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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im new to the swinging scene and I know there is a space for all shapes sizes and degrees of weirdness, but as a guy who spent most of his life dealing with bullies and jibes about their weight, I find it hard to get a convo started on here. Have any of you fellow fabbers got any tips you could give me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im new to the swinging scene and I know there is a space for all shapes sizes and degrees of weirdness, but as a guy who spent most of his life dealing with bullies and jibes about their weight, I find it hard to get a convo started on here. Have any of you fellow fabbers got any tips you could give me?"
This site is like a baptism of fire for even the most confident men. You have to get over the rejection quickly dont ket it get you down and move on. Either accept yourself and try meet others who like you for you or alter your appearance.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You define yourself by your weight with your user name, if it's an issue for you maybe think about changing it.

One of the best ways to start up conversations is via the forums although it can take a while.

Men outnumber women on here so it's a good idea to make your profile as interesting and informative as possible.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If rejection is likely to get you down you may want to reconsider!

Going to a social or club is often recommended to single guys starting out.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

There is room for everyone. I think attitude is a major factor in enjoyable meets. I would have a rethink on using weirdness personally. What is one persons weird is another persons kink. And by and large it's good to respect that, even if it's not your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im new to the swinging scene and I know there is a space for all shapes sizes and degrees of weirdness, but as a guy who spent most of his life dealing with bullies and jibes about their weight, I find it hard to get a convo started on here. Have any of you fellow fabbers got any tips you could give me?"

Yes hold onto your hat, the going gets rough in here. Develop a thick skin x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for the tips guys, rejection doesn't effect me too badly these days but I know that beer bellies and.man boobs aren't everyone's cup of tea! Will try and be active on here more and go from there

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

The solution is not an easy one my friend. There is no magic wand or spell to make you confident. You simply have to bite the bullet, get out there and get stuck in. You need to immerse yourself in the social side and get talking and meeting people. Maybe try a social? The hard bit is going out your way to talk to people and not hiding in the background. Its a bit trial and error and you may have some knock backs. You do need to grow a tough skin and not get disappointed or disheartened. But you'll find the more you do it, the more natural it will become and the confident you'll become. The more confident (not arrogance) you become the more successful and happier in yourself you'll become. Plus remember to be your self and let your personality shine through.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that have found being myself is helping today not trying to be what I think girls want lol

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Im new to the swinging scene and I know there is a space for all shapes sizes and degrees of weirdness, but as a guy who spent most of his life dealing with bullies and jibes about their weight, I find it hard to get a convo started on here. Have any of you fellow fabbers got any tips you could give me?"

My friend,

This is the twilight zone, where Nora Batty will delete and block Brad Pitt. Simply because she knows something better is around the corner!

Happy Fabbing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If rejection is likely to get you down you may want to reconsider!

Going to a social or club is often recommended to single guys starting out."

...

xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"This is the twilight zone, where Nora Batty will delete and block Brad Pitt. Simply because she knows something better is around the corner"

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I know 18 and 19 year olds are teens but the comment in the profile seems creepy to me

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond


"I know 18 and 19 year olds are teens but the comment in the profile seems creepy to me "

He's only 29----surely you've met your share of "more than 9 years younger" too?

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"I know 18 and 19 year olds are teens but the comment in the profile seems creepy to me "

It's a technical term. Like BBW.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know 18 and 19 year olds are teens but the comment in the profile seems creepy to me "

It's times like these you realise you need to word things carefully lol

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