FabSwingers.com forum: Am I doing things wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure if I'm doing things right on here.

I receive quite a fair amount of messages (with filters on) if I reply "no thank you" 9/10 times I get abuse or questioned.

If I don't reply & delete as per the sites FAQ I get abuse calling me the most hateful things.

I've had a few guys I've blocked create new profile and act like either it's the first time I've heard from them or they hurl abuse at me again from this new profile.

Couples are messaging me and it turns out the female is "not available" all of a sudden only the male.

I've reported so many profiles and messages and don't have the time to report them all for things that go against the sites rules like offering me money, drugs etc

I really wanted to just have some fun and finding it very difficult and very scary at times. And the things people write when being abusive is horrible

Is there any other women on here who can offer me some advice on how they handle things as I really don't want to leave the site.

I've tried making initial contact and not sure if it's a case of egos that a women has made first contact but all have turned out to be vile from the messages I get back. Surely I cannot be the only one that's experiencing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi, sorry to hear that. although this site can be a good way of getting the sexual experiences you want it can take some time to feel comfortable enough to ensure you do.

it's possible it's something you're doing, maybe unintentionally, if it's happening a lot. speaking online people can often take what you say the wrong way. you still don't deserve abuse for that, so keep reporting profiles.

i just don't reply to most messages at all, don't even look in my inbox unless i'm chatting to someone already really. i don't need to block anyone and have had maybe 3 abusive messages in all my time here, all of whom were guys out of my age ranges who thought it was ok to ignore what i wanted.

you could block all men from messaging to give you a little break, that's what i do when i start getting pissed off with the crappy messages i get and it helps a lot for me.

guys often delete their profiles, or have more than one, to get round blocks yes. i have stopped verifying previous meets because of this. some message me every day like they've never spoken before, some i have spoken to and they do this as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much for your reply.

Maybe a little time out from looking in the inbox is the way to go for a few days. But this will no doubt be unmanageable when I go back to look to see if anyone catches my eye to want to take things further. So I guess I'd have to delete all but this will doubt offend people to abuse me.

I don't really want to turn off messaging for all as I could potentially be missing out on someone that I want to pursue further with.

Such a dilemma. I guess it's a case "shut up and put up with it" and ignore them. Although this hard at times as some messages are very hurtful and can be very intimidating and scary.

I must add this is not isolated to male profiles but couples also. And even verified ones as I have filters set.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me as though these people have issues. Do what you feel is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i am embarrassed to be a single guy on here. I cannot understand the gross mentality of guys that think they are entitled to have anyone they want.

Please understand there are some nice guys on here, of which i hope i am one.

keep your chin up, you will find some good ones soon.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think part of it is the fact that you are still relatively new on here so are probably still inundated with messages.

It will calm down

Don't let the abusive messages put you off!

I got one this morning from a 'friend' on here (first for ages) so I just blocked him and forgot about it. Some people don't take rejection well and think that because we are on a site like this we'll shag anything!!

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I agree that your probably getting inundated because your fairly new. The block button is a good friend as unfortunately some people don't take rejection very well

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Abusive messages should be reported and blocked. Though in reality these are very sad men lashing out. So although they seems nasty they are just to be ignored.

When I say No Thanks, I then block. Stops the potential for abuse and also stops them trying again in 3, 6, 12 months time. As they do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree that your probably getting inundated because your fairly new. The block button is a good friend as unfortunately some people don't take rejection very well"

Hopefully it will calm down then. I'll give it a little more time.

I've tried the block button but people appear to sign up again or have multiple profiles and hurl abuse. I'm not rude in my replies, I just simply send "No thank you". Could it be because I'm not being specific on why they aren't for me?

I also get a lot of messages of abuse because I haven't read their messages but when I check down the list I cannot see they have sent one.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If someone is deliberately setting up new profiles to contact you that's a step too far and you need to speak to Admin about it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Don't reply to the ones you're not interested in. You've got that on your profile so they've been warned. Block and report any abusive members, and ignore anyone else. This site is for YOUR pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

"I agree that your probably getting inundated because your fairly new. The block button is a good friend as unfortunately some people don't take rejection very well

Hopefully it will calm down then. I'll give it a little more time.

I also get a lot of messages of abuse because I haven't read their messages but when I check down the list I cannot see they have sent one."

If I feel they have genuinely read my profile and I'm in the mood I reply with a no thanks and why otherwise I just delete

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I just simply send "No thank you". Could it be because I'm not being specific on why they aren't for me?"

