweak every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks ffs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

The question should be, what are you not doing right?

If we all had the magic formula, we'd implement it wouldn't we?

Be yourself, you'll be fine.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Give in to your bi side; you'll get a meet every week then lol

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"The other thing I would say OP is that like JFK said you need to 'Ask not what the women of fab can do for you, but what you can do for the women of fab.'"

Given his reputation, we wouldn't be surprised if this was a direct quote, rather than just paraphrasing...

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

What were you expecting?

I think that when people sign up, particularly single men as they outnumber everyone else, fab should have some guidance on what to expect from the site.

Men should be told that they will have to work very hard to stand out from the thousands of other single men. Single females should be advised how to set their filters and to expect hundreds of messages the instant they join.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

If your using the mobile site,do the local search and you will see how much competition you have.

Read the verified profiles tovsee what yhey ate offering and how they come across

Plan ahead and try to start a conversation.

No who you are talking to and personalise your message accordingly.

And lastly be patient... three weeks is nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on site for 3 soon to become 4 weeks. Still haven't had a meet! What am I doing wrong?"

3 weeks is nothing. 3 weeks on fab is about the equivelant of 3 seconds in real life.

It's amazing how many people think swingers will shag anyone who asks. Too many people think this website is called iwillshaganyone.com

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