FabSwingers.com forum: Does the enjoyment of swinging fade

By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall... but in GC pdi now, in abora caterina

We have been swinging on and off now for 9years.

We sometimes feel the enjoyment and excitement of swinging has gone does this happen to other couples and is it time to give up swinging.???

Our sex life is great and have amazing sex with each other.

But swinging can sometimes just not do it for us.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I give our perspective, can I ask, what is it about swinging you no longer enjoy?

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall... but in GC pdi now, in abora caterina

Sometimes we deside to go to a club and then when we are getting ready to go we think can we really be bothered.

Years ago we would be really excited about going and can't wait.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Maybe don't go for a month or 2 and see if the excitement returns.

Sometimes I'm sat there nice and cozy on the sofa on a Saturday night and can't be bothered. Not often, but sometimes. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes we deside to go to a club and then when we are getting ready to go we think can we really be bothered.

Years ago we would be really excited about going and can't wait.

I get like that but not just with swinging, I think it's the going out and the effort that is involved that does for me.

It's tiring and becomes much more than a night out when you don't get home till the early hours. It's not that I don't want to spend Saturday night in a swinging club more that I don't want to spend half of Sunday asleep because of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes we deside to go to a club and then when we are getting ready to go we think can we really be bothered.

Years ago we would be really excited about going and can't wait.

I get like that but not just with swinging, I think it's the going out and the effort that is involved that does for me.

My god I sound old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I kind of get what you mean. We've been swinging on and of for over 10 years - we still want to have fun with others but it can seem more of a chore than it's worth.

We went to a group social on Saturday and kind of wish we hadn't bothered. And I remember watching my wife get ready and thinking we should have stayed in and had a good fuck together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The enjoyment of swinging hasn't faded, we have.

When we started swinging, not on this site but one that rhymes with focal wingers, we got frustrated if we were not swinging once a fortnight.

To date, we have swung twice this year, and excellent they were too.

Its not a biggy, we enjoy a great sex life and accept that as we get older our appeal to others lessens.

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall... but in GC pdi now, in abora caterina

Yes that is exactly what we are like.

That spark of excitement to have sexy with others isn't there sometimes.

When you first start swinging your so excited to do it now it not so much maybe cus we have been there and done most things over the years. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes that is exactly what we are like.

That spark of excitement to have sexy with others isn't there sometimes.

When you first start swinging your so excited to do it now it not so much maybe cus we have been there and done most things over the years. Xxx"

Yes we've become quite cynical and jaded over the years. We've explored a lot of areas but we find the insincerity of some tedious, we see through it more due to our experiences.

Plus as we've pushed boundaries it's harder to find people on the same wavelength.

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall... but in GC pdi now, in abora caterina

We least it's not uncommon then to get to feel like this then. X

We thought its about time to give this swinging game up. X

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We go through phases where we cant be bothered to meet etc,we just use the forums in that case .

Miss

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

It has for me, although I suspect it's got something to do with my age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The enjoyment is great but the hassle of finding genuine non wasting people is a drag

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"The enjoyment is great but the hassle of finding genuine non wasting people is a drag "

That too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it is a case of not playing too often. That way we keep up the enthusiasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be back.....after about 5 yrs....parties, clubs 240+ verbs etc. I decided to come off.

I came back....though tend to do much less now. Keeping it as a hobby rather than an addiction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mix it up a little, try different clubs, change how frequently you play, change your location and look for new people, we've done all that but also love playing with a few regulars too xx

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

It's best to have a break. Or a change is as good as a rest, apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me (m) I've been on and off the scene for roughly 10 years. What I've found is the spark is still there when we play however I don't find it as easy these days when I first started the then Fwb and I had loads of play time, nowadays we quite often go home without playing with anyone at all, the OH is starting to think it's her that isn't attracting people which I disagree with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes we deside to go to a club and then when we are getting ready to go we think can we really be bothered.

Years ago we would be really excited about going and can't wait.

I get like that but not just with swinging, I think it's the going out and the effort that is involved that does for me.

This

. I have such a hectic week in between at work, so if I trash a weekend because of going out to a club and being tired all weekend, I have to work twice as hard the following weekend at home. Sometimes, it's just not worth it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Having a break can help - if it stops being a fun thing to do, stop and do something else. It doesn't necessarily have to be a total lifestyle choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah I kind of get what you mean. We've been swinging on and of for over 10 years - we still want to have fun with others but it can seem more of a chore than it's worth.

