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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there anyone else in a couple where one of you wants to try other things but your other half is not interested? Is it a case of just forget about it or? ....

Lolli x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone else in a couple where one of you wants to try other things but your other half is not interested? Is it a case of just forget about it or? ....

Lolli x "
its difficult if one likes one thing and the other doesn't.. all you can do is talk it over x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We chat about anything we would like to try ,so long both happy go for it no harm in trying anything once at least

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm always talking about but he's just not interested in anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definatly for us , i male half likes lots of kink and would love to involve others but my wife would only like to keep bondage and spanking between ourselves but I have been allowed to play on my own with a couple who are into bdsm a few times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always talking about but he's just not interested in anything "

I bet he would if you meet a female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always talking about but he's just not interested in anything "
like what...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After two years of persuading ive managed to get him interested in having another woman with us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After two years of persuading ive managed to get him interested in having another woman with us! "
if he doesnt want to then maybe dont.. as you both have to want it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After two years of persuading ive managed to get him interested in having another woman with us!

if he doesnt want to then maybe dont.. as you both have to want it"

I think I will just have to leave it

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Is there anyone else in a couple where one of you wants to try other things but your other half is not interested? Is it a case of just forget about it or? ....

Lolli x "

Personally we didn't just have a lightbulb moment & signup to the site, we sat & talked about what we wanted out of this, what we were happy doing etc. In our view home life & our relationship comes head & shoulders above this place so for us we go with whoever has the more restrictive limits. They could have them for any number of reasons. H for instance just has zero interest in play with another fella..

Its up to you to decide whether to keep pulling for what you want against your partner, he may give way and move with you or maybe the rope will snap..

I'd say try and be succesful as you are, have a few meets, sometimes people stretch their boundaries as they get more familiar & comfortable with what they are doing..

Good luck though

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you are supremely lucky both of you won't be in to the same things. That said some things may be compromised on and some won't be. If he isn't interested you need to talk about it but if he really doesn't want you best forget it for the time being as it will only cause problems.

There is nothing to say things won't change down the line as you get more experienced. I think a lot of people are inhibited and are actually quite curious to try things but society says you shouldn't. A lot can be broken down along the way as you get more confident but not everything. give it time and communicate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there anyone else in a couple where one of you wants to try other things but your other half is not interested? Is it a case of just forget about it or? ....

Lolli x "

Hasn't happened yet , and doubt it ever will

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Happens all the time, from meeting couples where one is happy to play whilst the other is not through to certain sexual acts. Our solution is simple talk it over and if still not happy then it does not happen. Both of us have to be 100% happy or we don't continue, I would hate to force Alexis to do something she was uncomfortable with and vice versa.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Is there anyone else in a couple where one of you wants to try other things but your other half is not interested? Is it a case of just forget about it or? ....

Lolli x "

Depends what it is, as with most things when your a couple talk about it and find out what the reasons are for and against

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if one says no we both say no..no ifs or buts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me (the fella) is more open minded than my wife. We tend to stick with the things she's comfortable with. Disagree on some things.

She doesn't want to full swap with a guy. Not sure she even wants to play with another guy. She says I'm enough for her and that she only wants to play with girls.

But she has permission from me for pretty much most things.

Guess you just need to find what works and be happy.

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

The problem occurs when, even though you've told your partner you're not comfortable with something, they do it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll offer the same answer I would if it was a fella 'persuading' his woman. Don't do it. It's clear that 2 years of persuading hasn't convinced him. He's clearly not comfortable with the idea so why continue to try and force it on him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing how different the responses when a woman posts. If it was the man there would be cries of 'forcing your woman blah blah'

What is more important to you OP? Your relationship or a fantasy? Think hard because once you have crossed that line you can't go back. Maybe talk some more and give your relationship some more respect or be selfish and do what you want.

The choice is yours.

The consequences are yours.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I'll offer the same answer I would if it was a fella 'persuading' his woman. Don't do it. It's clear that 2 years of persuading hasn't convinced him. He's clearly not comfortable with the idea so why continue to try and force it on him?"

There is a big difference between talking about something and persuading.

Talking about different things creates an understanding and makes you closer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll offer the same answer I would if it was a fella 'persuading' his woman. Don't do it. It's clear that 2 years of persuading hasn't convinced him. He's clearly not comfortable with the idea so why continue to try and force it on him?

There is a big difference between talking about something and persuading.

Talking about different things creates an understanding and makes you closer"

Read all of the thread before picking my contribution apart.

This is a quote from the op earlier up.


"After two years of persuading ive managed to get him interested in having another woman with us! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've decided to leave the site. Thanks everyone for your replies

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"I've decided to leave the site. Thanks everyone for your replies "

Good luck, might be back you never know...

S

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