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"I get the impression that the couple wants me to follow their rules and they aren't so bothered about accommodating mine. After all... we are the extra" We only have one. Keeps it simple. S | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. " The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? | |||
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"I'm a bit scared of either partner getting jealous, or ignoring me or not looking after me when we're done." There's always that danger and it just means you need to chat a bit, find the lay of the land and get as close to certain they are right as you can, but if you are looking to play with a few couples you'll never be right about everybody. Good luck, i'm sure you'll get plenty of offers.. S | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? " Nope, the very same is on our profile. "Happy to meet both parts socially at first" Safety is Paramount for us. S | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? " no its not and if they cant accommodate your wishes then you probably had a lucky escape | |||
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"I'm a bit scared of either partner getting jealous, or ignoring me or not looking after me when we're done. I'd suggest the first thing you do is stop referring to yourself as a unicorn, and make a pact with yourself to put your own pleasure first. Eliminate ruthlessly from the search any couples who don't seem to care about your pleasure." | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? " thus isnt 'unicorn' behaviour. single bi females asking to join couples should do so as single bi females, if that's what they asked for. otherwise you are a couple, who are arranging a ffm meet....imo | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? thus isnt 'unicorn' behaviour. single bi females asking to join couples should do so as single bi females, if that's what they asked for. otherwise you are a couple, who are arranging a ffm meet....imo" I don't see the difference? | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? thus isnt 'unicorn' behaviour. single bi females asking to join couples should do so as single bi females, if that's what they asked for. otherwise you are a couple, who are arranging a ffm meet....imo I don't see the difference? " ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? " If we were planning to play with one half of a couple we would expect to at least speak to the other half just to make sure they are also fine with it. Ess | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x" could you help me by elaborating? | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? If we were planning to play with one half of a couple we would expect to at least speak to the other half just to make sure they are also fine with it. Ess" i agree that would be a couple arranging a meet of whatever 'flavour' right? that's not a couple asking to meet a single bi female though is it? or is it? | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? If we were planning to play with one half of a couple we would expect to at least speak to the other half just to make sure they are also fine with it. Essi agree that would be a couple arranging a meet of whatever 'flavour' right? that's not a couple asking to meet a single bi female though is it? or is it?" Everything you are saying is confusing me more | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? " imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x | |||
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" The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? " I wouldn't personally agree to that condition, but you shouldn't change your preferences just because other people do things differently. | |||
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"There is a difference, but for their safety & reassurance we'd meet both socially only. S" | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x" But it can be a phone call or a text chat just something to help me feel reassured. I'd be really scared of the intentions of a couple who weren't able to commit to at least some form of communication with my partner. It's not looking for something to fit into our 'couple' scenario it's something that helps me feel safe. I admit it is something that we do on the kink scene and seems to be another reminder that kinking and swinging are very different. | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x But it can be a phone call or a text chat just something to help me feel reassured. I'd be really scared of the intentions of a couple who weren't able to commit to at least some form of communication with my partner. It's not looking for something to fit into our 'couple' scenario it's something that helps me feel safe. I admit it is something that we do on the kink scene and seems to be another reminder that kinking and swinging are very different. " whatever works for you sweet i was just offering a suggestion why some, not all couples would not agree..i also blur the edges between worlds alot, dont fret its all good and hope you have alot of fun on here xx | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x But it can be a phone call or a text chat just something to help me feel reassured. I'd be really scared of the intentions of a couple who weren't able to commit to at least some form of communication with my partner. It's not looking for something to fit into our 'couple' scenario it's something that helps me feel safe. I admit it is something that we do on the kink scene and seems to be another reminder that kinking and swinging are very different. " I think that your viewpoint is entirely understandable and that if it makes you feel better then you should keep it up. Personally I won't meet with someone who insists I talk to their male partner when their male partner is not