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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

It filters out the people who are perhaps not genuinely single.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It's normally to see if you really are single or telling little porkies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above if you can't accom peeps usually jump to the your married conclusion that is often true. Xxx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

Agree - though its probably slightly easier for a guy to get meets if he can accommodate?

I have a vagina - ergo I can be as unaccommodating as I like!

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

I'm single and can't accommodate. Actually I suppose I could but I have a very protective 50 kilo German Shepherd. Might not end well.

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I don't 'insist' anyone accommodates. As a single mum I would only accomodate if my little one was away and the person was someone I knew very well and trusted. No secret hubby or anything just security really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single and can't accommodate. Actually I suppose I could but I have a very protective 50 kilo German Shepherd. Might not end well. "

Wow sounds like a challenge

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't insist on other members being able to accommodate, it's just that I won't either. There are different options to investigate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single mum... who wants me to keep my sons home away from this side of my life.. I feel my reasons justified

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Fab isn't fair.

Many couples can't accommodate due to children.

Many single females won't accommodate because it doesn't feel safe to them.

The assumption is that these things don't apply to single men, so if you can't accommodate, you may be not as single as you claim.

But if you explain why in your profile, it might help.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"I'm single and can't accommodate. Actually I suppose I could but I have a very protective 50 kilo German Shepherd. Might not end well.

Wow sounds like a challenge "

Haha...it would add a bit of the danger element....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its fair that genuine single men who can't accommodate be tarnished with the same brush as those who are not genuine. I put my reason in my profile as I'm not that kind of person that goes behind anyone's back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its fair that genuine single men who can't accommodate be tarnished with the same brush as those who are not genuine. I put my reason in my profile as I'm not that kind of person that goes behind anyone's back"

Sadly men like you and a previous poster are few and far between. I respect a man who is honest on there profile even if they are married. When I'm meeting I don't always accom again due to security mainly. Xxx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I don't think its fair that genuine single men who can't accommodate be tarnished with the same brush as those who are not genuine. I put my reason in my profile as I'm not that kind of person that goes behind anyone's back"

Nothing fair in war or fab it's just the way it is dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its fair that genuine single men who can't accommodate be tarnished with the same brush as those who are not genuine. I put my reason in my profile as I'm not that kind of person that goes behind anyone's back"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I have lived alone for 10 years and can accommodate, But it doesn't mean I would invite every Woman who asked back to my house

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason personal which u would have to ask maybe. I’ve never been married nor had a real girlfriend due make work more imported then in life at the time working two jobs one in the day and one at night when I was younger but now I'm looking to explore more fun than work. That's why i can't host is that wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above if you can't accom peeps usually jump to the your married conclusion that is often true. Xxx"

I'm married and can accommodate, sometimes the Mrs joins in, sometimes the Mrs goes out and has a meet of her own.

It's not something that can be done at the drop of a hat though, has to be arranged which take a little time, and it's this that I've found doesn't really appeal to most I've messaged.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Ive said this before,but not accomodating on its own doesnt imply cheating to me.Its just more of an issue if both people cant accom.

I do agree people don't tend to question why women can't accom and its not really fair.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life isn't fair....

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have lived alone for 10 years and can accommodate, But it doesn't mean I would invite every Woman who asked back to my house"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye. The old single male can't accommodate so he must be married. What a crock of shit! Fakers and time wasters can be in all categories here! Yes I know there's aresholes on fab but they're not all single guys. Fucks sake.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Random people off t'internet don't get to know where my house is.

No one gets to know where I live until I know and trust them.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Aye. The old single male can't accommodate so he must be married. What a crock of shit! Fakers and time wasters can be in all categories here! Yes I know there's aresholes on fab but they're not all single guys. Fucks sake. "

The problem is though the bad do outweigh the good. so until you prove different you have to except it. You really can't blame women for being that way after all the place is full of cocks

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Aye. The old single male can't accommodate so he must be married. What a crock of shit! Fakers and time wasters can be in all categories here! Yes I know there's aresholes on fab but they're not all single guys. Fucks sake.

The problem is though the bad do outweigh the good. so until you prove different you have to except it. You really can't blame women for being that way after all the place is full of cocks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single (well a single mum) but I wouldn't accommodate for anyone I'd just met and would only accommodate for someone I knew during the day BUT why should I...

TBH I'd rather meet someone at a hotel where there is no need to worry about what the neighbours think either

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

i dont assume guys are married if profile says they cant accommodate, but i cant either so messaging them is pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's normally to see if you really are single or telling little porkies"

It is also ridiculous. I've been told before that if I don't accomodate I must be married. I've now just put an explanation on my profile!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"It's normally to see if you really are single or telling little porkies

It is also ridiculous. I've been told before that if I don't accomodate I must be married. I've now just put an explanation on my profile!"

