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"Any good advise would be welcome " Be kind to yourself X | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome " Celebrate yourself and who you are ... reconnect with yourself. Can take some time .... seven years for me. | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome " Go to the club, have a professional massage from K, get cuddles and hugs with good friends and ball your eyes out. Well that's what I did today. Not a permanent solution but I got through today with it x  | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome " Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Go to the club, have a professional massage from K, get cuddles and hugs with good friends and ball your eyes out. Well that's what I did today. Not a permanent solution but I got through today with it x :- (" Thanks  xx | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc " Was thinking the same. Must be passed away | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc " No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc Was thinking the same. Must be passed away "No not passed away just wanted somebody else | |||
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"I find hugs help a little. "
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"Sometimes things just aren't meant to be hon.....just take things at your own pace moving forward... and plenty of socialising x "Thanks T xx  | |||
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"Time is a great healer. Dont force yourself to forget.. will be his (or her face) you may in others. I lost a dear lover 11 months ago.. still think of her dearly and miss her like crazy. Circumstances made us stop seeing each other (no one is married) Time has helped and socially meeting other people with nothing heavy. Good luck "We both went into it with a casual thing but it turned out different and much more involved. ...he still had a thing for an old flame of 30 years I can't fight that I lost | |||
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"It's hard in the early days but just remember the good times you had together and be positive that you will find someone else when you are ready x"Thank you x | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol" So it sounds like he was treating you as a "rebound" person, which in itself should make you think twice about how much you meant to him. FB & FWB relationships must always be fraught with risks of misunderstandings, and it must be hard not to let feelings move on to "love" while the other person sees it as so much less. I agree with the "go to a club" comment above, and fuck the memory out of your mind Good luck 
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol" i had a man leave me for an alcoholic who wasnt nice to him.he told me that she needed him more than me. | |||
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in which case I have just to parrot the 'give it time' advice.
cliché as it sounds..shit gets easier | |||
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"Is it something to do with the time of year but I know many FB friendships/relationships falling apart right now? Weird how there's so many at the same time "Mmmm strange your right just at the time of year when you need somebody | |||
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"Distract yourself for a few weeks, keep busy then and then once the initial hurt is over, the rest of the grieving process will kick in. You will get through it. Sorry you are hurting xx" Thank you for your kind words I am hurting I know it will go but it will be hard x | |||
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"Is it something to do with the time of year but I know many FB friendships/relationships falling apart right now? Weird how there's so many at the same time "Saves buying Christmas presents and having the 'what are you doing Christmas Day?' conversation | |||
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx " fixed it for you. A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks | |||
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"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone I've always found X " | |||
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"Is it something to do with the time of year but I know many FB friendships/relationships falling apart right now? Weird how there's so many at the same time
Saves buying Christmas presents and having the 'what are you doing Christmas Day?' conversation "I've just saved a fortune | |||
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends bitch , cry and then go have fun xx " | |||
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx fixed it for you. A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks "No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though  | |||
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx fixed it for you. A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though " | |||
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What are my options? | |||
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"There is a book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken", It really helped both myself and a close friend through a similar situation. " Thanks | |||
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx fixed it for you. A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though "don't rob me of my small intellectual victories..they're few and far between | |||
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"Anyway this bitch also needs to get d*unk but I don't drink
What are my options? "Can't help you there.... | |||
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"lol I'll drink for you , you can watch me "I usually do love...and get the pleasure of looking after you! I'm just in it for the snogs | |||
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"your going to feel shit for a while but it will get easier , go get d*unk with your friends, bitch , cry and then go have fun xx fixed it for you. A prime reason to be aware of your punctuation folks
No fix needed, she was calling her a bitch. Nice bitch though
don't rob me of my small intellectual victories..they're few and far between "Sorry lovely. But you know if you were doing a proper job there were also two unneeded spaces you could have cleared up  | |||
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"lol I'll drink for you , you can watch me
I usually do love...and get the pleasure of looking after you! I'm just in it for the snogs " | |||
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"Think a girls night is need , I can do hair and makeup or girly day at the club " I'll be there Friday afternoon with another lady in need. Or tomorrow night possibly. | |||
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"Think a girls night is need , I can do hair and makeup or girly day at the club I'll be there Friday afternoon with another lady in need. Or tomorrow night possibly." Enjoy will be working | |||
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"Think a girls night is need , I can do hair and makeup or girly day at the club I'll be there Friday afternoon with another lady in need. Or tomorrow night possibly. Enjoy will be working "Go another day. Post a meet. | |||
