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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on this site for 3 years now, but have only met 5 women off here....and none is the past 12 months.

I am verified....and have pics on my profile.

I think my profile is ok.....and i read profiles carefully before sending a message.

All i ever get is 'message deleted'

Any advice gratefully received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Checked your profile in order to see what may need improving/putting people off.

Delete the first half of it... whinging is not sexy in the slightest. We never ever meet guys that moan about lack of meets on their profile because we expect that they are miserable in themselves.

We are here to have fun... a sympathy shag is out of the question with anyone as far as we are concerned.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well the 'moaning bit' i only put up in the last few days, purely out of frustration........before that, it was just the lower part of the profile.

however, i take your comments on board, and may do as you suggest

thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well the 'moaning bit' i only put up in the last few days, purely out of frustration........before that, it was just the lower part of the profile.

however, i take your comments on board, and may do as you suggest

thanks x"

You are welcome

Expanding the advice a little... stick around on the forums to have a bit of fun and get yourself known. Also social events are great fun and an opportunity for folk to get to know each other.... why not head for the 'meet requests and parties' section and get your name down for one or two of them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

someone i spoke to ages ago suggested the forums, but i wasnt keen........but have decided it might be a good idea.....get a little more exposure and chat going....it might lead to people at least _iewing my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"someone i spoke to ages ago suggested the forums, but i wasnt keen........but have decided it might be a good idea.....get a little more exposure and chat going....it might lead to people at least _iewing my profile "

Right... here's your check list for the forums...

1 Arse pic as avatar (my preference.... ignore what anyone else suggests )

2 Sense of humour

3 Allow time for people to get to know what you are about... do not think they are ignoring you, they are just trying to suss you out

4 Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Arse pic ??......you sure??!

Sense of humour......got that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arse pic ??......you sure??!

Sense of humour......got that "

Oh yes on the arse pic

....kidding! I personally love them but it is entirely up to you what you have on show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Checked your profile in order to see what may need improving/putting people off.

Delete the first half of it... whinging is not sexy in the slightest. We never ever meet guys that moan about lack of meets on their profile because we expect that they are miserable in themselves.

We are here to have fun... a sympathy shag is out of the question with anyone as far as we are concerned.

Good luck x"

I have to agree. I didn't even get to the main part of your profile: assuming there is one, as I was put of by the whining.

It is not attractive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arse pic ??......you sure??!

Sense of humour......got that "

100% agree!

Most women find cock pics as avatars an instant turn off, but you can't go wrong with a lovely arse pic.

Delightful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with some of the goreousness above - definately no whining ( although the occasional moan at the right time is good ... ) and cocks are for play not pictures however a realy good butt shot gets both our attention !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best way I've found is to lower your expectations and not think meet meet meet the whole time. Takes a lot of the pressure and disappointment off and allows you to enjoy the more social side of the site a bit more too. Get into chat and get talking to people and have a general laugh with them and more may follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just checked your profile. The second half is great and good to include your availability and the fact you can accomodate genuinely. I'd advise like the others to delete the first bit as it would put me off as it makes you sound negative. I also think you need some more pics on your profile. Good luck! Ms SN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreeing with the above. Take off the moan bit ( I know you said it's new, but it's really not gonna improve your chances!) Put the cock-pic into 'friends only' and add some different nice pics (face is good, but if you can't then, chest, arse, erection-hidden-in-some-nice-tighty-whities are all good options).

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well its seems everyone agreed that the 'moaning bit' of my profile was a 'no no'...........so out it has come!

have changed my pic as well as suggested, for something a little more discrete ......will try and get a better one done over weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best way I've found is to lower your expectations and not think meet meet meet the whole time. Takes a lot of the pressure and disappointment off and allows you to enjoy the more social side of the site a bit more too. Get into chat and get talking to people and have a general laugh with them and more may follow. "
This is bang on the money. Coming here and only speaking to people to ask when you can meet etc wont get you very far with many people. The guys who treat it as a community and look to get to know people and get their face known tend to do better. All the single blokes here can offer the services of their cock so it makes things a hell of a lot easier if you become something more than just another cock...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the moaning, not with the arse pic. There are two guys on here who seemed to have started the arse pic craze and they are gorgeous and I love looking at them, but do we really have to have everyone copying that. Don't imitate others, try and be original, just being another arse is not always a good thing, but then its just my opinion as I don't like imitation, I prefer creativity

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By *hiz2112Man
over a year ago

south wales and gloucestershire

i think if you live in a more populated location,you get more meets,and if you live in the sticks its going to be more hard to find meets,,just thought i would point that out !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a sex change iam sure the ladies get more meets lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Revamp your profile with a few tweeks here and there and as someone else suggested, delete the first bit. It's a bit like a CV. If it doesn't hold the readers interest in the first few lines it's not worth a light. Even if you feel dejected and pissed off, nobody wants to hear that. Needs to be positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arse pic ??......you sure??!

