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"A lot of women check out your profile before they read the message so I guess it's important for it to read right and have decent pics etc. Otherwise it's just a perseverance thing, women get inundated on here." this for me. i need to feel some level of being able to trust you as well as find you physically attractive. sometimes persistence can pay off so long as every time you come across as ok to deal with. you in general, not you yourself OP. i'm looking for more than fuck and go meets, with fuck and go it would mostly be down to attraction and horniness levels at that time of looking. | |||
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"A lot of women check out your profile before they read the message so I guess it's important for it to read right and have decent pics etc. Otherwise it's just a perseverance thing, women get inundated on here." I hear what you're saying , but alot just delete without looking at the profile as sure you know but being a site supporter you can see who has looked at your profile which is why I believe it to be the message and is the reason why im asking for tips/help so I can try and make myself stand out/intrigue the lady in messaging | |||
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"A lot of women check out your profile before they read the message so I guess it's important for it to read right and have decent pics etc. Otherwise it's just a perseverance thing, women get inundated on here. I hear what you're saying , but alot just delete without looking at the profile as sure you know but being a site supporter you can see who has looked at your profile which is why I believe it to be the message and is the reason why im asking for tips/help so I can try and make myself stand out/intrigue the lady in messaging " Your settings can be changed so that you don't show up in that list though, so they may have viewed and not been interested. Your not alone in this, we have it a lot too. Weirdly we seem to get it with people we've actually been messaging with a bit... Bear in mind that women get inundated with messages, most of which are very poor and consist of just "Hi" or "Wanna fuck?" What sort of messages do you send? | |||
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"A lot of women check out your profile before they read the message so I guess it's important for it to read right and have decent pics etc. Otherwise it's just a perseverance thing, women get inundated on here. I hear what you're saying , but alot just delete without looking at the profile as sure you know but being a site supporter you can see who has looked at your profile which is why I believe it to be the message and is the reason why im asking for tips/help so I can try and make myself stand out/intrigue the lady in messaging " But you can also look at other people's profiles incognito so you wouldn't know who's looking at them | |||
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"OP when you say "I saw your profile and thought I would come and say hi" I find I am much more likely to reply if I know someone has actually read my profile and looked at my pics. Say something like I particularly like your 16 June picture because you look so sexy in that corset or I see you are into role play. I am too. Something to make me think you are messaging me personally, not sending the identical mesage to 100 a day. Sally" Brilliant advice on personalising a message, I get lots of "I read your profile ......" followed by a load of guff which categorically proves they clearly haven't. Also, OP, for me (and I'm fully aware that I am possibly alone in this) the trend for sticking a random 'lol' or 'haha' into a phrase that really isn't likely to have had you rolling in the aisles irks me. | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue " What else do you think could be the issue then please | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue What else do you think could be the issue then please" Your profile, but we can't give advice on that unless you ask us to. | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue What else do you think could be the issue then please Your profile, but we can't give advice on that unless you ask us to." I'm asking as I said I'm quite useless at what to put when writing as my mind just goes blank and then don't want to sound sleazy , Its different when in person chatting or having fun | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue What else do you think could be the issue then please Your profile, but we can't give advice on that unless you ask us to. I'm asking as I said I'm quite useless at what to put when writing as my mind just goes blank and then don't want to sound sleazy , Its different when in person chatting or having fun " Why would you need to write anything sleazy? We are not allowed to comment on your profile unless you tell us we can. | |||
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"Hi all , I'm fairly new to all this and I'm having trouble breaking the ice in messages , I know it will be what I'm putting and that I won't be everyone's taste of guy but all sent messages just get deleted , would some kind person be able to help with advice on the best way to start and what sort of content to put please, I'm photo verified and and a site supporter to try and show I'm not a time waster , all help appreciated thanks " I've always found that you need a fat polar bear... That usually * breaks the ice*! | |||
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"I've always found that you need a fat polar bear... That usually * breaks the ice*! " *groans* | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue What else do you think could be the issue then please Your profile, but we can't give advice on that unless you ask us to. I'm asking as I said I'm quite useless at what to put when writing as my mind just goes blank and then don't want to sound sleazy , Its different when in person chatting or having fun Why would you need to write anything sleazy? We are not allowed to comment on your profile unless you tell us we can." I wouldn't want to write anything sleazy it's just I'm sure there are people who do and I don't want to be one of them I give you permission to comment on my profile I want help me improve it | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue What else do you think could be the issue then please Your profile, but we can't give advice on that unless you ask us to. I'm asking as I said I'm quite useless at what to put when writing as my mind just goes blank and then don't want to sound sleazy , Its different when in person chatting or having fun Why would you need to write anything sleazy? We are not allowed to comment on your profile unless you tell us we can. I wouldn't want to write anything sleazy it's just I'm sure there are people who do and I don't want to be one of them I give you permission to comment on my profile I want help me improve it " I already did, but in a round about way. You need photos that show your sex appeal, and a profile text that suggests you can meet someone's fantasy. (Though I do accept the the latter may take time to impress). | |||
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"For me that message is the same as nearly everyone else's. Though it may not be just your message that's an issue What else do you think could be the issue then please Your profile, but we can't give advice on that unless you ask us to. I'm asking as I said I'm quite useless at what to put when writing as my mind just goes blank and then don't want to sound sleazy , Its different when in person chatting or having fun Why would you need to write anything sleazy? We are not allowed to comment on your profile unless you tell us we can. I wouldn't want to write anything sleazy it's just I'm sure there are people who do and I don't want to be one of them I give you permission to comment on my profile I want help me improve it " Then don't be one of them. It's your choice, it's not an and/or situation. Read some profiles of men who meet a lot and put yourself in the shoes of the woman reading yours. As we often say on here, would you meet you? | |||
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"Ok, your profile starts with a rant. Not sexy. You look miserable in your pics. Not sexy. This is meant to be fun, we want to meet happy people " I am happy person , was at work when I took some of the pics and me not happy then | |||
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"Hi all , I'm fairly new to all this and I'm having trouble breaking the ice in messages , I know it will be what I'm putting and that I won't be everyone's taste of guy but all sent messages just get deleted , would some kind person be able to help with advice on the best way to start and what sort of content to put please, I'm photo verified and and a site supporter to try and show I'm not a time waster , all help appreciated thanks " Bare in mind the hundreds of other men trying to message the same girl eventually she will go on a deleting spree so it may not be intentional.. Just keep at it and eventually you'll get a break. If it helps I struggle to get replies myself | |||
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"Swinging and dating sites are the equivalent of buying a toaster in the Argos catalogue. You look at the pictures and decide which one you like the look of then you might read the description and buy it or email them. " e v I like this. But cant bothered shopping often. | |||
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