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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch" Yes your silhouette is ugly  | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly "So he right and should just leave here then? | |||
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"Put his pic up We taken details down as husband didn't want us to be on for a while It was just we had a talk and a big argument about it he says I can play but he to ugly to be here and has low self esteem about his body at mo even though he lost weight I don't even see him naked No been mainly couples contacting us" Hide your account and concentrate on helping your husband build his self esteem. You can always come back when he feels better about himself. | |||
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"Because a lot of couples are run by hubby, messages etc all him. He doesn't give two shits what you look like within reason and will concentrate on your female. Then again it might just be a bloke on his own & who's to say your not?
S"Can say we both on here he usually goes on forum but have notices he not been on fab in a few weeks that's why I asking after our talk | |||
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"Because a lot of couples are run by hubby, messages etc all him. He doesn't give two shits what you look like within reason and will concentrate on your female. Then again it might just be a bloke on his own & who's to say your not?
S"That a good point been trying that and now he says what the use , he really gone shy even around me | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?"Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck  | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck "I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch" I am afraid that no one can answer this without seeing pictures. | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on"If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more. | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch I am afraid that no one can answer this without seeing pictures." Will try get a pic he done so well lost two stone in weight and works out . We came in this together I'd hate to not have him involved Thanx foe advice | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch I am afraid that no one can answer this without seeing pictures. Will try get a pic he done so well lost two stone in weight and works out . We came in this together I'd hate to not have him involved Thanx foe advice " Don't post a picture up without his permission. | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on
If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more. "Doesn't even seem to be interested in sex since his operation in August but he says he fine letting me enjoy swinging | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch I am afraid that no one can answer this without seeing pictures. Will try get a pic he done so well lost two stone in weight and works out . We came in this together I'd hate to not have him involved Thanx foe advice " If he doesn't want to be involved is he happy for you to continue on your own, if so you need a single profile. But if he was my hubby I would be addressing his insecurities and certainly would be hiding the profile until he had made a decision whether he wanted to be on a swinging site. Sorry to sound harsh. | |||
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"OP if one or both of you are not happy then i think you should take a break from swinging. You don't need to delete your account, just hide it for a while and come back when things are better for you both. Swinging can break a relationship if you are not both happy and secure in each other. Concentrate on each other first and foremost. Once things are better for you both you can always come back to swinging if you both want to." We talked and he said he happy and loves being with me and says I have needs he can't give me so just asking advice think I will hide profile for a while and see if it get better he won't even go to a club with friends ours that really worried me | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on
If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more. "Strange thread. No pics. Husband doesn't want to show pics. Real swingers or mayb wife not swinging anymore and only hubby and pretending. Could be wrong and apologise if I am. Just a weird message | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on
If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more.
Doesn't even seem to be interested in sex since his operation in August but he says he fine letting me enjoy swinging
"As I said before it sounds like you need to be concentrating on him. If he's feeling low after surgery and suffering from low self esteem there's a problem somewhere. Forget swinging. | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch I am afraid that no one can answer this without seeing pictures. Will try get a pic he done so well lost two stone in weight and works out . We came in this together I'd hate to not have him involved Thanx foe advice If he doesn't want to be involved is he happy for you to continue on your own, if so you need a single profile. But if he was my hubby I would be addressing his insecurities and certainly would be hiding the profile until he had made a decision whether he wanted to be on a swinging site. Sorry to sound harsh." Your so right and I had to sneak that pic him on here as he hides as soon s I get camra out , he even turns away if some one tries to take pictures of our families he just says he hate his picture And this morning he told me he to ugly to be on here anymore think he had a few bad messages he hidden from me | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly "Hahaha | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on
If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more.