Sense of humour......got that "

If you do add an arse pic, make sure you block single guys!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

listening to some, cock shots as avatars invite bi-men...bum shots however i think invite them more!- a shagging pic is best i think especially when they can see ur whole body...my shot actually done me rather well for some reason i dont look as skinny lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

offer Tesco Clubcard points..

seriously, get to socials and clubs if you can

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

We agree with _iew socials and clubs are a great way to meet people just don't be pushy it will get you nowhere

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

it can be hard work for couples sometimes too... and we're doing nectar points pmsl ;o)

Wolf :o)

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

So in summary,

he has to bare his arse, hide his cock, move to London and not complain about it lol

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm


"Been on this site for 3 years now, but have only met 5 women off here....and none is the past 12 months.

I am verified....and have pics on my profile.

I think my profile is ok.....and i read profiles carefully before sending a message.

All i ever get is 'message deleted'

Any advice gratefully received."

2 days ago you started getting advice, and from looking at your profile it has fell on deaf ears, our advice is follow the first line of your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well i think i followed the advice.

i have changed my profile, removed the cock shot.....just sorting a better pic, and i should be done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forget the original. But if you've updated already, that top bit would put me right off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i had updated my profile, but never checked after........seems most of profile had not changed!!

so i have done it again...........and checked it this time.

hopefully this one will get a few more thumbs up

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

reads well... good luck

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"i had updated my profile, but never checked after........seems most of profile had not changed!!

so i have done it again...........and checked it this time.

hopefully this one will get a few more thumbs up "

One thing to always bear in mind... patience! Rome was not built in a day: you'll be surprised who you meet if you're patient enough

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

I'd quite like to know how I could improve mine, I don't think I'm that bad looking lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'd quite like to know how I could improve mine, I don't think I'm that bad looking lol "

I can honestly tell you that if I lived nearer you would have at least one woman interested. Just looked at your pics. My goodness! *fans self*

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Haha, thanks or my other problem is attracting people light years away

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Haha, thanks or my other problem is attracting people light years away "

I sometimes think that the problem isn't that no-one wants to meet people, but the people who want to meet us are not anywehere nearby. If I had a car I would not ever have a problem meeting people.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Very strange, I get people saying they want to meet, but when it comes down to it, message is either deleted or no reply.. Nevermind

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Very strange, I get people saying they want to meet, but when it comes down to it, message is either deleted or no reply.. Nevermind"
We all get that though. People are strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

join a salsa club.

woman love to dance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bad at all, much more positive. Good luck.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"join a salsa club.

woman love to dance."

a mate of mine did that, he had some success with it too

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"join a salsa club.

woman love to dance.

a mate of mine did that, he had some success with it too

Wolf"

also it gets you really fit.

i enjoyed it very much

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Very strange, I get people saying they want to meet, but when it comes down to it, message is either deleted or no reply.. NevermindWe all get that though. People are strange."

A lot of the time I find the people that are close (ish) complain of being "too close to home" (some times even if that's half hour drive).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very strange, I get people saying they want to meet, but when it comes down to it, message is either deleted or no reply.. NevermindWe all get that though. People are strange.

A lot of the time I find the people that are close (ish) complain of being "too close to home" (some times even if that's half hour drive)."

i have to agree with this.

i get more meets travelling a distance and staying in a hotel if i have too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chams social 16 June come play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd quite like to know how I could improve mine, I don't think I'm that bad looking lol "

It's a matter of taste: I prefer handsome men to pretty boys. I also think people that "sell" one thing about themselves well, one trick ponies: ie vwe with 100 pictures of their knob; pretty toy boys with pouting pictures: not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well im certainly not a 'pretty boy'!!

as for knob pics......i have one for friends only.

im very relaxed and easy going, and not pushy......but still gets me no where

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"well im certainly not a 'pretty boy'!!

as for knob pics......i have one for friends only.

im very relaxed and easy going, and not pushy......but still gets me no where "

Have you got your self known at socials?The fact is it is far better to know if u like someone face to face.

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