Might not be right in a perfect world but it's not is it and until it is us singles have to suck it up. I for 1 totally get it and after all the time I've been on here and seen the stupid games blokes play have no problem with what anyone thinks until like I've said I prove I'm not 1 of the many fantasists on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're an ancient antique couple here, 5 bedrooms and we can accommodate but still need a little time to turn down the sheets

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It filters out the people who are perhaps not genuinely single. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shared accommodation, living with parents, living with children, not feeling safe .......... there's plenty of reasons why people don't accommodate! Does NOT necessarily mean they're attached or liars in some way!! Regardless of profile status couples, single male or single female we all have a different life beyond fab that might not allow us to accommodate in the same way as the next person x

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Its a shame peple have to justify their reasons for not being able to accomodate.. their choice, their life, there preference.. reasons are their own.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I think out is personally acceptable for women to ask, they need to be A) feel safe and B) people to be attracted to what they like.

I can't accommodate personally I live at home with my rents which kind of shows I don't have enough stability for a relationship atm and is not exactly the most desired situation and hardly a turn on in both swinging and vanilla lifestyle.

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By *atrionaSavageWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Shared accommodation, living with parents, living with children, not feeling safe .......... there's plenty of reasons why people don't accommodate! Does NOT necessarily mean they're attached or liars in some way!! Regardless of profile status couples, single male or single female we all have a different life beyond fab that might not allow us to accommodate in the same way as the next person x "

Well said, I'd rather meet in hotels or swinging clubs myself for safety/security reasons. No one comes back to mine unless I know them really well. Cat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

Everyone is welcome to insist that the other person accommodates.

Everyone is welcome to refuse.

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By *arthMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Ahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me."

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him.

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By *arthMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

That's the best way, family first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us genuinely can't accommodate due to living arrangements!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?

Agree - though its probably slightly easier for a guy to get meets if he can accommodate?

I have a vagina - ergo I can be as unaccommodating as I like! "

Who is ergo and can I meet her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him."

This for me too. Plus I only want one offs in clubs; off here it's FWBs for me, and that means both being able to accommodate. Regardless of reasons, if they can't give what I do, I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accommodate because I hate cleaning up my place....

If you knew how many times I had to make a woman wait at my door , while I throw clothes under the bed , clean the bathroom mirror of toothpaste and wash the dishes.... I'd rather go to her place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't accommodate because I hate cleaning up my place....

If you knew how many times I had to make a woman wait at my door , while I throw clothes under the bed , clean the bathroom mirror of toothpaste and wash the dishes.... I'd rather go to her place "

So she's the only one making the effort? Or was that a joke?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't accommodate because I hate cleaning up my place....

If you knew how many times I had to make a woman wait at my door , while I throw clothes under the bed , clean the bathroom mirror of toothpaste and wash the dishes.... I'd rather go to her place

So she's the only one making the effort? Or was that a joke?"

It was a joke , but honestly I'm a messy person and I tend to only clean on Saturdays. So from Saturday to Wednesday my place is ok. Wednesday to Friday it can be a dodgy....

I like to accommodate but I'm crap at throwing people out after sex. So I'd rather go to their place so I can leave.

I never accommodate couples..... I've heard stories of people being rob by the husband while you're playing with the wife. If he wants to drop her off that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age. "

Why do you care what the neighborhood gossip thinks? Why do you even bother talking to twats like that? Just cut them out of your life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to book a hotel rather than meet at a guy's house, so it doesn't really bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age. "

Good for you that you can live with your parents... I would love to move back home.

But my parents have a policy once you move out you cannot come back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

Good for you that you can live with your parents... I would love to move back home.

But my parents have a policy once you move out you cannot come back."

Not everyone's parents are like yours, thankfully I've moved back with mine three times since I was 18. The U.K. Is notoriously difficult to rent homes on young people's salaries and people often live at home here, on and off, until after they are 30 now.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Sometimes this place sounds like something straight out of American Pie

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

Good for you that you can live with your parents... I would love to move back home.

But my parents have a policy once you move out you cannot come back."

my mates folks are like that, he ended up on my sofa for a couple of months while he got deposits etc together. I've had 2 spells of about 8 weeks each back at mums since i left at 16. 25 yr old sibling hasnt left yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to all who comment on my forums here it was great to hear everyone, but I do not think I every get my first break in swinging in the UK since moving back home counter a while back due to all my experience was in South Africa i just being honest due to a couple years ago lost my dad 4 yrs ago then my uncle since then every seem to go down hill for me sorry only being honest. Anyway have a great 2017 ahead..

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

Good for you that you can live with your parents... I would love to move back home.

But my parents have a policy once you move out you cannot come back."

My parents used to be like that - until my mum became disabled and needed a live in carer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

Good for you that you can live with your parents... I would love to move back home.