going to be part of the fun. If they feel that unsafe around me that a man needs to check me and a partner out, then I don't think it's good to progress further. *Especially* when it comes to kink, and trust between parties is paramount. If you have to get someone to check that everything is ok, then I question your ability to consent and make decisions for yourself. However it's understandable if that's your BDSM dynamic - but again that's just not the kind of dynamic I would want to play within. | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x" Ah bum! Now my brain is arguing with itself. I'm now thinking maybe it's more a "cuckold" rather than "unicorn" scenario as the male would then toddle off and leave you all to it need stronger coffee to get my head around this now. Ess | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x Ah bum! Now my brain is arguing with itself. I'm now thinking maybe it's more a "cuckold" rather than "unicorn" scenario as the male would then toddle off and leave you all to it need stronger coffee to get my head around this now. Ess" What on earth makes you think 'Cuckold' my Daddy / Dominant / Owner is so far away from being 'Cuckold'. Daddy wants me to explore and he knows that I can be nervous and wants to help. And you're right anyone honest enough to say that communication with my partner is a hard limit isn't someone I'd want to be meeting with anyway. | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x Ah bum! Now my brain is arguing with itself. I'm now thinking maybe it's more a "cuckold" rather than "unicorn" scenario as the male would then toddle off and leave you all to it need stronger coffee to get my head around this now. Ess What on earth makes you think 'Cuckold' my Daddy / Dominant / Owner is so far away from being 'Cuckold'. Daddy wants me to explore and he knows that I can be nervous and wants to help. And you're right anyone honest enough to say that communication with my partner is a hard limit isn't someone I'd want to be meeting with anyway." Cuckold couples often meet a bull and then the cuck partner leaves them to get on with it. That's why it sounds a bit like that. | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x Ah bum! Now my brain is arguing with itself. I'm now thinking maybe it's more a "cuckold" rather than "unicorn" scenario as the male would then toddle off and leave you all to it need stronger coffee to get my head around this now. Ess What on earth makes you think 'Cuckold' my Daddy / Dominant / Owner is so far away from being 'Cuckold'. Daddy wants me to explore and he knows that I can be nervous and wants to help. And you're right anyone honest enough to say that communication with my partner is a hard limit isn't someone I'd want to be meeting with anyway. Cuckold couples often meet a bull and then the cuck partner leaves them to get on with it. That's why it sounds a bit like that. " I think I'm done here. Thank you all for your advice and kind words | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x" Would agree with this and add that what we may or may not do would not be on the cards in a social meet. We have no interest in the guy "getting off" or him telling us what we may or may not do or talking about what HE wants us to do with his partner. The social is to put minds at ease that we get along & neither party just got let out of Broadmoor in my book. Its a meet for her, what she wants & what we want, if what she wants is based on a few things her partner would like her to try that's between them, we don't particularly want to know & we only want her being there and wanting to be there for her. It's easy to spot ones that aren't. S | |||
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"I don't see the difference? ox. i see a difference, i expect some others will see a difference..just saying x could you help me by elaborating? imo if you are meeting socially a couple, then you are arranging that meeting (and the play meet ) as a couple. whilst im sure some wont mind. you arent meeting and arranging single bi fem meets, you are arranging meets to suit your 'couple' scenario.. while this is perfectly acceptable if others agree to that..some couples just would like to arrange with a single bi female (unicorn) because that's exactly what she is..it was my suggestion as to why that couple you mentioned didnt want to meet up with you AND your partner socially x Ah bum! Now my brain is arguing with itself. I'm now thinking maybe it's more a "cuckold" rather than "unicorn" scenario as the male would then toddle off and leave you all to it need stronger coffee to get my head around this now. Ess What on earth makes you think 'Cuckold' my Daddy / Dominant / Owner is so far away from being 'Cuckold'. Daddy wants me to explore and he knows that I can be nervous and wants to help. And you're right anyone honest enough to say that communication with my partner is a hard limit isn't someone I'd want to be meeting with anyway." I'm not saying he is "cuck" however the scenario of meeting both lends itself to cuckolding, I still stand by first statement that we would feel more comfortable having at least spoken to him as we would like to know that he is aware and we're not helping someone "cheat" on their o/h, Ess | |||
