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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it me or are there loads of fakes on here and people with all talk and no balls.

Seem to say they wanna meet but chat first, I am happy with that. Chat for a couple of days get intimate. Suggest meeting either block or ignore.

Just don't get it any help would be appreciated

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

Possibly your coming across as pushy?

Wait for them to ask for a meet?

Chances are they are fantasists though, no way of getting round that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They just wanked wank material..... keep looking

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I get that alot.. at first I used to think something I said... but after a while just come to realisation to expect nothing on here.. then if a meet does occurr its a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am not pushy at all an letting everyone make the first move in the conversation,about which way it takes. They have said let's chat first before a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah seems that way

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By *ssex_VixenWoman
over a year ago

Maldon

Guys can be as bad as any other on here, so many want to sext but won't meet. Time wasters through and through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be frustrating i suggest arranging to go for a drink and chat then see if they want to go further at end of the day they need to feel safe in your company as your a complete stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe when chatting to them you said something that they found offputting so they no longer want to chat to you.

Often i find it's easier to block or ignore such guys rather than try to explain why I'm no longer interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't mean they are always fakes though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't even offer intimacy on a first meet now.

anyway, the more your observe and question something the better you are able to understand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could it be that they just decide you aren't for them.

A conversation does not guarantee a fuck but it seems you are the common factor here.

What is it about your approach that make people change their minds?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op maybe you need a new approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I realise that just talking does not guarantee sex. I enjoy getting to know people. When you chat for 3 hours solid in one evening getting all intimate. Giving them what they want to hear in a non pushy way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I realise that just talking does not guarantee sex. I enjoy getting to know people. When you chat for 3 hours solid in one evening getting all intimate. Giving them what they want to hear in a non pushy way.

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What's the common denominator in all these conversations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I realise that just talking does not guarantee sex. I enjoy getting to know people. When you chat for 3 hours solid in one evening getting all intimate. Giving them what they want to hear in a non pushy way.

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your one and only messages to me implies otherwise. although i do feel it isn't pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Giving them what they want to hear in a non pushy way.

"

Maybe they realise that you are just saying anything to get in their pants and don't come across as genuine

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It might be that they are confused that you describe yourself as straight but have a verification from a tv/ts and maybe chat a while to gauge compatibility. Don't worry about it. There's nothing you can do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Giving them what they want to hear in a non pushy way.

Maybe they realise that you are just saying anything to get in their pants and don't come across as genuine"

I guess that could be taken that way. But am answering as genuine and honest as possible. Am not one to lie to get what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people in places like this are here for the fantasy aspect and not to put it into reality.

Its just how it is.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Surely chatting doesn't mean an automatic entitlement does it?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I don't know what a realistic timescale is between initial,messages and actually meeting someone. However real life for most takes over and many have to plan in advance. That doesn't make them a timewaster or a fantasist.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Surely chatting doesn't mean an automatic entitlement does it?"

Well, yeah. Cos when people say 'hi' to me I always think they mean 'hi, we want you for sex right now'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely chatting doesn't mean an automatic entitlement does it?

Well, yeah. Cos when people say 'hi' to me I always think they mean 'hi, we want you for sex right now' "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I realise that just talking does not guarantee sex. I enjoy getting to know people. When you chat for 3 hours solid in one evening getting all intimate. Giving them what they want to hear in a non pushy way.

"

Then the next day you ask them to meet, they give you a valid reason for not being able to meet immediately and possibly suggest another day etc when they can meet....are they time wasting or are you because damn it you want to meet now not in a weeks time!!

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

It's possible they just got cold feet, when the fantasy starts to become real it can be scary for some, doesn't mean they are fake , I suppose you could say they are wasting your time but might not be intentional by them.

Happens to us couples all the time too

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I like to think I've learned how to tell the wank chatters now from the meeters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys can be as bad as any other on here, so many want to sext but won't meet. Time wasters through and through "

Here, use mine....

*hands over club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any balls...none of my own, anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to think I've learned how to tell the wank chatters now from the meeters "

They have a wankerish aura about them, don't they.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I like to think I've learned how to tell the wank chatters now from the meeters

They have a wankerish aura about them, don't they."

Yes

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By *ragon-tattMan
over a year ago

runcorn


"I like to think I've learned how to tell the wank chatters now from the meeters

They have a wankerish aura about them, don't they."

Isn't that why women keep them in their purse?

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