But my parents have a policy once you move out you cannot come back.

my mates folks are like that, he ended up on my sofa for a couple of months while he got deposits etc together. I've had 2 spells of about 8 weeks each back at mums since i left at 16. 25 yr old sibling hasnt left yet."

My parents aren't bad I could have stay home as long as I wanted . They asked me and my siblings... Are you sure you want to leave? Once we said yes. They said We can't come back... They turned all our rooms into storage lol ....I left at 16 and have not been home since.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age. "

If you're saving so much money can you not afford to offer halves on an hotel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

If you're saving so much money can you not afford to offer halves on an hotel? "

what do you mean?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

If you're saving so much money can you not afford to offer halves on an hotel?

what do you mean?"

Thought it was obvious

Share hotel costs and meet someone there that way your still offering some for of accommodation for a meet

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

If you're saving so much money can you not afford to offer halves on an hotel?

what do you mean?

Thought it was obvious

Share hotel costs and meet someone there that way your still offering some for of accommodation for a meet "

tried that even offer to pay for the room but nothing happen at the time

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By *ilentgirlWoman
over a year ago

That place in

But what happens if you prebooked the hotel as either can't go back to their houses and nothing happens?

Even if you were taking for a while and got on great before hand? Then u meet and no spark

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"But what happens if you prebooked the hotel as either can't go back to their houses and nothing happens?

Even if you were taking for a while and got on great before hand? Then u meet and no spark "

social first to check spark, then book.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"But what happens if you prebooked the hotel as either can't go back to their houses and nothing happens?

Even if you were taking for a while and got on great before hand? Then u meet and no spark

social first to check spark, then book. "

This.

I don't accommodate because I'm in a nosey house-share but I wouldn't anyway because of some of the reasons listed in this thread.

Personally, I think hotels and such are a equal and neutral setting but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aye. The old single male can't accommodate so he must be married. What a crock of shit! Fakers and time wasters can be in all categories here! Yes I know there's aresholes on fab but they're not all single guys. Fucks sake. "

I've seen openly married guys on here who state they can accommodate when their wife is out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him."

Exactly how I feel - thank you , was starting to feel like I was a weirdo

Mrs

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

No you are not alone... not judging other peoples circumstances but hotel meets are not for me..i like to relax and enjoy in my own creature comforts with a meet if we get that far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens."

yes for this reason I'm only going dogging... it's safer in the car parks

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

yes for this reason I'm only going dogging... it's safer in the car parks "

But it will bankrupt you in Central London; £40 for 24 hours; cheaper to get a hooker; accomodation included in the price of a f**k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

yes for this reason I'm only going dogging... it's safer in the car parks

But it will bankrupt you in Central London; £40 for 24 hours; cheaper to get a hooker; accomodation included in the price of a f**k "

Hookers won't take my money

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

yes for this reason I'm only going dogging... it's safer in the car parks

But it will bankrupt you in Central London; £40 for 24 hours; cheaper to get a hooker; accomodation included in the price of a f**k

Hookers won't take my money "

Even better; you are getting the accommodation for free

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

yes for this reason I'm only going dogging... it's safer in the car parks

But it will bankrupt you in Central London; £40 for 24 hours; cheaper to get a hooker; accomodation included in the price of a f**k "

Hiho hiho

Off to London I go

To fuck a ho

Cheap on the go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

yes for this reason I'm only going dogging... it's safer in the car parks

But it will bankrupt you in Central London; £40 for 24 hours; cheaper to get a hooker; accomodation included in the price of a f**k

Hiho hiho

Off to London I go

To fuck a ho

Cheap on the go"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single guy you're gonna struggle. putting all these blocks on being able to meet means you will struggle more.

you either need to change your own circumstances and the way you do things, or be more patient and accept the struggle.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?"

And where he will now know your address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the big issue about accommodating. Personally I wouldn't want random people from an internet site coming to my home. It's neither discrete or safe.

As for it being a reason to find out if people are lying about being single, that's just ridiculous. There are numerous reasons that people can't/won't accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me."

This !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens."

Your missing a major point.

If you meet in your home, the bloke now knows where you live. Some people aren't comfortable with that.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

Your missing a major point.

If you meet in your home, the bloke now knows where you live. Some people aren't comfortable with that."

As well as for a lot of us, it isnt just OUR homes. I have a young child. what if they decide to show up when shes home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where I live the neighbours gossip about what goes on in the neighbourhood which is one of the reasons I can’t accommodate the other reason Shared it with living with parent. maybe you people will think its wrong but it cost saving in this day and age.

Good for you that you can live with your parents... I would love to move back home.

But my parents have a policy once you move out you cannot come back."

Cost saving ??? If I'm not worthy of someone spending a few pounds on a hotel room, then I'm certainly not worthy of sex. I wouldn't meet anyone who couldn't afford a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Allow me to poke a few holes in the can't accommodate for security reasons fallacy.

Let me ask these "single fems": security from what or who?

