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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

A bit like on here - so many men but I can't find what I'm looking for. Am I being too picky or not searching hard enough?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"A bit like on here - so many men but I can't find what I'm looking for. Am I being too picky or not searching hard enough? "

Of the two, I'd plump for "too picky" although I don't know how hard you look.

If I can be honest, I wonder if what you are looking for hasn't changed, and has become slightly conflicted. Your profile starts off typically swingy, but by the end there is a tentative hint of a desire for a relationship.

If your ideal swinging partner is different to your ideal life-partner, that's where your conflict, and hence trouble, could lie.

I hope that's not too bold.

Mr ddc

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By *ecretlyASoftie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"A bit like on here - so many men but I can't find what I'm looking for. Am I being too picky or not searching hard enough?

Of the two, I'd plump for "too picky" although I don't know how hard you look.

If I can be honest, I wonder if what you are looking for hasn't changed, and has become slightly conflicted. Your profile starts off typically swingy, but by the end there is a tentative hint of a desire for a relationship.

If your ideal swinging partner is different to your ideal life-partner, that's where your conflict, and hence trouble, could lie.

I hope that's not too bold.

Mr ddc"

Not too bold in the slightest Mr DDC, I welcome all feedback

I'm at clubs weekly, often more, plus look at profiles here but mostly I'm kind of 'meh'. So yes maybe I'm too picky.

As for the relationship, that's been on my profile for sometime and I'm not seeking a vanilla one. It would be swingy in some way but I'm not sure what form though. I tried a swinging relationship for 7 years (he lied and cheated ) and cuckold (he tried to dictate who I should and shouldn't fuck ).

Maybe I'm just currently disillusioned with the whole thing. Well men anyway, not women. I appear to find myself knee deep in clunge on a regular basis easily enough

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My profile is designed to be 'meh'

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"My profile is designed to be 'meh' "

Good job

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"bold.

Mr ddc

I appear to find myself knee deep in clunge on a regular basis easily enough "

Is it the same for women* - is the type of person you fantasise about having sex with, different from the type you would want to spend the rest of your life with?

* I say 'women', it would also be interesting to hear if this is the case for other men too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on whether you're looking for potential relationship material in the guys you're looking to meet? There are plenty of guys who meet my "great sex meet" criteria but i wouldn't want a long term relationship with them.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


" There are plenty of guys who meet my "great sex meet" criteria but i wouldn't want a long term relationship with them. "

That's exactly what I was wondering. In which case it must be very hard to write one profile that attracts both types, without putting off one or the other?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Don't like compromise, does all parties a disservice in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit like on here - so many men but I can't find what I'm looking for. Am I being too picky or not searching hard enough? "

Too picky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could just be in a meh mood. If you are, there won't be anyone here for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your view of men could be tainted by your experiences and you're looking for the impossible man.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"bold.

Mr ddc

I appear to find myself knee deep in clunge on a regular basis easily enough

Is it the same for women* - is the type of person you fantasise about having sex with, different from the type you would want to spend the rest of your life with?

* I say 'women', it would also be interesting to hear if this is the case for other men too? "

I wouldn't compromise .... and haven't ... the person I am spending the rest of my life with is the one I fantasise about having sex with and have the best sex with. Its interesting because it means my interest in other men is now non-existent ....so now I meet women only. I dont think the right match comes along at all often. NSA sex is NSA sex though, for me, this is about the moment so whilst I dont do it often, its a spur of the moment thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit like on here - so many men but I can't find what I'm looking for. Am I being too picky or not searching hard enough? "

You should be as picky as you want to be. Finding a partner for a proper long term relationship isnt easy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit like on here - so many men but I can't find what I'm looking for. Am I being too picky or not searching hard enough? "

Thought you were just quoting iron maiden, rime of the ancient mariner lol

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Your going to have to make your own.

every requirement you stipulate has an odds and they multiply together to give the odds of success. Given what you have stipulated the odds are low. Then he has to feel the same about you.

So you find somebody who ticks the unalterable boxes and look for potential in the other areas and nurture it in to being.

You might also have to be prepared to seperate out certain elements of your life or compromise on the context in which they are sated. If you find the right person compromise can seem a fair price to pay.

D

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