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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

As a couple we started just like this. We stumbled across Fab when messing on the web to find someone. Initially we were set against clubs as it felt like we would be paying for sex.

We spent a few weeks on here, had a couple of social meets and chatted to a number of people. Most of them turned out to be totally time wasters and generally full of bull shit. I am sure that given time we would have found a genuine single to join us but we just went for it.

One Sunday we decided just to head to a club (Chams) and go from there. We havent looked back since. We have had some amazing fun in the clubs!

Just because you are in a club doesnt mean you have to play with anyone. We will only meet single men in the clubs as it means that we know they wont be full of it and we can all actually have some fun, sometimes we just people watch, tease each other and then end up in the couples room just playing with each other and getting off on being watched.

If you do want to ask questions please feel free to drop us a PM.

D & G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance "

Jump right in there to introduce her.

Show her your single profile on here.

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance "

If you're dead set against clubs, then I would suggest you need a couples profile on here. You're unlikely to get positive responses to messages looking for someone to play with your wife... too many people have been burnt by being invited to play with a 'wife' (who turned out to be imaginary).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your wife might be interested to know you get blow jobs from guys. She might feel less threatened knowing you'll be taking the lead with another guy?

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England


"Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance

If you're dead set against clubs, then I would suggest you need a couples profile on here. You're unlikely to get positive responses to messages looking for someone to play with your wife... too many people have been burnt by being invited to play with a 'wife' (who turned out to be imaginary)."

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance "

Why does it have to be on your terms? If she wants to be watched with you, why not go to a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does she want mmf or just be watched?

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By *eisurepleasureMan
over a year ago

belfast

Try dogging

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

we have changed a long time ago to club meets only due to time wasters and bullshitters basically. It tends to them out from the genuine people.I know it can be daunting for some and im sure everyone felt the same on there first visit but it is worth exploring that side of swinging. Wishing you all the best on your fab adventure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be take your time choosing the guy. Have a few social meets first so you know he is genuine. Go at your pace as you probably already know lot of time wasters. I'm available if interested etc etc etc. Happy swinging

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Can understand that train of thought, and been on fab long enough to see the pitfalls,

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Dogging isn't an option, want it to be fun and erotic (no offence meant to any doggers)

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Mmf, initially to be watched but with my joining in

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Don't even know how to answer this ! Trying to make it a joint enjoyable experience,not just my terms

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Thanks, and appreciate the offer, not going to be a lot of socials,want it to be prearranged but spontaneous if that makes any sense

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Thank you, don't know what I imagine/expect about clubs, just seems to me a lot of pressure, to be involved/perform

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride

Don't think that's an option, she's not bi orientated at all, and think she'd be horrified if she though I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well... my friend did something very crazy. They've been talking about swinging and threesome a lot. One day he said I'm going to surprise you. Blindfolded her and invited me. Well she heard my voice and later she said. Omg I was sitting myself. She didn't realise until I walked upstairs and start touching her. My friend was comforting her all the time. We started making her ease. She showed all the right signs and made the right noises.well she remained blindfold for the first day. Well they are solid and meet more couples every month.

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride


"As a couple we started just like this. We stumbled across Fab when messing on the web to find someone. Initially we were set against clubs as it felt like we would be paying for sex.

We spent a few weeks on here, had a couple of social meets and chatted to a number of people. Most of them turned out to be totally time wasters and generally full of bull shit. I am sure that given time we would have found a genuine single to join us but we just went for it.

One Sunday we decided just to head to a club (Chams) and go from there. We havent looked back since. We have had some amazing fun in the clubs!

Just because you are in a club doesnt mean you have to play with anyone. We will only meet single men in the clubs as it means that we know they wont be full of it and we can all actually have some fun, sometimes we just people watch, tease each other and then end up in the couples room just playing with each other and getting off on being watched.

If you do want to ask questions please feel free to drop us a PM.

D & G"
ok I think I've learned how to work this now, I really appreciate you're comment and have pm'd you

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride


"Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance

Jump right in there to introduce her.

Show her your single profile on here.

"
looking for a gentle way to do it, reckon she's up for it, but looking for best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was in similar situation to you basically was all we could think about during sex then one night while out with my mate asked him would he be keen he said ya so we took it from there

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By *has like us OP   Man
over a year ago

east kilbride


"What does she want mmf or just be watched?"
initially to be watched, with the guy joining in

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Hi, looking for advice (genuine) for a couple of years a major part of our bedroom talk has been introducing another guy and watching my wife get pleasured,not a cuck relationship, would just love to see her with another guy, we both have very definite ideas about age group, type etc, don't want to go down the club route thing, not my cup of tea, although her idea of someone watching us initially is a major turn on for her, confused.com ! What I'm really looking for is for advice on how to make this a realistic possibility. Thanks in advance

Jump right in there to introduce her.

Show her your single profile on here.

looking for a gentle way to do it, reckon she's up for it, but looking for best way"

Ignore the holier than thou comments, OP. Honestly the clubs are less pressure as many of them are social as much as anything else

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Thank you, don't know what I imagine/expect about clubs, just seems to me a lot of pressure, to be involved/perform"

zero pressure in clubs no idea where you have that idea from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a little tiring seeing men asking how to get their partners to swing. The simple answer is that you ask them.

OP, does she even know that you are bisexual? If not, the issue is yours, and not hers.

You would do yourself and her a great favour by being open and honest. That is the way a relationship flourishes.

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