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Anyone else find it really difficult keeping up with messages?

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O not me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can you why you can tho very sexy

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Even using filters we still get a lot of message (most seem fake) but them we loose track of the people were actually chatting to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even using filters we still get a lot of message (most seem fake) but them we loose track of the people were actually chatting to x"

Maybe put a line on your profile sating that so many messages cannot all be answered so please don't be offended if the message isn't read or not replied to (Some folk can take it personally on here even though the forum rules and advice state they shouldn't)

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X"

Change your status to single guy it will solve your problem instantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X"

Me. Nightmare lately. Even with strong filters.

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We did that that tbh at the beginning but felt it made us look cocky, like it's saying "sorry were popular" But might need to word something on there, thanks! X

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X

Me. Nightmare lately. Even with strong filters. "

Let us know it you find a way haha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to have that problem lol doesn't take long to sort my messages out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant keep up. Even with filters. I try and answer the ones I like and to a mass delete when I get to about 1000. The messaging is terrible.

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By *amelhunterMan
over a year ago

newcastle

I received one today, nearly fainted!!

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I cant keep up. Even with filters. I try and answer the ones I like and to a mass delete when I get to about 1000. The messaging is terrible. "

were not that bad, that must be insane haha but it is annoying!x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It would be good if you could set up your own folders to keep track of the one's your currently speaking to, but alas the site does not take good suggestions on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same problem. I wrote on my profile clear conditions for which I will reply to messages and people still don't listen lol. The way I've done it is to ask people to invite me as a friend then tell me about it by asking them to put friend request in the subject line. I then have my e-mail notifications let me know when I receive messages and invites then look at my e-mails to see if message notifications and friend invite notifications tally. The ones that haven't sent me an invite or told me about it in message get deleted.

I know its a bit complicated but its just now starting to work for me lol! Good luck X!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I received one today, nearly fainted!! "

I think I'd feint as well

Respect to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems us single guys issues re messages are kinda on the opposite end of the spectrum from the single ladies funnily enough lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just a line saying you don't reply to everyone will do. you don't have to say why.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Treat them mean keep them keen...bulk delete

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I received one today, nearly fainted!! "

I know how you feel mate, was it from a CD/TV too lol?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"It would be good if you could set up your own folders to keep track of the one's your currently speaking to, but alas the site does not take good suggestions on board "

Isn't it easy to look at your email inbox, to see the notification from Fab, and spot a message from someone you're interested in, before you log in here?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Treat them mean keep them keen...bulk delete "

I do that to every unanswered message I've sent, if it's not been looked at in 2 weeks. Ruthless I am lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be good if you could set up your own folders to keep track of the one's your currently speaking to, but alas the site does not take good suggestions on board

Isn't it easy to look at your email inbox, to see the notification from Fab, and spot a message from someone you're interested in, before you log in here? "

not if you get 92 'hey' in one day you can't. it will say the person who sent the first 'hey' sent all the rest.

and yes i know from experience.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm deleting all of mine later, not that I have hundreds I just want a tidy box for the new year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah be a male not many messages come to us men on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what messages ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can never keep up , not cos I get hundreds or anything , I'm just shit at it hahaha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete the dross

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It would be good if you could set up your own folders to keep track of the one's your currently speaking to, but alas the site does not take good suggestions on board "

We thought the same would be a great little tool x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Isn't it easy to look at your email inbox, to see the notification from Fab, and spot a message from someone you're interested in, before you log in here? "

Are you crazy?

If we had email notifications on it would be even worse

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

haha I know it's crazy. As soon as you've read one, replied (or not), deleted and ready to move on to the next another one comes so you can't get to the bottom. What I do is start at the bottom and work up (no pun intended), it's a time consuming way but works. Some get really inpatient though.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"Treat them mean keep them keen...bulk delete "

So thats why I never get a reply to my epic messages.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might get one a day, sometimes none. With heavy filters in place and a profile that says we only get to know knew people at parties, we've managed to get our messages to a minimum.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X"

Hahaha if only I could understand the problem...single guy here so rather different end of the spectrum here

I can see why you may receivibg a fair few though

Good luck with the messges

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X

Change your status to single guy it will solve your problem instantly "

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"I'm deleting all of mine later, not that I have hundreds I just want a tidy box for the new year "

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By *leet-duoCouple
over a year ago

Fleet

Hide your profile, that will keep the traffic down

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Block people you say no to so they can't come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should have such a problem.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Profile says not looking for single guys but have you blocked them?

S

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Have high filters and anyone you want to message a lot take to kik to keep you inbox here half sensible. The site could be so much more re message management

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By *s ParisWoman
over a year ago

My Dungeon Room

No problem here keeping up with messages I don't get any lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a quick scroll to see if any messages are from my friends/hotlist, or any that catch me eye. The rest get bulk deleted. It's not physically possible to reply to every single message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X"

Yes, delete the shit ones...around 95%, you're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think it would be easier if there was an option to delete by the page rather than individually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think it would be easier if there was an option to delete by the page rather than individually."

I think you can delete all the messages at once if you press on menu

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Block everyone and search contact others.

No issues.

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By *ock69erMan
over a year ago

Middle o’ Fife


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X"

I get a message around Tuesday and maybe another one Saturday(ish) my advice is to organize them and read them one at a time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The messaging system is a bit of a pain, does anyone have a way of keeping on top it? X"

I've blocked everyone from messaging me. I do my own searches and message the ones I'm interested in

Working really well for me

A tip from one of my faves xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep one thread per profile and retain only the last read one on that - delete the rest -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines gone ridiculous the last 24h and I have restrictions too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to be ruthless and delete as we go and just friends request people of interest to get back to (like yourselves obviously) if the message is unrelated to what we have asked for in our profile it gets binned

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I have just blocked all and message people I want.

Previously I had filters for people with no pics, no ladies, no CD , certain age men only etc.

Then when I was chatting to men, I would put a note on their profile to remind me of specific things that interested me , or memory jog items.

I maybe in my 50s and not as popular, but I don't understand how anyone gets 1000s of messages. If you delete and block anyone who is a pain and use your filters to only hear from a specific group....surely you cannot get daft numbers. ?,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite as friends the ones you like and are cHarting too

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness


"Mines gone ridiculous the last 24h and I have restrictions too "

It's the new years rush.

Everyone is going to start the new year with a 'must fuck more often ' resolution.

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By *anaduABCMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Its easy to keep on top of my one or so message a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish we got enough messages for it to be a pain.

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By *now_wolf OP   Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thanks for all the messages definitely going to take a couple people's advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it's called bulk delete.

I skim through the mail, save a few & delete the rest, I try and do this on a semi regular basis.

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By *ndyiron84Man
over a year ago

bradford

I deal with my 1 rejection message and my one TV message and my one message from a chap really well #bulkdelete

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