Strange thread. No pics. Husband doesn't want to show pics. Real swingers or mayb wife not swinging anymore and only hubby and pretending. Could be wrong and apologise if I am. Just a weird message "This is his wife I only found out he deleted pic and our profile text this morning I thought he enjoyed this as much as I did , could have been so wrong could I? | |||
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"I think that if he didnt want his pics on here you shouldnt of put one back on without his permission. Dont think that will help his self esteem issues if he finds out." I'm one those people who want a honest answer without his pic how do I get that ? He was happy to show pic only a day ago? | |||
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"I think that if he didnt want his pics on here you shouldnt of put one back on without his permission. Dont think that will help his self esteem issues if he finds out. I'm one those people who want a honest answer without his pic how do I get that ? He was happy to show pic only a day ago?" I think theres an underlying issue. I dont think it would make a difference to him to hear he is attractive from other people. | |||
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"I think that if he didnt want his pics on here you shouldnt of put one back on without his permission. Dont think that will help his self esteem issues if he finds out. I'm one those people who want a honest answer without his pic how do I get that ? He was happy to show pic only a day ago?" Putting his pic up when you know that he is not happy with it is a massive betrayal from you as a wife. It sounds like swinging should be the last thing on your mind and if you loved your husband you would see that and be working on that. Is swinging, and your needs, more importable than your marriage? Only you can answer that and act on the results. | |||
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"I think that if he didnt want his pics on here you shouldnt of put one back on without his permission. Dont think that will help his self esteem issues if he finds out. I'm one those people who want a honest answer without his pic how do I get that ? He was happy to show pic only a day ago? Putting his pic up when you know that he is not happy with it is a massive betrayal from you as a wife. It sounds like swinging should be the last thing on your mind and if you loved your husband you would see that and be working on that. Is swinging, and your needs, more importable than your marriage? Only you can answer that and act on the results. " | |||
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"I think that if he didnt want his pics on here you shouldnt of put one back on without his permission. Dont think that will help his self esteem issues if he finds out. I'm one those people who want a honest answer without his pic how do I get that ? He was happy to show pic only a day ago? Putting his pic up when you know that he is not happy with it is a massive betrayal from you as a wife. It sounds like swinging should be the last thing on your mind and if you loved your husband you would see that and be working on that. Is swinging, and your needs, more importable than your marriage? Only you can answer that and act on the results. " yes your right I will delete his image and our profile | |||
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"Found a picture of him so it on profile Feels so long ago since seen him smile was taken as he was renovating his flats" He doesn't look so bad. A hair comb and smarten up and smile would do the trick | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on
If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more.
Strange thread. No pics. Husband doesn't want to show pics. Real swingers or mayb wife not swinging anymore and only hubby and pretending. Could be wrong and apologise if I am. Just a weird message
This is his wife I only found out he deleted pic and our profile text this morning
I thought he enjoyed this as much as I did , could have been so wrong could I?"He looks lovely but i think you should delete that because he doesn't want his pics shown on here and ask him why he deleted everything. Try and word things so that he can admit to what he feels rather than in a way where he feels he has to agree with you, if it's possible. good luck. | |||
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"After over 2 years on here we had a lot fun , even if only in clubs but only with 1 couple so far. The question I have is why only interested in wife , is husband to ugly for this site? It because all only interested in wife when they get in touch Yes your silhouette is ugly
So he right and should just leave here then?
Sorry, what I was trying to say was, we can't tell what he looks like as we can only see a silhouette! However if he is feeling insecure, that it is another issue to be addressed. Good luck
I was trying to find a pic of him naked but he deleted all his pictures even from our private file on PC so that the best I can show of him he won't let me take a body shot even with cloths on
If he doesn't want you to see him naked he isn't going to want a bunch of strangers looking at him. He might be depressed or anxious or just not interested in swinging any more.
Strange thread. No pics. Husband doesn't want to show pics. Real swingers or mayb wife not swinging anymore and only hubby and pretending. Could be wrong and apologise if I am. Just a weird message
This is his wife I only found out he deleted pic and our profile text this morning
I thought he enjoyed this as much as I did , could have been so wrong could I?
He looks lovely but i think you should delete that because he doesn't want his pics shown on here and ask him why he deleted everything.
Try and word things so that he can admit to what he feels rather than in a way where he feels he has to agree with you, if it's possible.
good luck. "I've deleted his picture and thank you will try and talk with him later xx | |||
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"I have taken your advice all your advice and cancelled my meet tonight and for the foreseeable future till I find out what wrong I won't hide profile as we only have 2 friends on it( he deleted everyone else already) we only chat with on here their more friends than friends with benifits" You can still chat with friends even with your profile hidden. | |||
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"I have taken your advice all your advice and cancelled my meet tonight and for the foreseeable future till I find out what wrong I won't hide profile as we only have 2 friends on it( he deleted everyone else already) we only chat with on here their more friends than friends with benifits" hope you sort it.
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"I have taken your advice all your advice and cancelled my meet tonight and for the foreseeable future till I find out what wrong I won't hide profile as we only have 2 friends on it( he deleted everyone else already) we only chat with on here their more friends than friends with benifits hope you sort it.
don't forget to delete that status.