You are happy to be in strange man's house alone ( mostly at night).

You are happy to meet me in a hotel alone.

BUT not safe in your own home where u know the exact position of your knives, pepper spray, club, panic button etc? Where you can navigate your way even if blindfolded in thick smoke?

Surely it must be the visitor who is at a disadvantage security wise.

I may be chatting shit but hey, beats my imagination each time I see the security

card waved. But heyho, a fuck is a fuck irrespective of where it happens.

Your missing a major point.

If you meet in your home, the bloke now knows where you live. Some people aren't comfortable with that."

I would hate to have someone know where I live. I'd be worried they turn up unannounced, worried for my safety, I feel much safer in a hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a playmate a few years ago who I invited back to mine a couple of times while my eldest was not home ( I had one child then). One night he got pissed up in town, walked up to mine and banged hell out of the door... I won't be accommodating this time around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All neighbours gossip so do friends colleagues and relations,will ot stop you pursuing your own choices , should it? I now know why im here and who im here to meet satisfy and create some gossip , because if i dont someone will do it for me ,and i want the last word ! Tee hee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I run my own business with my office at home which contains cash and important bank details etc and i just dont like other people in my man cave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a playmate a few years ago who I invited back to mine a couple of times while my eldest was not home ( I had one child then). One night he got pissed up in town, walked up to mine and banged hell out of the door... I won't be accommodating this time around. "

What a stupid man, hope everything was ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a playmate a few years ago who I invited back to mine a couple of times while my eldest was not home ( I had one child then). One night he got pissed up in town, walked up to mine and banged hell out of the door... I won't be accommodating this time around.

What a stupid man, hope everything was ok."

He was harmless. I wasn't scared. Just pissed off at the time. haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fact is if this person I live with passes away I will be homeless which is Frustration Stressful but challenging and on top of the feeling unwelcome in my home counter where I was born to for fill my long life interests beside that called something along the way all I wanted is to make friends and see where it lead in the end..To be honest i love all the people on here no matter their looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single (well a single mum) but I wouldn't accommodate for anyone I'd just met and would only accommodate for someone I knew during the day BUT why should I...

TBH I'd rather meet someone at a hotel where there is no need to worry about what the neighbours think either"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

I've never accommodated for a meet lol.

I can now though but i down have furnature or cutains yet :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a 22 year old student, I share a house with 4 other housemates.

I'm sure you could understand why I wouldn't want to accomadate..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a 22 year old student, I share a house with 4 other housemates.

I'm sure you could understand why I wouldn't want to accomadate.."

Isn't part of being a student in a house share keeping your mates awake through the night with the sound of your epic lady pounding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a 22 year old student, I share a house with 4 other housemates.

I'm sure you could understand why I wouldn't want to accomadate.."

*Shrug*

When in a house share at uni I shagged people regularly, as did the other people I lived with. As long as you're not an obnoxious prick about it, I'm sure your housemates will understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a 22 year old student, I share a house with 4 other housemates.

I'm sure you could understand why I wouldn't want to accomadate..

*Shrug*

When in a house share at uni I shagged people regularly, as did the other people I lived with. As long as you're not an obnoxious prick about it, I'm sure your housemates will understand."

I'd rather save myself the hassle of explaining to my friends why I'd be bringing a couple back to my house. Kinda different from the norm of a single bird from a nightclub, especially if they're older.

Fab is all about personal preferences. Accommodation is just another one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only host my FWB, I got 2 son's living home and a daughter with special needs.

My reasons are justified, not that I need a reason, my life-my rules. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accommodate but only when my daughter is at her mums. Have to keep the personal and family life separate. Other than that come on over!

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By *an 54Man
over a year ago

Crawley

I find Travelodge accommodates anytime you want... For £20-25 each its a bargin, safe clean and unrushed action... recommended.

I should ask for a % for the promotion I do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

Single men not able to accomodate is no problem to us, single men who are in a relationship but falsely claiming to be single to get more sex are another matter. Many people chose to meet in swingers clubs rather than engage in swinging fun at home - we prefer the atmosphere and the facilities of a club, m x

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

Whether it's fair or not is irrelevant.

That's just the way it is. It all comes back to supply and demand. If there was only 2 single guys on here they could be very picky about who they would meet and where.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I've given up hope after seven years out of the twenty years trying being back in the UK it's so deferential than abroad when it comes to swinging but i understand harder for single to enjoy swinging..

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Well I've given up hope after seven years out of the twenty years trying being back in the UK it's so deferential than abroad when it comes to swinging but i understand harder for single to enjoy swinging.. "

Eh??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above if you can't accom peeps usually jump to the your married conclusion that is often true. Xxx"
not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its fair that genuine single men who can't accommodate be tarnished with the same brush as those who are not genuine. I put my reason in my profile as I'm not that kind of person that goes behind anyone's back

Nothing fair in war or fab it's just the way it is dude"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above if you can't accom peeps usually jump to the your married conclusion that is often true. Xxxnot always "

we know it isn't always. it's often enough though for us to discount guys who can't accom and move onto the ones who can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It filters out the people who are perhaps not genuinely single. "

Perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always happy to accommodate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I've given up hope after seven years out of the twenty years trying being back in the UK it's so deferential than abroad when it comes to swinging but i understand harder for single to enjoy swinging..

