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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A No brainer really. Chat away and it may become obvious, if alright at this point then arrange a No Strings meet in a public environment emphasising that no play whatsoever will take place.

So easy to sort the genuine ones from the rest, the only trouble is that there are so damn many time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A No brainer really. Chat away and it may become obvious, if alright at this point then arrange a No Strings meet in a public environment emphasising that no play whatsoever will take place.

So easy to sort the genuine ones from the rest, the only trouble is that there are so damn many time wasters."

There really are loads of timewasters, and we're still very new to this so I'm sure we can seem like that as we're only really willing to meet at clubs right now. And that's usually an organised thing too, we don't go every night, so we're not gunna be meeting anyone right away.

We've had a few people willing to cam though, and it really helps.

We've noticed a lot of people with screenshot images though, and even people who've taken pictures of porn on a screen. I mean, how stupid do they think people are?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?"

How would you pretend to be an old user that someone already knew?

There are loads of obvious fakes on Fab, but genuine people verifying fake people thinking they are real people doesn't seem that likely.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Sometimes it pays to follow the veri trail. We found a well verified couple all from single guys, go to each guys veri & they have one from the couple sometimes a social one from one of the other guys.

Proper fakes (oxymoron) are easy, The what was originally a couple & is now just him isn't so easy but asking for a certain recent pic or fem/fem chat usually sorts that.

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?

How would you pretend to be an old user that someone already knew?

There are loads of obvious fakes on Fab, but genuine people verifying fake people thinking they are real people doesn't seem that likely."

This is the male of the couple, and maybe I'm just being overly cautious, but it does seem possible as the verifiaction runs on an honour system. it's we were happy our first ones came from a meet, and why we look for more than 1 or 2 veri's and avoid people with private veri's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The phone is your friend.... use it before any meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The phone is your friend.... use it before any meet"

High five

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The phone is your friend.... use it before any meet

High five"

We are genius's

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?

How would you pretend to be an old user that someone already knew?

There are loads of obvious fakes on Fab, but genuine people verifying fake people thinking they are real people doesn't seem that likely.

This is the male of the couple, and maybe I'm just being overly cautious, but it does seem possible as the verifiaction runs on an honour system. it's we were happy our first ones came from a meet, and why we look for more than 1 or 2 veri's and avoid people with private veri's."

Yes, you are absolutely right (and generally take the right approach), but what you originally described is a different thing.

In your first post you were suggesting that people can create a fake profile by pretending to be genuine people who have left, and getting genuine people who have met the original people to verify the new fake profile. Why would that ever happen?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?

How would you pretend to be an old user that someone already knew?

There are loads of obvious fakes on Fab, but genuine people verifying fake people thinking they are real people doesn't seem that likely.

This is the male of the couple, and maybe I'm just being overly cautious, but it does seem possible as the verifiaction runs on an honour system. it's we were happy our first ones came from a meet, and why we look for more than 1 or 2 veri's and avoid people with private veri's.

Yes, you are absolutely right (and generally take the right approach), but what you originally described is a different thing.

In your first post you were suggesting that people can create a fake profile by pretending to be genuine people who have left, and getting genuine people who have met the original people to verify the new fake profile. Why would that ever happen?"

I can see how that looks odd, I just mean it's easy enough to steal few pictures off the internet. If you saw someone you recognised return to the site, would you verify them again?

If it's not really them, they now have a verified account they could use to verify one that's actually them, but who's never met anyone. It could make them look more experienced and more appealing. Also, it negates the "search for only verified people" option. Meaning not only will you find fake profiles if that's happened, but that you'll find liars who've never had a meet but say they have. Again this may be my overly logical, tinfoil hat wearing conspiracy theory side, but that's just a possible scenario I can see being abused. For clarification, I've worked in software testing, so ive had to find workarounds Nd exploits for a living.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That's as maybe, but the scenario you describe is so unlikely as to be meaningless.

Fab is stuffed to the gills with verified fakes, the vast majority because some guys will verify each other to further create fake profiles and genuine guys will sometimes verify fakes they've never met because they think with the little head rather than the big one, and hope it will lead to a meet.

None of this invalidates the verification system, which functions perfectly for people who use their common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since joining Fab I have always found that trusting my own instincts works far better than relying on verifications from strangers. On the whole I have been lucky and met some great people and made some very good friends along the way.... and enjoyed the ride!!