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"I have taken your advice all your advice and cancelled my meet tonight and for the foreseeable future till I find out what wrong I won't hide profile as we only have 2 friends on it( he deleted everyone else already) we only chat with on here their more friends than friends with benifits hope you sort it.
don't forget to delete that status.
How do you delete this status?"same place you put it up there, there should be something to delete it underneath that box, if not just put a . or something else as a status to get rid of it. | |||
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"If we contact a couple I (f) have to be interested in the husband as I'm straight. " Same for us. Miss is straight so likes to see pics of the guy although this can be sadly lacking in (some) profiles. Seems like you need to have a serious discussion if swinging is for you both. Jack. | |||
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"What on earth was this about. Sounds very mixed up and very confusing xxxxx Suzi "Difficult to say. But sounds like a couple who maybe shouldn't be on here until they've sorted themselves out first. | |||
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"Because a lot of couples are run by hubby, messages etc all him. He doesn't give two shits what you look like within reason and will concentrate on your female. Then again it might just be a bloke on his own & who's to say your not?
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That a good point been trying that and now he says what the use , he really gone shy even around me
"you have a hidden profile... OP, maybe you should take a little break from fab and support your hubby from whatever he's feeling at the moment. Sometimes, fab can be a downer and people start comparing themselves to other "more perfect picture" profiles. I've been there! Show him what he worths to you and that you don't need fab to be happy with him and his body. Hope things get better. HK ( the female ) | |||
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"Put his pic up We taken details down as husband didn't want us to be on for a while It was just we had a talk and a big argument about it he says I can play but he to ugly to be here and has low self esteem about his body at mo even though he lost weight I don't even see him naked No been mainly couples contacting us Hide your account and concentrate on helping your husband build his self esteem. You can always come back when he feels better about himself." this exactly x | |||
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"profile hidden  "Why . They have asked for advice and acted on it. The profile was on display when the OP was done. | |||
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"Put his pic up We taken details down as husband didn't want us to be on for a while It was just we had a talk and a big argument about it he says I can play but he to ugly to be here and has low self esteem about his body at mo even though he lost weight I don't even see him naked No been mainly couples contacting us Hide your account and concentrate on helping your husband build his self esteem. You can always come back when he feels better about himself." Absolutely agree with this if you're not in it together and he has self esteem issues there may be trouble ahead | |||
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"We find women seem to age better the men. We come across very sexy women, but rarely do I find the husband sexy. As a result we decided not to pursue couples. We play with single men, because I prefer to choose my partners, and on return I allow my husband to seek his fulfilment elsewhere, either by playing semi-separately at parties or my him meeting single ladies. " You allow him!!!!!!!! Wow I just love that word "allow"..... | |||
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"We find women seem to age better the men. We come across very sexy women, but rarely do I find the husband sexy. As a result we decided not to pursue couples. We play with single men, because I prefer to choose my partners, and on return I allow my husband to seek his fulfilment elsewhere, either by playing semi-separately at parties or my him meeting single ladies. You allow him!!!!!!!! Wow I just love that word "allow"....." Yes bad choice of word. But we've agreed together what we both can and can't do within the lifestyle. | |||
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"We find women seem to age better the men. We come across very sexy women, but rarely do I find the husband sexy. As a result we decided not to pursue couples. We play with single men, because I prefer to choose my partners, and on return I allow my husband to seek his fulfilment elsewhere, either by playing semi-separately at parties or my him meeting single ladies. You allow him!!!!!!!! Wow I just love that word "allow"..... Yes bad choice of word. But we've agreed together what we both can and can't do within the lifestyle." We have similar experience and have come to a mutually agreeable arrangement! Compatible couples are hard to find, we like mature, slim, kinky couples - we have met a few in the past 3 years and the wait is well worth it | |||
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"We find women seem to age better the men. We come across very sexy women, but rarely do I find the husband sexy. As a result we decided not to pursue couples. We play with single men, because I prefer to choose my partners, and on return I allow my husband to seek his fulfilment elsewhere, either by playing semi-separately at parties or my him meeting single ladies. You allow him!!!!!!!! Wow I just love that word "allow"....." i don't even think it's a bad choice of word really. they're discussed their boundaries and what each other is allowed to do? | |||
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"Well I always thought if couples meet they swap partners well that what I would expect not just d women playing " Some couples actually state that just the women will be playing but some save it until you're actually at a meet which can be quite annoying and disappointing especially if you're both straight. | |||
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"Well I always thought if couples meet they swap partners well that what I would expect not just d women playing " No, there are all sorts of scenarios with 2 couples | |||
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