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By *ekyllandHyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No we just delete and quite often block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like they just want access to you private photos.

Most folk on here will say it's weird and unacceptable. If someone is a friend add them if not don't

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

We don't. We only accept once we've actually met now. We found that the majority just wanted to see our friends only photos and never ended up meeting.

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By *t8880Couple
over a year ago

Staffs

We are the same delete and block

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

It is in my profile....no friend request without chatting.....if they can't be bothered understanding that then I sometimes can't be bothered to not block and delete them

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By *obb2upCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

we only except friends we have met

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton


"No we just delete and quite often block."

Same here but we always block as it says we will on the profile, so to still send an invite means they either didn't read it or they don't care about our boundaries and neither one is appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I only have people I actually know on my friends list. It's a jolly small, but very friendly list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only add people I've met...

Top tip is don't delete the request, just leave it sitting there in the list as that way they can't resend it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a coincidence I've just posted about this in the Wales forum.

We tend to get the random invites without a message.

Or a one or two messages then a invite.

just this morning we had one I've declined it three times in last few weeks.

From now on think we will just block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I do because it's the way of showing pictures pretty much but it does seem to be meet badly haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely accept friends request from anyone let alone someone I've never spoken to

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

No I don't accept. There's a few people o regularly chat to but even they aren't on my friends list I use it for people that I e met and want to meet again, when schedules are permitting for us both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we never accept friend requests until we have exchanged a few messages, often we wait until we are arranging day/time to meet - we have learnt by experience that people who genuinely want to meet will put a bit of effort and patience into their fab world, m x

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By *ekyllandHyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Like your thinking xx

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By *ekyllandHyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah we are same just think people chance their luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No don't even look at them. Just leave them there so they can't send another.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Sometimes look at profile but then delete. X

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We only friend people we have met, or aim to meet if they have verifications that seem legit. Any friend requests that look interesting we ignore but may then start up a dialogue

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Yeah we are same just think people chance their luck xx"

So when we arranging that meet

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By *duk70Man
over a year ago

langley

Common courtesy to at least chat first and see if they are happy to become friends

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Common courtesy to at least chat first and see if they are happy to become friends "

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow


"Common courtesy to at least chat first and see if they are happy to become friends "

Because that's what you do????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless I've spoken to them first then i just delete friend requests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No we just delete and quite often block."

Always this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No don't even look at them. Just leave them there so they can't send another."

And this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and block. Simples!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of posts on this particular topic. I never add or chat to those who randomly send a friend request. its lazy end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, don't even add them unless we've actually met either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we tend to wait till they are off line, have a quick look at the friends only photos, then unfriend them, then block if they are of no interest to us :-0

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By *rbane PlayerMan
over a year ago

London


"I only add people I've met...

Top tip is don't delete the request, just leave it sitting there in the list as that way they can't resend it "

Oh, now that is clever....

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"we tend to wait till they are off line, have a quick look at the friends only photos, then unfriend them, then block if they are of no interest to us :-0"

Like it, in effect a reverse perve

We just leave them sitting, it says on our profile we don't accept ransoms usually its couples as we have guys blocked.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we tend to wait till they are off line, have a quick look at the friends only photos, then unfriend them, then block if they are of no interest to us :-0"

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"we tend to wait till they are off line, have a quick look at the friends only photos, then unfriend them, then block if they are of no interest to us :-0

Like it, in effect a reverse perve

We just leave them sitting, it says on our profile we don't accept ransoms usually its couples as we have guys blocked.

S"

Ransoms lol wtf.. Randoms ffs

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might friend someone who winks at us if we think there is a possibility of our paths crossing in the future. Likewise we would accept a friend request from someone we have winked at. We're not big on on-line chat and hardly ever meet privately, but we go to a lot of parties so we would hope to connect with some of our 'friends' that way. If nothing comes of it we defriend after a while. There have been a few that haven't accepted our friend request after they winked at us. Guess they were offended that we didn't bother to message. For us it just initiates a connection, then we can have chat if we are at the same party/social. Certainly don't friend people just to look at pictures - ffs we're active players, can't be arsed with picture collecting!

Mrs

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We don't accept them if we havenr spoken,repeat offenders get blocked.We also delete people if we don't keep in touch ,our friends list is just that ,for friends.

Miss

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton


"we tend to wait till they are off line, have a quick look at the friends only photos, then unfriend them, then block if they are of no interest to us :-0"
Looking

We do this also

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't bother to accept friend invites from people who've not bothered to communicate with me - it suggests they want to look at photos. I prefer a friends list of people that I've filtered so that I know we've something in common, either as good friends, shags or other interests.