We went to a group social on Saturday and kind of wish we hadn't bothered. And I remember watching my wife get ready and thinking we should have stayed in and had a good fuck together. "

Did you both have a good night - we were undecided whether to go or not.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I too have been swinging for 8 years also......and I just go a couple of times a month to a club as I'm finding it boring too....also think I'm coming to the end as not so many want to play with me.. must be my age

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say it fluctuates some weeks or months it is filthy fun some I can't be arsed

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We don't swing every week which helps keep it fun. When we started we noticed that a lot of those we met seemed to enjoy the social side as much if not more. We are now like them but when we do play the fun is just as good as it is those we meet that make it exciting and fun not just the act.

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

had a phase where it fade a little but turned to the fetish scene and now tend to float between the two. the fetish side is great for social events.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

been playing this game for years.we have gone more into group meets in the last few years .[clubs cinema .dogging.]dont do any couple to couple meets any more [well odd ones ]we still enjoy our encounters .but we in on a sat night having take away watching tv .it never has been our only life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it gets very samey after a while

When I first started doing this about 14 years ago I had a huge to do list, I worked my way through it and it was great, the problem is after so many years what used to be a fantasy has been done that many times your now looking for something new, but I've got to the point I have nothing new left to do, the only things now that I have not tried are things I don't want to try, it's a constant challenge to keep trying to keep it fresh

I also have the fact I'm single against me, it's ok saying stop if your not enjoying it that much anymore but I have nobody at home to shag and I would like a sex life

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We have been swinging on and off now for 9years.

We sometimes feel the enjoyment and excitement of swinging has gone does this happen to other couples and is it time to give up swinging.???

Our sex life is great and have amazing sex with each other.

But swinging can sometimes just not do it for us.

Xxx

Thanks for this one, op because we have found clubs same and what happens there is very vanilla. We aren't turned on by it at all and we've only been at it together for a couple of years. Sex between us is much better. But we are surrounded by people saying that swinging enhanced their already wonderful marriage ... so what do we have? Personally I just think we'll do it less and less and focus on a few really quality meets ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The novelty wears off everything in life.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"The novelty wears off everything in life."

After novelty comes something deeper ... in a relationship its love, but I would never see anything deeper growing out of swinging that didn't grow into something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't swing every week which helps keep it fun. When we started we noticed that a lot of those we met seemed to enjoy the social side as much if not more. We are now like them but when we do play the fun is just as good as it is those we meet that make it exciting and fun not just the act."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe take a break and then see how you feel about it. I often take breaks when I'm not enjoying it. Perhaps you've done everything you wanted to try?

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

we in bed talking about our upcoming meets and random cinema dogging ect .still gets us in mood for great sex together .and long as not every day still very good [mean meets ;not sex ha ha.]still love to see what our female gona wear for them ect.and the look on guys faces when they see her priceless .and to meet some of the stunning females all looking fab .dressed to thrill never gets tiresome to us .

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Totally agree ! When we started off we were like kids let loose in a sweet shop, but now we enjoy the social side with the bonus of excellent fun less often, but just as much fun.

We sometimes meet newcomers to the scene who want to shag the whole world in one year. "Were we like that once" ? We ask ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree ! When we started off we were like kids let loose in a sweet shop, but now we enjoy the social side with the bonus of excellent fun less often, but just as much fun.

We sometimes meet newcomers to the scene who want to shag the whole world in one year. "Were we like that once" ? We ask ourselves."

Yep, think everyone was like that at one point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been swinging on and off now for 9years.

We sometimes feel the enjoyment and excitement of swinging has gone does this happen to other couples and is it time to give up swinging.???

Our sex life is great and have amazing sex with each other.

But swinging can sometimes just not do it for us.

Xxx

When it gets like this , which it does , we take a short break and before long we miss it and get right back into it .

Swinging is like any other buzz , the more you do it the harder it becomes to get that fix , so it's inevitable .

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No, I don't because I try to avoid over indulging. I don't want to feel like that about my sex life so I exercise control. It's like chocolate for me - delicious in small doses and that feeling you get is wonderful but after a bit I get bored and feel quite sluggish.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I think once the intensity has gone and it's just routine, time to leave it behind and get on with what is real and make some real connections

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