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"Think a girls night is need , I can do hair and makeup or girly day at the club I'll be there Friday afternoon with another lady in need. Or tomorrow night possibly. Enjoy will be working
Yeh unfortunately working all week at another job too....with a friend and over the weekend ....might go Wednesday evening x
Go another day. Post a meet." | |||
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"It hurts at first and you maybe didn't realise how much they meant until they left. You're right, you can't compete so take comfort in the fact that it was nothing you did and nothing you can change. When you're ready you'll get back out and meet other people and think on the positives. " Your right there....I didn't realise how much he meant to me | |||
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"Some have already posted in the k thread they're going weds " | |||
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"Sorry but why cant anyone spell losing or lose anymore " That's helpful  | |||
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"Sorry but why cant anyone spell losing or lose anymore That's helpful "I stand corrected | |||
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"I can't really add any more than what has been said above. Look after yourself, be good to yourself, tell yourself that everything happens for a reason and better things will come to you when they are right. And then use Fab to it's full extend and meet lots of nice new men " | |||
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"Sorry but why cant anyone spell losing or lose anymore " Because they're both "words", so the spellchecker Disney help. (that only works if you read it in a Scottish accent) | |||
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"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone I've always found X " Agreed | |||
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"All you can do is mentally wish him well wherever his life leads him, dust yourself off and carry on with each day. Each time you think of him, smile remembering the good times, wish him well, let it go. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and still wishing him well 10 months on." Thank you that brought a tear to my eye......x | |||
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"I can't really add any more than what has been said above. Look after yourself, be good to yourself, tell yourself that everything happens for a reason and better things will come to you when they are right. And then use Fab to it's full extend and meet lots of nice new men " | |||
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"Keep looking forward, hard as that may seem, and as others have said look after number one Blokes experience the same, well this one has anyway" | |||
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"I listen to sad songs and cry myself to sleep for a few days. Then I slowly realise that life goes on and you just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and put on a brace face till you no longer hurt Try not to dwell on it and keep busy with distractions. X" Thank you xx | |||
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"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone I've always found X "No that doesn't work, trust me, six weeks ago a beautiful lady walked out of my life ( we met in fab ) and everything I do in my head is still for her !!!
I've been slutting it up with two girls off fab, and still she won't leave my mind!! Yes in the moment and the chase you forget, distracted but ultimately on them first morning brews or the drive home from work you remember 
We'll never speak again and it hurts !! Oh god think I'm gonna have a little cry !!!
You'll be cool, it's time that's the greasy healer !! It still hurts but it's more manageable x
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"All you can do is mentally wish him well wherever his life leads him, dust yourself off and carry on with each day. Each time you think of him, smile remembering the good times, wish him well, let it go. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and still wishing him well 10 months on." Nicely put and so true x | |||
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"Must be a k thing, because I'm in the same boat " | |||
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"Must be a k thing, because I'm in the same boat
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"There is a book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken", It really helped both myself and a close friend through a similar situation. Thanks "Nice, I've just ordered one in prep for dumping my FB. Already got a new squeez lined to help with rebound. Its not going to be easy, but I know he's no good for me. | |||
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"There is a book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken", It really helped both myself and a close friend through a similar situation. Thanks
Nice, I've just ordered one in prep for dumping my FB. Already got a new squeez lined to help with rebound. Its not going to be easy, but I know he's no good for me. "
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"OP The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her. What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals. Still miss that connection even after 18 months. I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be. " Can't be bothered to flirt or shag anybody anymore. .....  | |||
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"OP The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her. What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals. Still miss that connection even after 18 months. I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be. Can't be bothered to flirt or shag anybody anymore. ..... "I'm the same, I can't seem to move on xx | |||
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"OP The same happened to me. An old flame appeared got her d*unk and seduced her. What made it really hard is that his wife went off with another man . So clearly he had no morals. Still miss that connection even after 18 months. I know those emotions you feel and how much a struggle it can be. Can't be bothered to flirt or shag anybody anymore. .....
I'm the same, I can't seem to move on xx"It's gonna take somebody special I feel....just going to k to keep up with friends... | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol" Hmmm, a quote springs to mind : "I would rather lose a lover than love a looser " Hugs Jane x | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome " Me too, big hugs xxx | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Sorry if this appears crass, but in assuring to the "lover" question: by "losing" do you mean "passed away" or they've just moved on? It kinda alters my advice really. Mr ddc No not died just decided he wanted somebody else who treated him badly lol Hmmm, a quote springs to mind : "I would rather lose a lover than love a looser " Hugs Jane x" | |||
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"Any good advise would be welcome Me too, big hugs xxx" Thanks hugs back x | |||
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