Don't even say no thank you. They can get round filters in the future if you respond. Just delete.

People are not entitled to anything on here. Don't give them a reason to engage you if you're not interested.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If you see a reply to your no thanks or anybody whose message you've deleted, don't open it, just delete it.

Have you got any filters on?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you see a reply to your no thanks or anybody whose message you've deleted, don't open it, just delete it.

Have you got any filters on?

Yeah I have all the filters on.

Thank you all for your advice. I may have been a little too nice then as I've sent hundreds of no thank you messages and fear I've just made it worse as it clear it bypasses filters. I'll just have to block from now on when I'm not interested and if they come back block again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle"

Ohh that explains it.... I've been sending you cock pics and fancy a fuck messages all week

I was starting to think you were a lesbian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to learn not to take it personally - it's a shame there's not a manual for newbies as to what to expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle

Ohh that explains it.... I've been sending you cock pics and fancy a fuck messages all week

I was starting to think you were a lesbian

I think you're turning me into a lesbian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you so much for your reply.

I don't really want to turn off messaging for all as I could potentially be missing out on someone that I want to pursue further with.

Such a dilemma. I guess it's a case "shut up and put up with it" and ignore them. Although this hard at times as some messages are very hurtful and can be very intimidating and scary.

I must add this is not isolated to male profiles but couples also. And even verified ones as I have filters set.

you're welcome, i only look for men, so this is why i mentioned blocking all men. i am often chatting to enough guys already to block everyone and that's why that works for me, i've left the block on for months at one point because i was so disillusioned with men and my inbox was adding to that. but i get you don't want to and that's fine, was just a suggestion.

like _ady lick says with you being new on here this tends to attract a lot more attention overall, mainly from the more predatory type of men who think you're naive about fab or maybe desperate for sex, and also a lot more abusive messages too is likely from this type of guy.

hope you don't leave. you could request guys approach you as a person? i do on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle

Ohh that explains it.... I've been sending you cock pics and fancy a fuck messages all week

I was starting to think you were a lesbian

I think you're turning me into a lesbian

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

I just ignore and never reply unless I'm interested - works for us

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By *SPrincessWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere near you

When I get abusive messages I just reply "I love you" usually they block me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether you are a single man, woman or couple you need a thick skin to endure on here for different reasons. There is a large percentage of members who to put it bluntly act like complete cunts, block and ignore is your best option and most don't hang around long anyway. It's worth perseverance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle

Ohh that explains it.... I've been sending you cock pics and fancy a fuck messages all week

I was starting to think you were a lesbian

If only you looked at your winks ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your continued advice.

I'm determined to try and make this work so will just ignore the inbox for a while and when I do return to reading messages just block when I'm not interested in taking things further.

I did like the comment of replying with "I love you" to the abusers. But will resist in giving them any opportunity to continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes i am embarrassed to be a single guy on here. I cannot understand the gross mentality of guys that think they are entitled to have anyone they want.

Please understand there are some nice guys on here, of which i hope i am one.

keep your chin up, you will find some good ones soon.

Fully concur with this. Some great genuine guys around. Sadly many, many more total knobheads.

Can only offer you my sympathies....I'm too old and too far to be of interest to you....but if you persevere you will find some decent ones.

Avoid the profiles that seem too full of themselves...and those that don't accommodate would be best advice I could give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your continued advice.

I'm determined to try and make this work so will just ignore the inbox for a while and when I do return to reading messages just block when I'm not interested in taking things further.

I did like the comment of replying with "I love you" to the abusers. But will resist in giving them any opportunity to continue."

BTW you look super hot and nice profile, plenty of genuine guys would like to meet you I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"BTW you look super hot and nice profile, plenty of genuine guys would like to meet you I'm sure. "

Do you think my photos may be a cause of what I'm experiencing also. Been looking at lots of couples and female profiles and mine are quite boring compared to most but maybe I'm giving off some wrong vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BTW you look super hot and nice profile, plenty of genuine guys would like to meet you I'm sure.

With or without pics you'd get pretty mush the same things happening.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"BTW you look super hot and nice profile, plenty of genuine guys would like to meet you I'm sure.

The more cynical amongst us would call this 'white knighting'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The more cynical amongst us would call this 'white knighting'."

Whats "white knighting"?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"With or without pics you'd get pretty mush the same things happening. "

Oh ok, I've moved them to friends only now anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just the way the site is I'm afraid. It seems from what you've said you've done everything you can to minimise it.

