FabSwingers.com forum: Another no show

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Arranged a meet on cam with a girl she asked to meet me at hers, she was really up for it constant messaging on here and kik swapping pics having a good chat. Then nothing for 2 days and no meet. What's wrong with some people on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once 'she' has emptied her bollocks jobs done.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Maybe she changed her mind, it's still allowed.....

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Maybe something came up ,people have lives away from here.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.

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By *khotcouple20Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Once 'she' has emptied her bollocks jobs done."

Looool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arranged a meet on cam with a girl she asked to meet me at hers, she was really up for it constant messaging on here and kik swapping pics having a good chat. Then nothing for 2 days and no meet. What's wrong with some people on here? "
Maybe it was just a escape from her real world and has kids and a old man at home. Really you don't know how people just from mail and a cam chat. xx

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want."
If so it would have be nice of her to just tell him that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want. If so it would have be nice of her to just tell him that x"

It would have been , yes

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want. If so it would have be nice of her to just tell him that x

It would have been , yes"

See is not worth it guy, if you had no apologies from her, it's her loss right. Many on here have a lack of manners or respect for others. It's all about them you know! Way of the word sadly.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want."
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I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

It is what it is fella and one of the main reasons I am very very picky about who I meet for a social and even more picky over who I play with .the slightest hint of similar behavior to what's in the post I'm referencing and I said won't play full stop as I'm a human being so should be treated as one by those I deal with failure to do so means I walk away .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.

If so it would have be nice of her to just tell him that x"

it would. depends how the guy is though.

i mainly lose interest in men if they start getting lax and their manners disappear and you become only a sex object to them. it happens a lot.

a fairly decent conversation usually ends up turning into me being objectified and nothing else. would i reply to someone like that? no. i wouldn't bother giving them the time of day after that.

i'm a person with feelings as well.

too many guys think once they're in they're totally in, that don't work for me and consistency is the key.

if you can't keep up what made me interested n the first place then i'm done.

of course i expect conversation to get more sexual, but if it only becomes that then you become a talking dildo to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many no shows have you had?

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Once 'she' has emptied her bollocks jobs done."
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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.f

I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special . "

My, what a high opinion you have of women.

Narcissists and self gratifying?

It's a wonder you are able to chat with any, much less the few you feel are qualified enough to meet you!

Granted--I have heard the horror stories from real men who have been treated like shit by a few. But lest those few ruin things for everyone, there are a lot of meets going on (verifications don't lie, do they??) and to class us all in one lump is just crap.

I, for one, have never stood anyone up. Ever. I have met lightly yes--with the spoken assumption that it's a social meet only, and no intentions of anything more (that is to be decided after). Is this self gratification or narcissistic behaviour?

No--simply choice. We meet who we want and don't when we don't want to. I'm not saying it's ok to stand someone up, ever. But it's equally unfair to say we're all the same.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.f

I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special .

My, what a high opinion you have of women.

Narcissists and self gratifying?

It's a wonder you are able to chat with any, much less the few you feel are qualified enough to meet you!

No--simply choice. We meet who we want and don't when we don't want to. I'm not saying it's ok to stand someone up, ever. But it's equally unfair to say we're all the same.

Nor have I ever stood anyone ether nor have I ever been stood up .yes I've had people cancel a few days before but I've never had a no show . as for having a high opinion of myself you mean knowing my worth as a human being and acting accordingly to those who don't value me as a human being is somehow wrong

As for being picky about who I meet well it has served me very well in the past you see I'm a slow burner and a slow worker most don't stick around long enough for me to make up my mind about whether I want to meet them but those that do become my friends even those who through mutual agreement I will never play with .

You see I invest time in my play partners and my friends this means I can't be friends with everyone or have everyone as a play partner for practical reasons which on grounds of not wanting to mess anyone around or lead them on means I take my time choosing my play partners and I'm picky about who I let into my confidence .

Since when is such behavior a crime ,

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.f

I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special .

My, what a high opinion you have of women.

Narcissists and self gratifying?

It's a wonder you are able to chat with any, much less the few you feel are qualified enough to meet you!

No--simply choice. We meet who we want and don't when we don't want to. I'm not saying it's ok to stand someone up, ever. But it's equally unfair to say we're all the same.

Since when is such behavior a crime ,"

So where do you get off calling us narcissists and self gratifying whatevers???

We have the right to do things our way too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.f

I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special .

My, what a high opinion you have of women.

Narcissists and self gratifying?

It's a wonder you are able to chat with any, much less the few you feel are qualified enough to meet you!

No--simply choice. We meet who we want and don't when we don't want to. I'm not saying it's ok to stand someone up, ever. But it's equally unfair to say we're all the same.

Since when is such behavior a crime ,"

So basically you're just doing what we do anyway? Only bothering with those who are interested in you and you're interested in them? Except we have more choices, that's the only difference.

