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"I would say less than 10% of our meets come from this website, it's so much easier to connect in person. We'll head out to a club and by the end of the night we have 3 or 4 future dates arranged. You get out of this what you put in." I have had meets from here,but most of mine have been from parties and clubs. I widened my circle of Swinging friends and it worked much better for me. Try it, then use this account to keep in touch rather than the focal point of your Swinging adventure. | |||
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"I would re-write your profile because it sounds a tad negative to me. You could say something similar, but better. Exactly what, that's up to you but give it some thought. I'd go to a club as well. " Couldn't agree more.. u need to get out n about fella and change ur profile asap.. | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!!" Not set in stone that you have to meet people of here Other ways to meet people | |||
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"Thank you very much for the advice It seems like the general consensus is to go to a club, but I thought that was a big no - no as a newbie. I thought they would be pretty tight knit, almost secretive groups lol. I guess I was wrong! It seems a bit high pressure for a first timer, but I will look into it thanks again" They are pubs or nightclub type places where some folk may be shagging. | |||
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"Your username and profile suggests that you live off Edgewere Road but being from around these parts, I'm not sure such a place exists. If you try Edgware Road then maybe there is a queue of confused ladies waiting there? Just a suggestion......" you cant miss it! massive road from marble arch up to north london..the area known as edgeware rd is the part nearer central london..even has its own tube station.. | |||
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"Your username and profile suggests that you live off Edgewere Road but being from around these parts, I'm not sure such a place exists. If you try Edgware Road then maybe there is a queue of confused ladies waiting there? Just a suggestion...... you cant miss it! massive road from marble arch up to north london..the area known as edgeware rd is the part nearer central london..even has its own tube station.." Well I actually live right next to Marylebone station now. But that's still close enough that I can keep the profile, right? :P I couldn't find a way to change the name lol | |||
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"Your username and profile suggests that you live off Edgewere Road but being from around these parts, I'm not sure such a place exists. If you try Edgware Road then maybe there is a queue of confused ladies waiting there? Just a suggestion...... you cant miss it! massive road from marble arch up to north london..the area known as edgeware rd is the part nearer central london..even has its own tube station.. Well I actually live right next to Marylebone station now. But that's still close enough that I can keep the profile, right? :P I couldn't find a way to change the name lol" Edgware Road. Edgware tube station. | |||
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"Your username and profile suggests that you live off Edgewere Road but being from around these parts, I'm not sure such a place exists. If you try Edgware Road then maybe there is a queue of confused ladies waiting there? Just a suggestion...... you cant miss it! massive road from marble arch up to north london..the area known as edgeware rd is the part nearer central london..even has its own tube station.. Well I actually live right next to Marylebone station now. But that's still close enough that I can keep the profile, right? :P I couldn't find a way to change the name lol Edgware Road. Edgware tube station." Sat navs at sensitive things. If you can't spell your road name or the area that you live then these lucky ladies are never going to find you. | |||
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"Your username and profile suggests that you live off Edgewere Road but being from around these parts, I'm not sure such a place exists. If you try Edgware Road then maybe there is a queue of confused ladies waiting there? Just a suggestion...... you cant miss it! massive road from marble arch up to north london..the area known as edgeware rd is the part nearer central london..even has its own tube station.. Well I actually live right next to Marylebone station now. But that's still close enough that I can keep the profile, right? :P I couldn't find a way to change the name lol Edgware Road. Edgware tube station. Sat navs at sensitive things. If you can't spell your road name or the area that you live then these lucky ladies are never going to find you." Oh dear OP! | |||
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"Op you will not give up and delete your account.... Winners find a way to win and losers always find a way to lose. Let's look at the positives things about you.... you're 24 , work , can accommodate, and independent. These are your selling points... Use them to your advantage. Step 1 - I would suggest putting up a meet today just for lunch or coffee. Do this daily but make it clear no sex. Some one will say yes and you will get your first meet verification. Step 2 - Go to a social , make sure you say hello to everyone at that social. Male , female, and couples. This is very important because someone will verify you. Step 3 - Ask everyone that verified you to meet you again. It could be anything from another social, going to a club , or a sex meet. I know most of you forum veterans like to give advice on these threads but the rewrite your profile, change your username, go to club advice is past its sell by date. Let's try to help the new people, with new fresh ideas because we were all new at one time. " Positive advice | |||