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By *entleman of GirthMan
over a year ago

Forest Row

I've done google image searches on a few "too good to be true" types. In almost every case, their pictures were stolen/borrowed.

It's not so much the fakes (as I think they're easy to spot) it's more the deluded wannabes who drive me mad!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've done google image searches on a few "too good to be true" types. In almost every case, their pictures were stolen/borrowed.

It's not so much the fakes (as I think they're easy to spot) it's more the deluded wannabes who drive me mad! "

Deluded wannabes? I'm not entirely sure what you mean haha.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google. "

How do you do reverse image search on Google

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?"

I have re-verified friends when they come back to fab after deleting their profile. Someone I know can easily prove they are who they say they are, they can tell me something about how we met for example.

If someone mails me out of the blue with a remember me we chatted for 5 minutes 3 years ago message, then no, they aren't going to receive a veri from me.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?

How would you pretend to be an old user that someone already knew?

There are loads of obvious fakes on Fab, but genuine people verifying fake people thinking they are real people doesn't seem that likely.

This is the male of the couple, and maybe I'm just being overly cautious, but it does seem possible as the verifiaction runs on an honour system. it's we were happy our first ones came from a meet, and why we look for more than 1 or 2 veri's and avoid people with private veri's."

Private veris?

I have veris on my summary that I can't show because the wording no longer exists. If someone leaves the site the wording of their veri dissappears with them, the same happens if someone blocks me after leaving me a veri. So a private veri as you call it could simply be one that can no longer be shown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google. "

Even real people can run a mile at those request's, each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who doesn't give out my number, talk on the phone or show my verifications, looks like I must be fake then.

If it's fake female profiles you're concerned about, you can just tell. Men and women's style of writing and messaging is very different, in my experience.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"As someone who doesn't give out my number, talk on the phone or show my verifications, looks like I must be fake then.

If it's fake female profiles you're concerned about, you can just tell. Men and women's style of writing and messaging is very different, in my experience. "

Same, our number gets given to very few & no one until we've met, unless a regular forumite that we interact with.

I cannot believe how thick some fakers are though. The same username bar the number added to then end (four accounts) appeared on our local list about 1am. 22yr old Woman, can accommodate etc. Status update "Wanna Lick Some Pussy". Now maybe 22yr old bi's talk like that? But I'd give them a wide berth anyway if they did

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As someone who doesn't give out my number, talk on the phone or show my verifications, looks like I must be fake then.

If it's fake female profiles you're concerned about, you can just tell. Men and women's style of writing and messaging is very different, in my experience. "

True though this may be, there are people out there that could fool most people. Yeah it seems specific pictures, phone and cam are the only real ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who doesn't give out my number, talk on the phone or show my verifications, looks like I must be fake then.

If it's fake female profiles you're concerned about, you can just tell. Men and women's style of writing and messaging is very different, in my experience. "

Me too, have had too much trouble in the past xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who doesn't give out my number, talk on the phone or show my verifications, looks like I must be fake then.

If it's fake female profiles you're concerned about, you can just tell. Men and women's style of writing and messaging is very different, in my experience.

True though this may be, there are people out there that could fool most people. Yeah it seems specific pictures, phone and cam are the only real ways.

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If I miss out on meets because I won't do these things then so be it. I'd rather someone just meet me for a quick coffee than jump through hoops like phone calls or going on cam because they can't tell who's real and who's a middle aged bloke wanking in their bedroom.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We go by the 'too good to be true' approach. If someone pops up in your area and they're a young, sex-crazed nymph with porn star photos then they're likely to be fake. Tineye the pics to see if they're from online and then keep an eye on them. If they're still around after a few weeks then they MAY be legit.

Photo verifications count for little as we've busted so many fakes with a verification that it makes them worthless. Following the veri trail can help if they have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google. "

That depends! We would not give our phone number out until a level of trust had been obtained.

Likewise, we only Cam if we feel like it and would not be performing puppet's just because someone wanted to see if we are genuine!

We know that we are genuine, if people think otherwise, then that is their problem rather than ours!