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"well any female with us wouldnt be made to feel like an extra. Infact quite the opposite and our sole pleasure would be directed at her. As yet weve not found the elusive unicorn " dont happen to be going to cupids, on the ladies night in jan are you? i see you do other events, but i am up there that week and shall be going for that event..if you were going, you could say a social hi x | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satisfying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used?" actually it was female half of couple, offering self as a unicorn, whilst not actually being one..but no matter as long as everyone has fun, right? x | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satifying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used?" Don't forget "Putting on a show". S | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satifying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used? Don't forget "Putting on a show". S" some couples do want us to perform their miracle which is fair enough if its my miracle too, however, i dont go around farting glitter for anyone that demands it.. but there are totally lovely couples that i meet with and would meet with again, just cos we have such a blast x all comes down to chemistry, compatibility and approach, just like any other meet x | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satifying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used? Don't forget "Putting on a show". S some couples do want us to perform their miracle which is fair enough if its my miracle too, however, i dont go around farting glitter for anyone that demands it.. but there are totally lovely couples that i meet with and would meet with again, just cos we have such a blast x all comes down to chemistry, compatibility and approach, just like any other meet x" This Surely everyone's enjoyment should be Paramount. "you get out what you put in" if you pardon the pun. Ess | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? If we were planning to play with one half of a couple we would expect to at least speak to the other half just to make sure they are also fine with it. Essi agree that would be a couple arranging a meet of whatever 'flavour' right? that's not a couple asking to meet a single bi female though is it? or is it?" I think this is where things got confusing. There would be be no need to discuss the details and limits of any play session. it would literally be a social hang out to make me feel more comfortable. No 'Cuckolding' just the person I trust most in the world validating my decision. I'm sorry I fucked everything up so badly. | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? If we were planning to play with one half of a couple we would expect to at least speak to the other half just to make sure they are also fine with it. Essi agree that would be a couple arranging a meet of whatever 'flavour' right? that's not a couple asking to meet a single bi female though is it? or is it? I think this is where things got confusing. There would be be no need to discuss the details and limits of any play session. it would literally be a social hang out to make me feel more comfortable. No 'Cuckolding' just the person I trust most in the world validating my decision. I'm sorry I fucked everything up so badly." sweeet i wasnt having a go x i was establishing the terminology and attempting to see if my association was the same as other peoples.. we all live and learn. do what makes you happy.. this isnt about labels or anything but doing what makes you feel safe. just be clear in your asking for what you want and as you have seen some peeps are more than happy with those kinds of arrangements, some wont be, but that doesnt matter right? xx have fun and enjoy your journey x wishing you all the best x | |||
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"well any female with us wouldnt be made to feel like an extra. Infact quite the opposite and our sole pleasure would be directed at her. As yet weve not found the elusive unicorn dont happen to be going to cupids, on the ladies night in jan are you? i see you do other events, but i am up there that week and shall be going for that event..if you were going, you could say a social hi x" hi suzy not sure we havent been to them nights yet but will let you know but cant message you x | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satisfying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used?actually it was female half of couple, offering self as a unicorn, whilst not actually being one..but no matter as long as everyone has fun, right? x" Ok cool, just checking | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satifying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used? Don't forget "Putting on a show". S" Sorry, forgot that statement I thought of a new one for them to use "i don't want to have to pull your good time out of my arse", it's here for reference, via the green arrow, if they're looking for something not run of the mill, to display their indignation | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? " are they meeting with him to ask his permission to play with you? that's the assumption we'd make if he's being referred to as that. we don't buy into that dynamic and therefore wouldn't agree to those terms...maybe others won't either... | |||
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"Even as the elusive bi female sought by couples you can still struggle to get a meet with the right people. I would advise a couple of social meets and openly discuss boundaries ,likes dislikes etc otherwise it may go pear shaped. Be prepared for those who are not what they say on their tin and mostly the couple where the female is taking part for his pleasure only. There are some lovely couples out there who have become genuine friends so best wishes for a happy 3 some. The reason the last situation failed is because they wouldn't meet socially with my Daddy there. He's super supportive of my fantasies and wouldn't be involved or present but does insist (as do i) on at least a chat first. is this too fucked up a condition? are they meeting with him to ask his permission to play with you? that's the assumption we'd make if he's being referred to as that. we don't buy into that dynamic and therefore wouldn't agree to those terms...maybe others won't either... " Male here, missed most of this but caught up now. Certainly not about asking permission my baby bunny can arrange her own play, although we both reserve the right to veto play partners it's not happened yet. The stipulation that any prospective couples at least chat with us both is my girls prerogative as it makes her feel more comfortable and from my point of view it shows that everyone is in the know. I don't need to know details or go over limits that's up to my girl and her play partners, I would expect her to deal with that and her prospective play partners. Although I would expect her to insist on the limits we've discussed before or at least attempt to renegotiate with me privately before any meet happened. And finally, of course you can be a unicorn and in a relationship. Dan Savage says so. Although some say the term itself is derogatory as it implies a mythical rarity that simply isn't true. Apparently the new unicorn in the up for 3 way bi male. Peace out | |||