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"Firstly get some experience, pay for it if you have to. Then pay for someone to join you in a club or a party. Then once you have made some connections you can take off the stabilisers and fly free" This is why I stopped swinging.... the amount of people who can't see the difference between sex work and swinging is shocking. The young man wants to experience swinging and join a community . not hire a woman for sex or hire a woman to escort him to a club. | |||
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"Don't lose your virginity in a club! Delete your account and go and interact and meet people, lose your virginity after some conversation. Not with naughty greedy girls like me who could strap you down in to all kinds of kinky apparatus and do naughty things to you.... " That doesnt sound so bad actually! Thanks for all the advice people. It's very much appreciated!! | |||
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"I want experienced filthbags to fuck the shit out of me, I'm afraid that fucking a virgin isn't what I want from here in any form. I've fucked a few in my youth and it was always shit! Sorry but it's true. Not sure swingers are the best course of action for you. Why not get yourself a nice girlfriend that you feel comfortable with and take it nice and slowly with someone that loves you. Even experienced filthbags have trouble getting it up around me (I'm clearly too fucking hot, they go into panic mode!) and you certainly wouldnt want your first time to be a bad experience with stage fright involved. Surely a loving caring partner is going to be more appropriate. What do I know though everyone's different! Ruby" crikey I have been shagging for 30 years and you scare the crap out of me lol | |||
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"Firstly get some experience, pay for it if you have to. Then pay for someone to join you in a club or a party. Then once you have made some connections you can take off the stabilisers and fly free This is why I stopped swinging.... the amount of people who can't see the difference between sex work and swinging is shocking. The young man wants to experience swinging and join a community . not hire a woman for sex or hire a woman to escort him to a club. " If he really genuinely wants to experience swinging then fair enough. But as a virgin he just may be wanting to experience sex. He doesn't actually say what he wants to experience and I think people are concerned that a swing site is not a suitable place to lose ones virginity. But you raise a valid point about the difference between swinging and escorting. Not necessarily the OP, but there are a hell of a lot of men who seem to use this site in the hope of getting a similar service that one might get from an escort agency but without having to pay for it. Mrs | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!!" As always you'll get conflicting advice..... So feel free to ignore mine. It's hard for single guys to get a meet so one year in with no meets might be seen negatively. I'm not sure it's that unusual though. I'd suggest a few more public photos, you don't need a public face pic, definitely have a couple in your private/friends gallery. Always send a face pic with a first message. Keep the first message personal to the person you send it to. Do not send a cocktail pic or fancy a fuck message. Your lack of experience could be a contributing factor. It's good to be honest, but maybe change the flavour and feel of your biog. Personally I'd say it's a little short and possibly doesn't showcase your personality. If trying a club is daunting have a look in the meets forum and look for a group social. They're a great way to network and meet people, with no pressure. If you decide to delete you've lost nothing. If you want to carry on with Fab maybe write an entirely new profile biog, get some more photos. Then delete this account and reopen a new one with the brand new super deluxe you. Whatever you decide to do, good luck. | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x " Hey OP, ^^^^^^^^^^^ Sorted. | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x Hey OP, ^^^^^^^^^^^ Sorted. " Yes OP, sorted, sounds like a nice invitation from Rabbit, go for it! | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x " Great post.... if he does make it to your social. Make sure to introduce him to everyone and check up on him. | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x Great post.... if he does make it to your social. Make sure to introduce him to everyone and check up on him." That's a very nice thought. Let's hope he takes up the invitation, sounds ideal to me. | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x Great post.... if he does make it to your social. Make sure to introduce him to everyone and check up on him. That's a very nice thought. Let's hope he takes up the invitation, sounds ideal to me. " Don't worry, I am very mindful of all who attend .... I always introduce newbies and have a few regular attendees who along with me make sure no one is left on there own or out of the chat .... I really hope you come OP | |||
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"Op you will not give up and delete your account.... Winners find a way to win and losers always find a way to lose. Let's look at the positives things about you.... you're 24 , work , can accommodate, and independent. These are your selling points... Use them to your advantage. Step 1 - I would suggest putting up a meet today just for lunch or coffee. Do this daily but make it clear no sex. Some one will say yes and you will get your first meet verification. Step 2 - Go to a social , make sure you say hello to everyone at that social. Male , female, and couples. This is very important because someone will verify you. Step 3 - Ask everyone that verified you to meet you again. It could be anything from another social, going to a club , or a sex meet. I know most of you forum veterans like to give advice on these threads but the rewrite your profile, change your username, go to club advice is past its sell by date. Let's try to help the new people, with new fresh ideas because we were all new at one time. " I agree. Constructive suggestions. | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x Great post.... if he does make it to your social. Make sure to introduce him to everyone and check up on him. That's a very nice thought. Let's hope he takes up the invitation, sounds ideal to me. Don't worry, I am very mindful of all who attend .... I always introduce newbies and have a few regular attendees who along with me make sure no one is left on there own or out of the chat .... I really hope you come OP " Well done you, sounds great for newcomers | |||
