FabSwingers.com forum: Which type of meet for our first time

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, this might sound rather naive, but we are looking to arrange our first meet. B is leaving it up to me to arrange the time,place and type of meet. I really want this to be a regular thing, so want to make sure the first meet is really enjoyable and something she wants to repeat. Currently nothing other than a a ganbang is off limits- any advice on what was your and what would be a good first meeting?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Personally I arrange ours...I am the female. I choose who and when.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Social first time, means there's no pressure and if they don't show you two can have a nice evening out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd recommend a meet with an experienced fabber . Someone that's also considerate of your new adventure and your hopefulness to persue swinging to its full extent . Take it slow and make sure all involved know that at any point anyone can retreat . Good luck and enjoy the delights that so many people bring .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

don't let other people decide what is a very personal experience. I personally feel its vital that you decide between the two of you.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

Personally, I would go for a neutral venue social, perhaps in a quieter bar, but I have broken that rule once with someone that I'd spoken with before. On that occasion we met in a hotel bar.

It is, however, up to you both and what you are comfortable with.

For me, I would need the oportunity to back out if there was no connection.

Good luck and enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say Definitely go for someone experienced to lead the way.

We were both that nervous and full of tension we needed it.

Few vodkas before helps too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and we met first for a 'social' a few days before.

That broke the ice and it all felt easier on the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your first meet should be with a black guy... check that off the bucket list first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol i like the style !

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

would you consider going to a club? If it's your first time ever you get the opportunity to watch and take in everything.... first time at a busy club really is something!!!!! plus if nerves (or anything else) get you and you don't feel like playing you get a great sexy night out

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"would you consider going to a club? If it's your first time ever you get the opportunity to watch and take in everything.... first time at a busy club really is something!!!!! plus if nerves (or anything else) get you and you don't feel like playing you get a great sexy night out

This, most definitely. It can then be a social or just watching, or play in a private room together, or play alongside others , or join in a little, etc etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This, most definitely. It can then be a social or just watching, or play in a private room together, or play alongside others , or join in a little, etc etc etc."

I'd say go clubbing too.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

A friendly relaxed social is a good start but really depends on how you are both feeling, a club can also be good but choosing the right night is important. Communication between you is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social meeting !

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Our first time was in a club, just playing together. Extremely horny and we couldn't wait to do it again

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Yep another vote for a club here...no pressure to do anything other than watch or play together unless you want to..a chance to meet and chat to others in the social areas and generally a good way to dip your toes.

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By *oderndaylivesCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

My first was an mmf with partner and a very experienced male. We got some profile pictures. Then I went to Chameleons and did a lot of stuff for first time, then had a couple meet at home. I think a nice friendly club is ideal, less pressure on then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all, im really liking the club idea, because as you say we can take it at our pace. One last question; which clubs would be the best to try in the NW, and have a age range between 25-45? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all, im really liking the club idea, because as you say we can take it at our pace. One last question; which clubs would be the best to try in the NW, and have a age range between 25-45? X"

Age range 25 to 45 ? What , one that only lets people of that age in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all, im really liking the club idea, because as you say we can take it at our pace. One last question; which clubs would be the best to try in the NW, and have a age range between 25-45? X"

Every club has different people in on different nights so it is better to choose the type of club you think you will feel more comfy in than hope for a certain age range. In our experience we have always seen a good range wherever we've visited.

Do you want a dress down on entry, dress down after a certain time or in certain areas, no dress down? Then do you want single guy numbers limited, single guys not present that night or anyone welcome in.

Do you want clubs with hot tubs, licensed bars, swimming pools, wine bar feel, etc etc.

When you have an idea of the answers to these questions look through the forums and Web pages. But you won't go far wrong checking out the townhouse (not been but always well spoken of), cupids (only been once on a party night but great venue), no 3 (our favourite) quite a lot enjoy infusions too (wasn't out cup of tea but from so waking with others think we prob picked a really bad night so we will be trying again).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all, im really liking the club idea, because as you say we can take it at our pace. One last question; which clubs would be the best to try in the NW, and have a age range between 25-45? X

Do you want clubs with hot tubs, licensed bars, swimming pools, wine bar feel, etc etc.

*from speaking with others* sorry typo

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

Set up a social with a couple who can help show you around the club scene. Maybe something will develop and if it doesn't, no obligation and you've made some new friends x

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No, i meant clubs that have a wide range of ages, particularly in the age range we are looking for. We've heard that some clubs have a lot of very young goers and some with older, id like to see a mix

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, that sounds great x

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Thank you, that sounds great x"

Try cupids this Wednesday

In the end the mix of people is down to those going on the night in question.

It's probably something you should decide together as a couple. Picking a venue is easy. It's the way you will and won't do and with whom that needs more thought.

We had loads of rules our first time for each others comfort.

No kissing

No penetration

No going off on your own

Etc

The over time we have relaxed

But it's important you discuss and are comfortable. Worst thing is to say anything apart from a gangbang and then you arrive and wander off to have bareback pregnancy risk sex with other another couple which she may get upset about. And your only response is well you said anything but a gangbang.

There are lots of activities that are not gangbangs that might be on her not to do list, that she may not have considered.

Clubs are great in that there is no commitment to do anything with anyone. You can say hi and chat but it does not mean you have to remove one stitch of clothing. Alternatively if everyone is willing you could have mind blowing sex with everyone in the place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo a club, in our opinion.

Go for a drink, tunes, meet some cool people at the bar. If you want to play find a corner to yourself. You can still watch other people playing. That, in itself, was a V big deal to us. Watching and listening to people have sex as little as 10ft away, them also watching us. It was the first line crossed on our first visit. Second visit we had much more confidence and played with another couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One at our house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, this might sound rather naive, but we are looking to arrange our first meet. B is leaving it up to me to arrange the time,place and type of meet. I really want this to be a regular thing, so want to make sure the first meet is really enjoyable and something she wants to repeat. Currently nothing other than a a ganbang is off limits- any advice on what was your and what would be a good first meeting?

At chams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with _irginie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chams on a Friday is any one, Saturdays after 7 is couples only, Mondays is big night and Tuesdays are nude night. All different agesture very varied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mondays bi night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way we'd have gone to a club to begin.

I agree with the suggestions of meeting somebody experienced first. Even if just for a social it will help you get comfortable and confident by talking to people who are relaxed and can give you first hand tips.

Our first meets were with a photographer and then an experienced couple and then some weeks later we braved a club.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I know if we had to do ours over we would definitely go to a club.

A dress club with a separate bar area to the play area's. Somewhere which is known to have a friendly environment and be classy too.

Make a weekend of it and meet some experienced swingers first for a meal during the day on Saturday and then on to the club in the evening. That way you're not walking in on your own and you get some backup before you get there. Make a weekend of it and stay at their hotel.

No pressure, loads of laughs and you can just chat to people about their first times all night if you want to, or you can venture into the play areas and explore all the sexy nakedness you feel comfortable with. On your own or with others too.

We're at the Vanilla Alternative on the 21st January. Join us and some friends on the Saturday and come and chill for the weekend

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