FabSwingers.com forum: First time at a swinging party

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for some tips and advice please guys. Am going to my first house party and wondered if people could give me some advice on the do's and donts. I feel I should take the host something as a thank you. Is that a bit over the top?

Would be really good to hear back.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say, treat your hosts as if it was a 'conventional' party, and take maybe wine or chocolates as a thank you.

You may need your hosts' support during the evening, e.g. if anyone gets a little bit pushy, so it's good to establish a rapport with your hosts right from the beginning.

Have a great time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you so much for that, that's a great help xx

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

I`ll also add the usual "don`t do anything you don`t want to or uncomfortable with" bit too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just treat it as a vanilla party as in your going to chill out and have fun, do not put any pressure on yourself to do anything, that way if you come away not having done anything you won't feel too dissapointed you can just look at it that you had a good night and made some new like minded friends

if you do come away walking bany legged then huge bonus

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I`ll also add the usual "don`t do anything you don`t want to or uncomfortable with" bit too!

Can't be said enough: No means No, and Yes means "yes, yes yes!!!"

ave a fun time.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"just treat it as a vanilla party as in your going to chill out and have fun, do not put any pressure on yourself to do anything, that way if you come away not having done anything you won't feel too dissapointed you can just look at it that you had a good night and made some new like minded friends

if you do come away walking bany legged then huge bonus

Mmmmmmmm

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Personally i would take the host a small gift. Treat them as i would any party

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much everybody. The advice has been invaluable and made me less nervous. Am looking forward to the party now and will use all your advice. Thank you again. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha lets hope I come away bandy legged. xx

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

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"I would say, treat your hosts as if it was a 'conventional' party, and take maybe wine or chocolates as a thank you.

You may need your hosts' support during the evening, e.g. if anyone gets a little bit pushy, so it's good to establish a rapport with your hosts right from the beginning.

we hold partys that are exactly as you say. you speak total sense . well done. If its a good party the hosts will make sure you are ok. one bit of advice ,, if u get there and its not what you thought or arent comfortable. be polite and leave. dont feel obligated. if this happened to us we would want to know so we could make changes next time

(fortunatley it hasnt as we take hosting very seriously

Have a great time!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for some tips and advice please guys. Am going to my first house party and wondered if people could give me some advice on the do's and donts. I feel I should take the host something as a thank you. Is that a bit over the top?

Would be really good to hear back.

Thanks"

I'd say do be friendly and don't shit in the sink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though, the parties I've been to started with everyone having a drink and a chat. After a while people started to slope off to the bedrooms. There were still a few left chatting initialy. I wasn't like a green light and everyone dissapeared lol.

When you feel comfortable just take a wonder around were the fun is and if your comfortable enough join in, if not go back down and have a chat. You'll probably find there's still a couple of people chatting throughout the night.

The parties I've been to have been well organised and I've never come across any problems. If you do have any just chat to the hosts, if they've gone to the trouble of arranging it I can guarentee they'll go out of their way to help you.

It can be a bit daunting at first but you soon relax.

Hope you have fun xxx

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

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"Seriously though, the parties I've been to started with everyone having a drink and a chat. After a while people started to slope off to the bedrooms. There were still a few left chatting initialy. I wasn't like a green light and everyone dissapeared lol.

It can be a bit daunting at first but you soon relax.

Hope you have fun xxx

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yes u are right. a good party takes its own course. if u set it up correctly and put the effort in with the house and guests it works really well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you again everybody, it's great there's people on here that are willing to give advice. Mwah to you all. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i will try not shit in the sink!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you dressing for the occasion or changing at their house?

Hope you have a great time and please let us know how it went xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Burst in there rip all your clothes off and say 'right who wants fucking?'

That usualy breaks the ice!

If I was there I would accept!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Burst in there rip all your clothes off and say 'right who wants fucking?'

That usualy breaks the ice!

If I was there I would accept!!"

*writes this down for next party she goes to*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

God I wish I was brave enough to walk in there, take my clothes off just like that;p Think more than 2 bottles of wine would be required!!!

I will probs have my sexy underwear on to go or should I take it and get changed into it. Ooh dont confuse me!!

Btw why is it cos have posted something on here I get pervy emails!

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

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"God I wish I was brave enough to walk in there, take my clothes off just like that;p Think more than 2 bottles of wine would be required!!!

I will probs have my sexy underwear on to go or should I take it and get changed into it. Ooh dont confuse me!!

Btw why is it cos have posted something on here I get pervy emails!

take your clothes and change there anygood hosts will expect that. take a look around see how the land lies go with your own instincts. well done for going , we know how hard it is for single women to go to a party we wish more wouyld come to ours. sure you will have a greart time . more power to ladies like you

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Btw why is it cos have posted something on here I get pervy emails!

Cos the guys on here are pervs. Just ignore them and make sure you wash your hands afterwards.

I was only told about the party today so I can't go, but I hope you have a super time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

was a couple but could be a guy for alll i know. I take it you mean wash my hands after reading the email lol. xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"was a couple but could be a guy for alll i know. I take it you mean wash my hands after reading the email lol. xx"

Be on the safe side - wash your hands after logging off Fab!

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