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"I host social meets in London and heathrow and you would always be welcome to join, if you check out the london forum all details are there, next ones though are in January, there are always a friendly mixed group of people, newbies and experienced, males, females, cpls... it is a perfect opportunity for you to meet, chat and get to know genuine people in the lifestyle, no pressure. Rabbit x Great post.... if he does make it to your social. Make sure to introduce him to everyone and check up on him. That's a very nice thought. Let's hope he takes up the invitation, sounds ideal to me. Don't worry, I am very mindful of all who attend .... I always introduce newbies and have a few regular attendees who along with me make sure no one is left on there own or out of the chat .... I really hope you come OP " Sounds great, proper way to do a social. | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!!" I feel that way | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!!I feel that way " Shame you are so far away... if you're ever this way | |||
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"OP seems to have disappeared off the thread, but has posted on another and done a status for a 'meet now' type thing. I'm sorry to say I'm moving towards the delete profile option. OP you need to get in touch /reply with the poster who has invited you to London based socials, or rethink the purpose of being here. Sorry if that sounds harsh. MrB" I even pm'd him directly yesterday and invited him but he has not read my message, so maybe he has managed to get himself a meet ??? Good luck OP.. | |||
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"OP seems to have disappeared off the thread, but has posted on another and done a status for a 'meet now' type thing. I'm sorry to say I'm moving towards the delete profile option. OP you need to get in touch /reply with the poster who has invited you to London based socials, or rethink the purpose of being here. Sorry if that sounds harsh. MrB" quite alot want to get the cake and eat it rather than putting in any effort. He has been given a golden opportunity to kick start his swinging adventure as well | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!!" Agree with other posts - get to a club. I went on my own and best thing I ever did! Met some lovely people | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!! Agree with other posts - get to a club. I went on my own and best thing I ever did! Met some lovely people " I'm really not sure a swingers club is a good start for someone in the OPs situation. | |||
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"OP seems to have disappeared off the thread, but has posted on another and done a status for a 'meet now' type thing. I'm sorry to say I'm moving towards the delete profile option. OP you need to get in touch /reply with the poster who has invited you to London based socials, or rethink the purpose of being here. Sorry if that sounds harsh. MrB I even pm'd him directly yesterday and invited him but he has not read my message, so maybe he has managed to get himself a meet ??? Good luck OP.. " OK,that says it all x | |||
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"years ago it was good for getting meets clubs would be the best option for you, i would love to have the bottle to go and try another club but after getting refused at some club in Leeds 2010 by some door man just over my accent he refused me to enter the club some couple at the back of me was found him disgusting for his behavior towards me after given me some verbal abuse i was dressed smart cleaned shaved and polite and then somebody like him put me of going again" When I was 18 a doorman stopped me going in a pub because I was wearing trainers, so I've not been in a pub since | |||
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"years ago it was good for getting meets clubs would be the best option for you, i would love to have the bottle to go and try another club but after getting refused at some club in Leeds 2010 by some door man just over my accent he refused me to enter the club some couple at the back of me was found him disgusting for his behavior towards me after given me some verbal abuse i was dressed smart cleaned shaved and polite and then somebody like him put me of going again When I was 18 a doorman stopped me going in a pub because I was wearing trainers, so I've not been in a pub since " | |||
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"Ok, so I've been on this a while. I've been nothing but pleasant and polite, and I've made genuine effort when messaging individuals. I've posted many meeting offers, reached out to people and taken part in forums and chats. I have pics that are on friend only, just not public. I think it's definitely clear that this just isn't the place for someone inexperienced like I am. My ultimate hope was that I would find someone who liked and was even turned on by being my "first". But it seems like this just isn't the place. I've enjoyed my time here and talked to several genuinely lovely people, but in all seriousness should I just delete this account? Is it a waste of time, especially in central London where the pool for guys to pick from is much larger. I'd appreciate any genuine thoughts and not just trolling :P Cheers!!" Bye. | |||
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"Don't lose your virginity in a club! Delete your account and go and interact and meet people, lose your virginity after some conversation. Not with naughty greedy girls like me who could strap you down in to all kinds of kinky apparatus and do naughty things to you.... " That sounds really good | |||
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