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"Additional. I'm not a Cuckold in the slightest. And my punctuation sucks." The suggestion was that it's your *partner* that is similar to a cuck. Because he meets the people you're going to have sex with and then leaves. | |||
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"Additional. I'm not a Cuckold in the slightest. And my punctuation sucks. The suggestion was that it's your *partner* that is similar to a cuck. Because he meets the people you're going to have sex with and then leaves." Because I'm choosing to help my girl be more comfortable whilst demonstrating that we all are on the level. If you decided Cuckold from that you either don't fully appreciate the term or can't understand that my girl enjoying herself is not in it's self arousing to me. I prefer the term compersion. | |||
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"Is this one of those threads where couples are looking for a unicorn, then said unicorns slate couples for looking for said unicorn and then couples have to justify themselves and assure said unicorns that it will all be mutually satifying, before said unicorns state that they no longer meet couples....for reasons of un mutual satisfaction. Also, will the term "performing seal" be used? Don't forget "Putting on a show". S" | |||
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"We posted this in another thread. Single bi woman; a guide for couples. Single bi woman are everywhere. They have jobs, and friends, some even like to socialise too. Single bi woman can vote and some even learn to drive, clever little things. Next time you think you have seen one, be sure to pat them on the head and pay small compliments. When talking to one, remember to retain eye contact, and nod when they are talking, this will show you are listening and valuing their opinions. If you find one broken down on the side of the road, pull over and offer to help. You may find it useful to keep some sandwiches and a flask of soup within easy reach as they may have been waiting for a few hours. Should a single bi woman show some interest, try not to immediately ask for her "to put on a show, to get things going". Some find this a triffle off putting". Also try to avoid the second question being "do you do anal", this can be considered somewhat forward. Instead gently lead the question towards likely common interests such as knitting, flower arranging, or pastry dishes. Most of all be kind, considerate, and remember, touching without asking could be misconstrued as being a bit rapey, and noone likes a sex offender, except other inmates on Q wing. Good luck." I think I will print this out | |||
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"So it's the one with the lady parts here. I was invited to be the third in threeway with an ex partner and while I was interested things didn't quite work out. But it's got my more interested in trying to unicorn on here. So I guess the advice I'm after is what can I do to be a good extra for an established couple? " Bring biscuits | |||
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"Additional. I'm not a Cuckold in the slightest. And my punctuation sucks. The suggestion was that it's your *partner* that is similar to a cuck. Because he meets the people you're going to have sex with and then leaves. Because I'm choosing to help my girl be more comfortable whilst demonstrating that we all are on the level. If you decided Cuckold from that you either don't fully appreciate the term or can't understand that my girl enjoying herself is not in it's self arousing to me. I prefer the term compersion. " Nobody said that you were a cuck. They just said that the situation was similar to have cuck meets often work. | |||
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" Bring biscuits " That gets a thumbs up from me! | |||
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"Funny as we obviously are, we also have a serious side: The inconvenient truth behind these posts, is that there are lots of single females, single guys, & couples enjoying themselves in all manner of scenarios. Those that cannot find what they are seeking rarely look at themselves as ask what it is they could do differently, especially in terms of what do they need to give to others to help fulfill their fantasies and desires as well. Very often people suggest going to socials, clubs, and events. This requires planning, dressing to impress, socialising, discovering other people's needs, and interacting in a reciprocal manner. Then is possible to maybe and it is only maybe be involved in something approaching what you are looking for. " That's an extremely good point you've made, but I'm a bit unsure how it fits into this thread? Genuinely confused, not having a go. | |||