Eh?? "

I do not know what to say after all i am British but i was raised in South Africa where i got all my experience even owned a swingers club for 4 years and a house with all the luxuries u can think off which i gave away. take a football ground and it that's how big the land was where the house standing one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I've given up hope after seven years out of the twenty years trying being back in the UK it's so deferential than abroad when it comes to swinging but i understand harder for single to enjoy swinging..

Eh??

I do not know what to say after all i am British but i was raised in South Africa where i got all my experience even owned a swingers club for 4 years and a house with all the luxuries u can think off which i gave away. take a football ground and it that's how big the land was where the house standing one."

Post pictures of this place on your profile... it might help you get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a shame peple have to justify their reasons for not being able to accomodate.. their choice, their life, there preference.. reasons are their own."

Until a wife/husband turns up screaming you wrecked there marriage then there reasons become yours. If someone as a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate they tent to state it. Unfortunately there are so many men on here that are married and say there single I'm sure there's a few females doing the same but you find more females profiles saying there playing away than you do males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

We can't accommodate due to children. But a few things to factor in is we prefer guys that accommodate as we can't. We tend to find clubs are expensive for single guys to join and think it's rude asking them to pay for a hotel room also that does not appeal to us. Also so many say there single and are not witch again they should just be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well were i live rent a house even a flat could £600 plus in rent plus council tax plus gas water and lights which could easily be £1000 or more in the end with all the other essential due to the cost of living going up which is way i share a house to help with costed which most single men do these day and there going to be loads more i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£600 is quite cheap so you're probably right

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By *ixedblkinjectionMan
over a year ago

london


"Well were i live rent a house even a flat could £600 plus in rent plus council tax plus gas water and lights which could easily be £1000 or more in the end with all the other essential due to the cost of living going up which is way i share a house to help with costed which most single men do these day and there going to be loads more i think "

100% accurate description of the current state of things....i can accommodate late in the evening from 10-11pm as I have an elderly relative living with me...but most single men I know live in a house share!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"£600 is quite cheap so you're probably right "

being looking a 2 bedrom house and flats it seem to start at £775.00 per month plus council tax plus gas water and lights when wags are not going up how you going to live if you only make like 700 to 1000 pound a month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"£600 is quite cheap so you're probably right

being looking a 2 bedrom house and flats it seem to start at £775.00 per month plus council tax plus gas water and lights when wags are not going up how you going to live if you only make like 700 to 1000 pound a month"

I was agreeing with you that more and more people will be in shared housing when single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a shame peple have to justify their reasons for not being able to accomodate.. their choice, their life, there preference.. reasons are their own.

Until a wife/husband turns up screaming you wrecked there marriage then there reasons become yours. If someone as a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate they tent to state it. Unfortunately there are so many men on here that are married and say there single I'm sure there's a few females doing the same but you find more females profiles saying there playing away than you do males. "

People should not have to justify themselves to strangers on a website.

So what if they are married, if it's random sex what does it matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?

Single men not able to accomodate is no problem to us, single men who are in a relationship but falsely claiming to be single to get more sex are another matter. Many people chose to meet in swingers clubs rather than engage in swinging fun at home - we prefer the atmosphere and the facilities of a club, m x"

And do you always check and verify that the men you play with at clubs are genuinely single? I somehow think not.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

There are lots of people who don't like stangers/people they don't know well in their home.

The difference is single ladies are few and set very specific criteria. Single men are ten a penny and likewise can say won't accommodate but this will limit them. I not a matter of if it's fair. We are all free to choose our own rules. It a matter of the dynamic that exists.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him."

Couldn't sum it up any better.

As a single man, I can and do accommodate but not for everyone. I have to be comfortable with who I am meeting eneough to invite them into my home and sanctuary. I prefer having fun in the comfort of my home or a meet's home rather than a club ( which I can't vouch for the hygiene or what is on the plastic mattresses) or a hotel (which for some reason comes across as very clinical if I haven't known that person for long enough, certainly not the first meet). I have met in the hotels in the past, don't get me wrong but nothing beats the comfort of a home and relaxation.

Besides, if I trust someone enough to want to fuck them, then they are good enough to come to mine. This is purely a case of being perceptive and keeping your eyes open to who you are meeting.

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By * Reason WhyCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle Area


"I'm single and can't accommodate. Actually I suppose I could but I have a very protective 50 kilo German Shepherd. Might not end well. "

We can accommodate but we have a 45 kilo German Shepherd/Staff. He has to be put in another room, usually our room, if in use then the spare room.