Many women enjoy success but simply blocking all men and searching/approaching men themselves. You seem fairly confident and assertive so that might be an option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle

Ohh that explains it.... I've been sending you cock pics and fancy a fuck messages all week

I was starting to think you were a lesbian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BTW you look super hot and nice profile, plenty of genuine guys would like to meet you I'm sure.

I think they are good, just my opinion though. I'm not a fan of the more extreme pics but some might be, depends who you are trying to appeal to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BTW you look super hot and nice profile, plenty of genuine guys would like to meet you I'm sure.

The more cynical amongst us would call this 'white knighting'."

Or its just a genuine compliment to someone who hasn't had the best start to their fab experience. Cynicism isn't attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly get any abusive messages if I do I have a bit of fun with them until they give up and block me!

If mean guys are being horrible to you op tell them to message old fag, I'll sort them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hardly get any abusive messages if I do I have a bit of fun with them until they give up and block me!

If mean guys are being horrible to you op tell them to message old fag, I'll sort them out.

Congrats on your page one pic, well deserved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really want to turn off messaging for all as I could potentially be missing out on someone that I want to pursue further with."

On my single fem profile I used block communications with men periodically, to have a chance to process/delete/have a decent convo with someone I liked. Sure you may miss out, it's the luck of the draw, but then everything is a gamble anyway- for me it's more important to keep to capacity.

Apart from the newness of the account (maybe hide for a couple of weeks for the feeds to quiet down?) I wonder if your age may be attracting the more predatory men about. There are loads of decent exciting people here so pour your attentions on those instead.

By the way I recognise your middle pic, the wet torso! I remember you were having similar problems last time round. I hope you find your sweet spot soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hardly get any abusive messages if I do I have a bit of fun with them until they give up and block me!

If mean guys are being horrible to you op tell them to message old fag, I'll sort them out.

Congrats on your page one pic, well deserved. "

It's still there is it, been there since Wednesday, when it drops off the page I can take my filters back off!

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"Not sure if I'm doing things right on here.

I receive quite a fair amount of messages (with filters on) if I reply "no thank you" 9/10 times I get abuse or questioned.

If I don't reply & delete as per the sites FAQ I get abuse calling me the most hateful things.

I've had a few guys I've blocked create new profile and act like either it's the first time I've heard from them or they hurl abuse at me again from this new profile.

Couples are messaging me and it turns out the female is "not available" all of a sudden only the male.

I've reported so many profiles and messages and don't have the time to report them all for things that go against the sites rules like offering me money, drugs etc

I really wanted to just have some fun and finding it very difficult and very scary at times. And the things people write when being abusive is horrible

Is there any other women on here who can offer me some advice on how they handle things as I really don't want to leave the site.

Sorry to hear you've been having issues. Don't let them win. I would happily take a "I wish you all the best but I don't feel we are suited" comment.

There are some sad folk on here if they keep pestering and hurling abuse.

I hope things improve.

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

I used to take offence at the abuse and took it personally to the point I didn't want to come back. Lightbulb moment was how lucky am I to see how vile they are via messages which makes me not meet them rather than find out at a meet. There's some absolute s*** heads on here but to be fair there are some lovely respectful gents on here and I refuse to let the rubbish idiots ruin it for the good ones. Keep your chin up lovely and stick to your guns and just keep reporting the vile ones. Remember you are here for what you want and not anybody else's wants x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - I am trying to get ideas to sort timewasters on the Fabswingers forum.

If we can get something implemented we could stop abusive people too.

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By *ornylicious67Woman
over a year ago

Ryton

Reporting them is a waste of time as admin does nothing about it, I've reported a couple of guys for abuse & offering me money, I heard nothing back & they're still continuing on here as if nothing's wrong with what they've done!

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"Not sure if I'm doing things right on here.

I receive quite a fair amount of messages (with filters on) if I reply "no thank you" 9/10 times I get abuse or questioned.

If I don't reply & delete as per the sites FAQ I get abuse calling me the most hateful things.

I've had a few guys I've blocked create new profile and act like either it's the first time I've heard from them or they hurl abuse at me again from this new profile.

Couples are messaging me and it turns out the female is "not available" all of a sudden only the male.

I've reported so many profiles and messages and don't have the time to report them all for things that go against the sites rules like offering me money, drugs etc

I really wanted to just have some fun and finding it very difficult and very scary at times. And the things people write when being abusive is horrible

Is there any other women on here who can offer me some advice on how they handle things as I really don't want to leave the site.