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"Funny as we obviously are, we also have a serious side: The inconvenient truth behind these posts, is that there are lots of single females, single guys, & couples enjoying themselves in all manner of scenarios. Those that cannot find what they are seeking rarely look at themselves as ask what it is they could do differently, especially in terms of what do they need to give to others to help fulfill their fantasies and desires as well. Very often people suggest going to socials, clubs, and events. This requires planning, dressing to impress, socialising, discovering other people's needs, and interacting in a reciprocal manner. Then is possible to maybe and it is only maybe be involved in something approaching what you are looking for. That's an extremely good point you've made, but I'm a bit unsure how it fits into this thread? Genuinely confused, not having a go. " Generally all post about how to go about achieving something or seeing advice about what to do to fulfill a desire are best answered by going out to socials, parties, club nights etc. Private and hotel meets might be for the more secure, confident, and experienced. This is of course not true for everyone. But in our humble experience, meeting a range of people, talking, interacting leads to really good swinging experiences. Having a defined this is what we want to do is harder to achieve than let's go out meet some people and see where we end up. We see many specific posts, especially the single bi girl hunt. Ok this is a bit different but it is a variation on the same theme. We say to everyone, get out from behind the PC monitor and get amongst the scene. Just think what would happen if everyone looking online to meet people actually went out to a club and met people. It would be chaos ! | |||
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"Additional. I'm not a Cuckold in the slightest. And my punctuation sucks. The suggestion was that it's your *partner* that is similar to a cuck. Because he meets the people you're going to have sex with and then leaves. Because I'm choosing to help my girl be more comfortable whilst demonstrating that we all are on the level. If you decided Cuckold from that you either don't fully appreciate the term or can't understand that my girl enjoying herself is not in it's self arousing to me. I prefer the term compersion. " Don't worry, the posts from your partner and yourself were perfectly clear, as was the situation and reasoning she originally described. You have to remember this is the Fab forum, where people often seem to skim read posts in their haste to throw their own thoughts into the ring. | |||
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" You have to remember this is the Fab forum, where people often seem to skim read posts in their haste to throw their own thoughts into the ring. " | |||
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"I get the impression that the couple wants me to follow their rules and they aren't so bothered about accommodating mine. After all... we are the extra" we would follow everyone's rules has to be fun for all | |||
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"So it's the one with the lady parts here. I was invited to be the third in threeway with an ex partner and while I was interested things didn't quite work out. But it's got my more interested in trying to unicorn on here. So I guess the advice I'm after is what can I do to be a good extra for an established couple? " Before i met my other half, i had a single bi fem profile on here, so i get where you're coming from (except for the involvement of your partner). Call yourself whatever you like. Just because some people are offended by the name "unicorn" doesn't mean you have to listen to them. My understanding is that you're a sub? I mention it because of the way you phrased it "being a good extra"... I never thought of my FFMs in that way at all, I did them because i got off on fucking both a man and a woman simultaneously. So in relation to this my advice would be to be clear about what you're wanting from it. Are you wanting to be submissive to them and have them use you as their plaything? Or are you wanting to mainly play with the woman with the guy joining where you choose? Or any of the other possibilities? Think about what you want to get out of it and don't be afraid to stand your ground, there'll be couples out there who will suit you whatever you're after. | |||
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"I get the impression that the couple wants me to follow their rules and they aren't so bothered about accommodating mine. After all... we are the extra" That certainly isn't the case for us, we always like to make sure that the person/people we play with are 100% happy and that their limits and desires are respected. Anyone that can't respect your rules and expects you just to go along with what they want regardless of your needs is not worth playing with. This is why we always have a bit of a social first, or meet at a club where we can get a drink and chat first, helps everyone to get to know each other and get a feel for everyones limits and make sure everyone is compatible. | |||
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"I get the impression that the couple wants me to follow their rules and they aren't so bothered about accommodating mine. After all... we are the extra" Not for us. It's about making sure all 3 of us are happy and accommodated if we ever find someone lol | |||
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"well any female with us wouldnt be made to feel like an extra. Infact quite the opposite and our sole pleasure would be directed at her. As yet weve not found the elusive unicorn " Damn why can't you live closer | |||
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"well any female with us wouldnt be made to feel like an extra. Infact quite the opposite and our sole pleasure would be directed at her. As yet weve not found the elusive unicorn Damn why can't you live closer " sorry would love to be nearer xx | |||
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