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By *poolcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

how hard is it to find a honest toned genuine male whos prepared to seduce a wife by using fbook,loads are messers and dont want the chase anymore,i know if she saw a pic she would be up for it as she talks it in the bedroom but just doesnt want someone she knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how hard is it to find a honest toned genuine male whos prepared to seduce a wife by using fbook,loads are messers and dont want the chase anymore,i know if she saw a pic she would be up for it as she talks it in the bedroom but just doesnt want someone she knows "

I don't quite get it ? You have a couples profile here which says you full swap etc but reading this post it's seems like your trying to talk you wife into this ???? Am I missing something ?

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By *poolcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

no its a friend of mine who wants to take it further with his wifes talk etc but they dont know how as she not keen on swinging etc as seems to seedy,but she talks it in the bedroom,so i suggested finding a toned male which is her ideal bit of fun to seduce her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seduce her by using facebook??? Really? Do you want him to take her to dinner by Linkedin and fuck her later by Twitter?

Apologies for the sarcasm, It just seems an odd request but then this is what FAB is all about, something for everyone.

Hope you guys find what you're looking for and have a great time.

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By *poolcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

no she doeant go on fab but i suggested if a toned male was to send her a message on fbook to get a flirt on then it will get the ball rolling as she wont know him,rather than someone on own doorstep x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she just likes the idea of sleeping with someone else, but seeming as she wont join fab or somewhere similar shes not genuinely up for it?

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

very dodgy ground x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe its just a fantasy.......and some fantasies are best kept as exactly that

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By *poolcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

all need to start somewhere lol,she dabbled a bit before but not as a swinger so just a new ground to try x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would leave your "friend" to it to be honest

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"how hard is it to find a honest toned genuine male whos prepared to seduce a wife by using fbook,loads are messers and dont want the chase anymore,i know if she saw a pic she would be up for it as she talks it in the bedroom but just doesnt want someone she knows "

There is a big difference between bedroom talk and doing,is she a willing partner here or are u pimping her out?

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By *poolcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

she will be willing if she knew she didnt know them or that no one wud find out like family etc usuals scary bits x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell em to join fab then. Thats what its for. She's more likely to have people find out if she does it through fb.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"she will be willing if she knew she didnt know them or that no one wud find out like family etc usuals scary bits x"

Then she needs to be treated like an adult not a piece of meat.Everyone goes through those fears to some extent,the forums,chat and socials can help overcome them.What your "friend" is suggesting is the very opposite of swinging.

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By *ipstickCouple
over a year ago

swansea

seriously , never ever get involved in other peoples relationships even if they are your best mates - that usually makes the situation a whole lot worse if things go tits up !! think your friend needs to sit down and have an adult discussion with his wife and find out her views on swinging first !

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I think your friend is completely missing the point in swinging....

In one form or another swinging for couples is about sharing! Be that physically or through sharing experiences afterwards.

What you seem to be talking about is just plain cheating. Because it comes across as if she would not be aware of what is going on, therefore as far as she is concerned, she would be cheating.

That's not going to get her into swinging that's just going to damage their relationship.

The ONLY way to get into swinging as a couple and finding happiness is full, open and honest communication.

If she lacks confidence or is worried then suggest a social to them. Then all they are committed to is a chat. But they'd get to know people in the scene and can therefore find people that suit them and are discreet etc.

Facebook is next to useless for swinging 99.99% fake profiles, single fella's trolling for pics and lots of girls that like to talk about it but are to worried to follow it through.

Thats our theory anyway lol

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"no its a friend of mine who wants to take it further with his wifes talk etc but they dont know how as she not keen on swinging etc as seems to seedy,but she talks it in the bedroom,so i suggested finding a toned male which is her ideal bit of fun to seduce her x

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She can't find a fit male in Blackpool on a Saturday night?

Ah well, good luck with the search.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"no she doeant go on fab but i suggested if a toned male was to send her a message on fbook to get a flirt on then it will get the ball rolling as she wont know him,rather than someone on own doorstep x"

ok so say a hunk does mail her and she starts to enjoy the flirting /seducing online say she takes it a bit further by meeting the so called seducer and doesnt tell her hubby because as far as she is concerned the hubby knows nothing about this seducer can you see where this could end up ? not the best of ideas i dont think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get this at all.

I don't understand why the OP is so up in his "friend's" business, and so concerned in getting a playmate for his "friend's" wife.

Why doesn't his "friend" pimp out his own wife. Sounds very unsavoury to me.

Poor women!

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"Ripped"? That term, to me, means "completely fucked up on drugs and drink". That should be a breeze in Blackpool at any time.

Or do you mean someone with a "ripped arsehole"? Ouch.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"no its a friend of mine who wants to take it further with his wifes talk etc but they dont know how as she not keen on swinging etc as seems to seedy,but she talks it in the bedroom,so i suggested finding a toned male which is her ideal bit of fun to seduce her x

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There is a difference between what women fantasise about in the bedroom and what they actually want to try.... they share fantasies because they feel safe enough to do that. He should tread carefully.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

There is a big difference to talking about it in the bedroom to actually doing it....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

surely in the chat room you can find someone to share a similar fantasy with?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"I don't get this at all.

I don't understand why the OP is so up in his "friend's" business, and so concerned in getting a playmate for his "friend's" wife.

Why doesn't his "friend" pimp out his own wife. Sounds very unsavoury to me.

