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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As were new to this do the rules change slightly in here? We were playing in the dark room at a club at the weekend when a bloke put his hand near Lucy's crotch at first we thought ok it's dark it was quite busy thought it might be a accident but he went for it a second time at which point we got up and went to a different room.were not against this but the guy was way older than we'd play with and thought he should've given us chance to either agree or not? Or as its pitch black in there is it supposed to be kind of the point anyone can touch as you supposedly can't see?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert. But I'd always thought it was pretty much a free for all. The experiences I've had have been where hands are roaming freely. But I don't think you can just start waving your dick around til it hits a hole !

I could be wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add. I am the sort that's happy to lie back in a dark room and let people play with me if they wish. But I will always wait for a response if I happen to start making contact with someone else x

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

My interpretation is the point is you don't know who's touching... its hands everywhere etc. I agree though that if you move a hand away, then it shouldn't just keep retrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As were new to this do the rules change slightly in here? We were playing in the dark room at a club at the weekend when a bloke put his hand near Lucy's crotch at first we thought ok it's dark it was quite busy thought it might be a accident but he went for it a second time at which point we got up and went to a different room.were not against this but the guy was way older than we'd play with and thought he should've given us chance to either agree or not? Or as its pitch black in there is it supposed to be kind of the point anyone can touch as you supposedly can't see? "

If it was pitch black how do you know it was an older guy? it could have been a young bird

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By *entleman of GirthMan
over a year ago

Forest Row

The whole point of the dark room is the annonimity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I'd say that's the point of the dark room. You go in not knowing what your going to find.. and come out none the wiser.

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands


"For me I'd say that's the point of the dark room. You go in not knowing what your going to find.. and come out none the wiser."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me I'd say that's the point of the dark room. You go in not knowing what your going to find.. and come out none the wiser. "

This sums it up perfectly. I guess the other point I was trying to make is that no still means no, regardless of where you are in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The old Isis dark room wasn't that dark when eyes were adjusted to it. There's one in Hull where you can not see your hand in front of your face lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me I'd say that's the point of the dark room. You go in not knowing what your going to find.. and come out none the wiser."

Yes it's as said above and before. Part of the fun is not knowing but normally it's caressing and see or rather feel responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks just wanted to clear it up for future it wasn't a massive issue or anything. Least we know now.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Shudder No this is definitely not for me. It's like glory hole cubicles which I tried for first time recently. Just didn't like it.

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a topic which divides people, but despite some people saying anything goes the rules of good etiquette should apply in the dark room as well as in any other part of the club. But that is only my view and I don't go into dark rooms.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/479857

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the club should maybe put a notice by the room or explain thoroughly on a tour etc if people don't understand it will just create problems.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I think with dark rooms by entering you consent to being touched without being asked first but no still means no and stop still means stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if you go in the dark room then it is virtually a free for all. If you don't like it - you should leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's kinda the point of a dark room surely, it's a place you go to grope and be groped. They might be fit they might be grotesque but you'll never know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe part the problem was is that it wasn't dark enough then because we could still see who was who.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I think with dark rooms by entering you consent to being touched without being asked first but no still means no and stop still means stop."

This is our interpretation, which is why we don't use them. I like to know who's about to grope me and have the option to say no

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"As were new to this do the rules change slightly in here? We were playing in the dark room at a club at the weekend when a bloke put his hand near Lucy's crotch at first we thought ok it's dark it was quite busy thought it might be a accident but he went for it a second time at which point we got up and went to a different room.were not against this but the guy was way older than we'd play with and thought he should've given us chance to either agree or not? Or as its pitch black in there is it supposed to be kind of the point anyone can touch as you supposedly can't see? "

Just say no or move the hand away, they should respect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where in hull is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where in hull is it "

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