I wink them, if I think they may be of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only to folk I chat to ,mostly on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends requests should come from friends......the clue is in the name!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the first three months on Fab we were inundated with friends requests ... mostly from the mad, bad and just plain dangerous to know and without even the simple courtesy of a message saying "Hi I'd love to shag you". We now only accept friends requests from people we have exchanged lots of messages with or have met. We had one guy who did send messages .. the same message about 20 times ( the beauty of cut and paste) before we discovered how to block him (slow on the uptake .. its an Irish thing) ... it said "Luv to park my lorry in your drive". WTF Cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only polite and normal if atleast messaged already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get mischievous with random invites most of the time. Or they go straight to file B1N

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

I'll worry about it when and if it happens. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a dew people seem to accept every invite

Personally my list is small, but I just let them sit there so they can't keep resending

Each to their own I don't think there's a right or wrong way

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By *ymph and ManicCouple
over a year ago

North East

Top tip .... ...

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've no pictures in friends I don't make public from time to time, if folk within my preferences send an invite likely I'll accept it, those outside my preferences nope not gonna happen., says as such in my profile,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly don't want to be friends with someone who is so rude as to open by sending a Friends Request before any contact....

Blocked every time - just like I say on my Profile that I will...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No don't even look at them. Just leave them there so they can't send another."

Think they can probably keep sending them but you just don't receive them.

Auto block is our solution.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

nah just delete.....pic collectors!

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By *duk70Man
over a year ago

langley


"Common courtesy to at least chat first and see if they are happy to become friends

Because that's what you do????"

I try to but sometimes I don't even get a friendly response. Shame but it's how it is.

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By *carletcoupleCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We do occasionally if they look of interest and more importantly they appear to have read our profile. So all the straight 25 year old guys that send a friends request just get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We normally have a look at the profile and then 9/10 you can see they haven't even read your profile so mostly just a straight block. Xx

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

No. it's for meets we've met or are far down the road to arranging a meet. That's it.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

I send them (its usually couples) a message saying why would Yu assume we'd want to be your friends when you can't even speak to us, then I block, so they get the message. Happens more on my single profile though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually have a sneak peek at there friends pics then block lol.

Stupid enough to send request without chatting we will have a look lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wont accept them most are from people who haven't bothered reading my profile. I used to delete the requests but got fed up with a few people who would keep sending requests so don't delete now just ignore them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept friend requests, giving people the benefit of doubt but if after sending a message to my new friend I get a one word reply or no reply, then its bye bye

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Nope just delete them....or maybe add,have a perv of the pics then delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hate it when people send a friend request without message first. Very rude of 4hem. Why do they do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I just delete I think that's rude x

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By *r C Miss CCouple
over a year ago

llanelli

We used to, but after a couple of days of people not saying a word. We would delete them..

now we just leave the friends requests. We dont delete them or the winks. That way they cant send us another one

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Definitely not

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

Very very rarely .. normally if I’m being nosey and want to check out their pics lol

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Stated in my profile, I don't accept friend request from people unless we've already chatted.

Anyone sending one without any prior communication is ignored, if they can't read & understand, honour that simple request, then I automatically assume they're not intrested in me as a person, my wishes & preferences, so why would I want them as a 'friend'

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

No, I leave the request there until they upload some pics (which is usually never), then accept when they're not online, have a looksie, and if they then appear real, maybe get back in touch

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Nope ,i wait till they have gone offline,add and look at all pics and then delete.

I block repeat offenders who cant say even hello first .

Miss

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Nope ,i wait till they have gone offline,add and look at all pics and then delete.

I block repeat offenders who cant say even hello first .

Miss"

Haha that’s a great little trick .. how have I not thought of that x

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"Nope ,i wait till they have gone offline,add and look at all pics and then delete.

I block repeat offenders who cant say even hello first .

Miss

Haha that’s a great little trick .. how have I not thought of that x "

Do that all the time unless the lady is really hot ..then she can stay (not that I get many requests )

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Nope ,i wait till they have gone offline,add and look at all pics and then delete.

I block repeat offenders who cant say even hello first .

Miss

Haha that’s a great little trick .. how have I not thought of that x "

I even state in my single prof that thats what i do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No we just delete and quite often block."

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

occasionally i wait till they are off online and look at the picsm, if they are trying alot to add me

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

In the 5hrs, since I posted here, I've had 12 random requests

*Sigh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend requests don't have one rule.

We only accept or send requests with those we've actually met.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

I agree OP, but to be honest a random request from the right persons could be a very pleasant suprise ..... It's always fun to make a new friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx"

If they're hot, verified and have friend only pics then yes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you accept friends requests from people that haven't either bothered to say hi? I personally think only good courtesy to chat first. Just thought I'd see what people's views are xx

If they're hot, verified and have friend only pics then yes xx"

Can I send you one then !

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