Men are disposable on here for me yeah, suppose that does make me narcissistic to a degree...i know NSA is the most shallow thing ever between people and everyone on this site wants just about that, it's what swinging is basically too.

But show me any guy worth keeping hold of and i will make some effort, don't wanna act too keen in case any think i'm in love with them when really he's just really rare on here in that he gives a bit of a shit about me as a person and is a good fuck. And therein lies the problem...too many cheats, liars, and men who think we're a service -too right all of these men are disposable.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.f

I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special .

My, what a high opinion you have of women.

Narcissists and self gratifying?

It's a wonder you are able to chat with any, much less the few you feel are qualified enough to meet you!

No--simply choice. We meet who we want and don't when we don't want to. I'm not saying it's ok to stand someone up, ever. But it's equally unfair to say we're all the same.

Since when is such behavior a crime ,

So basically you're just doing what we do anyway? Only bothering with those who are interested in you and you're interested in them? Except we have more choices, that's the only difference.

errr no I'm not i like to foster friendships .I like commitment with in boundaries I give freely of myself . I don't fear emotions I prefer to be emotionally invested in my friends and play partners.

I love intimacy I love cuddles I love to build things I love to give my play partners all that I am freely even though I know it will lead me to feeling pain down the line .

nothing i give is hollow its all real and comes at a cost to me but that's ok because you no something when your a open free loving human being you will be amazed at the results. results that live with you forever something a one night stand will never do .

one night stands are not true swinging true swinging in my book is friends sharing sex and other aspects of there life along side the sex socially .

but hay we all define what we want on here as for me I stay well clear of certain types because we are poles apart in how we like to go about having fun .

luckily like I said in 8 years of playing I've meant some truly lovely people and forged memories with them that will live with in me forever .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.

If so it would have be nice of her to just tell him that x

it would. depends how the guy is though.

i mainly lose interest in men if they start getting lax and their manners disappear and you become only a sex object to them. it happens a lot.

a fairly decent conversation usually ends up turning into me being objectified and nothing else. would i reply to someone like that? no. i wouldn't bother giving them the time of day after that.

i'm a person with feelings as well.

too many guys think once they're in they're totally in, that don't work for me and consistency is the key.

if you can't keep up what made me interested n the first place then i'm done.

of course i expect conversation to get more sexual, but if it only becomes that then you become a talking dildo to me."

I couldn't have put it better myself! This happens so often and becomes dull as fuck!

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By *iolet2000Woman
over a year ago

Ormskirk

Well if you didnt confirm it prior to travelling i personally wouldnt have gone.

Everyone is free to change their mind.

Sometimes life gets in the way and plans have to change.

Ive had people change or cancel then do it again.

Id say there could be a genuine reason. But twice is too many. I wouldnt waste time rescheduling them in.

Time is precious for all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she probably ended up interested in someone else. this site makes it easy for women to self gratify.

one of the advantages of being female on here is there is constant interest in you from guys, it's really easy to start preferring someone else. especially if they seem to be more what you want.f

I'm sorry to say op this post is so bloody true as much as guys get a raw deal on here because of the actions of a few , this is the true mindset of most of the woman on here and a good few couples .

Sites like this turn lots of woman and couples into narcissists who are only in it for themselves and can behave that way not because there great but because of the numbers game .

But hay girls who act like there it and act accordingly do nothing for me anyway so its not like I'm missing out on anything special .

My, what a high opinion you have of women.

Narcissists and self gratifying?

It's a wonder you are able to chat with any, much less the few you feel are qualified enough to meet you!

No--simply choice. We meet who we want and don't when we don't want to. I'm not saying it's ok to stand someone up, ever. But it's equally unfair to say we're all the same.

Since when is such behavior a crime ,

So basically you're just doing what we do anyway? Only bothering with those who are interested in you and you're interested in them? Except we have more choices, that's the only difference.

errr no I'm not i like to foster friendships .I like commitment with in boundaries I give freely of myself . I don't fear emotions I prefer to be emotionally invested in my friends and play partners.

I love intimacy I love cuddles I love to build things I love to give my play partners all that I am freely even though I know it will lead me to feeling pain down the line .

one night stands are not true swinging true swinging in my book is friends sharing sex and other aspects of there life along side the sex socially .

but hay we all define what we want on here as for me I stay well clear of certain types because we are poles apart in how we like to go about having fun .

luckily like I said in 8 years of playing I've meant some truly lovely people and forged memories with them that will live with in me forever . "

well, you chose to turn the women self gratify into a bad thing. yet it's what you're doing also...although with you saying men get a bad deal on here this leads me to think you're not quite as satisfied with what you've got from fab as you're letting on, or it's at least been hard to get what you want from here.

anyway, if you're getting what you want on here, so can we.

it's not a bad deal for men, it's a bad deal for incompatible men that's all.

i also like to be affectionate, even had my name as affectionate for a while.