Unfortunately some blokes are just dicks...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lots of great advice. I've changed my Age range I'm seeking as after speaking to a few people it appears I'm getting most of my issues from younger Fab members and my age is a huge factor apparently also.

Friends list is hidden, verifications hidden also to stop members contacting them about me which had been happening. Thankfully the members I've met were so helpful and removed the verifications I had left for them also. Going forward I won't use the verification feature.

And I will have to do the searching and initial messaging from now on. Will also update my profile later today.

Thank you all, it's been a great help.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

Just a suggestion, we use the notes feature a lot and record details of why we said no or message content they've sent. So if they make contact again we remind them why it's still a no. Usually they block us when we do this which is perfect as we don't block anyone anymore as we've also experienced the other profile or signing back up trick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just a suggestion, we use the notes feature a lot and record details of why we said no or message content they've sent. So if they make contact again we remind them why it's still a no. Usually they block us when we do this which is perfect as we don't block anyone anymore as we've also experienced the other profile or signing back up trick."

Great idea. Will do this also. Thank you

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"And I will have to do the searching and initial messaging from now on. Will also update my profile later today."

You say this like it is a bad thing. I always recommend this to nee ladies. Treat it as a shopping trip and you are only looking at items you fancy...not spam that hits your inbox.

Wink the guys you like and they will be able to message you. Then sit back, and see if any are interested in you too.

Voila, you are now enjoying your Fab experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""And I will have to do the searching and initial messaging from now on. Will also update my profile later today."

You say this like it is a bad thing. I always recommend this to nee ladies. Treat it as a shopping trip and you are only looking at items you fancy...not spam that hits your inbox.

Wink the guys you like and they will be able to message you. Then sit back, and see if any are interested in you too.

Voila, you are now enjoying your Fab experience.

Didn't mean to sound like it was a bad thing. I realise it's the best way forward. Just more time consuming but can see the benefits in it so will be definitely doing it. Winking is a great suggestion so will do this also. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure if I'm doing things right on here.

I receive quite a fair amount of messages (with filters on) if I reply "no thank you" 9/10 times I get abuse or questioned.

If I don't reply & delete as per the sites FAQ I get abuse calling me the most hateful things.

I've had a few guys I've blocked create new profile and act like either it's the first time I've heard from them or they hurl abuse at me again from this new profile.

Couples are messaging me and it turns out the female is "not available" all of a sudden only the male.

I've reported so many profiles and messages and don't have the time to report them all for things that go against the sites rules like offering me money, drugs etc

I really wanted to just have some fun and finding it very difficult and very scary at times. And the things people write when being abusive is horrible

Is there any other women on here who can offer me some advice on how they handle things as I really don't want to leave the site.

Only reply to anybody you are interested in. That will stop the why not type of questions.

If anybody sends you an abusive email for not replying and deleting their email report the profile and keep the email in your inbox. Then block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you so much for your reply.

I don't really want to turn off messaging for all as I could potentially be missing out on someone that I want to pursue further with.

Such a dilemma. I guess it's a case "shut up and put up with it" and ignore them. Although this hard at times as some messages are very hurtful and can be very intimidating and scary.

I must add this is not isolated to male profiles but couples also. And even verified ones as I have filters set.

Aww i'll look after you

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

""And I will have to do the searching and initial messaging from now on. Will also update my profile later today."

You say this like it is a bad thing. I always recommend this to nee ladies. Treat it as a shopping trip and you are only looking at items you fancy...not spam that hits your inbox.

Wink the guys you like and they will be able to message you. Then sit back, and see if any are interested in you too.

Voila, you are now enjoying your Fab experience.

It may appear more time consuming, but actually doing the looking yourself takes a few minutes. Trying to sift through 100's of messages will take much longer and you will only get a choice of who wants you, not who you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got sick and tired ofrom everything you have mentioned. Hence now I rarely read my messages never mind reply to them.

I go to a club and find fun there... no drama... no bad words... no hassle

Ohh that explains it.... I've been sending you cock pics and fancy a fuck messages all week

I was starting to think you were a lesbian

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. pmsl you do make me giggle dear sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your self a really agro zteroided up fuck buddy any abusive types arrange to meet n just let him chew on them as and when needed sorted xx Ps numbers on back of post card x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you see a reply to your no thanks or anybody whose message you've deleted, don't open it, just delete it.

Have you got any filters on?

Yeah I have all the filters on.