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"I'm single and can't accommodate. Actually I suppose I could but I have a very protective 50 kilo German Shepherd. Might not end well.

We can accommodate but we have a 45 kilo German Shepherd/Staff. He has to be put in another room, usually our room, if in use then the spare room. "

Yeah I did think about that but I live alone with my dog and he has total run of the house so I know he'd bark the house down if I shut him away. I think it would be pretty traumatic for him and for me too.....plus I'd be too distracted. Also, living alone I'd be wary about giving my address out. Not so much for safety as the dog is a good deterrent but more privacy. Maybe when I've been on here a while and a little more experienced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him.

Couldn't sum it up any better.

As a single man, I can and do accommodate but not for everyone. I have to be comfortable with who I am meeting eneough to invite them into my home and sanctuary. I prefer having fun in the comfort of my home or a meet's home rather than a club ( which I can't vouch for the hygiene or what is on the plastic mattresses) or a hotel (which for some reason comes across as very clinical if I haven't known that person for long enough, certainly not the first meet). I have met in the hotels in the past, don't get me wrong but nothing beats the comfort of a home and relaxation.

Besides, if I trust someone enough to want to fuck them, then they are good enough to come to mine. This is purely a case of being perceptive and keeping your eyes open to who you are meeting."

Trusting someone to fuck them, then trusting someone to give out personal details to are very different and miles apart.

I'm happy to meet people,but i wouldn't want them landing at my doorstep unannounced, or becoming besotted with me and stalking me. Just a couple of examples there.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As adults, we all are responsible for the decisions that we make in life. If we accommodate, travel to others or meet at clubs, then nobody will be forcing us to do that, or to actually meet with anyone, if we don't think that their needs meet ours etc.

Just don't do it, if it's not right for you. Move on to the next user who does meet your needs.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him.

Couldn't sum it up any better.

As a single man, I can and do accommodate but not for everyone. I have to be comfortable with who I am meeting eneough to invite them into my home and sanctuary. I prefer having fun in the comfort of my home or a meet's home rather than a club ( which I can't vouch for the hygiene or what is on the plastic mattresses) or a hotel (which for some reason comes across as very clinical if I haven't known that person for long enough, certainly not the first meet). I have met in the hotels in the past, don't get me wrong but nothing beats the comfort of a home and relaxation.

Besides, if I trust someone enough to want to fuck them, then they are good enough to come to mine. This is purely a case of being perceptive and keeping your eyes open to who you are meeting.

Trusting someone to fuck them, then trusting someone to give out personal details to are very different and miles apart.

I'm happy to meet people,but i wouldn't want them landing at my doorstep unannounced, or becoming besotted with me and stalking me. Just a couple of examples there."

Well I guess that's where we differ. For me they are not miles apart at all. If you are coming to mine, you best believe I would have done my homework to make sure that you are someone I trust to give you my address. I am quite perceptive and a good judge of character most of the time. In all the time that I have met someone , no one has turned up on my doorstep so I must be doing something right. And I usually chat for a while, then phone calls and then pics (and sometimes a social) and if something is off, it doesn't happen.

Besides you can try and turn up unannounced on my doorstep as much as you want and I wouldn't open my door to you. But I guess it's different when you live with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair or not fair, why would anyone care?

It all comes to preferences and an agreement between consenting adults.

If one 'demands' that the other one has to accommodate, then so be it.

No agreement, no meet. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've sorted out accommodation for so called 'nailed on' meets only to be let down very badly!

That said, we'd never have expected a single chap to pay wholesale for a hotel room, and if they have initially we've always paid our share of the bill at the meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a shame peple have to justify their reasons for not being able to accomodate.. their choice, their life, there preference.. reasons are their own.

Until a wife/husband turns up screaming you wrecked there marriage then there reasons become yours. If someone as a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate they tent to state it. Unfortunately there are so many men on here that are married and say there single I'm sure there's a few females doing the same but you find more females profiles saying there playing away than you do males.

People should not have to justify themselves to strangers on a website.

So what if they are married, if it's random sex what does it matter."

Might not matter to the person who is cheating or to the person/people there cheating with but I'm sure it matters to the one there cheating on. If you going to be part of a partner playing away then you should be able to choice of wether you want to be part of it or not.

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By *nfinity1Man
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"It filters out the people who are perhaps not genuinely single. "

Or have kids maybe??

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Shared accommodation, living with parents, living with children, not feeling safe .......... there's plenty of reasons why people don't accommodate! Does NOT necessarily mean they're attached or liars in some way!! Regardless of profile status couples, single male or single female we all have a different life beyond fab that might not allow us to accommodate in the same way as the next person x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been able to accommodate because it was unsuitable, I'm willing to meet in a hotel or club, plus soon to have own place where I can then accommodate!!