you don't really know anyone on here, or what they really want, or what they're capable of unless they let you know that, and how many people on here allow themselves to be truly vulnerable, and who really wants to be vulnerable in a world full of predators? you can't even comment on anything you like in the forums coz if you do loads of men think that's you up for it with them...that you like something they like so you're compatible...like wtf? you haven't even interacted with me except to objectify me as something that will satisfy you sexually (you in general, not you yourself).

men need to get a fucking grip. not many women are machines, but most of you expect us to be.

and that is why you all fail. you haven't a fucking clue, no patience to discover anything about us, think we're something we're not. and this should be copy and pasted onto every single forum topic with any man asking what he's doing wrong. or he's unattractive, and i can't help that. yeah add that to the moaners also, you're not attractive.

i don't give a fuck now. women are allowed to choose whoever they want for sex, and eventually this world shows us the lowest of the low and we don't wanna meet any more, it stops being NSA fun and becomes something way more sinister about how men view us.

you've been lucky in that you are looking for women and many of them want something more than NSA and so have you. but turn it the other way round and you can see hardly any men want anything more than NSA. and that makes them so fucking disposable indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some very interesting comments in this thread - nsa sex doesn't have to mean emotionally unengaged sex - it all depends on how your mind and body work....but to return to the op....

me and my hubby don't use the cam option on fab but we do find that occasionally we arrange meets and the person/couple doesn't turn up and doesn't contact us to say what has happened. We just assume they changed their minds. We don't analyse why they might have changed their minds, we will never know that. We arrange our meets to happen at one of our favourite swingers clubs so there are always possibilities for fun.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

some comment on this subject.to receive your fab swingers diploma .for forum comment please ad message of not less than 2000 words . [its fab ,it will happen more times than you will get a meet.just keep trying ]

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Unfortunately on this site that happens a lot . Some people only here to fantasize. We have had a couple of guys do the same . So now we arrange our meets at club , so if they don't turn up there are others to take their place

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

So, let me describe my last few days....

Couple who'd been mad keen on a meet suddenly bailed eight hours before.

Two choices; do I have a rant or look around?

A few hours later I'm having a spur of the moment meet with a single woman though in the end we don't play because - let's be honest - I'm not her thing.

The next evening I'm having a planned social with a woman I've been chatting to for around a year. She turns out to be all I expected and more and we part after a really fun evening with the prospect that we may meet again and just might....

In the course of the afternoon, I'd turned down a play meet because of the long standing social.

So, what's my point?

Well I guess everyone has to question is swinging always the simple, uncomplicated business we think we're into? No.

Would I stop because it takes a little more effort for the best meets? Are you crazy?

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

"Arranged a meet on cam with a girl she asked to meet me at hers, she was really up for it constant messaging on here and kik swapping pics having a good chat. Then nothing for 2 days and no meet. What's wrong with some people on here? "
well a woman still has a the prerogative of changing her mind. Though still should have the decency to inform you , its disrespectful to assume that you could,nt be doing something else with your time.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

OP there's nothing 'wrong' with people on here. Think of the possible scenarios

1) she was swept up on the thrill and expectation of a meet then it became close to being reality..

2) as previous mentioned, some other more exciting Fabber grabbed her attention

3) she thought 'what have I gone and done' I've no idea how to say 'no thanks'

4) 'she' was a 'he'

There are many others scenarios, but really OP my advice would be to put it down to experience and move on.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

OP there's nothing 'wrong' with people on here. Think of the possible scenarios

1) she was swept up on the thrill and expectation of a meet then it became close to being reality..

2) as previous mentioned, some other more exciting Fabber grabbed her attention

3) she thought 'what have I gone and done' I've no idea how to say 'no thanks'

4) 'she' was a 'he'

There are many others scenarios, but really OP my advice would be to put it down to experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she changed her mind, it's still allowed....."

It is allowed, but pretty rude to say nothing and disappear for days.

I've had the exact same thing happen to me, it does get pretty irritating

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Maybe she changed her mind, it's still allowed.....

It is allowed, but pretty rude to say nothing and disappear for days.

I've had the exact same thing happen to me, it does get pretty irritating "

Ok well I'll have to take your words for it,

I've never had a no show

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

A talking Dildo... Fuck me that's genius!! Like the new google shit, you can ask it any question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always shown up at the arranged date, time & place, especially when we've chatted and agreed a meeting, either messaging services or the site we were/are members of.

We had more no - shows than we had people turn up, even though they'd sent the old, I'm just parking the car, or I'm only five minutes away, only for them to fail to turn up. Unless if course they fall into the 'Lurkers' group, but that's a whole other story.

In the final analysis, it's really up to them if they want to actually do the deed and meet up, and as frustrating as it can be, there's nothing you can do about it. Block and move on.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

fuck had a meet with kylie for tonight the bitch didnt show .no worries though cos had a great wank thinking about if it did. its only fab eh

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