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The "comedown" afterwards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have come to recognise that when I play, it takes something out of me. And I find I need to build in little periods of restoration.

The "naughtier" I am, the bigger effort required.

I used to see this as a flaw, but I kind of go with it now, and feel better for it, I think.

Does anyone else go through this?

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

Yes, we both do.

I think this is why men fall asleep straight away!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I can fall asleep quick

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Endorphin rush followed by a lull. It's entirely natural and similar to sub drop. A good walk or music helps me. And chocolate but I an trying not to do that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just chill , enjoy the fact you've had some fun and don't worry .The old say what goes up must come down , try not worry about the fun you've had x that's what life , sex is for ..x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Endorphin rush followed by a lull. It's entirely natural and similar to sub drop. A good walk or music helps me. And chocolate but I an trying not to do that one."

Sub drop, I knew I had heard of something similar.

And yes, chocolate's an easy fall back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just chill , enjoy the fact you've had some fun and don't worry .The old say what goes up must come down , try not worry about the fun you've had x that's what life , sex is for ..x "

There is an element of that. I spent today kind of recovering. Like a hangover except i wasn't drinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Miss N) zone out (similar to what a sub does) and let my senses and reactions take over.......once play has finished, its like I am thoroughly exhausted and takes a while for me to come round...plenty if water/sugary drinks are needed and sometimes I get the munchies!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I (Miss N) zone out (similar to what a sub does) and let my senses and reactions take over.......once play has finished, its like I am thoroughly exhausted and takes a while for me to come round...plenty if water/sugary drinks are needed and sometimes I get the munchies! "

I definitely get into a zone.

I think, then, that I just be aware of it. Know it's bot uncommon, and deal with it as a consequence. Stock up on good things beforehand and enjoy my free sundays!

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

J gets sub drop. After a club night it leaves us very close and having a high sex drive for the rest of the week. But we have thought to ask about feeling guiltly and a bit weird about it at times, As in omg what are we doing, it's just all wrong etc, etc.

Does anyone else get this ?

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"J gets sub drop. After a club night it leaves us very close and having a high sex drive for the rest of the week. But we have thought to ask about feeling guiltly and a bit weird about it at times, As in omg what are we doing, it's just all wrong etc, etc.

Does anyone else get this ?

"

I am finding the more i get the more i want. Clubs partys spa's so addictive, but yes you need to find a healthy balance! X.

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"J gets sub drop. After a club night it leaves us very close and having a high sex drive for the rest of the week. But we have thought to ask about feeling guiltly and a bit weird about it at times, As in omg what are we doing, it's just all wrong etc, etc.

Does anyone else get this ?

"

I am finding the more i get the more i want. Clubs partys spa's so addictive, but yes you need to find a healthy balance! X.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"J gets sub drop. After a club night it leaves us very close and having a high sex drive for the rest of the week. But we have thought to ask about feeling guiltly and a bit weird about it at times, As in omg what are we doing, it's just all wrong etc, etc.

Does anyone else get this ?

"

I used to, in the early days with my ex. And a little more when I started again. I think it was partly shaking off the expectations of what "should" happen versus the running fantasy.

Understanding and reconciling two very different parts of life has been.... interesting. My sex drive would peak and then drop. I needed to be valued for something other than sex for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have come to recognise that when I play, it takes something out of me. And I find I need to build in little periods of restoration.

The "naughtier" I am, the bigger effort required.

I used to see this as a flaw, but I kind of go with it now, and feel better for it, I think.

Does anyone else go through this? "

In a similar vein I hate the return to normal life after a club visit especially if we've made a weekend of it. Find that I'm chasing the next visit and feel deflated by normality sometimes if there's a big gap between visits.

-Dan.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I often get the drop. Our situation is quite different so I think its a mixture of so many emotions on top of the come down. I find keeping busy works best for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes me a day at least to get over a very physical fuck. All nighters kill me as I suffer from sleep withdrawal and body pain.

A 90 minute session with one of my regular partners took a couple of days to recover from, purely because of the stress it put on my body.

I doubt I have many years left in me.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

The last meet I had with someone I have a great bond with left me so low. I was so emotional the whole day. First time that's happened for me. Was like a really bad pmt with no rage but just the "oh woe is me" feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep Endorphins are a hell of a drug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The higher I go the harder I drop, even upto the next day i can be on a real downer and I've found a quiet few hours under a blanket with a cup of tea is needed... that and lots of cuddles!

Mrs x

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Never felt that, enjoy and get on with life?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never felt that, enjoy and get on with life?"

Life doesn't stop. And enjoying is part of the process. I thought it might be helpful to hear other experiences.

I'm glad you don"t

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The higher I go the harder I drop, even upto the next day i can be on a real downer and I've found a quiet few hours under a blanket with a cup of tea is needed... that and lots of cuddles!

Mrs x"

Tea. I didn't have tea today!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Mine is usually brought on from a session where I've switched and relaxed to be a couples plaything. I associate it with sleep deprivation, total exhaustion and a bloody good night. I need a coffee, shower and 12 hours of sleep (which rarely) happens. In essence I'm back to my fighting best after a few days. Longer if I've managed back to back playdays.

Glad you're having fun OP and seem to enjoy the hairier chest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post, great to know it's not just me.

Certainly the better the play time the harder the drop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you're treating sex like a drug and the validation and desire has become the high. PS: Thats not a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like you're treating sex like a drug and the validation and desire has become the high. PS: Thats not a good idea. "

If there was no kick from it, why eould anyone fuck? The pleasure is why we all do it. Do you not get any pleasure from it?

Also.. validation? No. Sex does not validate.

Perhaps you'd like to explain further.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I have come to recognise that when I play, it takes something out of me. And I find I need to build in little periods of restoration.

The "naughtier" I am, the bigger effort required.

I used to see this as a flaw, but I kind of go with it now, and feel better for it, I think.

Does anyone else go through this? "

its the come down after the endorphin and adrenaline hit of great sex which is natural. the longer and more intense the sex the bigger the come down can be . nothing to worry about its just a bi product of a intense experience.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

its just a recreational game of sex when we fabbing clubing ect.fantastic feeling in the moment .but can relive the the fun together for a while talking about whatever in our sex play at home .we a thrillseeking couple .and have had lots of sexual highs on fab [and elsewhere ]

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"J gets sub drop. After a club night it leaves us very close and having a high sex drive for the rest of the week. But we have thought to ask about feeling guiltly and a bit weird about it at times, As in omg what are we doing, it's just all wrong etc, etc.

Does anyone else get this ?

I used to, in the early days with my ex. And a little more when I started again. I think it was partly shaking off the expectations of what "should" happen versus the running fantasy.

Understanding and reconciling two very different parts of life has been.... interesting. My sex drive would peak and then drop. I needed to be valued for something other than sex for a while."

that makes perfect sense to me and I would add that this is the reason why I do not engage in meet and fuck , I prefer a much more date like experience because such experiences mean both parties have to put more into the experience that just turning up fucking and moving on . a date experience by its very nature is a more giving experience that a using one .

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I have come to recognise that when I play, it takes something out of me. And I find I need to build in little periods of restoration.

The "naughtier" I am, the bigger effort required.

I used to see this as a flaw, but I kind of go with it now, and feel better for it, I think.

Does anyone else go through this? "

I feel energised after a good play session, feel full of life Funnily enough though; if I've had to resort to having a wank, I feel sort of 'wasted' ......

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