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"It's normally to see if you really are single or telling little porkies"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I soon will be able to accomodate but live in the middle of nowhere lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So what if they are married, if it's random sex what does it matter."

Getting a black eye when a guy finds out youve been nailing his wife aint fun.

Nor is getting your car keyed, crazed partner standing on your drive way screaming at your house etc.

People having afairs come with considerable added risk.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i dont assume why people cant accomodate, maybe they just dont want to, and thats fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I soon will be able to accomodate but live in the middle of nowhere lol"

The price you pay for a cheap mortgage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I soon will be able to accomodate but live in the middle of nowhere lol

The price you pay for a cheap mortgage "

Yep, also for chosing to go into a very specific trade and not wanting to give up a final salary pension and job security

In the uk without changing company i can work in bristol or north wales lol.

Would love to live in manchester or maybe london but at the same time its nice to gave a big house, cheap mortagage anda garden and be 6 mins from work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So what if they are married, if it's random sex what does it matter.

Getting a black eye when a guy finds out youve been nailing his wife aint fun.

Nor is getting your car keyed, crazed partner standing on your drive way screaming at your house etc.

People having afairs come with considerable added risk."

Not if discretion is paramount. I've never experienced anything at all like this. People should be more careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I soon will be able to accomodate but live in the middle of nowhere lol

The price you pay for a cheap mortgage "

It's extortionate to live in the middle of nowhere where I'm from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above if you can't accom peeps usually jump to the your married conclusion that is often true. Xxx"

I can't accommodate due to having a son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So what if they are married, if it's random sex what does it matter.

Getting a black eye when a guy finds out youve been nailing his wife aint fun.

Nor is getting your car keyed, crazed partner standing on your drive way screaming at your house etc.

People having afairs come with considerable added risk.

Not if discretion is paramount. I've never experienced anything at all like this. People should be more careful."

All it takes is for hubby to get suspicious and check a phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Security codes on phone. Similes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Security codes on phone. Similes "

Simples even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about if you're single but I'm still living at home with my parents?? Can't people understand that? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accommodate

I'm single and live alone . No ties so no reasons not too

Likewise im happy to pay and book a hotel for a meet .guarantees I'll be turning up too..

Same as distance meets . I love driving a long journey for a meet..

I can travel 100 plus miles I'm a couple of hours so it's no big deAl. ..lots of people spend hours just commuting to work so same for a meet in my eyes....

My longest drive for a meet was 135 miles

I love it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I accommodate

I'm single and live alone . No ties so no reasons not too

Likewise im happy to pay and book a hotel for a meet .guarantees I'll be turning up too..

Same as distance meets . I love driving a long journey for a meet..

I can travel 100 plus miles I'm a couple of hours so it's no big deAl. ..lots of people spend hours just commuting to work so same for a meet in my eyes....

My longest drive for a meet was 135 miles

I love it ...."

What if you met a bunny boiler and she knew where you lived? I'd never accommodate and take such risks, even if I could.

Happy to travel a good distance for a meet, I often do incl catching trains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I accommodate

I'm single and live alone . No ties so no reasons not too

Likewise im happy to pay and book a hotel for a meet .guarantees I'll be turning up too..

Same as distance meets . I love driving a long journey for a meet..

I can travel 100 plus miles I'm a couple of hours so it's no big deAl. ..lots of people spend hours just commuting to work so same for a meet in my eyes....

My longest drive for a meet was 135 miles

I love it ....

What if you met a bunny boiler and she knew where you lived? I'd never accommodate and take such risks, even if I could.

Happy to travel a good distance for a meet, I often do incl catching trains."

If someone really wanted to know where you lived they could. Whether you told them or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I accommodate

I'm single and live alone . No ties so no reasons not too

Likewise im happy to pay and book a hotel for a meet .guarantees I'll be turning up too..

Same as distance meets . I love driving a long journey for a meet..

I can travel 100 plus miles I'm a couple of hours so it's no big deAl. ..lots of people spend hours just commuting to work so same for a meet in my eyes....

My longest drive for a meet was 135 miles

I love it ....

What if you met a bunny boiler and she knew where you lived? I'd never accommodate and take such risks, even if I could.

Happy to travel a good distance for a meet, I often do incl catching trains.

If someone really wanted to know where you lived they could. Whether you told them or not "

How exactly ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him.

Couldn't sum it up any better.

As a single man, I can and do accommodate but not for everyone. I have to be comfortable with who I am meeting eneough to invite them into my home and sanctuary. I prefer having fun in the comfort of my home or a meet's home rather than a club ( which I can't vouch for the hygiene or what is on the plastic mattresses) or a hotel (which for some reason comes across as very clinical if I haven't known that person for long enough, certainly not the first meet). I have met in the hotels in the past, don't get me wrong but nothing beats the comfort of a home and relaxation.