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By *ph1977Man
over a year ago

Lincoln


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This is the male of the couple, and maybe I'm just being overly cautious, but it does seem possible as the verifiaction runs on an honour system. it's we were happy our first ones came from a meet, and why we look for more than 1 or 2 veri's and avoid people with private veri's."

thus perpetuating a clique mentality among those with lots of verifications and ignoring those who have cometo fab after beign active elsewhere in the alternative lifestyle scene - especially as you aren't allowed to post links to other sites ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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This is the male of the couple, and maybe I'm just being overly cautious, but it does seem possible as the verifiaction runs on an honour system. it's we were happy our first ones came from a meet, and why we look for more than 1 or 2 veri's and avoid people with private veri's.

thus perpetuating a clique mentality among those with lots of verifications and ignoring those who have cometo fab after beign active elsewhere in the alternative lifestyle scene - especially as you aren't allowed to post links to other sites ...

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Sorry if that seems arrogant in some way, but it's not. It's about understanding that there are a lot of timewasters and fakes around, and not wanting to spend time pursuing someone that's not real or actually willing to meet, and to not end up in a dangerous situation. It's not a clique thing all. Being verified just helps you ignore the obvious ones, nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if u do come across a fake account.. report it, block it and move on.. let admin deal with it..

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google.

That depends! We would not give our phone number out until a level of trust had been obtained.

Likewise, we only Cam if we feel like it and would not be performing puppet's just because someone wanted to see if we are genuine!

We know that we are genuine, if people think otherwise, then that is their problem rather than ours!

"

we just use a pay as you go fab phone..if people will not exchange numbers we just move on, ok we understand that most mobiles are linked to facebook and alike so by keeping a fab phone overcomes that ..connie x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

That doesn't make sense to me but maybe I'm misunderstanding the post.

If they say they are back and ask me to re verify them, if I don't remember them I won't re verify them. I get plenty of messages from people saying they know me, but it often turns out that they are "mistaken" and don't know me at all.

(Chancing their arm)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're pretty crap at it to be honest, judging by the ammount of let downs we had when we tried to use this site for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..............What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?"

Experience, cynicism, but most of all intuition. There always seems to be a little give away who someone isn't what they want you to think they are.

Don't convince yourself somebody is real/OK/Genuine because you want them to be.

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By *ins13Man
over a year ago

Derby

Funnily enough I've not been on fabs for aaaages and I'm trying to get back into the whole scene, which is something I'm really struggling with. I'm pretty sure there's a few people that think I'm a fake. Granted I've got one veri from something like 2 years ago but it's so difficult to get my foot in the door.

Moreover I do believe a fake is messaging me but I'm out of touch and not sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So with the phrase "back on fab after deleting my profile, if you knew me before feel free to verify" being so common, this is obviously a bit of a concern. At this point it wouldn't be hard to pretend to be an old user and get your first veri from a genuine person they already knew.

Once one fake verification happens, it just makes the entire concept stupid and unreliable. What have been your checks for finding out who's real, and who's chatting shit?"
my profile was hacked keep changing your password

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google.

That depends! We would not give our phone number out until a level of trust had been obtained.

Likewise, we only Cam if we feel like it and would not be performing puppet's just because someone wanted to see if we are genuine!

We know that we are genuine, if people think otherwise, then that is their problem rather than ours!

we just use a pay as you go fab phone..if people will not exchange numbers we just move on, ok we understand that most mobiles are linked to facebook and alike so by keeping a fab phone overcomes that ..connie x "

This is genius, this should be a thing loads of people do.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Simply ask to speak with them on the phone or webcam and the fakers run a mile. If exchanging messages by Whatsapp or Kik, I always ask people to send a quick voice message to be sure who I am talking to. Sometimes I will do a Reverse Image Search on google.

That depends! We would not give our phone number out until a level of trust had been obtained.

Likewise, we only Cam if we feel like it and would not be performing puppet's just because someone wanted to see if we are genuine!

We know that we are genuine, if people think otherwise, then that is their problem rather than ours!

we just use a pay as you go fab phone..if people will not exchange numbers we just move on, ok we understand that most mobiles are linked to facebook and alike so by keeping a fab phone overcomes that ..connie x

This is genius, this should be a thing loads of people do.

"

I have a £60 Lenovo twin sim phone, one sim is my private other is a giffgaff pay-go for fab, people get weird I just lob the sim & get another, only had to do it once & that was not due to here but someone we met at a club.

I forget to pock up one phone, two would be a made

S

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