The trick is not to give a flying fuck. Don't waste your time replying to junk mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are still fairly new. You find you'll get inundated at that time with so many messages. It will calm down, I promise. It sounds harsh, but if you are not interested, it's best to ignore. A dialogue is then not opened, which when one is, can sometimes cause some to be abusive as they don't handle rejection very well. You can usually tell even by not opening messages if they seem abusive... I'd suggest not even opening them. Just report and block. We all get them. But there are also lovely, genuine people on here. Try not to take the abusive messages personally. They are just lashing out in frustration.... It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. I wish you the best of luck and hope you hang on till things die down for you. It does get better, honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the sounds of it, you're on the right track to sustainability

with all the stella and some snakes with tits comments...you'll get there.

I'd say save the sin bin (block button) for total cockends as it's limited to 500 and you'll soon dust through them.

As previously mentioned you can mostly see the pointless emails before opening them and that's where mass delete is your friend.

Open the ones you'd reply to and delete the rest. Those that have taken the time to look beyond your arse or pulse but that arent for you, I preaonally send a 'not for me, thanks. Happy swinging.' (Which my phone predicts with a flourish) and 999 times that works , the odd burk that wants to get lippy, I am happy to bat around for awhile till they either shit it or I block as I've bust them haha.

When I go window shopping I find a wink or a fabbed picture shows the required interest needed, if the guys interested he mostly mails or winks in return. That way I'm opting who I wish to speak to.

Remember after all is said and done, it is what you make it and it's very easy once you become accustomed to the fabulous fucked up world of fab

Hopefully you'll see past the fruit bats and massive masterbaters and have lots of fun and frolics xx

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By *alifaxLaD29Man
over a year ago

shelf

I don't know what is going on but I don't seem to be getting any meets or messages from women or couples is there something wrong with my profile or do I need to change anything please can someone help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know what is going on but I don't seem to be getting any meets or messages from women or couples is there something wrong with my profile or do I need to change anything please can someone help "

You need to go start your own thread maybe people will offer advise regarding your profile there

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Try doing a forum search for 'profile advice'

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Maybe your doing it RIGHT!

If you say No and get abuse by return then the idiot definitely isn't worth meeting - suggest you add them to your block list.

it will help you filter them out and stop them contacting you again.

Resign yourself to the fact they probably arn't genuine anyway. So no loss there. Having a thick skin on here also helps.

Most genuine experienced guys would either accept it or send you a "OK np happy hunting" or something similar.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"Not sure if I'm doing things right on here.

I receive quite a fair amount of messages (with filters on) if I reply "no thank you" 9/10 times I get abuse or questioned.

If I don't reply & delete as per the sites FAQ I get abuse calling me the most hateful things.

I've had a few guys I've blocked create new profile and act like either it's the first time I've heard from them or they hurl abuse at me again from this new profile.

Couples are messaging me and it turns out the female is "not available" all of a sudden only the male.

I've reported so many profiles and messages and don't have the time to report them all for things that go against the sites rules like offering me money, drugs etc

I really wanted to just have some fun and finding it very difficult and very scary at times. And the things people write when being abusive is horrible

Is there any other women on here who can offer me some advice on how they handle things as I really don't want to leave the site.

A lot of guys can't take rejection then choose to abuse you ,it's a guy trait but a very bad one

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By *eaded_BazMan
over a year ago

Truro

Hey OP

I don't think you are alone in your experience sadly, far too many rotten apples spoiling what should be a fun and pleasurable lifestyle. I've been fortunate in meeting some genuine people but I do hear nightmare stories like yours. I guess you can only do what you have done and as per your profile change the way you do things, I wish you luck and I'm sure you'll find something that works for you soon. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got to know some people off this site, met a few at a social and received some favourable verifications. Unfortunately, as will always be the case on sites such as this, single men seem to outnumber other groups by far. When I first joined, it was a lot easier to get talking to women and couples. Unfortunately, it is a minority within the single men category that screw it up for everyone but that is always the case.

I have found it easier if I see someone who interests me to catch them in chat where possible. Sometimes, by joining in it breaks the ice so if you do then message the response is more favourable.

Don't despair OP, there's still some decent ones out here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice and kind words but I've decided to leave the world of fabs.

Wish you all the very best of luck. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An you wonder why many women are not on the site. I get loads of these messages especially if I politely decline.

Don't be polite if your not interested in them just block.

An I've also found pre arranged meets only work 70% of the time. So just look for someone when horny on the meet me. Or have a social then pre arrange.

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