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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey, Jack and myself are considering visiting a swinger club in the next few weeks and we were hoping to get some friendly advice for going. How do things normally play out? What do we wear? Is there anything we should know about?.

We're both pretty new to this.

Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks in advance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doubt you'll be nervous for your first visit....I was lol! Most club staff are very friendly and will show you around on your first visit

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Ok so here we go...

Have a good research of the favour clubs in the scene.

The good ones are popular for a reason and in our experience worth travelling for (consider making a weekend of it if you can).

Regarding what to wear if it's a wet club then you'll be getting undressed as soon as you get there he in towel/boxer her in underwear or towel.

If it's a dress club then just think 'sexy nightclub' maybe with potential for her to go down to sexy underwear if she wants later. Take something easy for her to change into after play later as it's more convenient (think stretch fit dress).

Put together a little shag bag for lippy, wipes, condoms, locker key

Take your own condoms so you know how old they are and consider skyns as they are latex free and cater for that allergy.

First time out go on a couples only night as it is a different atmosphere in most places and less pressured. Remember a polite no thanks should be enough but don't be frightened to turn that up a notch if you need to. No one should touch without permission, ever unless your are in a specific area for that.

Always contact your chosen club before you go and check entry requirements. Just to check it out and the approach of the people that run it should tell you a lot.

Consider a pre-Club social beforehand with others going it really helps break the ice and get you settled.

Before you go decide what you are each prepared to do and don't waver from that first time out. Then discuss after and alter for next time if you choose.

Don't drink to much! It's easy to do and not ideal. It's not attractive and it leads to misunderstandings.

Lastly, chillout. It's fun, you don't need to do anything you don't want to. If you don't want to play first time there no one should expect you to...

The Vanilla Alternative is out favourite club and we think really good for a first outing. We're there this weekend if you're free lol

Have fun sexies xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah slightly more revealing than normal night out wear, sexy underwear and an open mind

Don't feel pressurised chat and chat to as many people as you can

Try and relax and enjoy yourselves

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

We went to our first club Saturday just gone.

We would say don't worry, it's nowhere near as weird or traumatic as you imagine, we felt really at ease after only 30 minutes inside, if it's anything like our experience you will find everybody so friendly it will just blow you away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so here we go...

Have a good research of the favour clubs in the scene.

The good ones are popular for a reason and in our experience worth travelling for (consider making a weekend of it if you can).

Regarding what to wear if it's a wet club then you'll be getting undressed as soon as you get there he in towel/boxer her in underwear or towel.

If it's a dress club then just think 'sexy nightclub' maybe with potential for her to go down to sexy underwear if she wants later. Take something easy for her to change into after play later as it's more convenient (think stretch fit dress).

Put together a little shag bag for lippy, wipes, condoms, locker key

Take your own condoms so you know how old they are and consider skyns as they are latex free and cater for that allergy.

First time out go on a couples only night as it is a different atmosphere in most places and less pressured. Remember a polite no thanks should be enough but don't be frightened to turn that up a notch if you need to. No one should touch without permission, ever unless your are in a specific area for that.

Always contact your chosen club before you go and check entry requirements. Just to check it out and the approach of the people that run it should tell you a lot.

Consider a pre-Club social beforehand with others going it really helps break the ice and get you settled.

Before you go decide what you are each prepared to do and don't waver from that first time out. Then discuss after and alter for next time if you choose.

Don't drink to much! It's easy to do and not ideal. It's not attractive and it leads to misunderstandings.

Lastly, chillout. It's fun, you don't need to do anything you don't want to. If you don't want to play first time there no one should expect you to...

The Vanilla Alternative is out favourite club and we think really good for a first outing. We're there this weekend if you're free lol

Have fun sexies xxxx"

Perfect advice!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to our first club soon and grateful for all the advice from everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are hoping to attend our first club soon too, thank you for the advice, it's really helpful!

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By *inger SiMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Also worth considering the biggest and sexiest fab social the ffff at Xtasia's at West Bromwich. It's really lovely club and the FFFF attracts people from all over the country. Both the experienced and totally new folks to the scene.

The club itself has a very relaxed social lounge and great dance floor both away from the play areas so it gives you a chance to break the ice and socialise without any pressure to play.

I wish you all a fab first time popping your club cherries.

xxx

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By *aydeesclubCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

You should take a look at the clubs section for the clubs closest to you, then check the reviews from people who have visited the clubs. Our club (jaydees) is very good for Newbies.

We are quite a long way from you though as are the others mentioned in this thread.

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