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Young Guy getting going - Difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!

There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.

Thoughts?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Why should anyone meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest you have a read of some of the countless other threads on this subject.

You'll find mostly the same advice.

1. You've only been here 4 weeks. That's nothing. Most single guys wait around 6 months to get their first meet. Give it time. Instashag this is not.

2. Most, if not all, will look at your profile before going anywhere near any message you may have sent, so you need to ask yourself if your profile really is the best that it can be. Single guys outnumber women and couples by around 100 to 1 here, so you really do need to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Brutal. Or are you going for the self help?

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms

Here we go again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming "

It is really hard for anyone on here.

Of course self-help is the key.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming "

Travel to a club! Go on cam and get verifications.

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By *infullyNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Staines


"Hi all

Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!

There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.

Thoughts?"

Hey man, visit a club. I'm from Southampton too, it's a little hard down here for clubs as you know, so I visited Eurekas Naturist club in Longfield (Kent).

The travel was expensive but I found it to be worth it. I'm currently on the lookout for people in Southampton or around who can drive who wouldn't mind some company to eurekas as there's no way I'll be able to pay for that travel again lol. Obviously I'd contribute to the petrol.

But yeah, go to a club one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a club in Bournemouth too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....

OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....

OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified "

Great, I'll drop you a message when I'm online!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....

OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified

Great, I'll drop you a message when I'm online! "

I don't think single guys can get verified by cams anymore.

Op have you gone to any socials?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where's Fabulous and Bearded when you need him.....

OP I might cam withyou this week to get you verified

Great, I'll drop you a message when I'm online!

I don't think single guys can get verified by cams anymore.

Op have you gone to any socials? "

Nothing yet - feel free to invite!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming

It is really hard for anyone on here.

Of course self-help is the key.

"

I thought patience was the key; or does that only work in Penge behind the bushes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be selective about who you message, make sure you are compatible, barn door approach does not work

Use the forums to speak to people first

Get to clubs and make the effort to travel and be prepared to spend time just chatting and enjoying the view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be selective about who you message, make sure you are compatible, barn door approach does not work

Use the forums to speak to people first

Get to clubs and make the effort to travel and be prepared to spend time just chatting and enjoying the view "

Let's start with the basics.

A quality mature profile. Age doesn't matter so much as long as you present yourself as mature in your behaviour.

And quality photos. You only have one cock, so only one cock photo is all that is normally needed.

Remember, first impressions always last, so try to get it right from there onwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A quality mature profile. Age doesn't matter so much as long as you present yourself as mature in your behaviour.

"

Age does matter. People can't accept that someone 20 years younger than them will have what they want. This is evident with most profiles specifying specific ages. We are a classic example

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

well OP if theres no clubs near you im sure there are some members that are from your neck of the woods. Why not set a social up at a pub or something lunch for members meet new friends maybe find a club buddy male or female? Really isnt that hard might take a few days organising but you will reap the wards of meeting members and having a laugh

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By *esiderataWoman
over a year ago

St Helier


"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming

It is really hard for anyone on here.

Of course self-help is the key.

I thought patience was the key; or does that only work in Penge behind the bushes? "

You need a trail of haribo..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming

It is really hard for anyone on here.

Of course self-help is the key.

I thought patience was the key; or does that only work in Penge behind the bushes?

You need a trail of haribo.."

cola ones proffered I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're hot! Definitely go to clubs and parties and you'll have no problem getting attention from people who are looking for single guys!xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!

There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.

Thoughts?"

I'm in Manchester, I'd meet you in a club xx

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I've had younger so it's not your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm all helped out - thanks guys. Welcoming

Travel to a club! Go on cam and get verifications. "

Townhouse is close enough to Chester....go give that a go! And don't have a pop at people giving you advice.....that road leads to oblivion and the kingdom of UNLOS,

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why should anyone meet you? "

You didn't answer

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why should anyone meet you?

You didn't answer "

Because if you had, then you'd have a good basis on which to write a useful and informative profile that will lead to people messaging and hopefully letting you put bits of yourself inside them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club once a month in pompey at tropics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all

Just looking for some advice - have recently started up on here and it seems pretty tough for young, single guys to get a (serious) response sometimes!

There aren't any clubs where I'm from (Southampton but in Chester visiting family until Tuesday) so can't meet people that way.

Thoughts?"

It seems that the commentw about local clubs were made without bothering to look.

We were surprised as we know there are locl clubs to both towns.

Be careful,everyone likes to see effort being put in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Naked - I know there's clubs in Chester but I don't have the opportunity when here unfortunately. Southampton still not sure, I've looked around. Been pointed in the right direction by a few nice commenters above though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's very hard for the younger guys to get established on the swing scene, but if you go to a club and act mature people probably won't know how old you are. That's happened to us before. However you will have to travel if it's a club you want. Lots round the M25. Best bet is to search out clubs on Fab via area. You can read the reviews too.

Mrs

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By *ouple4biMMFCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Good luck whatever you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brutal. Or are you going for the self help?"

We'd say true rather than brutal ! Man o man are you certain to be disappointed by this site !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads well and your pics are good, think patience is the key.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Brutal. Or are you going for the self help?"

The person who asked why asked why anyone should meet you is helping..... because it is there to make you think......

Why do you stand out from a n other

What do you have should make people think wow I have to meet that person

A lot of people don't actually think about what they have written... they just use buzz words or phrases that they think sounds good.... but doesn't actually mean anything.....

It's all bland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brutal. Or are you going for the self help?

The person who asked why asked why anyone should meet you is helping..... because it is there to make you think......

Why do you stand out from a n other

What do you have should make people think wow I have to meet that person

A lot of people don't actually think about what they have written... they just use buzz words or phrases that they think sounds good.... but doesn't actually mean anything.....

It's all bland "

That is so true.

Quite often now you will find that profiles are padded out with a lot of sentences which don't say an awful lot.

Sadly, it seems among a certain sex group of a certain age. It may be because that group tend to post on here a lot.

It all seems the same old same old stuff.

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