Besides, if I trust someone enough to want to fuck them, then they are good enough to come to mine. This is purely a case of being perceptive and keeping your eyes open to who you are meeting.

Trusting someone to fuck them, then trusting someone to give out personal details to are very different and miles apart.

I'm happy to meet people,but i wouldn't want them landing at my doorstep unannounced, or becoming besotted with me and stalking me. Just a couple of examples there."

Had both of those things happen to me when I had single profile hence why I am unwilling to accommodate anyone new even as part of a couple.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me that anyone accommodates. Why anyone would want a total stranger in their home is beyond me.

I like having sex in my house, on my furniture, in my bed, and without having to lug a suitcase of toys around.

If I trust a man enough to meet him one on one for sex, then I trust him enough to be in my house. If I didn't trust him enough to be in my house, there's no way in hell I would have sex with him.

Couldn't sum it up any better.

As a single man, I can and do accommodate but not for everyone. I have to be comfortable with who I am meeting eneough to invite them into my home and sanctuary. I prefer having fun in the comfort of my home or a meet's home rather than a club ( which I can't vouch for the hygiene or what is on the plastic mattresses) or a hotel (which for some reason comes across as very clinical if I haven't known that person for long enough, certainly not the first meet). I have met in the hotels in the past, don't get me wrong but nothing beats the comfort of a home and relaxation.

Besides, if I trust someone enough to want to fuck them, then they are good enough to come to mine. This is purely a case of being perceptive and keeping your eyes open to who you are meeting.

Trusting someone to fuck them, then trusting someone to give out personal details to are very different and miles apart.

I'm happy to meet people,but i wouldn't want them landing at my doorstep unannounced, or becoming besotted with me and stalking me. Just a couple of examples there.

Had both of those things happen to me when I had single profile hence why I am unwilling to accommodate anyone new even as part of a couple.

Mrs"

I'm totally with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't accommodate because I have seen what happens when I meet gets to attached. Me and a fb when in the middle of sex where I was tied to the bed and this woman started banging on the front door. She then moved onto the front room window shouting that she knew he was in and she would key his car etc. Then she went round the back and forced his kitchen window open an started climbing through. He got to her before she got it and told her to leave but it was to late ssthe mood was gone

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

We have a number of reasons to not accommodate, dog, neighbours etc.

The number one reason? We accommed where we used to live and a man who we must've met before although I didn't recognise him turned up saying he'd been sent by Phil... He hadn't. Fortunately his conscience got the better of him and he couldn't get it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't accommodate due to living with parents, can't save up enough to find a place of my own due to skydiving and spending money on that

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I don't insist any one accommodates but it's easier for me to meet them if they do as I can leave the kids with a sitter and go to theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bought my apartment, it is nothing to do with cost saving as mentioned earlier.

It is not about cost saving having your own place!

it is always the same, on here or elsewhere, single guys get a bad wrap due to others, you just have to take it on the chin and let the painters continue to paint us black!

For me, I am very specific in what I am looking for and having my own place works well.

I have no problems at all showing both the hot wife and cuck husband around.

It has a very big added benefit, first of all, hubby knows where his wife is, he knows she is safe and secure and being looked after.

second, when he receives texts or pictures, he knows the home and this plays very sexually into his head.

When we went away for a hotel break, it was actually harder for him to imagine in his mind what his wife was doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Random people off t'internet don't get to know where my house is.

No one gets to know where I live until I know and trust them."

This.x??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

What do you mean fair?

If you don't match what someone is looking for,don't contact them. "fair".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm single and can't accommodate. Actually I suppose I could but I have a very protective 50 kilo German Shepherd. Might not end well. "

I love dogs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?

What do you mean fair?

If you don't match what someone is looking for,don't contact them. "fair". "

i mean is being fair on men who can't accommodate when other men can accommodate when it comes to fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?

What do you mean fair?

If you don't match what someone is looking for,don't contact them. "fair".

i mean is being fair on men who can't accommodate when other men can accommodate when it comes to fun"

Fair has nothing to do with swinging.talking about fairness like that makes you sound petulant and childish.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We would prefer them to accom as we can't with others in house so we tend to meet more of the single guys at club , and more often than not they let it slip they are not single . We do realise some may be devorced with kids at home so club is best bet , we did once visit a guy who was genuinely divorced and his daughter popped around , Ww has to hide in bedroom so wife says club now . We may do random hotel meets but only if we on holiday or we have hotel booked for other occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But surely single means you are playing singularly not that you are in a single relationship. I personally dont care if a person is attached but on a single profile..i have no interest in their relationship status.

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands


"I am wondering do you think it’s being fair that other members insisted on single men to Accommodate when seeking fun. where others do not need to accommodate to meet up for fun, I do understand some couples can’t accommodate?"

Yes it's fair

I'm bringing my wife to the party!

What are you bringing?

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