Poor women!"

Completely agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry OP but I dont believe what you have said. The title says "my wife" and if that was just a mistype and it was a "friends" wife, you wouldnt be so occupied by it, and coming on replying to every little comment made.

You cannot force someone to swing or to have extra marital sex because it turns you on. Have some respect, you cannot push your own fantasy onto someone else. A person who cares for someone else would never push them into doing something that could possibly have grave consequences later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sorry OP but I dont believe what you have said. The title says "my wife" and if that was just a mistype and it was a "friends" wife, you wouldnt be so occupied by it, and coming on replying to every little comment made

You cannot force someone to swing or to have extra marital sex because it turns you on. Have some respect, you cannot push your own fantasy onto someone else. A person who cares for someone else would never push them into doing something that could possibly have grave consequences later. "

That is A+ advice, I think a fake just got caught out again, its a shame because it is people like them that ruin it for the rest of us trying to find genuine people

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By *poolcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

wheres your head at....the title would sound wierd if put my friends wife wouldnt it,it is written properly in text,my friend isnt on here and wanted a idea of swingers opinions as HIS wife is game but shy until turned on,and sees swinging as seedy but flirting with normal fbook people as fun as there not advertising they are seeking just sex,so if you cant understand the question keep your opinions to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wheres your head at....the title would sound wierd if put my friends wife wouldnt it,it is written properly in text,my friend isnt on here and wanted a idea of swingers opinions as HIS wife is game but shy until turned on,and sees swinging as seedy but flirting with normal fbook people as fun as there not advertising they are seeking just sex,so if you cant understand the question keep your opinions to yourself"

If you post on an open forum people are entitled to respond however they like as long as it's in the guidelines of the site, can I ask if your verified for a meet or on cam as a couple ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wheres your head at....the title would sound wierd if put my friends wife wouldnt it,it is written properly in text,my friend isnt on here and wanted a idea of swingers opinions as HIS wife is game but shy until turned on,and sees swinging as seedy but flirting with normal fbook people as fun as there not advertising they are seeking just sex,so if you cant understand the question keep your opinions to yourself"

I will not keep my opinions to myself and I will post whenever I like.

My opinion is that you are too involved in this for it to be just helping a friend. You're response is too aggressive for it to just be a passing 'act of kindness' for a friend. Whoever the woman is, if she wants to swing she will come to that conclusion herself, it is disgusting for 'two' men tryint to concoct ways for her to have sex with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wheres your head at....the title would sound wierd if put my friends wife wouldnt it,it is written properly in text,my friend isnt on here and wanted a idea of swingers opinions as HIS wife is game but shy until turned on,and sees swinging as seedy but flirting with normal fbook people as fun as there not advertising they are seeking just sex,so if you cant understand the question keep your opinions to yourself

If you post on an open forum people are entitled to respond however they like as long as it's in the guidelines of the site, can I ask if your verified for a meet or on cam as a couple ? "

Totally agree with Kev here.We have looked at OP's profile but can't see verifications.Sorry if we seem judgemental but we smell a rat here.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Got to agree with Iconic, you are either doing as many have suggested which is well wrong.

Why does your 'friend' not join as a cpl, that way his wife can have a look and if she does her perception of seediness etc will after a while may well be altered?

Then she can if SHE wants to, go at her 'pace'which is how it should be as anything else is out of order.

Or your another single guy pretending to be a couple looking for some cheap wanking material, in which case you are not alone as many single guys seem to start certain threads to either get a response or get ideas from cpl's.

Thats our opinion anyway, one which we are entitled to come to and say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or if the OP are a genuine couple, then they have friends where the guy is interested but his wife isn't, perhaps the friend has has a threesome with this couple and now the OP wants to shag his mates' wife but she is not interested in swinging. There is definitely an agenda for the OP as they wouldn't be so bothered or aggressive. Whoever the wife belongs to, you can't coerce anyone to have sex with others if they don't wish to

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how hard is it to find a honest toned genuine male whos prepared to seduce a wife by using fbook,loads are messers and dont want the chase anymore,i know if she saw a pic she would be up for it as she talks it in the bedroom but just doesnt want someone she knows "

I know guys are supposed to do all the running, but, you have been on site for over a year and you still have no verifications. Your pic isn't that great so if you want to be 'chased', whatever that means for you, put some more effort in - effort doesn't just apply to single guys you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sounds a bit dubious. Sounds initially like me and my ex. She was well up for it when talking dirty in the bedroom but she never actually went any further than going to a social. Even then she got cold feet towards the end of the night. I would never have asked her to do anything she wasn't comfortable with, we joined fab as a couple but I've ended up here on my own.

I was going to suggest joining as a couple and point them in my direction but now I'm not so sure since reading the thread from start to finish. The OP's profile doesn't look as convincing as it could. I'm not saying your a fake but the picture looks like it's been taken from a magazine on a dodgy camera, hidden verifications and a pet hate of mine, poor punctuation.

But just supposing everything is kosher and above board, I'd leave it mate. They'll do things at their own pace if at all. Suggest joining fab to see what it's all about, maybe go to a social but forget facebook. That's for friends and family. Hope this helps.

PS. I'd consider editing your profile a bit to appear more genuine. A verification can be obtained simply by seeing someone on cam or talking on the phone. so lets have a peek at them at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am i ripped enough (diesel)

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