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"I need sone level headed advice, and whilst some I may get nay miss the mark somewhat, I feel that there are probably a fair few people here who know what I'm going through, given their urges for passion. I'm in my early thitries, good job and loving family. A wife, 2 young children under 7. For the past 2 years I've been in love with a colleage. She's everything I've ever wanted in a woman. There's no doubting I settled when I married my current wife, even if she loves me more than anything. She's not my soul mate although of course I feel strongly for her and care for her dearly. I have not made a single move on my colleage but we very day that passes, I feel the urge to do so more and more. I do sense a reciprocal feeling, but I'm a bloke and could be picking up the wrong signals. What should I do?" The first question we would ask is why you want to cheat on your wife? | |||
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" For the past 2 years I've been in love with a colleage. ....... ........ I do sense a reciprocal feeling, What should I do?" Get a reality buffer fitted? | |||
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"If you feel you have settled for your wife, do her a favour and make the break, poor lady" We agree totally. | |||
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"I need sone level headed advice, and whilst some I may get nay miss the mark somewhat, I feel that there are probably a fair few people here who know what I'm going through, given their urges for passion. I'm in my early thitries, good job and loving family. A wife, 2 young children under 7. For the past 2 years I've been in love with a colleage. She's everything I've ever wanted in a woman. There's no doubting I settled when I married my current wife, even if she loves me more than anything. She's not my soul mate although of course I feel strongly for her and care for her dearly. I have not made a single move on my colleage but we very day that passes, I feel the urge to do so more and more. I do sense a reciprocal feeling, but I'm a bloke and could be picking up the wrong signals. What should I do?" Leave your wife. The fact you describe her as your 'current wife' and say you settled for her makes it clear how you view her. The fact that you only seem willing to do that if you have an escape route of an affair your colleague is just cowardly and incredibly cruel to your wife. | |||
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"I need sone level headed advice, and whilst some I may get nay miss the mark somewhat, I feel that there are probably a fair few people here who know what I'm going through, given their urges for passion. I'm in my early thitries, good job and loving family. A wife, 2 young children under 7. For the past 2 years I've been in love with a colleage. She's everything I've ever wanted in a woman. There's no doubting I settled when I married my current wife, even if she loves me more than anything. She's not my soul mate although of course I feel strongly for her and care for her dearly. I have not made a single move on my colleage but we very day that passes, I feel the urge to do so more and more. I do sense a reciprocal feeling, but I'm a bloke and could be picking up the wrong signals. What should I do?" So you want to make sure feelings are reciprocated before you make a move? Just in case it's in your mind and you then end up without your wife and without your colleague? | |||
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"I need sone level headed advice, and whilst some I may get nay miss the mark somewhat, I feel that there are probably a fair few people here who know what I'm going through, given their urges for passion. I'm in my early thitries, good job and loving family. A wife, 2 young children under 7. For the past 2 years I've been in love with a colleage. She's everything I've ever wanted in a woman. There's no doubting I settled when I married my current wife, even if she loves me more than anything. She's not my soul mate although of course I feel strongly for her and care for her dearly. I have not made a single move on my colleage but we very day that passes, I feel the urge to do so more and more. I do sense a reciprocal feeling, but I'm a bloke and could be picking up the wrong signals. What should I do?" This is a hard one tbh and really, you are the only one who can make the decision. You say you're in love with you're colleague, I'm thinking it's more lust or infatuation??? The reality is very much different from the fantasy, believe me, I know (yes, I'm married. Throw stones at this adulterous whore if you like, it bounces off!). I would think long and hard about what you have to loose because you may not have anything to gain! Don't mix business with pleasure on any level, it's very messy!!! Good luck op, whatever you decide. | |||
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"I need sone level headed advice, and whilst some I may get nay miss the mark somewhat, I feel that there are probably a fair few people here who know what I'm going through, given their urges for passion. I'm in my early thitries, good job and loving family. A wife, 2 young children under 7. For the past 2 years I've been in love with a colleage. She's everything I've ever wanted in a woman. There's no doubting I settled when I married my current wife, even if she loves me more than anything. She's not my soul mate although of course I feel strongly for her and care for her dearly. I have not made a single move on my colleage but we very day that passes, I feel the urge to do so more and more. I do sense a reciprocal feeling, but I'm a bloke and could be picking up the wrong signals. What should I do?" You know how these threads go? Normally by someone saying, "Show her your profile." There is some merit in that. | |||
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"Walk away mate. Don't give up your family for a fit piece of ass. You will be destroying lives just to dip your dick. Not worth it. Btw there was something that made you choose your wife go back to that in your head and remind yourself about it." This | |||
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"Please don't take the self righteous route. I'm here for advice, not judgement, as my OP states." It's a public forum so people can make whatever comment they want within the rules and as your situation is one that many have strong opinions about, you shouldn't be so surprised that people will express those views quite vehemently. | |||
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"I'm not surprised. I'm well aware of how forums work. I'm simply looking for conversations to be more constructive, and hope those with similar situations to offer their advice from their own experiences. If you have hang-ups about what I'm saying, you should go and seek counselling or something, regardless od" Me? | |||
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"I'm not surprised. I'm well aware of how forums work. I'm simply looking for conversations to be more constructive, and hope those with similar situations to offer their advice from their own experiences. If you have hang-ups about what I'm saying, you should go and seek counselling or something, regardless od" I think you need a serious talk with your wife. Are you happy with her? As it seems like your not in which case staying with her is unfair on both of you. I know it's difficult with kids involved but you need to be happy and so does your wife. | |||
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"Please don't take the self righteous route. I'm here for advice, not judgement, as my OP states." In fairness your opening post makes it near impossible not to judge you | |||
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"Thank you. I think if I do decide to end my marriage, I will leave a gap before jumping into this new relationship. That's even if it is reciprocated. I don't care about money, the house, the car or anything. If I'm the one to leave, then I should leave everything behind. I don't want my kids doing without because of my choices. I cerainy want to be involved in their lives if they will let me. I've been the main carer for them for 6 years as my wife works full time on a good salary. I only work part time. My wife hasn't done anything wrong in particular, we have just grown apart so much. I think the fairest thing to do is speak to my wife. Thanks all for your advice, and sorry to out a downer on a fun site x" No worries... we are all here to help you even if we don't agree with your choices. Good luck | |||
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