FabSwingers.com forum: Visits to the GUM clinic and reality checks .

By *at69drive OP Man
over a year ago

Wisbech and A47 corridor

When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

I visit Cap d Agde and the varios swinger clubs there and have had days that I will remember for the rest of my life. There are not many places or clubs where you can regularly have threw ladies per day. I am extremely carefull always to use condoms there though one lady jumped on top of me there and it was too late.

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

One of your photos is of bareback.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of your photos is of bareback.

Sally"

Lol

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Long term fb's no need to worry - new meets it's always best to get a random check no matter how cute they look or how safe you took it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of your photos is of bareback.

Sally"

Its okay, he is wearing sunglasses.....

We get pretty fired up on meets... bareback is never an option...

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By *maxMan
over a year ago

bolton

"One of your photos is of bareback.

Sally

Its okay, he is wearing sunglasses.....

We get pretty fired up on meets... bareback is never an option..."
must have a very sunny front room

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk."

Not if you're a grown up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I get regularly tested regardless. I have a couples close friends and my partner that we play bare otherwise I Rubber up. It's only as safe as you make it which is why I only go bear with trusted people.

To be fair everyone should be tested regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One lady jumped on you and it was to late.

You try! and always insist on wearing a condom.

Sometimes the pleasure overrides the risks.

All of these admissions we find very worrying to be honest, but glad to see you getting tested regularly. Slip one on or don't slide in.

Every club we've been to supply condoms free of charge both here and abroad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get tested because I have an expectation of having caught anything, I get tested to make sure that I haven't. So no, I don't tend to be worrying while waiting for the results - I'll be shocked if the text ever comes back with anything other than "your results are clear".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get tested because I have an expectation of having caught anything, I get tested to make sure that I haven't. So no, I don't tend to be worrying while waiting for the results - I'll be shocked if the text ever comes back with anything other than "your results are clear". "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Long term fb's no need to worry - new meets it's always best to get a random check no matter how cute they look or how safe you took it. "

Long term fb's no need to worry?

I'd be worried if the OP was a long term fb of mine.

And as he has a few regular meets that he only tries to insist on using condoms with - I'd be worried if I was them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shaking my head here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My health must always come first sorry

Every time

I minimise my risks as much as possible

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By *akeyousmile30Man
over a year ago

greenwich

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on. "

The whole of life is a risk!!!

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Long term fb's no need to worry - new meets it's always best to get a random check no matter how cute they look or how safe you took it. "
. So long term fb are not playing any were else .....

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on. "

No, we don't take the risks. How can someone jump on top of you and you not stop them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but the risk is still there whether you use condoms or not because people don't use them for oral especially as most clinics don't do throat swabs.

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

Always condoms & still get checked out. Even with Darren I still use condoms as I stress of pregnancy risk too. We only play with people who use condoms too, just not worth the risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on.

No, we don't take the risks. How can someone jump on top of you and you not stop them

I've used this excuse many times with ex girlfriends and they never believed me

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on.

No, we don't take the risks. How can someone jump on top of you and you not stop them

I've used this excuse many times with ex girlfriends and they never believed me

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on. "
the question is, are you going to change your ways or not, from your experience.

me, its always safe sex, always get checked out regularly and so far always come back clean.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Not if you're a grown up."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on. "
which tests did you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - If you are afraid of STIs then your best move is celibacy or sex only in strictly controlled circumstances.

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By *oderndaylivesCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I have a low immune system at times. Sometimes I can swing with loads of people for ages and never have a problem, but others I seem to pick up the slightest germ and get ill for weeks with flu/tonsillitis and yes sometimes I have to think it's not worth it. Regarding stds, never take risks so not too bothered, had a condom break once which really pissed me off though-all was well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And how many times in the clubs you see it Women just giving oral bjs Willie nilly .......

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

You're only as safe as your last GuM check and play and also thats based on what tests you have.. swaps throat blood tests actual internal external.professional examination etc

So many only do basic swaps for chymidia and gonorrhea !!

So a regular or not people seem to forget that oral spreads stds too

So unless your shagging in bin bags it's all a risk ..

Just be sensible use your gut and get tested regularly.

When my results come thru I always pass on text to anyone ive played with in that sector.. Fortunately it's rarley more than few So easily done.

last time I got this reply back..

That's a touch babe we are clear !!

What the fook!!!

No mate... I'm clear not you..

Made me laugh and delete him from future meet potentional !!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Not if you're a grown up."

Blimey.

I'm sure we've all been in the heat of the moment and all fired up and the thought of stopping to get a condom on is an unwelcome one but......,

You either want safe sex or you don't.

Personally I want safe.

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By *rbane PlayerMan
over a year ago

London

"When you visit the gum clinic does it ever make you stop and think if the risks taken are wortb it ?

However in the UK I do see a few regular meets whose preference is for bareback though I try and always insist on condoms .

If you are all fired up and ready to go and told not to use a condom , sometimes the pleasure of the moment over rides the risk.

Anyhow I got the results today and all clear .

Do anyone else every wonder if all the pleasure is worth the risks. ?

It does however give lots of happy memories to look back on.

No, we don't take the risks. How can someone jump on top of you and you not stop them

I've used this excuse many times with ex girlfriends and they never believed me

Best joke of the morning !

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By *ymruambythCouple
over a year ago

grantham

You should always play with anyone assuming that they may have something, no matter how long you have known them (outside the primary relationship I mean), and buckle-up accordingly. Clear tests only show a snapshot of time and cannot be relied on completely - especially in this scene where multiple partners are commonplace.

Oral has a slightly different risk profile, and whilst there are still risks, the potential ramifications are significantly less than vaginal/anal and some will choose to not exercise the same levels of protection for oral as a result (like us).

At the end of the day, STI's do exist on our scene and it's down to the individuals to agree what risks they want to take. We personally, would use protection for anything other than oral. Some won't even do that and others will throw caution to the wind. There's no problem with that, just as long as people understand that contracting an STI may be an occupational hazard of that approach!

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