FabSwingers.com forum: What am i doing wrong ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all. Been here for about 3 months (yes not a long time i know) but not sure what im doing wrong hardly get any replies from messages sent and im not rude and always send a full message not one liners. Yeah im not the best looking and have a few extra pounds. But ggrr its frustrating. Any help would be most appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're being negative my lovely, bit of a turn off if I'm honest.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You've got a real downer on the way you look. Do you realise your opinion isn't objective?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Ewww I read the first line if your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your heading as status is a bit needy mate and the profile seems a bit me me me if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at your profile, thought you were attrative then read the negative bits and was put off, oh, and smile sweet cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ewww I read the first line if your profile"

Yep and that, ewwwwwww

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

"You're being negative my lovely, bit of a turn off if I'm honest."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your comments all taken on board. Not sure how to promote myself to be honest. Regarding me me me shall i put what im looking for or like doing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't put yourself down would be a start. Be the best version of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your comments all taken on board. Not sure how to promote myself to be honest. Regarding me me me shall i put what im looking for or like doing ??"

What are you looking for on here, what can you offer a potential meet and what do you like to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe look at your profile wording

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and get rid of that awful first line!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Thank you all for your comments all taken on board. Not sure how to promote myself to be honest. Regarding me me me shall i put what im looking for or like doing ??"

I'll pretend you answered me.....

Basically, it's not up to you to decide whether or not you're ugly. Even if you think so, you're not meeting yourself, other people are and they might think you're good looking. So don't start on a negative or have a negative in the middle not end on a negative.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Oh and get rid of that awful first line!"

Can I post my big envelope in your letter box ?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Thank you all for your comments all taken on board. Not sure how to promote myself to be honest. Regarding me me me shall i put what im looking for or like doing ??"

Do a forum search for 'Profile Advice' and read what the good people of Fab have said many times before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and get rid of that awful first line!

Can I post my big envelope in your letter box ?

Its got a bit of a wonky flap at the minute so don't force it, don't want it dropping off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and get rid of that awful first line!

Can I post my big envelope in your letter box ?

Its got a bit of a wonky flap at the minute so don't force it, don't want it dropping off! "

Sounds so rude lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol wonky flap. Ive just redone my profile if you would be kind enough to have a look and see if its ok ??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Lol wonky flap. Ive just redone my profile if you would be kind enough to have a look and see if its ok ??"

No, it's not ok. How long did you spend reading all the forum threads about 'profile advice'? I can tell you - you didn't. How long did you spend changing your profile? I can tell you - about 10 minutes. Spend an hour on it. It's the main thing that will get you meets. If you don't make an effort with it, then it won't attract anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol wonky flap. Ive just redone my profile if you would be kind enough to have a look and see if its ok ??

Well said sir!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it get you down mate. I’ve been told I’m negative here by most but I do not let it get me down because its no skin of my nose where most people can be mean online I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't let it get you down mate. I’ve been told I’m negative here by most but I do not let it get me down because its no skin of my nose where most people can be mean online I think.

We are not being mean, we are pointing out why he may be struggling and coming accross as negative is not going to help him be successful.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Your status still moans about how ugly you think you are??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your status still moans about how ugly you think you are??"

Agree. Reinforces what I said, you were slightly more to the point however ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No one is being mean. Im just glad there are some good people here who have taken the time to view my profile and given me feedback. Thank you everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is being mean. Im just glad there are some good people here who have taken the time to view my profile and given me feedback. Thank you everyone."

You're welcome my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loose the cock pic, put it in your friend only pics save it for a surprise. If your going to put a face pic up smile

I'd loose the ' no 69' in your marriage too, comes across a little negative.

Good luck

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It seems better, did Flamehaired write it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't let it get you down mate. I’ve been told I’m negative here by most but I do not let it get me down because its no skin of my nose where most people can be mean online I think.

We are not being mean, we are pointing out why he may be struggling and coming accross as negative is not going to help him be successful."

If you help every man to get more success then you will have no time for fun then lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No one is being mean. Im just glad there are some good people here who have taken the time to view my profile and given me feedback. Thank you everyone."

It's a lot better than when you first asked. Well done you for taking action and being proactive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems better, did Flamehaired write it?

Not guilty, not bonkers enough for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No flamehaired didnt it was all me...lol thank you everyone for your feedback. I thought fab was full of attention seekers but there are some really nice people out there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can anyone photoshop my nose on my new profile pic ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks pretty good to me. Although personally I would re-phrase the bit about saying you were married and were never allowed to 69. It comes across as a bit bitter to me (but that is just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah have removed thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah have removed thank you xx"

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By *reative_EdgeMan
over a year ago

Brighton / Hove Area

I'd suggest removing "massage master" as a tag line. It's like you are waving your tail plumage at everyone, saying look at me, look at me.

It's cool to state that you enjoy giving massages, but don't think that ladies and couples will be looking at your profile and say 'hey this guy says he gives great massages, let's play with him.' Don't try to sell a skill you have, it comes across as needy.

Also remove the line about... 'have my cock sucked while you look up at me' You explain this fantasy or scenario once you've made a connection.

Keep re-writing your profile progressively. When you meet people and learn what suits you and what doesn't it will evolve with time to reflect you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with saying you like massages, I love them and giving them and after all, waving yout tail feathers saying look at me is the whole point of this site isn't it???

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